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Boys and your Bestfriend :\
Kay so... I have this close guy friend and I REALLLLYY like him.. And I never told him because I was scared to lose our good friendship. But now he is dating my bestfriend only cuz she felt "him and I were too close of friends that it wouldnt matter" -.- But I can't shake my feeling for him and I honestly can't hang out with them anymore cuz watching them kiss kills me. :( Should I talk to my bestfriend or him about it? Or just let them be happy... :\
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Either Way you might loose his friendship because weny ou cant hang out with him nomore i think he gonna guess something is wrong . and if he like you dump his girlfriend and you guys start dating.and if you two breakup it might make things bad.i think the best way to deal with this is to tell him how you feel and if he dont feel the same way you should just move on holding it inside wont make any thing better.always remember love always have a way of coming out you cant beat love its to strong
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Hey there,
I know how you feel, I am in a very simular situation.. the way I would handle yours, is to let your bestfriend know how you are feeling. If she knows how you are feeling about them together, she will then know that you are hurting and will be likely to respect your wishes for her not to kiss him in front of you (at least). Let her know that you do still kind of like him and that "you and him being close" is no reason for you not to have dated him.
You do have to be somewhat supportive of their relationship though. Tell her that you do support her decision, even though you have feelings for him. It is kind of unlucky that she made her move before you.. If you don't show some support she may think you are just having hard feelings or trying to split them up.
I had a best friend, she had dated a lot of guys, but one day she completely dumped me for my brother (whos a jerk). In the process she lied to me, backstabbed me, used me, and completely took me out of her life. Whenever I told her that "it is okay if she dates him, but just so you know.. he may not be right for you and I still want to be friends" she thought I was just being mean. I was trying to help her for I cared and he was a cheater. This started a few years ago and he still cheats on her, but she doesn't care. Watching them suck faces in front of me sickens me. I still do not want to hang out with them and their relationship is up and down, but as it turns out you can only guide people in the right direction.
Let your friend date him for now (she deserves some happiness), but let her know how you feel, what your feelings are for him, let her know if he's honestly doing something that a relationship shouldn't carry, support her decision, and still spend time with her one on one. It will help you stick close together as friends. Also, if you get him alone, let him know you have feelings for him.
If he knows how you are feeling, he may change his decision in time (you over her), you never know. Do not push anything onto him though. Once a person knows how you are feeling, they are likely to feel the same way... or at least give you the respect you need <3
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