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I can't stand her!
21/f Here's the situation my fiancee's aunt (married in) is so annoying I just want to pop her in the mouth. She makes these assumptions about me and then gossips about me. Many people including my fiancee has told me that she thinks i am too "sassy". The problem is no one asked her opinion! I am tired of her lecturing me about things that she thinks are going on but they aren't. example: My fiancee and I disagree like all people do on some things. She says why are yall fighting about things that don't matter! WHAT FIGHT? And she takes people's opinions especially hers for truth.She has good sides but this overshadows the good in her. How do I get past this without knocking her out?!?
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The next time she tries to open her yap and blabber about things, show her what's up. Don't yell, don't accuse, don't insult, simply just confront her about her unacceptable behavior!
For example, when she mentions your disagreements, just simply ask her, "Like us, every couple has it's disagreements. I'm sure you and your husband have had your own share, so exactly why are you phrasing it like it's such a big deal?"
If she still opens her yap on mindless blabber, just simply tell her, "It's not your place to criticize me and my fiancee's relationship. We love each other very much, and the least you could do is be happy for us."
In a sense, try to make her feel bad. Make her feel guilty for the way she's been acting. In a sense, make her feel feel stupid at last resort. Make it so it looks like she is out of her mind not knowing what the hell is coming out of her mouth.
Like, "Are you here to know what goes on betweeen us? Do you know every little detail of why we argue? Are you handcuffed to us to know anything? Then who are you to say what's right and wrong? Who are you to criticize something you have little knowledge about? I don't mean to be rude, but stop being ignorant and arrogant."
Good luck! :)
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I'd say either ignore what she says, or try and find out why she does it. Is there a reason she gossips? Does she only do it about you, or is it a habit that she's gotten into?
~Amb~
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We all have relatives we hate. You're just going to have to put up with it, and don't let it ruin your relationship with your fiance. I bet there are people in your family that make him mad, too.
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Ignore what she says. Getting a rise out of you is what she wants. Give her a taste of her own medicine.
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Well hopefully after you're married you won't have to see her very much.That would help!
When you do have to see her and she mentions you being "sassy"...tell her that you know you're sassy and fiance(use his name!)likes me this way.
As for the lecturing...Tell her everyone is entitled to their opinion but she's wrong about you.Don't elaborate or give her anything to argue about.Leave it at that.
Try not to disagree in front of her.If you do,politely tell her that it really isn't any of her business what you and fiance are debating.
The key is just be nice but firm.Don't let her get to you because that is probably what she wants.Pretty soon she'll move on to someone she can get riled up.
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Haha!! You are so funny, "How do i get past her without knocking her out??" Ha i love that line. Anyway, you can just approch her in a friendley way and calmly explain to her that you are not sassy and you and your finacee fight just like everyone else in the world. If she cant except that, then ignore her and she will surly shut up.
Always there..
Donna
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