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New boy :) maybe not??
Okay. So last saturday I met this guy at a party who goes to a different school. I was there with five of my friends, three male, two female. The three males are really really protoective of me. The three guys are the grade above (I'm a sophomore, they're juniors) and they're basically like my older bros. So I meet this guy right (He's ajunior, 16. I'm 15)He seemed super super nice. His friends were kind of d-bag-ish but they were also high and the guy I met (we'll call him Jake) wasn't and he said his friends smoke pot but that he usually trys to avoid it and has only done it like twice. He seemed like a super sweet guy and we walked off from the party together, just talking, for about thirty minutes. Then I went back to my friends. Two of my guy friends told me not to talk to him again, that they had talked to my other guy friend who goes to school with Jake and he said that Jake is a really bad kid who's super annoying and does dumb stuff to get attention... He didn't seem like that to me. He was goofing off yeah but I dunno... He asked for my number, and I gave it to him so he texted me that night (saturday) and we've been texting everynight since. That guy friend that goes to school with Jake has also texted me saying "don't talk him, he's bad" but Jake says he barely even knwos my friend. Also, this girl in one of my classes saw I was texting him and was like "he's such a jerk! he harrassed me and it was horrible, and i hate him so much." but this girl has a history of making up stories and i asked her what he did to her and she just kept saying "he harrassed me" so i asked, like sexually? but she just kept saying "he harrassed me" over and over again... sooo I don't know :\ her story seems kind of fishy. I just don't knwo what to do cuz Jake seems so nice and he knows my friends don't like him/approve whcih frustrates him because he tells me he's a good kid and that these people don't know him. And the girl that told me he harrassed her said I wasn't allowed to mention her to him? So I guess I can't ask him about her... I asked her if I could ask him about it but she was like "no! don't bring it up!" Yeah I don't know. Jake asked me to hang out this weekend and I told him I wasn't sure if that's a good idea but Jake is saying he doesn't get why we just can't hang out, like friends, that he thinks I'm cool and wants me to give him a chance... But I don't know!! I kind of like this other guy but I've given up on him bcuz he kind of has this thing with this other girl... :\ I need advice!!
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Hey there,
There is no way to know whether all these things people are telling you are true or not, unless you get to know him. You said he seemed nice, so he could be a nice guy.. but they all are saying he is bad news, so he could be bad news.
What they were saying about him being super annoying and doing dumb stuff, applies to majority of all boys. So no real worries there :p There are a ton of guys who do this all the time and they tend to grow out of it eventually; except for those that make a living out of it, haha.
Almost everyone judges a person by what that person decides to show them. If he wanted people to see him as a troublemaker at school because he thought it would be fun, then he probably did. When he met you maybe he thought 'wow, someone I want to actually know' and decided to show you his nice side. What that girl said about him 'harrasing' her could of just been a comment he said misinterpreted. Meaning, he could of made some 'jerk-like' comment and she took it to the extreme. Many guys can come off as jerks, its just how some act. I believe the girl did not want you to bring her up because what she was saying could of been a lie or she was just saying it for she didn't like him to begin with. Also, she didn't want to get in trouble for saying what she did too I bet.
The only way to know if 'Jake' is a jerk or not is if you get to know him. So go hang out with him as friends. Just know that he could be what everyone else is saying... so be careful. If you find he is who he says, take a step forward. If you find he is who everyone else says, stay away and find someone you deserve. Also, do not even try to date someone who is seeing another girl. That is just setting yourself up for trouble.
Everyone deserves a chance, so let 'Jake' have his one... it may lead you somewhere great <3
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