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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

is it normal for teenage girls to masturbate?

Yes it is.

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Hi i was just wondering dus any1 know of any sites that tell you how to get from a certain place to another place by bus or train? cos all i can find is driving directions but i dont have a car

or if you cant find any then could sum1 tell me how to get from barking station to Harwich please

Go to.. this site tells you directions.

http://www.mapquest.com

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The new school year is coming very soon and I'm going into 9th grade (so is my friend)and we recently received our schedules. She really doesn't like school, and she says she has no friends in her classes, and we don't have any classes together except maybe lunch. And she's not looking forward to this year at all 'cause 7th and 8th grade sucked, and I'll agree on that. I just told her to try to look at school with a positive outlook. She won't listen and doesn't believe. I just don't know what to do. I really wish she would just try to enjoy her time even though it's school.

Does anyone know what I can do about her feeling this way? I've tried to help her, I just don't know what to say.

thanks in advance.

Once she is at school she will relize that you were right. There is nothing she can do but she could talk to the principal or the counslor at your school about changing her schedule. Just because she doesnt have any friends in any classes doesnt mean she cant make any new friends.. it wont hurt her at all. Just tell her to relax and calm down and that since she didnt like 7th && 8th grade that she hast to make this a good year then just complaining about it! Because that will never make anything better and easier for her.

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Well, I'm going out with this guy named philip. School hasn't started yet so I don't see him in school yet... during the summer I only see him at the pool very rarely and when I go to my friend lacey's house which isn't too too much. But, I feel bad because the other day I had an away message up reading this...

thinKing... you know when you like someone but you have no chance so you think you should just give up? Well, I bet he'll be happy whenever I don't like him anymore...

then my friend IMed me and asked if I even liked phil. I replied that yes I did but I like his other guy more. The guy is a year older than me and I spent two weeks with him `n some other girls helping out with something in the summer. We all hung out each time and now that it's over I very occasionally talk to him online. We never have much to talk about... he told me once that he had never though of me in "that way". That way meaning going out with me... he'd never thought of me as his girlfriend. So, I was heartbroken but I still have a really big crush on him... he's perfect ((nice, sweet, funny, hott,)). I just don't know what to do... about philip and about ryan. Should I dump philip... `cause I feel like it's not fair to him that I like someone a whole lot more than him. Should I continue liking ryan... I'll be at the same school as him next year ((complicated story)) and then I might see him more or should I just give up all hope? Please help and I'm so sorry this is so long!

Love to you

Even though you like Ryan he said he doesnt like you in that way. You can still like Ryan but you should stay with Phillip. Even though you like Ryan more you still do like Phillip. Your feelings will grow for him more and more. Just try not to think about Ryan as much. You have Phillip and he seems like a nice guy. You can stay friends with Ryan adn everything and if anything happened between you guys it happens.

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ok sorry if this is long..

my parents have been getting on my last nerves lattely. i am the oldest in my family and so i got to put up witht hemm ebing soo over protect.. it iasnt because they care to much it is that they dont want me to have a life.. i can almost never leave the house.. if i want to go somewhere with a friend tot he mall my mom has to talk to there parents and make sure they are coming with us.. my best friend from new jersay came to vist and i havent seen her for 2 years and we qwanted to go and hang out at her place and just talk but no my mom wont let me.. my mom is always yellina t me when i dont do anything to her. she tells me to do something i do it with no questions asked.. i have a boyfriend who i love sooo much and i have been going out with him for almost a month now and i have only seen him ONCE. i effin hate this i want to run away from all of this my parents dont let em do anything and when i talk on the phone or i am on the computer all they do is complain. they want me sittin downstairs with them and i dont want to listen to the crap they have to say.. then pn top of all of that my mom says,"your the one whoi is going to kill me" because she isnt supposed to yell and she always yllin at me when i dont do anything to her.. i cant wait to turn 18 and leave and have my own life.. that is 4 more years from now (i am 14) everytime i try talking to my parents they NEVER listen to what i have to say.. they think they r living 20 years ago where u get engaged and then married and your parents choice who you marry.. i dont know what to do.. last night i was mindin my owm bussiness in my room laying down writing poem my dad walks in yells at me terlls me to go to sleep and turns of my light. school doesnt start until 2 weeks and he already yellin at me.. can someone please help me out?? i want to run away for a couple days to my best friends house and teach my parents that if they dont want to listen to what i have to say then i wont listen to what they have to say..

p.s.
i am plannin to let me boyfriend come over and meet my parents btu they are raciest and my boyfriend is black (carmel color) and i dont know what there reaction will be even though my boyfriend will make a good impression on them..

Oh wow. I can relate to that story in some ways. Exept my parents are'nt raciest. Anyways I do know how you feel. When I was under a lot of stress and my parents always yelled at me I just wanted to get away and leave the house for a while. But honestlly now that I relize that wasnt the answer. You have to put up with it. Even if you left for a while you would have to go back home and deal with it all over again. Your parents are just really over protective and so are mine. They still ask if an adult is going with me and my friends. I just tell them NO! I`m old enough to know what I`m doing. Since you are the oldest they are expecting you to set good examples for the rest of your siblings. And the hardest you try they want better. Now if they have to talk to your friends parents before you go somewhere thats fine. I know a lot of people who do that. There isnt really anything wrong with that but it does get annoying. Your parents do want you to have a life trust me.. and they love you very much thats just why they are trying to protect you the best way they can. They dont mean to be mean or anything its just that you also have to understand that your parents might also be going through a lot that you just cant see. My parents are always complaining when I`m on the phone or the computer.. psh a lot of peoples parents do. Since your parents wont listen to what you have to say write your mom a note. That always works! Thats what I did when I was going through this. The note idea might sound a little crazy but honestlly its the only way that it will get through her. She has to understand that you are a teenager and that you need to have fun and be with your friends. You only get to live once so live it up to the fullest!! Good luck!

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When my boyfriend & I started dating, naturally things were a bit weird at first. Then we became more comfortable around eachother & it started to seem like it was more about touching then talking. Now we talk on the phone more since we're back at school & don't get to go out as much. The day before yesterday, everything was fine & we were having a great time on the phone but yesterday he didn't call me. I texted him & we had fun texting back & fourth but then when I signed on he didn't IM me. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting (please don't be mean if I am, it's my first relationship). I'm hoping he's just overwhelmed by school because I really care about him & I would hate to think that I felt stronger about him then he does about me. What should I do?

xox kelly

You are'nt over reacting but its okay to get a little worried. Did he promise to call you?? Maybe it slipped his mind or he was busy with something really important. Maybe something for school or for his family. Dont worry about it though. I mean you guys texted back and forth so that prooves that he isnt mad at you or anything. Okay about the IMing thing. I dont think you shouldnt worry about that. So many people forget to put their away message on and they end up going to a different room or they are just doing something on the computer and too busy to talk. There could be a lot of reasons why he couldnt IM you. But if the calling thing happenes again just talk to him about it.

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umm theres sum one calling my cell phone on private and when i pick up he/she dont say anything last night they he/she called 6 times in a row what should i do i'm really scared iz there anyway i can see whos # it is?? PLIZZ HELP!!

Its someone just prank calling you and they are trying to get on your nerves. You cant see what the number is but you can call it back. Just press *69 and it will call back that number.

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i like this guy
names dakoda choate hes 1 grade higher than me
i cant stop thinkin about him
he is so sweet to me
he flirts nonstop
he acts like he likes me
i asked him out
and he said: i really can't right now but i promise you i will get there i just have alot on my mind right now
so ok
i wait............ my friend asks him if he likes me not and he says:
look i like girls my age ok?
does that mean he only dates his age
he doesnt like me, he moved away from me, he just wants to be friends,


i think im gonna cry
what do i do about this?!

He did say that he likes girls his age so I guess it means he dates girls his age. Its kind of pathetic but thats just him. Try not to be upset but its his loss and there isnt nothing wrong with you. Its okay to cry but its better to be friends then nothing else. Im sorry babe. =(

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is it true that lice is attracted to clean heads?

thanks

Yeah. Its contagious (sp) on any head.

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I wanna cut my hair and I dont know how long I should cut it so is there any website where I can see myself with a specific hair style! Know what Im talking about! thanx!!!!!!!!!

www.ivillage.com

You can put your picture there and see how the hairstyles will look on you.

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well me and my friend went to this concert, and then we met up with some other friends..and one of them i happen to like..so we sat next to each other..and he was all cuddly toward me..and my friend said he was acting like he liked me..so we started talking after the concert through email..and he said mabye we should hang out sometime..i want to tell him how much i like him..but im just not sure if he likes me..i dont know how to take it to the next step...help please..

Well to me it sounds like he does like you. Wait until you guys hang out. If he trys to make moves on you and flirts with you then he def. does like you!! Your friend could hook you guys up or just tell him how you feel. You have nothing to loose!

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i went out with this guy for 2 days then he broke up with me but today he asked me back out and wanted to hang out with me tomarrow but i told him i cant hang out but i dont really wanna but i want to go out with someone before the summer ends but i dont no if i can trust him he seemed like he changed but i dont want my heart broken again what should i do? ps i dont wanna hang out with him alone but it will seem weird if i bring a friend n he does

2 days and your heart is broken? This guy is a little immature! Wow.. anyways you should just relize that you shouldnt be worrying about getting your heart broken by this boy.. he seems well yeah immature and yeah you can do better! But.. you could give him one more change and if it doesnt work out this time.. its donezo! You dont have to hang out with him since you really dont want to but just tell him that you will give him another chance. (Thats if you really want to) Just see how it works out.

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Okay well My problem is I like someone that is about 3 yrs older and i dunno what to do about this cuz my b-day is soon so i will be 16 and he is 18 now so this makes me only 15 and i heard it's jailbate, so should i still date him? I really like him a lot and he treats me so good...
~confused lover~

3 years is defenetlly not a big difference. You have nothing to loose so just for it. It he treats you right and you both care about each other then thats perfect. But see there is a little problem. Its kind of illegal. I mean hes almost 19 and you're going to be 16. I dont think its wrong but its just the stupid law. Anyways.. good luck!

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Okay, well there is this boy name andrew and at the end of the 6th grade i started to like him and at first he was cool about it and then he was really mean to me and said mean things to me and really broke my heart although i still liked him. In the 7th grade i went on and off liking him and we hung out a lot more and i was his best friend and he told me that somedays he liked me and other days he didnt and i just stopped like telling people that i liked him i mean if people asked i wouldnt lie about it but one day andrew asked if i still liked him and i said, "ya but i dont want to like you because whenever i like you, your always mean to me." and he was like "that was 1 time and i've changed" and he kisses me a lot and always ask for kisses and i just really like him and he always says these sweet things to me and i mean i really want to be with him but he says that some days he likes me and other days he doesnt and he really hurt me in the 6th grade and i dont even know if he wants a girlfriend and urghh now i just dont know.. somedays i think i'm over him but then when he signs online or calls me or i see him i just completly melt and idk .. should i just keep wasting my time on him or should i try to move on? idk what to do please help i need advice

Hm.. he tends to get confused a lot and I dont think he knows what he wants. I think that you should move on. I honestlly dont think that any girl would want someone who likes them sometimes and doesnt like them the other day. Thats just bs! Anyways.. like I said try to move on. I know that you really like him but still you could find someone who will treat you better. You guys can still be best friends. That wont change at all. This is more like lust. But you're smart and I know that you will make the right decision and how what to do.

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okay so tomorow im going to this girls house, we have liked eachother for 3 yrs and are going out, i am gonna get there at like early in the morning while she is still asleep, i was going to make her breakfast in bed but she doesnt realy eat breakfast cuz she has a weak stomach. I really want to do something sweet so she wakes up to a wonderful surprise and realizes how much i care about her, any great suggestions would be nice...thank you!

Aww you seem to be really sweet and she will love that you are doing that for her. Okay well since you're not going to make her breakfast bring her some flowers!! You can seriously never go wrong with them. I think you should make her breakfast also. Dont make too much but make a little. It will still mean a LOT to her. Usually guys wouldnt do anything sweet like that so by just doing that its really special.

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alright, this is my friends advice thing and i dont have one and dont feel like making one soo im gunna ask the question on here.


alright theres this kid Dj i like him soo much and the fact i told him exactly how i feel he just acted like he didnt care at all i mean seriously when ever my friend ( brooke ) goes out with this kid who is like my bestfriend we talk all the time ( jimmy ) like im always with them whenever they were together and dj was always there and i mean always... and he would always be all over me and leading me on and shit and he'd tell brooke he liked me and then she would be like are you gunna ask her out and hes like i duno maybe probably and she'd tell me and we would both be waiting for him to ask me out and then he would never do it and like.. after the last time he told brooke he liked me he ended up getting a girlfriend like.. a week later. and they are still together and i hate it we went to the movies and they were there all over each other and i cried and i dont even know what to do anymore i cant get over him i try but it doesnt happen please help i dont know what im gunna do anymore.

thanks.
amber

ps.. brooke still is like in love with jimmy and dj and jimmy are cousins and we are all exactly alike. jimmy and brooke are exactly alike and me and dj are exactly alike ..



thanks. i rate high

Hm.. okay I`m not gonna be mean but I`m just gonna tell you the truth. To be Dj seems to be leading you on a lot! He doesnt really seem to like you like that. I`m guessing he just really likes the attention and the flirting between you guys. If he really liked you as he told Brooke then he would of asked you out so many times by now. He doesnt seem to get what he's doing. My opinion is if you just tryed to move on. You and Dj can still flirt and talk and be good friends but just dont let him lead you on like that. Right now you just have to accept the fact that he is with someone else and honestlly.. there isnt really much you can do about that. Just meet new guys and try not to think about him too much. You will relize that you can do better then him. It might be hard and take a little while but when you get over him you will be glad. Good luck babe and hope everything works out.

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i shaved "down there" once before and i got red bumps were i shaved, does anyone know how i can prevent these bumps or any other advice to do it? i would greatly apreciate any answers, ill rate high, thanks

Razorburns and bumps are a normal thing to get while shaving. There isnt much you can do to prevent it but shave slowly and if you are using shaving cream try swiching to warm water and good soap. It will make it smoother. Your razor has to be sharp and new each time. After shaving just apply lotion. Hope it works out.

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in the one answer you said " its normal to masturbate " well do you masturbate to then ?

Lol.. thats one of the questions everyone asks but not really.

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ohk omg i got braces and they are the ugliest things like ever and i really dont like them at all and i look soo retarded and soo and liike i dont even wana smile and right now im single and im afraid that im not qunna get a b/f cause these damn things !!!!! & im also afraid when i make out with someone are my bracesz gunna hurt them ? ♥

Aw, babe calm down! Soo many pretty girls have braces and thats nothing bad and dont be ashamed of them. Just because you have them doesnt mean you wont get a boyfriend! Your braces wont hurt when you makeout with someone so dont worry about that eather. But think about it.. when you get them off your teeth will be very pretty and straight. =D

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Right around my nipple, i have a few black hairs. i always shave them cuz they are ugly. but is it normal to get hair there?

Yes, its def. normal. All girls have it.

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