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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
Much love, Teza
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i was with my good friends all day today then we met up with these 2 other girls and we all went up to a park where everyone hangs out and then later that night i found out that they were all having a sleepover and i wasnt invited, how should i deal with this because im so upset even tho its little it doesnt feel like it to me what should i say to them?
Aw sorry that you were'nt invited. I dont know exacly what the right answer is here but the only way you will know is if you ask them why you were'nt invited. Maybe they just forgot.. I dont think that they would be mad at you or anything but just comfort them and ask them.
Im into theater and all that stuff but im NOT GAY!!! i also dance for some of the shows. why do people think im gay??? GRRR it makes me so mad!!!! Why do ppl generalize like that?
Uhm.. people who are very immature and stupid and who sterotype people think that. I wouldnt care though. Most guys would be into sports and such but you're into theather and dancing and there is nothing wrong with that. Its pretty cool. Just ignore then. They dont know what gay means.
How do I get my boyfriend to open up to me? Like as in tell me how he feels. Everytime I ask he always says "you know" I know I do but I just want to hear him say it and like how do I get him to be more I don't know umm....open about his feelings....problem is he has never been that way! Help please?!?!
Since he has never been that way its hard for him to share his feelings with basiclly anyone. So it will take him some time to get comftrable with that. You have to tell him that you will not judge him and that you love him and will always be there for him. He has to know that he can trust you no matter what. So accept that fact for now until he gets more comftrable with sharing his feelings.
i just broke up with someone and want them back, i was wondering what guys would find more attractive. i girl that plays hard to get and pretend im over him then tell him when im ready i still like him or tell him i like him and i regret it and stuff. thanks
Okay well I`m not a guy but I did ask my good friend Wil and he said..
Umm tell him you're sorry for what you did. If he did sumthing forgive him and tell him you love him and that you still like him because I`m for sure he still likes you. But most af all appologize for anything you did and say you love him..
^ Comming from a guy playing hard to get is not the answer. Take his advice. He knows what hes talking about. =)
Okay me and my boyfriend have sex but the thing is we have never used a condom and I'm not on birth control. I talked to him about it before and we agreed to start using them. But that never happened...I really wish we would but I dont want to say something about it again.....what should i do?
You should get them soon! You could end up getting pregnant. Its better to say something then taking the risk. If he wont get them you should. Dont be afraid to tell him again. Better be protected.
what are some great rock songs??? i rate high!!!
Some are rock and some are punk.. kinda the same thing.. but here are some good ones!
Ohio is for lovers-Hawthore Hights
Dirty little secret-
Just the girl-The Click Five
Island in the sun-Weezer
Best of you-Foo Fighters
Be my escape-Reliant K
Sugar we're going down- Fall Out Boy
Teenage dirtbag- Wheatus
Flavor of the week-American Hi - Fi
On top- The Killers
Somebody told me -The Killers
Beating hearts baby- Head Automatica
World on fire-
I`m not okay (I promise)- My Chemical Romance
Helena- My Chemical Romance
Beverly Hills- Weezer
Lady in a blue dress-Sences Fail
Slow dance-Sences Fail
Some other good bands-
-Nine Inch Nails
-The Bravery
-All American Rejects
-Good Charlotte
my best friend has a new beatfriend. HEATHER. im incredibally jealous of heather nd there new friendship. my bestfriend krystal is ALWAYS talking about heather like i dont exist. i told krystal that to but she just doesnt get it. to further help me, you can IM me my sn is x simply romance. krystal's away message rite now is
AT MY LOVERS HOUSEE:-D
......heather of course.! hehe i luv it
nd its really pissing me off. how do i over come jealousy?
Honestlly you really cant get over it. You should try to become friends with Heather so all of you are very good friends. Krystal is being a bitch though! She is treating you like dirt and dont let her do that to you! Just be nice to both of them and dont let your jelousy show. Also try meeting more people and hang out with a lot of your other friends so you dont constantlly keep thinking about what Heather and Krystal are doing.
hey i have a question. does anyone know of any programs to download music that would work for windows XP without having to have administrator's privileges? i cant seem to find any and my dad put a password on his windows account so i cant get on there and download one. anyone know of any?
Limewire and Ares are the best. Bearshare gives you viruses so I dont think you should get that one.
umm... can i practice wearing tampons like putting them in then taking them out 8 hrs later?
Yeah but just try it once or twice so you can get used to the feeling. Dont always do it unless you have your period. Normanlly you're supposed to take your tampon or pad and change it every 4 hours.
Edit.. didnt mean to answer it twice. I didnt relize this question was posted two times. Sorry.
hi im a 13 year old 5"2 or 5"3 girl and i weight 125. Am i overweight?
Not at all!! If you want to make sure go to
http://www.am-i-fat.com/ and type in your hight and weight and you'll see that you're not overweight.
Ok, Well i for some reason i just had curiousity and start to masterbate .. i didnt do it for long at all. Afterwards it hurt .. i dont know if it did just because its my first time and all or because i riped something .. ?
Sometimes it happens if you are too rough. It should feel good not hurt. But its normal since its basiclly your first time. It wont hurt later on. You'll get used to it.
I dont know whats wrong with me. Like, I can be the center of attention in front of my friends but at the same time Im the quietest person you could ever meet when I want to be or when I just dont know what to say and I get nervous.
I'm going to a new school next year and I already have a small group of friends there, and I'm able to make friends easily when I want to, it's just when I present in front of the class that bothers me. I dont know what it is. Like, I'm not afraid about people hearing my voice or anything. I'm not afraid of being nervous, because it's not even that I get nervous. I just BLUSH. I HATE blushing. I hate when people see me blush because they make a huge deal over it and I dont know how to control it. Even if I'm not embarassed I'll still blush at times. And even if I blush when I dont even realize I'm blushing people go "Omg are you EMBARASSEDDD!?" and stuff like that and make jokes. I mean I can make fun of my self too when I want to joking around and all that with people and all but, I dont know.
-sigh- okay. Basically. Im fine presenting. Its just my blushing problem. And then when I FEEL myself blushing, thats when I get majorly nervous.
How can I control this? Please help. Any tips.. any at all. I just want to be able to stand in front of the class without fucking blushing for once, and sweating and feeling all gross and shaky afterwards.
It's been like this ever since I can remember. It's torchure. Can anyone help please?
Okay even though you say that you dont tend to get nervous but I think you do. Thats how you can tell you get nervous. Who cares if you blush!! Its no big deal! Everyone does it. You just have to learn not to take it as a big deal yourself. If people ask if you are blushing and you dont want to admit it just tell them you are'nt and that you're wearing blush or something. Blushing is a normal and natrual thing and all human beings do it. Just try not to worry about it and you'll be fine! Just have fun presenting and stuff. Good luck babe!
HEY ! I WAS W0NDERING IF ANY 0F Y0U KNOW IF THERE IS A SOUNDTRACK TO THE MOVIE JUST MARRIED ? thx !
Please dont write in caps.. and I know you are'nt yelling but yes there is a soundtrack.
umm... can i practice wearing tampons like putting them in then taking them out 8 hrs later?
Yeah you can. It wont hurt to try. But when you are on period you are supposed to change both pads and tampons every 4 hours. But try it just once or twice so you get used to them. And yeah if its try it might hurt a bit when you take it out.
whats that song that goes "everythings changing when i turn around" i think its by avril lavigne but im not sure. anyyone know? thanks!!!!
Its called Mobile.
Here are the lyrics.
"Mobile"
Went back home again
this sucks gotta pack up and leave again
say goodbye to all my friends
can't say when I'll be there again
It's time now to turn around
Turn my back on
EVERYTHING (turn my back on) everything....
[chorus]
Everythings changing when I turn around all out of my control I'm a mobile.
Everythings changing when I turn around all out of my control I'm a mobile.
Start back at this life
Stretch myself back into the vibe
I'm waking up to say I've tried
Instead of waking up to another TV GUIDE
It's time now to turn around
Turn and walk on this crazy ground oh oh oh....
The classic question.. No one will ever know the real answer but hey its always worth a try.
Im a blonde haired blue eyes 5'6 skinny girl. Everyone tells me im very pretty, im smart, and fun to be around. The problem, guys never ask me out?! I dont know why though? Ive had boyfriends in the past, and MANY guy friends but not alot of boyfriends. Whats the deal?! lol
Now days guys like a girl who looks good which I`m sure you are =). They have to be fun, outgoing, nice and not conceited and stuck up. Nothing is wrong with you at all lol but its just that you have to find a guy that you like and get to know him so he gets to know you. Be more flirty and things like that. Just keep meeting new guys and get to know them well. Seriously the longer you know someone they fall for you. Your gorgeous and you will find a boyfriend just dont be in a rush. You have to have that one special sweet guy.
ok so i went to florida with my ex-boyfriend who i'm still crazy in love with! we hooked up down there but we still don't go out. he says he wants to be single because you can do whatever you want. then he says he doesn't like me cuz he wants to be single! i have no clue what to think. what should i do? how do i handle this?
cRazY iN lOve x3
I know its hard for you but you just have to accept his decision and move on. You can still like him but he just doesnt have those feelings for you anymore. I`m sure he didnt mean to hurt you but you will find someone better soon.
okay, ive been noticing white gooey stuff in my underwear. what does that mean, if it helped, i havnt had my period yet.
+ i notice hair growing around "down there", if that helps.
You hit puberty! Its just discharge and its normal. It usually means you will get your period soon.
Edit-Get those very thin pads. You wont even feel them and they are good for protection just incase. Another hints you might get it is little cramps.
I have a really cute guy friend name"Brock Bumbarger" & we have been friends for 3 years now. We hang out all the tim, and go to the movies together!! Last august on my 15th b-day he kissed me, like making out wise & ever since then I have been confused. Everyone says we should just admit we like each other. I so want to tell him how i feel, but i am scared he might reject me & I would know what to do if he did. What should I do?
I think you should just go for it. If he rejets you, you will always know that you will still stay best friends. If you want you could find out from one of his friends. If he seems to flirt with you and things like that then maybe he does have a crush on you. You could just ask him how he feels about you and things like that. I dont think he would reject you tho
I have these two really good friends, one is a guy, the other a girl. Well they've liked each other for a while, so they're kind of off limits to everyone, but the girl (it will be easier just to call her Meghan) doesn't want a boyfriend. Well the guy (let's call him Seth) seems to think they are together. Then I was on AIM with Seth later, he said he thought Meghan was an ugly idiot. Well I got pissed and said some things I regret that include... some words I'm rather ashamed of saying. So of course he got angry with me. So then I had to tell Meghan what he said, and she got angry with me for telling her! And now, they're both mad at each other and it's all very confusing. Who knew entering middle school would result in so much drama!
Help! Is there any way to smooth things out between all of us?
First of all you should of kept your mouth shut but of course you didnt want Seth talking behind Meghans back and in a way its good you told. You should apologize to both of them and tell them you didnt mean to start anything and that you regret it all. Tell them to get over it because you all are still best friends no matter what and its just ridicoulus (sp) that you guys are arguing. And hon.. middle school is ALL about drama!! Im soo glad that this is my last year.. you just have to learn not to take bull from lil bit*hes! Lol good luck babe!