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Alright well i have had sex 4 times and all four times the condom has slipped off. It slips of half way and we just put it back on again, but oncee it totally slips off, i make him put a new one on. I wuz wondering if thats normal. aslo, if that makes it a greater risk for pregnancy. please let me know if you know.
Hey there,
If the condom slips off, it is too big! It is completely normal though to have a condom that is not the right size for the job. Most guys do not know they have the wrong size to begin with and using the wrong one isn't too good for both of you... Just try a smaller sized condom and you should be good.
Yes, if the condom slips off, tears, or breaks, you are at a higher risk of getting pregnant. Even if it just slips and you get some of his cum on your vagina you can get pregnant... all it takes is one single sperm to enter the vagina. When you do find a condom that fits, believe me, it will be easier, less frustrating, you will both be more relaxed, and you both will be more satisfied ;)
i really like this guy and we hung out a couple times and made out for a long time and i'm really starting to get feelings. he used to text me all the time and now he doesn't so much anymore. one of his best friends told me that his last girlfriend was nuts so it scared him and thats why he doesn't want to get too serious with me. i'm really into him though but i'm not sure i would date him just yet because i'm still in that "getting to know him" stage, and i have a rough past with relationships too. but i just want to hang out with him but he seems to not want to because he doesn't want to get too serious. but i just love hanging out with him. what should i do?
Hey there,
Talk to him and tell him you just want to hang out as friends. If he knows you just want to be friends, he should say yes to hanging out. Tell him he is a great guy and you just like to hang out with him because he makes you smile. Remind him that it will just be doing something as "friends". If he says no the first time, wait a few days then try again. Eventually he will say yes and when he does, do not talk about being together or anything like that. Let him know how you feel though. Once you are alone with him, let him know that you would like to get to know him better as a friend. Talk about things you have in common and he will warm up to you. Spend the time you have with him wisely, make him laugh and smile. If he has a great time, he will want to spend more time with you :)
In time, after you two have hung out for a while, are comfortable, and if you feel you are ready for a relationship.. go ahead and get closer to him. You will know in your heart when it is right, so listen to whats inside of you
I'm a sophomore girl (15) and the guy I like is a junior (16). I really like him. So much. For about a week he would text me every night and we'd just talk and stuff. And he was pretty flirty. He aslo made up this cute little nickname from this inside joke we have. It seemed really sweet :\. But there's this girl in the grade below me, she's fourteen, and she's a really nice girl and stuff and the guy that I like has a little sister in that grade. His little sister was telling my friend that this girl has a thing with her brohter (so the guy I like...) and the girl says she has a thing with him too (to my friend). Well... I don't know. I mean, he haaasn't texted me since monday and he acted kind of distan at school this week so I don't really know what to do... I've liked him for a long time, and he's a really good kid. And I normally don't really like the good boys so this is a big deal for me. I don't think I wanna talk to him about it cause it's not like weee were ever "talking" anyway. But I don't wanna give up!! What should I do??
Hey there,
I would give him hints! That way you do not have to talk to him directly, but you can get your message across and you will be able to gauge his response (how he feels). Wink at him, sit near him, touch his arm/shoulder/leg (guys love touch), slip him a note in his pocket, make him cookies, or walk with him. He will get the message eventually.. and if he is still being distant, just say "Hi" whenever he is looking at you and smile. You will come across as a happy, interested person and he will want to know more about you. Do not overdo the flirting, just do something small that catches his attention for a moment.
If he smiles back, holds his eyes in yours, moves closer, touches his hair, puts his hands in his pockets, or stares at you then looks away when you look at him, he could like you. Flirt with him and see how he reacts. Once you are positive of how he feels, make the next step. Ask him if he would like to spend time with you at a location of his choice (if he chooses he will be liable to show up). He may not be willing at first, but the only way to know how he feels is to try. Flirt with him a bit. If you try, you will get places... or at least know that you tried. If you don't try, you will spend your time wondering what could have been. You can do what you put your mind to, so go for it girl!
also ,do yu think i will be fine with only using a condom and having sex like right after my period ends? nd also, is their much of a possibility to get scabies or crabs or anything like that? i just want things to go well. And no baby to worry about. I cant take care of a baby in high school...
Hey there,
I think you will be fine if you use a condom and have sex right after your period ends, but know that there is a small chance that you could always get pregnant from having sex no matter what. Usually it is not likely that you will at that time, but anything is possible. It all depends on how long your menstrual cycle is.
As for scabies and crabs, you can pretty much only get it if your partner has it. If your skin is in contact with the scabies or crabs, then you are likely to get it. If your partner doesn't have it, then you are good
Ok well i am goin to have sex with my boyfriend tomorrow and im nervous. How do i become less nervous? Like, were usin a condom and the rythm method. I dont think it is going to b very long. It's going to be my first time. Obviously i am unexperienced, so i am very nervous. I am going to do as much as i can to not get pregnant. The only thing i dont have is birth control. Thats why he is going to pull out slowly, and it wont be very long. I just dont want to ruin the moment for my boyfriend by being nervous while we have sex. Also, how long do i have to wait to get an accurate reading with the prgnancy test? I am sooooooo nervous...Please help...
Hey,
You can become less nervous by breathing (taking long breaths in and out), listening to music you like, or by talking about having sex with your boyfriend ahead of time. Whether it is the night before by text/in person or right before you are going to have sex. It will release any tension between you two. If you are relaxed, he will be too.
I am sure he is feeling simular to you right now and when you talk about it beforehand you both will be more calm and enjoy yourselves more. I am glad you are taking the precautions so you do not become pregnant. When you do have sex, be sure to tell him what feels good and what feels a bit uncomfortable. Communication is key. If he is wearing a condom you shouldn't have to worry too much about becoming pregnant, unless he happens to get cum in your vagina (by the condom breaking or just from his hands getting it on your vagina). The condom should prevent that from happening, but if you have spermicidal foam that really helps as well.
As for getting an accurate reading on a pregnancy test, usually 6-12 days after you ovulate or the day right after you miss a period is when to check. Do not think about the sex too much, I am sure it will go fine. If you tell yourself it is going to be great and you communicate, it will be
um me and my bf were having sex for the first time with each other and well he forgot his condom will this get me pregnate and can i use extra birth control to prevent this pregancy?
Hey there,
Yes. Having sex with no condom is definately a way to get pregnant and using extra birth control is not a reliable way to prevent any pregnancy (next time, make sure you have a condom on hand). It could help though, if you were using birth control before you had sex and then are continuing to use it after for the correct length of time and with the correct dose. It is not 100% effective, but it does help.
If he already cummed inside of you, likely you could be pregnant. But, you could use the morning after pill, which I would reccomend and which is much more efficient in stopping pregnancy. You should use it as soon as possible. Within 24 hours is best, but it can still be used within 72 hours of having sex to be effective in its job.
If you are still unsure after a few days, see a doctor or get a test from a pharmacy to see if you are pregnant or not. I hope everything works out for you
Okay. So last saturday I met this guy at a party who goes to a different school. I was there with five of my friends, three male, two female. The three males are really really protoective of me. The three guys are the grade above (I'm a sophomore, they're juniors) and they're basically like my older bros. So I meet this guy right (He's ajunior, 16. I'm 15)He seemed super super nice. His friends were kind of d-bag-ish but they were also high and the guy I met (we'll call him Jake) wasn't and he said his friends smoke pot but that he usually trys to avoid it and has only done it like twice. He seemed like a super sweet guy and we walked off from the party together, just talking, for about thirty minutes. Then I went back to my friends. Two of my guy friends told me not to talk to him again, that they had talked to my other guy friend who goes to school with Jake and he said that Jake is a really bad kid who's super annoying and does dumb stuff to get attention... He didn't seem like that to me. He was goofing off yeah but I dunno... He asked for my number, and I gave it to him so he texted me that night (saturday) and we've been texting everynight since. That guy friend that goes to school with Jake has also texted me saying "don't talk him, he's bad" but Jake says he barely even knwos my friend. Also, this girl in one of my classes saw I was texting him and was like "he's such a jerk! he harrassed me and it was horrible, and i hate him so much." but this girl has a history of making up stories and i asked her what he did to her and she just kept saying "he harrassed me" so i asked, like sexually? but she just kept saying "he harrassed me" over and over again... sooo I don't know :\ her story seems kind of fishy. I just don't knwo what to do cuz Jake seems so nice and he knows my friends don't like him/approve whcih frustrates him because he tells me he's a good kid and that these people don't know him. And the girl that told me he harrassed her said I wasn't allowed to mention her to him? So I guess I can't ask him about her... I asked her if I could ask him about it but she was like "no! don't bring it up!" Yeah I don't know. Jake asked me to hang out this weekend and I told him I wasn't sure if that's a good idea but Jake is saying he doesn't get why we just can't hang out, like friends, that he thinks I'm cool and wants me to give him a chance... But I don't know!! I kind of like this other guy but I've given up on him bcuz he kind of has this thing with this other girl... :\ I need advice!!
Hey there,
There is no way to know whether all these things people are telling you are true or not, unless you get to know him. You said he seemed nice, so he could be a nice guy.. but they all are saying he is bad news, so he could be bad news.
What they were saying about him being super annoying and doing dumb stuff, applies to majority of all boys. So no real worries there :p There are a ton of guys who do this all the time and they tend to grow out of it eventually; except for those that make a living out of it, haha.
Almost everyone judges a person by what that person decides to show them. If he wanted people to see him as a troublemaker at school because he thought it would be fun, then he probably did. When he met you maybe he thought 'wow, someone I want to actually know' and decided to show you his nice side. What that girl said about him 'harrasing' her could of just been a comment he said misinterpreted. Meaning, he could of made some 'jerk-like' comment and she took it to the extreme. Many guys can come off as jerks, its just how some act. I believe the girl did not want you to bring her up because what she was saying could of been a lie or she was just saying it for she didn't like him to begin with. Also, she didn't want to get in trouble for saying what she did too I bet.
The only way to know if 'Jake' is a jerk or not is if you get to know him. So go hang out with him as friends. Just know that he could be what everyone else is saying... so be careful. If you find he is who he says, take a step forward. If you find he is who everyone else says, stay away and find someone you deserve. Also, do not even try to date someone who is seeing another girl. That is just setting yourself up for trouble.
Everyone deserves a chance, so let 'Jake' have his one... it may lead you somewhere great
When i use tampons and i go to take them out, there is skin or something that i have to move over in order for me to be able to succeed in removing the tampon. Is this normal or should i get it checked out?
Hey there,
By the sounds of it, it is probably just part of your vagina. When you put a tampon in, your vagina normally 'hugs' the tampon. When you take it out, there usually is a little 'wall' I'll call it that you have to pull through first before it pulls out easily. I believe the 'skin' you are talking about is probably your labia (outer skin) which protects the vagina. It sounds normal to me. As long as you are able to use tampons properly and it doesn't hurt, I am sure you are good
There is this guy that i have been going out with for almost 2 months. I like him a lot and we tell each other that we love each other and stuff like that. I think that i really do too bc he's the first guy that i've liked this much and i love practically everything about him, but it is realy hard for me to be the first one to say that i love him. I dont understand why either. Im fine with saying it AFTER he says it but not first. Am i taking this 'love' thing too serious? tell the truth please:-)
Hey there,
I know what you mean when you say it is hard for you to say you love him first.. and believe me it is completely normal! A lot of people, not just girls can find it difficult to say "I love you" the very first time.
When a girl feels a certain way about a guy or a guy feels a certain way about a girl and you feel they are the one, there is something inside of us that wants to tell the other person so bad that you "love them".. but there are many things that could hold a person back. Things like shyness, feeling afraid, being unsure if the other person truly feels the same way, if it is the 'right' moment, or just for the sake of wanting to hear the other person say it first.
Right now I have been dating a guy for three months and he is the most amazing person I have met. I say this cause I have met a ton of jerks and finally I met the sweetest guy who makes me feel completely loved. I don't believe you have to date many guys to find the right one, you just have to be mature enough to make the right decision and know when the guy is in it for both of you. He is the first guy I have dated too. He has never told me he loves me and I have never said it to him yet, but we are completely happy with our relationship. Eventually him or myself will say the three words and I am not worried for I know it will happen when we find the right moment.
No, you are not taking this love thing too serious. Don't think too hard on it though. A person who isn't a bit weary of saying it the very first time (not after he has already said it to you a few times and then you say it after), seems kind of gutsy.. and as long as you do things for him or with him that show you love him, he will continue to know he is loved. Try being spontaneous sometime and just say you love him when you feel you want to say it. You can do it! :) He won't always say it first, so go ahead... give him a sweet surprise one day
19/f. i wnated to leave for college when i graduated from high school but due to a series of events that would take to long to write, i stayed here and i'm living at home. i attend a university, not community college, so there are dorms and stuff and it's like a real university with events and so on. but, i can't live at home anymore. i'm up to my last nerve. I can't move out. I live in Miami and everything here is really expensive. Like a one bedroom apartment is 1200 dollars. and my mom won't let me room with anyone if it's not in school. i want to leave and i need my mom to let me go... or at least be ok with going, because i know i'm an adult but i still don't want to go without her blessing.
please help
Hey there,
What I would do, is try and meet her half way. Talk to your mom and ask her about all the options she would allow and then ask her if she could help look with you to find a place that you both can agree on. If she doesn't feel right about any other places, then talk to her and explain to her what you wrote here. Tell her you appreciate her opinion, but you are getting older and you would love it if she gave you her blessing. Say you cannot stay home forever and you feel that it is time to get out on your own. If you can, put some of your money towards finding a new place. Your mom would be happy if you are willing to help pay in any way. Even if you earned a hundred dollars to put towards it.
Explain to her that this is something you really want. If you do that, it will make finding a place for you that much more important and I am sure your mom will start thinking about other options. Tell her from the heart how you feel and she will be sure to listen
This is a really long story, so i'll try to make it short.
I've known this boy for almost 7 months. we've dated for 4 of them. he left me, he just disappeared for 2 months. and i found him and we started talking again. he says he regrets doing what he did to me, and that he still loves me. he said that if he hadnt left we'd still be together. the thing is he now has a girlfriend who he started dating while we weren't talking. they fight all the time. she tells me what she says; she threatens to leave him almost daily but never does. i feel like she treats him like complete trash. shes only 13, and hes almost 18. which i find absolutely disgusting but thats beside the point. i've asked him multiple times to break up with her. he says that he cant just leave her because after everything shes done to him (lying and such) he still loves her. i says he cant leave because he'll feel bad, and he doesnt want her to be sad. he told me that if he stays he wont be happy and if he leaves he wont be happy.
i really really want him back. of all the boyfriends i've ever had hes the one i love and care about the most. we talk about having a life together but the way he talks about not being able to leave his current girlfriend, i dont think he'll ever leave her. he says it wont last forever but i feel otherwise. i need to know what to do. when i think about him and her i get very jealous and upset. i cant get him out of my mind.
right now he does say i love you to me, he calls me baby and such, just like when we were dating. but i wish the other girl was just out of the picture. im not really sure what kind of advice im looking for. i really want to know how to get them to break up but thats horribly mean, i dont want to hurt his feelings. whats the best thing for me to do?
Hey there,
By the sounds of it, his relationship with this other girl is not a good one.. If she treats him like trash and threatens to leave him alot, then I do not see why he would want to stay with someone like that.
You cannot ask a guy to break up with someone, they will only think you are being mean if you do that. To let a guy know the relationship he is in isn't doing him any good, is by telling him nicely that she is treating him like crap and that you feel that he deserves way better. Do not say 'your girlfriend is trash and I want to date you', that will only make you seem mean and unsupportive.
I think he doesn't want to leave her because she is probly guilt tripping him into believing he needs to be there for her. If you remind him every now and then that he deserves better, eventually he will learn that he does deserve better. Do not force anything on him, just casually remind him. It may take a while, but once he realizes, he will stop dating her and search for something better. Which could be you, if you give him time to figure out what is right. Do not push him in one direction while he is dating her, he has to decide for himself. Remind him, be patient, and soon enough he will stop putting himself through her cruelty. You cannot tell a person what to do, but you can guide them onto the correct path
I have this problem where I'm tierd all the time .I don't think I'm deppresed I just don't have no energy iv tried energy drinks don't work .all I know is I can't function like this maybe I have chronic fatigue syndrom I don't know iv been having this for years though I'm not lazzy that's for sure I just don't have the energy .I have to force myself to get out of bed because if I don't. I would sleep all day that's for sure its like I don't getg enough sleep or something and I get 6 to 7 hours a day not to include napps during the day .does anybody out ther know what could be my problem I can't go see a doctor because I don't have any insurance my job doesn't offer that
Hey there,
I had a very simular problem. I wasn't sleeping all day, but I was tired and exhausted all the time. How much you sleep isn't really a factor for being tired.. I say this because some people can sleep for only three hours and be completely awake the next day, where some people need the "reccomended daily sleep" of eight hours. Also, there is such thing as oversleeping. I find that if I sleep at least six hours I'm usually alright.
Foods this vitamin is found in include: fish, meat, poultry, eggs, milk, milk products, and fortified breakfast cereals.
Most people in your situation and the one I had, are this way (tired and exhausted) because they are low on vitamin B12; it is essential for keeping you alert and awake. Doctors could give you a monthly shot of B12, but since you said you cannot see a doctor, you could go to a drug store and buy B12 vitamins. You only have to take one pill maybe twice a day. If you try this, read the label or ask the pharmacist what is a correct dose for you. Eventually you won't be so tired anymore. I hope this works for you
18/f my so called best friend Skylar is a huge liar. Like she'll go somewhere with her Friends, and tell me she was babysitting. She did something horrible last year, she pretended to be someone and told this girls boyfriend that she was cheating on him and stuff like that. She is just such a liar. She is fun to be with. But I saw her in school
today and I couldn't even look at her. I'm so angry and I just don't know What to do. I haven't texted her Nd she hasn't texted me. If she texts me I know it's going to
be so hard not to say anything. I know she knows Im mad because I heard she was talking about me. She leaves me
out of things and obviously doesn't think of
me the same. Wha should I do?
Hey there,
Did she just turn into a liar recently? Or has she always been a liar? Either way... lying is not how you make friends or be a friend. What she did to that girl when she said she was cheating on him, is nasty and cruel in so many ways. That poor girl was probly having serious fights with her boyfriend after that and she may have cried too.
I know what it is like for someone you think is your friend, to go behind your back and others backs and be so terrible that you do not want to look at them or be around them. You not being able to look at her... is a clear sign to stop being her friend and find friends that respect you and others. When she texts you, tell her straight up that you don't like how she lies and treats people like dirt. Tell her that if she doesn't stop lying and being hurtful, you will stop being her friend. Since you do like hanging out with her, give her one chance to stop how she is acting. If she blows it, let her go find new 'friends'.
If you keep her around, she will end up hurting you way worse than she already has... then you will be sorry. She is not worth your time if she is making your life miserable. There are many real friends out there that will help bring the best out of you. Once you find them, you will be grateful
For the past two years I have been having a sharp pain in my right shoulder. I have been to many doctors and nobody can diagnose it let alone find a way to fix it. I am in constant pain despite the surgery I have already had. I am going to be having another surgery very soon and I'm so scared. I'm only 15 and I'm being told I might need a joint replacement or I might have to live with this pain for the rest of my life. As if this isn't bad enough, I'm deathly afraid of hospitals and needles, something I've been having to deal with a lot. Any advice on how to deal with my injury and fears?
Hey there,
I can relate to you a fair amount. I am 18 and I have had several surgeries in my life. I have had my kidneys removed at 5, a kidney transplant at 7, and just recently I had minor brain surgery (I say minor because they just removed a tiny piece of my brain because I had brain bleeds when I was little). So, I have had way to many needles in my lifetime to count them all.
The only way you are going to feel better about going for surgery is to do the things you love and keep telling yourself it will be fine, for it will be fine. When you do the things you love, your body will be happier, your mind will feel satisfied, and any stress you are having will go away. It may take a few days, but believe me, doing fun activities will help you to feel better on the inside. If you have friends, have them over for a get together or sleep over before you go for surgery. Friends are always supportive and tend to make you feel so much better. It is nice to know you have someone who is there for you, who cares for you, and who is thinking of you.
As for your fears.. overcome them by telling yourself "this is for the good of my health" and "once it is over I will be thankful and in less pain". It is difficult to conquer any fear at first, but with the strength you have within you, you can overcome anything. Plan to have a friend see you after your surgery too, that way you will see a friendly face when you are recovering. Also, friends were made to help you through this journey. Just remember... there are hard times in life, but within time there is great healing
18/f -sorry if this is really long, but i really need some advice!!
Last week, I was on vacation (close to home) and I met this guy there; he is younger than me but definitely on the same level as me. He lives about 20 minutes away from me. He is actually one of the most interesting and mature teenagers I know. I have never met anyone like him and I really want to spend more time with him because of this. We ended up hanging out the entire day and night that we first met. We also made plans to hang out again. I REALLY like him as a person, and i'm also pretty attracted to him. Since we met, I cannot stop thinking about him.
Here is what the problem is. When I met this guy, I was in a year-long relationship with this other guy. After I got home from vacation, nothing felt right with my then-boyfriend. I didn't break up with my boyfriend specifically because I met this new guy (there are other reasons that our relationship was going downhill, but meeting this new guy made me realize that I need to get out of my relationship.) Things are fine with my (ex)boyfriend now; we've decided to be friends and as hard as it is to let go of him, I know that I will be happier if we are friends.
When I was hanging out with the guy that I really like (that I met on vacation) he knew that I had a boyfriend, yet I could definitely feel the chemistry between us. I don't want to initiate anything though, because I don't want to freak this guy out or assume that he wants to be with me. After all, he could be a huge player; I don't know because I only hung out with him for one day (even though I feel like I've known him forever, and I didn't get a huge player vibe.) I don't even know if he likes me for sure. He might just think of me as a friend.
Some of the things that he did while we were hanging out made me think that he was into me. First of all, the fact that he gave me his number.
I didn't ask him for his number; he asked me for my phone and he put his number in my phone. To me this is significant because my friend (that was visiting me while I was on vacation) wrote him a flirty note with her number in it before she left, and he tactfully declined once she was gone.
Other things: In the middle of conversation, he said, "I'm not coming onto you, but you're pretty." and while we were on the beach, he carved me this stick and told me to keep it forever. And he took pictures of himself with my phone so that "i won't forget him." When it was cold during the night and I was wearing a teeshirt, he gave me his sweatshirt. His friend and I were making plans to hang out again, and he said not to go without him. And when we had to leave, he gave me a huge hug.
I get it that this guy thought I had a boyfriend, so I shouldn't jump to conclusions and think that he's in love with me. I get that.
What I'm worried about is that once he gave me his number, he told me to text him and say "hey it's (my name)." So i did text him that day. And I told him that I did, but he said that his phone was off because when we were on vacation we both had pretty bad service. Then right after he got back from vacation, he went to skateboarding camp for this week.
I never got a text back from him. I added him on facebook and myspace, but he accepted me without saying anything. I really want to hang out with him before this summer ends, (and there's not much time because school starts soon) but I don't want him to think that I'm desperate, so I haven't texted him since. I don't know what to think.
I feel like if he really liked me, he would have at least texted me back when I sent him that message that day.
On one hand, he could be thinking that I don't want to talk to him because I have a boyfriend. (I haven't talked to him since, so he doesn't know that we broke up) Maybe he just isn't a big texter. Or maybe he's a huge player and doesn't REALLY want to see me again. There's so much going through my head that I don't know what to think. What do you think? Could there be a reason that he hasn't texted me? Should I text him again? I was thinking that I could text him now that he's back from skateboarding camp and ask him if he still wants to hang out and mention specific places that we said we wanted to go with each other.
In my mind I'm kind of obsessing over this, but there's no way I will show him that I am in any way obsessed. What should I do?? And what do you think is going through his mind?
Thank you so much.
Hey there,
First of all.. no question is too long ;) Here's what I think: If you take him as a mature guy, I believe his intentions were true. Not many guys are able to express their feelings in a sincere way, unless they are mature. I am glad that you settled your feelings with one guy and let him go to try to get the guy you have more feelings for. Cleaning out the past is good for a fresh start.
When this guy personally punched his number into your phone, it was definately a flirt. He is saying 'hey, im here. I just put my number in your phone and I hope you will text me sometime' and him letting you know that he declined your friend is a way of showing you that he is (likely) availible for you. Also, making his comment about you being 'pretty' meant he is attracted to you, but he doesn't know if he'd want to have sex with you. He definately wants you to remember him when he carved you the stick, probably wanted you in his arms when he gave you the sweater, and didn't want you to go alone with his friends for he may have thought you'd like them more.
If he is an honest guy (and you had that vibe), he most likely did just have bad service that day when you texted him. Plus, vacation is a time to get out there, so he may have been doing an outside activity or something that is keeping him occupied, such as his skateboarding camp would.
If you want to hang out with this guy, I would text him every odd day just saying "how are you today?" or "what have you been up to lately?". He sounds like a busy guy, but if he is interested, he will definately answer eventually. If you do text him the odd day or only a few times a week, you will only seem interested not desperate.
It doesn't usually matter to a guy whether you have another boyfriend or not. If they like you, they will try to gain your attention, see if you like them, try to make you come to their side, and attempt to make you theirs. I think he is trying to respect your space (it may be cuz of your boyfriend or he could just be a nice person). Once he is sure that you are interested.. and you are able to gain time alone with him in person, he will show his true colors.
One thing that could be possible, but it doesn't sound like this guy.. is that he only gave you his number to see if he was still attractive. As in, he may have only wanted a summer fling.. but then from his actions towards you, I still doubt that. I would definately text him (odd days), see if he is availible, let him pick the day (since if he picks it, he will feel more obligated to come), spend some alone time with him, then see how it all fans out.
I believe he has true feelings for you and he probably hopes you will make the first move. It sounds as if he wants to take care of you, but he wants to know that he is the only guy on your mind. Spending time together is the only way you will know what he is feeling for sure and will help you to straighten things out. What a guy shows you in person, pretty much represents what kind of guy he is. If you were feeling chemistry, likely he was too ;)
My old crush wants to come to my high school. I have no problem with that but my best friends do. My crush and I had massive drama, like arguements, her making me jealous, she just played games but we never went out. so her and I are just friends now. Well I tell my best friends everything so they know about our drama, and they don't want her to come. They tellng me I would spend all my time with her and get hurt again. That's not what I'm looking to do though. And I have a feeling they will make me choose nd I don't want to choose. I want them to give her a chance because they're judging and they don't even know her. I'm not saying be her bestie but don't hate her just because you heard all bad sides. I don't know what to do or say when we get back to school. I'm sick of all the stress...please help!
Hey there,
What I would recommend, is trusting your heart. You should not just dump this girl because your "friends" think that she is unworthy. If you feel that she deserves you as a friend, then be her friend. Everyone needs a friend and if your "friends" do not support your decision.. they may not be the friends you are looking for.
She could be the only person you need as a friend, if you can work things out. You seem to know who she really is, so when you go back to school tell your "friends" that you are going to hang out with this girl for a few weeks or more. Then do it. They may not like your decision at first, but eventually if they are friends, they will support you and include not just you, but both of you. Do what you know is right and once "they" realize what they have been doing... they will be likely to change themselves to accept others
My boyfriend and i are fed up of just making out so we want to get touchy feely with each other.
I sed i would give a hj which i thought he would say yes to, but he sed he wont let me touch him anywhere unless i let him finger me and im not sure what to do coz he wants to do it while we are in the cinema and i dont know if i should say yes.
BTW i am 14 and he is almost 15
Hey there,
Yea, I am going to say 14 and 15 is young... but if you want to go to the next level, I would not do it in a cinema. There are quite a few consequences that come with doing it in a public place: people catching you, somebody taking a photo, getting kicked out, or your parents finding out. If you want to do this, do it somewhere private. It will also set a 'mood' for you both since its one on one.
I have to say going any furthur then touchy feely has major consequences as well. You don't want to end up having a child, not being able to be a kid, supporting the child possibly by yourself, and having your parents involved.. just saying since you sound as if you want to keep moving this relationship forward physically.
Do it somewhere private. If he truly appreciates you, he will respect your wishes and not just do this for some fun. Same with you.
Kay so... I have this close guy friend and I REALLLLYY like him.. And I never told him because I was scared to lose our good friendship. But now he is dating my bestfriend only cuz she felt "him and I were too close of friends that it wouldnt matter" -.- But I can't shake my feeling for him and I honestly can't hang out with them anymore cuz watching them kiss kills me. :( Should I talk to my bestfriend or him about it? Or just let them be happy... :\
Hey there,
I know how you feel, I am in a very simular situation.. the way I would handle yours, is to let your bestfriend know how you are feeling. If she knows how you are feeling about them together, she will then know that you are hurting and will be likely to respect your wishes for her not to kiss him in front of you (at least). Let her know that you do still kind of like him and that "you and him being close" is no reason for you not to have dated him.
You do have to be somewhat supportive of their relationship though. Tell her that you do support her decision, even though you have feelings for him. It is kind of unlucky that she made her move before you.. If you don't show some support she may think you are just having hard feelings or trying to split them up.
I had a best friend, she had dated a lot of guys, but one day she completely dumped me for my brother (whos a jerk). In the process she lied to me, backstabbed me, used me, and completely took me out of her life. Whenever I told her that "it is okay if she dates him, but just so you know.. he may not be right for you and I still want to be friends" she thought I was just being mean. I was trying to help her for I cared and he was a cheater. This started a few years ago and he still cheats on her, but she doesn't care. Watching them suck faces in front of me sickens me. I still do not want to hang out with them and their relationship is up and down, but as it turns out you can only guide people in the right direction.
Let your friend date him for now (she deserves some happiness), but let her know how you feel, what your feelings are for him, let her know if he's honestly doing something that a relationship shouldn't carry, support her decision, and still spend time with her one on one. It will help you stick close together as friends. Also, if you get him alone, let him know you have feelings for him.
If he knows how you are feeling, he may change his decision in time (you over her), you never know. Do not push anything onto him though. Once a person knows how you are feeling, they are likely to feel the same way... or at least give you the respect you need
I am just starting school and a boy i know and am friends with keeps smiling at me and joking around.But then he also is a "player" or so i have been told.I really want him to like me!Any advice??
Thnx in advance
TINK2359
Hey there,
The only way to know if a guy truly likes you.. is to be yourself. He obvioulsy likes you so far if he smiles at you and tries to make you laugh. You will not know if he is a "player" until you really get to know him. But since its been said, I would be a little careful if you get close and watch your steps.
If you want him to like you as more than friends: flirt with him, find something in common to talk about, tell him how you feel, see how he reacts, then make a bold move. Touch his arm, touch his shoulder, or give him a kiss on the cheek. He will get the hint eventually and if its meant to be, you will get what you want in return
So there is this guy blake that I like. I thought he was feeling me because. He used to look at me all the time and just get in my conversations all the time. We would look at each other. He would talk about me with his friends in front of me. He even playfully told me he loved me. So I thought he was interested. I told him he had pretty eyes and he would say thankyou. I asked if anybody ever told him that, he said a lil bit. So I started calling him pretty eyes. He would just look at me.
During a track meet he was looking at me and I was like why are you looking at me like that? And he was like because you are staring at me. (which i really wasnt :) And i was like I can look at you at all I want. He just gave me a lil sexy look and went back to getting into his block.
and one day i was messing with this gurl saying she should date blake and she was like no but you should because he said you were cute. and then her and this girl starting laughing. so i think she was just saying that to get back at me.
Also at Practice one day he was ignoring this girl and then I was like you need to cut ur hair and I rubbed his hair and he was being so mean he rubbed me off him. And then the gurl said something and was like why you acting like this and he ignored her. And then i walked to the other side of him because he was laying down. And I said something like yeah he is being mean or something and then he was like yeah because you threw a baton at me. Then I was like I'm sorry and he was like to the girl that she threw a baton at me. And then I went up to him and was like I'm sorry you made me mad and he was like nope nope. And he was walking away and I followed and was on his shoulder and asked him why he wouldn't forgive me and he kept saying no. So I would point at him and keep laughing and then he was like it's not funny and then I whispered in his ear and was like if it's not funny why u smiling?
so then he left and then the gurl was like do you like him and I was like no. And then she was like you sure and I was like yeah and and she was like I don't believe you. And I was like why you say that and she said because you messing with him and I said I mess with everybody and I just started messing with him and she was like yeah that's why I think you like him. And she was like I thinking something going on. She said it seems a lil supicious.
Then the next day she told this girl and that girl was like where is my man and I was like who is my man and she was like blake And I was like that isn't my man and she was like that's not what he said.
well after that day ive been trying to talk to him and he will just stare at me. Like at the end of the school year i was like by and he just looked at me. after school i tried talking to him on facebook but he wouldnt talk to me. well one of my guy friends told me had a girl friend. so i told my friend which is blakes cousin and she asked him if he had a girlfriend he was like no i dont who told you. and she was like i just heard you did. so i really dont know what to do. but i do like him alot.
(sorry if its too long)
Hey,
I think you should talk to him. If he doesn't want to talk to you on Facebook or something like that, try to talk to him in person. It is the only way you will clear this confusion up. If you really like him, flirt, tell him how you are feeling towards him, and let him know it is okay if he likes you too. It may have been a rumour that he was dating someone, you never know. Just let him know that you care for him and if he feels the same way... you will be waiting