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Hi,

about me :
1. 5'3
2. 18 at the moment
3. YANKEES!!! ALL THE WAY

I DONT KNOW YOU so i give suggestions
I HOPE YOU RESPECT THAT
If you don't like my advice then don't ask! simple. don't rate bad because i tell you something that you don't wanna hear, i couldn't care less what you rate me, it's not affecting my life at all...
I'll tell it like it is.

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sorry if this isn't the right category but i have a question about my nipples. my one doesn't stick out like the other. its like inside kinda unless i'm cold. is this normal? i feel kinda dumb cause my boyfriend noticed it and everything.

its absolutely normal... all it means is that the one that doesn't stick out is still inverted but later on it will be just like the other one. dont worry

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Okay, so me and my ex boyfriend broke up after dating for about 5 months. i fell in love with him so quickly and i wanted it to last forever. he was the first guy i was ever sexual with. we never actually had sex but he fingered me and i gave him a hand job and he saw me naked and everything. we talked about having sex but we never got the chance. I also told him everything about myself and we were so open towards eachother. He is the first guy that I had ever really fallen in love with and the first i had actually opened up to. I was so upset when we broke up. i felt like my world was just crashing on top of me. I'm still in love with him and it's been a month since we split. We dont talk much anymore and it kills me. I want him back so bad but i'm not sure what to do. If there's anything that I can do to be with him again, tell me. please. I feel like i cant live without him and I dont want to move on. what can I do??

its hard. and it won't get easy immediately. but you have to trust me on this. i fell inlove with my best friend since kindergarten. and guess what?? i still love him. we dated for a year. i know it's hard but after a while you realize the pain easing away and you realize that you don't feel as strongly as you did at first. It will take time.

and i'm sure he's not the only guy you will fall inlove with... so just wait for that perfect guy and don't dwell on what could have been because obviously there was a reason for your breakup and who knows? maybe it's because you're about to meet someone absolutely amazing for you =]]

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ok so i have this friend her name is lizsandra. her recent boyfriend dumped her and he didnt tell her why he just said he wanted to be friends with her.so today at school she was in the girls bathroom making she was making herself through up and shes thinking of commmiting susicide what advice should i give her?

i really really hope this helps. and after you've talked to this girl, i would really like to know what happens. so please let me know.

"ok i know sucide seems like the only way out. BUT killing yourself means that life for you right now is as bad as it's ever gonna get, which means, it WILL GET BETTER. the time might not be this instant but it will soon. and for this guy that left you... you should be glad because why would you wanna be with someone who doesn't want you? it should just be a TURN OFF for any guy who doesn't like you for who you are... and i'm sure there are plenty of things to like (here would be a good time to name some). and suicide isn't the answer... its only an easy way out.. so would you rather find a way out, or stick around and find a guy that's absolutely amazing... which i'm sure will happen.



IM me if you or this girl wanna talkk and please let me know if i helped and if she's alright.
xxes25 is my s/n

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im 14.and ive been with my boyfriend for about a year&& 4 months.when we have sex he just pulls out.we havent been using protection for about 7months.i really dont like the sex with condoms.should i start using protection.do you think its safe?

do you want to be pregnant at 14? if not i suggest protection. and you dont like sex w/ condoms?? well do you wanna have unprotected sex and be crying when you find out your gonna have a kid??

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I've always liked that name but is it a weird one? and i dont exactly get the meaning of it. do you think it sounds cute? and i pronounce it "kih-me" not "kee-mee". could i still say it the way i want even though apparently its not "pronounced" that way. cuz i dont want to change the spelling but saying it as "kee-mee" sounds weird since i'd always called it "kih-me". and is it a word in japanese? its always in japanese songs.

let me just say that i really love this name. and when i read the topic of the question, i read it as "kih-me". and these days we have crazy names that are spelt in crazy ways so don't worry about it. it's a great name and it is of japanese decent

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how do you know what your code is on bluetooth for your cell phone when you're trying to add device?

you make up the code. you put in 3409 and the device your adding puts in the same number. so you make it up

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I am 31 years old I have ben married for 7 years and had an affair 7 months ago with this guy who is 27 years old. I ended up getting pregnant by this guy, but I'm working things out with my husband. I just don't know what to do about the baby. The biological father is the other guy, but my husband wants to claim the baby has his own. I know legally the baby is considered his since we are still married. But, should I just shut the other guy out and not let him be the father? He is really excited about the baby and says he can't wait to be a father. I know it would be a lot easier on our relationship it the other guy wasn't involved at all. I don't know what to do Help!

first of all your husband married you to love you, have a life with you and have kids with you. he should be entitled to just that. the other guy (from your previous question) said that he was ignoring you and that he didn't care or w/e. if this guy is this indecisive then he shouldn't have anything to do with this child.

second, a child deserves a normal family with a mother and a father. not two fathers. you should think about what is better for this kid and what will make this childs life easier. you also need to decide who will love this child more.

third, this guy knew you were married when he decided to have sex with you not thinking about the consequences. this just proves what will be in the future. he is not thinking about you or your feelings just about getting into your pants. is this what you want for your child?

i hope i helped and good luck. it will be hard but you must decide whats best

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I need to know what astigmatism is, and i tried looking it up on google but they all have these confusing explanations and i just want to know...?
-what is it?
-is it harmful?
-can it be fixed?


thanks!

ok i have astigmatism slightly in my eye and i didn't understand what it was until i got contacts.

basically the eye or eyes that have it dont see as clearly as they could even if you have glasses with 20/20 vision

for example... i had glasses that were meant for astigmatism and then when i got contacts, they weren't meant for people with astigmatism, and my eye that had astigmatism didn't see as clearly and as sharp as the other eye.

it's not harmful. it's more annoying than anything. but you don't really notice it. if you get glasses with prescribed astigmatism lenses you'll be fine it's not a big deal whatsoever.

IM me if you wanna talk
xxes25

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I have been married for 7 years, but about 7 months ago I met this younger guy at college. I am 31 and the other guy is 27. He kept pursuing me even though he knew I was married and I eventually gave in to him. At first we would just talk after class but then we started to have sex. My husband found out and I moved closer to where the other guy lived because he wanted me to. When I moved out the other guy knew I was pregnant by him. At first he was coming over all the time and wanted to move in with me but I did not want him to live with me. But, about a month ago he decided he just wante to be friends and now he is dating someone else. It really hurts my feelings when I think about it because I feel so betrayed and abandoned. He is really excited about the baby, but doesn't want anything to do with me not even talk to me like a friend. He acts like he is angry towards me and I don't know why he is the one that called it off. Why can't he even talk to me as a friend and why is he so angry towards me? Plus, I don't know why he ended the relationship in the first place, it was out of the blue, nothing happened between us. I can't ask him but he acts like he doesn't want to talk to me. Why is he acting this way towards me?

ok so you feel betrayed and abandoned?? well how about your husband how does he fee?

either this guy you had the kid with doesn't want anything to do with taking care of the baby or isn't ready. either way if he doesn't want to have anything to do with it then you can't force him

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If I post my essay here for some proofreading, advice, tips, and any criticisms, will my "question" be deleted?

if you need someone to proofread it i will and i'm a pretty good writer. it will most likely get deleted if you post it on here.

here's my aim and email if you want some tips
xxes25
es2592@yahoo.com

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I guess this comes under meantal health...
Ok well i used to be a cutter last year.
Bad i started about 3 years ago and stopd lasted year.

The thing is ive got so depressed lately all i want to do is harm...
I just want to get a knife and go deep.
To be honest im waiting for someone to cut me by accident or whatever. (if you get what i mean)

Im not a type of person that takes the wrong road twice so i really dont want to go back to it.
ANd im full of advice for everyone... except me.
I just want that red liquid to emerge from my skin.
To trinkle down my wrist.
To feel the stingy numbing pain....

Please point me in the right direction

Vikki

i haven't gone what you're going through. i just wanna make that clear right now. but i see where you're coming from. and i understand depression...
you need to find something to do to keep your mind off of it. i know it's hard. i know you're gonna struggle. but luckily there are things you can do.. fun things besides inflicting pain... like the movies, or the mall or friends or sports or music.
if you have aim, talk to me on there
xxes25

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before i get into this, yes i know, i'm probably a slut. so sorry.
ANYWAY.
so this guy has been my best best friend for about two years, he's so nice and he's always been there for me.
last summer he asked me out and i said yes.
we've been going out for 9 months.
he was my first time having sex, and i was his.
...but during that 9 months, i hooked up with 4 other guys.
not in a row, not even in the same week.
yeah, again, really wicked sorry.
he doesn't know about them.
no one does except the guys.
i feel awful.
but the truth is, the guy i'm going out with now, while he's super nice to me, is a dick to everyone else, allergic to cats (so he can't ever come over to my house), allergic to lettuce (i'm a vegitarian), not very attractive, listens to mostly different music than me, gets terrible grades, can only talk about things he's interested in, and is militantly straight-edge and i'm totally not.
i really do want to go out with someone else.
i have for a really long time.
i've tried breaking up with him 5 times but i always feel bad and like an hour later get back together with him.
it's so so hard for me to make him upset.
and even though i don't want to go out with him and i know that if i drag this out any further i'm just going to resent him more and he's going to get more attatched.
he says things to me like "i love you forever, please don't leave me" and "you complete me" and "i need you, i love you more than anything"
and i just feel awful, i hate being mean to him.
but i really really want to get out of this relationship without completely hurting his feelings.......
WHAT THE !@#? do i do?!

it wont be easy
i'll tell you that right now

no matter how many times you run the "break up" through your mind it will always be harder when you actually decide to do it. and you will feel bad.

but guess what?? you have two options :

you date him and feel bad that you're wasting his time when you dont love him and you're wasting your time because you rather be with someone else who's better for you

or

you feel bad for breaking up with him but eventually find someone who's amazing for you and you finish with this guy who's a dick.

IM me if you wanna talk or you need help of how to tell him you don't want him anymore
xxes25

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15/f
okay so this boy that im talking to, he is friends with my brother who is 12, but tyler is 16. But my brother started telling me bad things about tyler like he was a player and a two timer and once i started to question it he said he was an okay guy and i could do better because we were cousins. But we arent. Because he is my cousins half brother on her dads side to whom i am not related.
1) we arent related are we??
2) i have a gut feeling that austin is lying to me because he dont want me to take his older friend, and he likes to screw with people and stuff. So what do you think??

well first of all you aren't related by blood. the hole cousins half brother on dad's side is just depending on you and if you're comfortable dating someone who is you cousin's half brother on the dad's side lol.

second, i understand why your brother would make up stuff because he wants his friends to himself. i suggest that you find out more about this kid. if he's a player then ofcourse you don't want him but if he seems to be a nice guy, after you've been around him for a while, then that's great and you should go for it.

also, it just seems that your brother doesn't want you to take him away. i don't think that tyler is a two timing player because if your brother is trying to cover it up, he's obviously lying

IM me if you wanna talk
xxes25

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Okay, so I love this guy so much. I love being with him. It's just that sometimes, I don't feel...I dunno, worthy of him. He's just so great at everything it seems and I wonder every day how he can even bring himself to look at me, let alone date me. I really don't know what to do because I've never really felt that great about myself so I really don't understand how he can like me. So then I always think that he's lying and he doesn't truly like me, because what's to like?

But really, he's so wonderful at everything he does and I just get so intimidated by that because I'm not so great at anything.
I'm clumsy, strange sometimes, weirdly smart, quiet and shy. He's a little shy too but he can at least hold a conversation without being an idiot, then he's an athlete and a musician. I'm musical too, but not anywhere near as great as he is. And on top of all that, he's so attractive it almost kills me inside.

I guess all I want to know is how I can overcome these feelings, or if my feelings are justified considering I'm nowhere near as great as he is anyway.

first off... he is dating you which means he likes you. guys don't stay with people they don't like and they won't hesitate to say so. so don't worry about whether or not he likes you because he wouldn't be wasting time with you if he didn't.

and you might be intimidated but you need to stop competing with him. he has things he's really good at as do you. basically you need to be happy when you're with him, which it seems you are, and enjoy the time you spend with him instead of thinking about how he can date you and how he's better than you at certain things. you're only wasting time if thats what you're thinking about.

IM me if you wanna talk
xxes25

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well lately i feel...pathetic! there is this stupid guy (my ex) and he wont talk to me anymore. i dont even like him i just have never been rejected by a guy before and hes not talking to me. hes afraid that i might call him out (hes like that-he hates confrontation) im trying to move on and now that i realized why i kept bothering with him so much i dont think it will be that hard to leave him. but i am so mad at myself for wasting time on him and jor being treated badly. hes a JERK and i keep letting him treat me like shit!! i've started cutting again which i stopped because im so mad at myself and frusterated. what should i do?? i dont know what to do when i feel pathetic instead of cutting...
Please help!! thanks :)

first of all you are not pathetic even though you may feel this way. as for him treating you badly, you shouldn't be mad. instead you should realize what kind of person he is and then make sure the next guys you date are nothing like him. it's experience and it's not being pathetic.

instead of sitting and cutting, listen to music, eat ice cream, go walking, call a friend and go out to the movies or the mall... do you know how many other things you can do that will make you feel AMAZING instead of sitting and cutting which just gives you MORE PAIN? think about it.

and as for this jerk... let him treat someone else badly. you should be done with him.... think about it this way, why would you wanna be with someone who doesn't wanna be with you. it's a turn off if the person you like doesn't see all the amazing qualities you have.

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what are some rap songs that are great to dance to? like walk it out or low

Swing by Savage
Hurt by TI
Make Love in this Club by Usher
anything by crank squad
Fantasy by ludacris
Lollipop by lil wayne
you can do it by icecube

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So I want to learn to play piano, but I'm not sure how to go about it. I have a small house and a small room, so I don't have space for an actual piano. So I have some (stupid) questions:

Are keyboards essentially the same as a regular piano? As in, if I learn to play on a keyboard, can I also play on a piano?

What kind of keyboard should I be looking for? It needs to be cheap, but also good.

What's the best way to learn without lessons? I don't have time for lessons at all. Anyone know of any good DVDs that teach you to play? that would be amazing.

Thanks!

i've been playing the piano for 10 years so i can help you on this.

a starting keyboard to get that is good is your basic 88 key full keyboard. if you want something more like a piano, you can get a weighted piano, meaning the harder you press down on the keys the more sound you'll get and vice versa.

if you want to know the essentials to learning piano, they have books in sam ash as well as all county music. they work just as well as dvd's. ofcourse they won't be able to give you as much help as a teacher but you will learn the notes and the basic theory.

hope i helped
if you have any questions, im me
xxes25


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What are the pros and cons for a 14 f taking anti-depresents?

first of all no one should take anti-depressants. there is no reason for it. if you are depressed, you need to figure out why it is ur depressed and fix that or resolve it.

second, depressants trigger your emotions and can affect you mentally. it's pretty much messing with your brain.

also, there are other ways of dealing with depression. for instance there is this thing called tapping which shows ways of dealing with depression, did you know depression is stored in the liver?... if you wanna know more im me because i can't explain all of it on here

my s/n is xxes25

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it seems to me like there is this universal standard look of beauty..... long flowy hair (even beyoncay, hale bare, maraiah carey spend hours turning it into something Caucasians and Latinas have) what ever happened to curly hair? even curls the curls the have are fake!
not that i am saying all those women are ugly or anything but if thats the standard then heck i'm way out of the picture....... and its making me feel terrible. i am not fat or anything, my face is clear no acne... its just that my nose isn't a ski slope, my hair is super curly and my eyes are pit black (i know that is anatomically not possible but it is the last shade of brown before black!) i'm not tall (only 5'4) and i only fit into a size 8 (sometimes!).........

this sounds cheesy but seriously with that high of a standard what are my odds to look beautiful in the eyes of someone?! if there are any odds at all...

this is really depressing ...

it is a standard. and it's also a phase.

curly hair is gorgeous, especially if it's natural... so CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY

size 8 is better than size 00000 and being anorexic!! so you're curvacious... unline girls who want curves, eat as much as they can and don't gain wait.. once again ... CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY

black eyes are mysterious... brown is annoying because it's seen on everyone... LUCKY!!!


and guess what it's better to be short rather than tall because guess what??? guys don't like to have a girl thats taller then them!!! trust me... shorter is better...

dont' be depressed you have no reason to be
your lucky

im me if you wanna talk
xxes25

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ok so at the present time i have exremly bad allergys and a throat infection, and the common cold. I cannot breath right not at all becuse my noes is sooo lugged up and whenever i blow my noes it jsut gets worst. my senior prom is saturdy and i cannot get over this. but i would just like to sleep tonght and i cnat if i can breath. Any suggestions?? thank you much!

ok so here are some things you can do...

1. there's this pill called the "24 hour pill" and it's over the counter. it helps alot with the common cold for about 24 hours just don't take it with anything else. and if you do take it i suggest you take it the day of the prom and not before then so that your body doesn't get immune to it.

2. if you gargle your throat with salt water ( sea water as disgusting as that sounds it's actually amazing when you want to breath) and it's clear your throat after a couple of times. also if you flush your nose with it you'll be breathing.

i really hope i helped && hope your prom is amazing !!!

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