I think you should move on and find someone else. You were waiting for almost a decade for him to notice you, and he never did. I know you said not to tell you this, but you should really try to get over him. Be there for him as a friend, but find somebody else.

Anyway, about your problem. If you don't like him "that way", just be yourself, try to be a good friend. But if he is mean to you (it's kind of mean of him to flirt in front of you, I think), then you probably do only like him because he's popular. There is no reason to be with people like that; be friends with people that like you for who you are and that you like for who they are.

If you want to show that the flirting doesn't bother you, tell that girl that you think she would look so cute with him.

Good luck!

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It's normal...don't be embarassed. Guys won't notice that sort of thing.

Stop telling her things. I know it's hard, but she is going way too far. Keep a journal (and keep it in a secret place so she can't read it). And if she starts telling a story about you, give her a taste of her own medicine and tell one of her secrets. That might get you in trouble, but it's probably the "right" thing to do. Good luck.

No, sorry. I'm fat.

You've been going out for three months, that's barely a relationship. He's probably just having trouble at home. You guys have barely begun, give it more time before you decide to move on.

When I was in junior high, I had a friend who claimed to have a boyfriend. But he didn't go to our school, and she didn't have any pictures of him or anything. We all assumed she was making it up. We thought she was a snob who just wanted to show off. It's not that your friends don't think you're pretty or nice enough, they're just immature. They need proof. You'd probably be the same way, if one of them said the same thing. Best thing to do is introduce your boyfriend to your friends. It's not that hard, just invite them all over or something. Good luck.

We all have relatives we hate. You're just going to have to put up with it, and don't let it ruin your relationship with your fiance. I bet there are people in your family that make him mad, too.

Well if you're a girl it could be your period. Or you just ate something funny and should take some stomach medicine.

Ugh, that sounds terrible. Have you talked to them about it? They might not realize they're hurting you, but if you talk to htem, tell them your point of view and why you don't think dating is important at the moment, maybe they will lay off. Ask them how they would feel about it, if someone was constantly picking on them. This sounds sappy, but say that you are making a new family rule. Whenever someone says something mean to someone, that person has to say "The way you're talking to me makes me feel bad." Chances of that working are really only 50/50, though. Hopefully you'll be out of there in a couple of years, but I hope you get it all worked out before then.

She sounds like she's just obsessed with her weight. It's not that big a deal if she's watching what she eats. If what she eats is half a glass of water and an ice cube with a side of salt, then I would be worried. But if all she's doing is eating cautiously then it's no big deal. Who knows, maybe it's something her doctor told her to do.

Well if she really is your BEST friend, then I would think no matter what you were doing, you'd have more fun with her. Maybe you have a different view on what a best friend is, but the way I see it is that I could get kidnapped and sold to a caniballistic circus, and it would be raining, but if my best friend were by my side and experiencing it with me, I would be having a blast. But back to your question. Weigh your options. You could go with those bratty girls and have a cool time, and then you would look into the eyes of your best friend and see how betrayed and hurt she is. You'll feel guilty for a very long time, and she might not forgive you. And if she doesn't, she's completely entitled to that. Or you could go with your best friend, and the other girls will probably call you a loser, but it won't matter to you because you did what you knew was right, and you and you're friend were happy to be with each other. In any case, you know that they're the real losers because they don't have her as a friend. Either way, if you waste your trip thinking about what could have been, you'll most likely have a terrible time (even with your best friend there!).

By the way, it is Washington DC or State?

Good luck, do the right thing.
-Kigeto

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Maybe he really likes you, but he's hiding his feelings and pretending he only hangs out with you for the MP3 player. You could try saying "I don't have it with me today, but we can talk instead." If it's cool with him and he's enthusiastic about talking with you, then you definitely have a chance! Tell him how you feel! If he says "yeah, okay." but doesn't really seem to want to be with you, he probably doesn't like you but doesn't want to mean. Still, that's something, you should work to make him notice you. If he makes up an excuse to leave, he is just a jerk and you deserve way better than that so get over him.

Good luck!

Depends on how much blood sugar you have. If you have low blood sugar, it's not a good idea to have a lot of sugar, because you will make yourself sick. Also, you shouldn't eat a lot of pure sugar, because someday you will probably get blood sugar problems if you don't already have them. But most of our food has sugar in it...in fact, all of it does. There are different kinds of sugars. So it's kind of hard to avoid. Just don't drink huge barrels of sugar and you should be good.

Are you a girl or a guy? Either way, it's totally normal. Good luck.

Samurai Girl. I don't know who writes them, though sorry.

And The Black Books...but they aren't really "girl" books. I like them, though. And there are female characters, so...yeah...

If you truly can't talk to him, then it might be a good idea not to talk to him. That kind of relationship might not work out. But you gotta atleast try. Talk about anything, just random thoughts you have, they don't even have to make sense. Say something like, "So what do you think would happen if you and I went to thee aquarium and freed the sharks?", and hopefully that will start a conversation. Also, sometimes it's easier to express emotions by talking online. This doesn't work for all people, but might for you.

Just tell friend 1 that you have to be there to support friend 2. She should understand. You don't have to go with someone every time they invite you.

Don't take this the wrong way, but you really need to ask yourself, "Why do I want to be friends with someone who doesn't want to be my friend?" I think that by staying her friend, you are hurting yourself more. But don't end it with a fight. Just tell her that you think the two of you need to be apart for a while, hang out with other people (sounds like a typical girlfriend/boyfriend break up, huh?) and that you hope the best for her. Mention that you'll always care about her. And stay true to your word, don't obsess over her. Maybe someday you will be friends again, or maybe you will go your seperate ways for good. But it's normal for friendships to change like this, your worst enemy one year could be your best friend the next year and vice versa.

I hope it works out for you.

Well, it's obvious she is having some issues, but does she actually not eat? All girls talk about how fat they are, and making herself throw up once does not exactly make an eating disorder. However, she does sound like she is developing a disorder. Tell her that she's beautiful, you care for her, you don't know what you would do without her. Remind her that all teenage girls hate their bodies, think they are fat, etc. In reality, most people are too concerned with the way they look to bother noticing you and the ones that do notice you are losers with way too much time and not enough self esteem. If she decides to stop eating or vomit every meal, say to her, "Well, if you're going to do it, then I will too!" (But don't really), and hopefully she will tell you how much you mean to her, etc. and you can say, "That's exactly how you've been making me feel."

Be there for her, and best of luck!
-Kigeto

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