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Am i taking this 'love' thing too serious?
There is this guy that i have been going out with for almost 2 months. I like him a lot and we tell each other that we love each other and stuff like that. I think that i really do too bc he's the first guy that i've liked this much and i love practically everything about him, but it is realy hard for me to be the first one to say that i love him. I dont understand why either. Im fine with saying it AFTER he says it but not first. Am i taking this 'love' thing too serious? tell the truth please:-)
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Well Im 13 female, and im with a guy right now named, Jeff. Well trust me hun im in LOVE with him. So no your not... i am one of those people that listens to people and doesnt say "ohhh no thats NOT it" im honest So really no your not taking it to seriously. If you want any more advice just ask:)
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Hey there,
I know what you mean when you say it is hard for you to say you love him first.. and believe me it is completely normal! A lot of people, not just girls can find it difficult to say "I love you" the very first time.
When a girl feels a certain way about a guy or a guy feels a certain way about a girl and you feel they are the one, there is something inside of us that wants to tell the other person so bad that you "love them".. but there are many things that could hold a person back. Things like shyness, feeling afraid, being unsure if the other person truly feels the same way, if it is the 'right' moment, or just for the sake of wanting to hear the other person say it first.
Right now I have been dating a guy for three months and he is the most amazing person I have met. I say this cause I have met a ton of jerks and finally I met the sweetest guy who makes me feel completely loved. I don't believe you have to date many guys to find the right one, you just have to be mature enough to make the right decision and know when the guy is in it for both of you. He is the first guy I have dated too. He has never told me he loves me and I have never said it to him yet, but we are completely happy with our relationship. Eventually him or myself will say the three words and I am not worried for I know it will happen when we find the right moment.
No, you are not taking this love thing too serious. Don't think too hard on it though. A person who isn't a bit weary of saying it the very first time (not after he has already said it to you a few times and then you say it after), seems kind of gutsy.. and as long as you do things for him or with him that show you love him, he will continue to know he is loved. Try being spontaneous sometime and just say you love him when you feel you want to say it. You can do it! :) He won't always say it first, so go ahead... give him a sweet surprise one day <3
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This is puppy love. May not seem like it to the two people who are in the relationship but from the outside looking in you are definitely in puppy love. The reason why you feel so awkward telling him you love him first is cause your still uncertain as to either a) If you "truly" mean it yet and/or b) It makes you uncomfortable to say it first because you feel your too early on in the relationship to be feeling this way about someone. Whatever the case may be if this is not puppy love, then you shouldnt feel that way PERIOD. If you truly love this guy the way you say you do then there should be no barrier of thought or emotion holding you back from being the first to say I love you sometimes. If you always have to wait for him to say it before you feel comfortable enough to follow, then that means you have uncomfortability with this guy somewhere deep down inside your heart, and you need to fix it.
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Hello =) I think that you are afraid that he won't say it back to you if you say I love you first. It might be hard to say it first, but if it's true love like you say it is, then he will say it back to you. I hope I helped :) If you need anything, drop one in the inbox <3 Steph
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If ur having ur doubts, it's probably not love yet... it could be, but if u don't feel that u can say it first then it probably isn't. After only 2 months, even tho there is a chance that u may love him, it's pretty unlikely. Good luck with him tho! Let me know how all of it works out!
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no no no...you probably just are afraid that he is not gonna say it back because with me and my boyfriend, i love it when he says it first, its just the way i am, maybe you are the same way also. you are not taking love to seriously and good luck with your relationship..
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If your not comfortable saying it hun, mayb you should tell him str8 up, because you dont wanna feel all odd, And uncomfortable in a relationship, Relationships are baist on a honest and strong relationship. And truthfulness so im sure he will understand, And atleast your being Honest!
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well, I think that you shouldnt say it everytime you see him or talk to him. Say it occasionally but sometimes wait to see if he says it, if he doesnt say it after a little bit then i guess you can say it? but i wouldnt keep saying it, try and see if he'll make the first attempt.
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Everytime you fall inlove with the first guy you love.... It's just a hard thing to say and commit to someone when you really are confused and don't know for sure. I don't think that your taking it too seriously!
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I think you aRe. I think you aRe making the VERY common mistake of concluding lust as "love"; soRRie. But ya neveR know.. stick it out a yeaR oR two moRe, and peRhaps you can gRow to love him!! Best wishes!! =D
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