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guy i like, but have never spoken to, with added complications.
16/f/uk.
I've seen this guy, Jake, around college recently and he's always caught my eye. I then found out he's dating this girl I know, Ellen, who is pretty different to me but we have the exact same taste in guys. As soon as I heard people talking about him I knew he was the kind of guy I'd like, I also know that he's a complete manwhore. So possibly him and Ellen won't last long, and I'm not looking for anything particuarly serious.
So I was in an art class and suddenly Jake came in to model for someone. We were all just chilling out and I made myself a bit more noticeable. He started staring at me loads. I kept catching his eye and we made that kind of eye contact that just lasts for ages and there was real chemistry. His friend was asking around for someone to do Jake's makeup (for the art thing), I didn't do it but was talking to him (Jake's friend), making suggestions and all the while Jake was just staring at me, looking kind of interested. Someone else suddenly said they would do his make-up and he quickly looked at them & then his eyes flickered back to me, & he looked a bit disappointed. Every now and then I'd look round, catch him looking at me and we'd smile at each other.
Since then, I've only seen him around once and we were far away from each other, but he was watching me.
Thing is, I don't know how to get to know him and still be kind of mysterious and intriguing. I know people that he knows, but I wouldn't say they're my friends, just aquaintances. Also, we've never actually spoken to each other. I was going to wait, but I couldn't help it and added him on facebook. Looking at his profile, I can see we have stuff in common and like the same music (he's in a band). He also does a similar course to some of my subjects at college, I think. (Not sure, but he hangs around that subject block). He's accepted my request but hasn't spoken to me or anything. And obviously there's the fact that he has a girlfriend.
So what can I do to get to know him and get him interested?
Please don't tell me not to try because he's a manwhore or because he has a girlfriend, because that's not what I'm asking. I'm really determined about this.
Thankyou, x
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Try to break the ice by sending him a facebook comment on his wall or something, like something funny about the class you have together. If he answers back you could mention that you saw his band or heard their music and your into it and to let you know if he has any shows coming up. After that don't seem too aggressive. Smile and say hi in class and don't stare too much. Let him do the staring any be interested in you. Try to talk in class and find things in common, but don't force the chemistry. It will happen if it's meant to be. And DON'T come on to him. If you know he has a girlfriend only some light flirting is allowed. You don't want to start any drama and if he's into you he'll take care of his girlfriend.
Good luck,
-Abby
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