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I am from Bangladesh.A Muslim women(38years) .Age of my marriage is 14 years.I have three children of 12,10 & 8 years old. I had a very good relationship with my husband(45years). He is very honest ,caring to me & my family . He is from a very good & honorable family.I never find any bad habit in him.But recently he made a sexual relationship with my maid in my absence at home.I couldn't realize due to my blind believe.But when the occurrence comes out ,he confess. he said it was just an accident.he didn't control him at that 7/8 times.he tried to return from that situation.There was no other mental involvement.He sick my forgiveness .He still love me.He can't think himself without me,give promises that this will never happened again etc.etc.In this situation i am very much upset.I love him very much & don't think to live without him. I don't understand what i have to do in this situation & what will be my behavior to him.Finally how can i forget all this thing which seems very much painful to bear. (link)
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Like the person below me said,
I would get rid of the maid, Tell her that she is no longer welcomed in your home. 14 years is along time, You and your husband have three children and it is wrong for him to be doing something like that. The next time he makes a promise tell him "Don't make a promise you can't keep" Infact, If your husband can't be a man and love you and your children then maybe your husbands also needs to go. I know you love him but you don't deserve a man that treats you badly like that. A marriage is a commitment, Don't let him treat you like this.
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here is our situion,,
i talk to him over phone,, he explanes me,, still he keep telling me the its incedent that the phone get mute,, which really hard to belive,,
what should i do about this i am really confusss in this? should i gave him a chance? should i believ him or not? (link)
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The phone can't be muted unless he presses a button on the phone while in a conversation. No, I don't believe that for a second. It's impossible because like I said he would have to be on the phone in a conversation for it to mute. I wouldn't call him, I would ignore his calls. It is now obvious he is up to something. All it takes is 5 minutes for someone to pick up the phone and call someone even to say "I love you, I miss you or I was thinking about you" If he can't even do that then he probably isn't worth it. From what you've told me above, Yes he is lying. You can unplug the phone, You can put a phone off the hook but no you cannot "mute" the phone when you are not even on it. I wouldn't give him a chance, This guy has lied to you on several occassions. He has been sneaky and he has been playing with your feelings. You don't deserve it
Anything eles, Feel free to send me a message
-BahaiMa22
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here are our senario now,, i dont want to talk to him,,since i wake up i am not taking his phone calles,, because maybe it the time i have to have dignity on my self,, i think you are right it hurting so much that this is the 3rd time he done that to me,, i mean im human im getting tierd too,,i am hurt thinking maybe ending the married is the only sulutuion to this matter,, i want to belive him i really do,, but no matter what angle i see there is something wrong,,, i didnt born yesterday not to know about phone,,, what it hurt is we just get married,,, and i make mistake of choosing him,,your right somehow i have to feel this in order to learn,,,
thanks for your good advice,, and hear me when i need someone.. (link)
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You are more than welcome, If you need anything eles remember I'm here to listen.
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thanks for your good advice to me,, it really helping me a lot,,,
by the way i talk to him and i know he will still deny it,, what step shuld i do?
i am really confuss,, (link)
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I would warn him first, Let him know you know he is up to something and that if he doesn't stop then you will call off the marriage. See what he says, Test him a little bit. Seeing he wants to play with your feelings maybe you should play with his. Although I know calling off the marriage isn't exactly what you want to do it might be the step you will have to take. I'm not saying he is cheating, but if he is than yes that is wrong he is married to you and he should be faithful and honest. Remember like I said before you've already got your first warning with the pictures and phone numbers, Half of the time if a guy does that while dating you and in a committed relationship although he might not have nessacerally fooled around I still concider that cheating and even when you sit him down and talk to him it doesnt' always mean he is going to stop. Therefore, He got away with it once... he might think he can get away with it again. Talk to him, It is up to you whether you want to end this marriage but if he is cheating or fooling around remember YOU DO NOT DESERVE to be treated like that. If I was in that situation this is what I would do:
1. Talk to him, Tell him I know he's up to something and that if it doesn't stop it will be over.
2. If he continues to do so, Then as much as it would hurt me I would call off the marriage
Here is a little something to remember:
Once in your life someone will rip all that you are into little peices, They won't even watch where the peices land. During that time you will hurt but you will become stronger and you will learn you can conquer anything and anyone.
Be true to yourself, Do what is the right thing for you. Afterall, Your strongest strength comes within.
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hi,
today i was trying to call my husband, guess what he is not picking up my call's,, its the 3rd time it happen,, i am really feeling something is wrong the 1st time he do that he is in the bachelor party,, 2nd when he is in la,, 3rd now when he tell me he will went out with his freind,, i feel something is wrong,, i have this intution,, well then he called me,, explain why he is not picking up my calles,, why he didnt gave any return calls,, he tell me his phone acedently turn into silent,, well to me was really hard to undestand, 1st thing 1st i thought i could get trought this but which i am not,,, i know somthing happen tonight,, which my feeling is telling me,,, the problem is what should i do? i am really confuss,, i want to belive him but i can't came on,, how many co incedent that the phone turn on silent by mistake? i cannot believe it,,, i hope you could gave me advice i really need a frend right now,, and your the only one who could gave me good advice,,,
thanx, (link)
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It honestly sounds like he is hiding something, Try talking to him again see if you can catch him in the act look for all the signs, pausing, silence, quick to respond, etc. Yes, from the sound of it, It does sound like this relationship is a little messy. Be firm with him, Ask him "Why aren't you returning my calls, I've called you on several occasions etc." You two are to be married soon and if you can't trust him than I can garrantee it won't work. Trust is big thing in any relationship or marriage. If you feel he is doing something behind your back, ignoring you or possibly doing something that isn't right...Then you need to do something before it is too late because no woman should be treated like that. The first clue was already giving to you, (Pictures and numbers on his computer..) Whether or whether not you've spoken to him about it any guy can deny the truth.
-BahaiMa22
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My friend's a Chinese and he's currently in Spain touring. He told me this:
"yesterday when i was gg back to collect my luggage before heading to the bus station, got this guy with 2 frens and his infant son started pointing at me, saying something, i just ignore and kept walking
then he approached me for cigarettes, i said dun have then quickly enter my hostel"
Also, he told me that while he was in Munich, he got stared at by some people as well.
Are they being racist? I don't really get what is going on here. Can someone maybe tell me why are they behaving like so? I'm a Chinese too and I'm not from Spain so I don't really understand what is going on. (link)
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No, That doesn't sound racist. It sounds like were just acting rude. Some people just have a staring problem afterall those sort of people are everywhere.
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hi there,
so this is my senario, i just get married over a month ago,,, its a long distance relation,, before we get married i see on his laptop some photo of woman with there numbers,, we talk about this already, but still something on my mind telling me he still doing it,,,
and the other thing is him i am having problem with communicating with him, sometimes i feel i am only the one who is pursoing this marrige,,
so please friends out there,, gave me some advie for this matter,, thanks (link)
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You need to confront your husband, Communication is the key in any relationship/marriage. If he still has pictures of woman and phone numbers on his computer then obviously he is up to something. YOU are his wife, The attention should be put on you and not other woman. You need to have a stern talk with him tell him that it hurts you and it needs to stop now. You two are newly weds and he should not be doing something like that. A marriage is not going to work if it is not 50-50, It's a commitment between two people.
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im trying to lose 10 pounds
so for the past 3 weeks ive been working out reallllllly hard and eating well and whatever. anyways over the weekend my friends were in town and so of course we ate out at like every meal whatevvv so i felt really bad and fat after that. so after they left i got back on track and for the last 4 days ive been doing really well but tonight i ended up binging. well i felt like shit ive been doing all this hard work for me to just binge again? and i made myself throw up for like 30 minutes. i never want to do this again! i feel bad that i even did it. i dont have a eating disorder. but i was just curious how do you know when all your food is out of your stomach? cause after awhile iwas just puking up little bits of brown and i just wanted to make sure i wasnt puking up my stomach or anything?? (link)
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Do not get yourself into the Bulimic crap, One of the many illnesses these days is Bulimia exspecially with Pre-Teen and Teenagers.
Bulimia causes liver problems, Weight loss, Heart failure, Organ disfunction etc. STOP NOW while you still can. If you exercise excessively it can cause joint problems, lack of mobility, diminished performance / it's harder to move, stress/ strains/ tears in the soft tissue, cartilage deterioration, damage to disks, and all other structural injuries. I'm not saying do not exercise but maintaining a healthy excercise schedule is important as well as a healthy diet. If you feel you are overweight and need to loose weight do it the right way because if you go down the bulimic road you've got a long dark road laying ahead of you and not only dark but it could be deadly as well.
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Can anyone tell me who originally sings Baby one more time? Thanks (link)
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That would be Britney Spears
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what are the age distinctions between: (if there are any)
infant
baby
toddler
tween
pre-teen
teenager
adolescent
young adult
adult
elderly
(anything else would be helpful too) (link)
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Infant- (Newborn- 6 months)
Baby- (6 months-1yr)
Toddler- (1yr-4yrs)
Child- (4yrs-11yrs)
Tween- (11yr-12yr)
Pre-Teen- (13-15)
Teen ( 15-19)
Young Adult (18-21)
Adult ( 18-60)
(Eighteen is legal age for an adult however still concidered to be a young adult as well)
Elderly ( 60+)
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I AM REALLY WORRIED ABOUT MY BF. TO START OF WITH he is 11 and i am 16 and WE STARTING GOING OUT LAST AUGUST TILL EARLY THIS MONTH WHEN HE DUMPED ME AND A WEEK LATER HE TOLD ME HE DIDNT WANT TO DUMP ME HIS BRAIN TOLD HIM TO AND HE STILL LOVED ME AND WE TALKED AND GOT BACK TOGETHER AND HE TOLD ME HE HAS ADHD AND IED. Then now he keeps saying he hears voices telling him to join them in hell and how he hates his life and wants to kill himself and he worried me the other night cause we were talking and then he changed and started saying stuff like i hear the bells ringing hahaha bye im goin to kill myself and he went and i was worried and i even had to phone his sister to see if he was alright as he switched his phone off and she said he was unhappy. then last nite it happened again me, him and his mate were talking and he changed and started saying stuff and then didnt rember and then he went he was coughinh up blood and his mom was talking with him and he went off and i am so worried about him cause i love him so much and i dont know what to do i just wanna be with him and help him but i dont know how........ (link)
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Is this for real?
If you are really dating someone who is 11 years old when you are 16 then there you go, THAT is the problem. First off, Not only wrong and disgusting...but to be honest he is just a kid, a boy, a child and it sounds like the kid is going through a tough time and yes, It sounds like YOU need to see a therapist.
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How do i know when i will start my period? i am 13 and i need to know the signs of beginning my period!!! (link)
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All Girls are different, I didn't start my period until I was almost 15. Trust me be don't hesitate to get it because it is really a pain in the butt to have. Cramping, Bleeding, etc. Ugh.... Trust me it will come before you know it.
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25/F
I've been single for about four months... And now I think that I'm ready to start dating again.
My problem is... I don't know where to meet an available guy. I tried bars and clubs in my wilder days, but the 'party' phase is over for me... So that's out. At work, I'm in a position of authority, so that's out. Church is not an option. I'm spiritual but don't tolerate dogma very well. So that's out.
Most of the guys that I have dated in the past, I met via the internet. I've tried Eharmony, Match.com, True.com, Plentyoffish.com, Myspace, and some other dating site that I had never previously heard of before. And I'm sick of internet dating. I receive tons of emails from guys that are inappropriate... Some of the guys that I have met post old photos and then look completely different in person. Some guys are only interested in 'hooking up.' And others... Are either socially awkward or just plain lazy.
Can anyone suggest a good place to meet people that doesn't involve alchol or a computer?
Thanks! (link)
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Well,
I can give you some tips on where to look, I know you said you are done with the internet but a safe website that has decent people and even people you might know is Facebook.(A website where you can find old friends that you went to High School with or people you know) However, If you have any friends that are woman you could try going out for a social event with her friends and try to meet people that way also. Someone once told me a good place to meet people is the Gym. I don't know if it's actually true but it might be worth the try. ;)
-Bahaima22
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I'm in my 20s, in a long-term relationship. That said, I am well aware that I could become pregnant if I am having sex. I am old enough and in a situation where I can deal with the consequences, so I really don't need any sex ed lectures. Thanks in advance :)
Last year, I was on Depo Provera (up until the end of August). For those who are not familiar, it does stop the user from menstruating entirely. I got my last injection in May of 2008.
Since then, my fiance and I have been using only condoms, putting them on halfway through. We are both aware that semen can escape before climax.
I have not had a proper period since December. I spot occasionally, but nothing substantial. I've been feeling nauseous on occasion, and have gained weight (although that might be due to other circumstances).
I have taken several home pregnancy tests and gone to the doctor to get blood tests. All negative.
The reason I am concerned is that when my mother was pregnant with me, all of her tests came back negative too. She didn't find out until 7 months. Doctors have reassured me that this is rare. Not all that reassuring, though, if you ask me.
My question is, should I believe my test results? How do I find out if it's legitimate? Anyone else had a similar problem? (link)
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I was on Depo-Provera for 4 years.
Just for the heads up all the things you've described about gaining weight, nauseous etc. It is normal and it is a common side effect.
If you are taking pregnancy test, I would always take two-three at a time as it is more effective.
Hope I helped somewhat
-BahaiMa22
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I was in a wonderful relationship 2 years ago. I ended up in the hospital for 2 months in a coma. When i woke up in the hospital i found out i was pregnant, but my boyfriend changed his number and moved. I think he thought I didnt want to be with him anymore, he didnt know I was in the hospital. I tried for a long time to find him, but could'nt until recently. I got his phone number, but he has a girlfriend. I want to tell him we had a little boy who died 4 days after birth. I am nervous to call him, but I'm not sure what to do. (link)
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I'm sorry to hear all this
Alot can happen over the course of 2 years, I know you said he never knew you were in the hospital but now it's 2 years later and he moved on into another relationship, He changed his number and moved. I would question myself why he never called while you were in the hospital...I know you mentioned that you two had a child who passed away 4 days after birth. (I'm so sorry to hear that too) but the thing is why would you want to bring it up? It will only hurt him to hear the bad news. I know it was his son but his son has passed. You could still call him and tell him but I can't garantee that you will get a positive response. I would personally try and move on, 2 years has passed now and I think if he really wanted to know what happened he would of called or tried to find out instead of just leaving.
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do cheerleaders (girls) wear panties under their cheerleading shorts? (link)
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Sometimes, The fabric of the shorts are much like a bathing suit it's optional.
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18 female.
guys think i'm pretty, so i have confidence but i am just the WORST when it comes to talking to a guy. i've been good friends with this guy for awhile, you would think i would be 100% comfortable with him but everytime i see him i get those butterflies and its like the first time we met all over again. i get all shy at first, i don't say much because i don't want to end up saying something stupid. when we text i always end up sounding needy, when really i'm trying to be flirty. for instance on wednesday we were wrestling and flirting and then we were texting after i left and i was like i'm soo mad at you for giving me a bruise, it's going to take alot for me to not be upset with you and he was like ha stop. and i was like no i'm mad(being like sarcastic) and i was like if you give me a massage i will not be mad ;) and he was like nah too much work and i was like wow your gonna get it next time i see you, and i'm not saying its going to be good and he was like what am i gettin haha and i was like you'll see, its not gonna be good for you lol. and then i like kept saying that he needed to like do this and that for me to not be "mad" at him. its my way of flirting but i realized i sound REALLY needy, which is going to push him away. i don't know really how to be sexy when with him in person and texting. i just end up sounding dumb. how can i change this. i want him to know i WANT him, if you know what i mean. i'm lost :( (link)
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Try different things and try not to over-do it. What you've said above, Even though you think you were being flirty if I was the guy I would probably be annoyed. I'm not saying this to be mean or anything so forgive me here.
1. What you said sounded like you were taking it too literally. Although you were flirting you were texting him and sometimes people see things differently with words than with action.
2. I'm not saying you do, but for a heads up try not to be to clingy as most of the time it draws the guy in the other direction.
(Flirting Tips:)
1. Eye contact is important, It shows them that you are interested in what they are talking about (Smile, while you are making contact might throw them a clue that you are interested in not only what they are saying but them as well) If you know this guy personally then why not go for it and ask him out? Ask him to the movies, etc.
(Things I Forgot add below me,)
You could also try wearing makeup, doing your hair, changing your clothing when you see him (Try not to give the wrong impression though) ;)
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How can you change your yahoo password? Because I think mine was hacked and I wanna change my password.Thanks for all your help!! (link)
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If you think you were hacked, Then enter your email address as (Forgot password)
If you sign in and you get into your account go to (Check mail) and then Edit settings-Enter password-Change Password-Scroll down and click finished.
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Okay I am 23 years old.. and I am Short and I look Young for my age. I like that.. didn't know what put in subject but here what i am saying. I know that sometimes let say i walk up to a guy and what if he wasn't like in 20's under 18. it hard to tell anymore.. well thing is i look maybe 16 some say i look olders. but thing i am afraide be one make frist move how ever this what i am really asking. how iget guy notice that i am 23 and tyr look 23.. i mean i waer make up and i have cloths don't look young. sometimes ik now guys would have hard time want talk to girl maybe could be 23 like but they not know they be hitting on younger girl.. know what i am saying? and i have voice thats sound like a kid little but. thing is i am asking how can you really tell? i mean i know there no different sometimes.. thing is if i meet a guy or guy come up to me. it ok be like frist how old are you? lol. or per say not shure. thanks
little butterfly (link)
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I have the same problem and I'm the same age...
Okay try these below :)
Make-up works if you don't like makeup that much try going light with it apply eyeshadow, eyeliner etc.
The clothes are the most important, Try not to go too young when you shop. (I started shopping for heels, and buisness like clothes)
Wear your hair a different style, (I used to wear mine down all the time, so I cut it choppy style)
If guys think they are hitting on a younger girl then tell them you are 23
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Hello my name is jess. I added a speedate app on my facebook. An old flame of mine found me and sent me a nasty message. I told him off but ever since this happened (which was a month ago) I can't stop thinking about him. I want to confront him and tell him why he would contact me after all this time and when he said he would never contact me or talk to me again. He also pops into my life periodically just to mess with me. What should I do? (link)
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I agree with Razie
Ignore him and cut all contact if you have to uninstall the applicant. If you run into him in person tell him to stop harrassing you and then don't talk to him again.
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