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ok i have a bf and he likes to finger me but i dont like him to when i havent shaved down there. i would like to shave down there everyday so can anyone give me any tips on how to. now i have to wait about a week and if i dont i get major razor burn...so help me please websites would help too! thanx in advance! (link)
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Try rubbing the shaved area with a thin layer of neosporin antibiotic ointment immediately after shaving. I've found it works very well for the razor burn I get on my neck. The stuff is vaseline-based and therefore rather greasy, so you'll want to use only a small amount, and don't immediately put on silk underwear or anything else that you wouldn't want to get grease-stained.
Also, be careful not to get it "inside" - it won't wash back out easily.
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okay well there is this guy i like and i dont know if he likes me and i am not supposed to like himm cause he is off limits cause my best friend likes him but you cant help who you like........ okay well right now i am near the guy and there is a girl there flirting her head off and i pretty much want to kick her ass. is there any way to stop myself? i know he is not mine and i am usuallly never jealous but this girl came at the wrong time. any ideas??? thanks! (link)
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There are two steps to solve this matter:
(1) Go ahead and tell your best friend how you feel about him, if you haven't already. Make sure to stress that you aren't looking to upstage her or try to "steal" him away, but that you simply want to be honest with her about your feelings so there's no hidden resentment. Maybe she doesn't "like" him as much as you think she does, and it's possible she wouldn't mind stepping aside so YOU can make a move for him. It's good of you to be mindful of her feelings; give her the chance to do the same for you.
(2a) If you get "permission", then the thing to do is make your move before he goes for Little Miss Flirt. It's going to be difficult to repress your anger toward her, but remember that jealously is a very unattractive trait and it will not help him to see you in a better light. Keep it real - sincere, honest attention is a more potent attractor than playful flirting games. Speaking for the guys, it's my opinion that a direct approach can sometimes work wonders. Write your phone number on a note and slip it to him sometime.
(2b) If your friend is put out by your admission of feelings for him, then the most considerate thing for you to do is to back off. You're not under obligation to do so, but it is a good way to treat your friend. In that case, you simply need to get over him. There are plenty of fish in the sea - look for someone new. The best way to get over someone is through someone else. Besides, this way your friend will have to deal with Flirty Girl, and it serves her right for liking the same guy you do. ;)
One more thing, because I don't want to be misunderstood. It is polite and considerate to step aside for a friend when you both "like" someone, especially if she expressed her feelings first. However, the day may come when your feelings for someone wander into "love" territory, and that is not so easily ignored. If you ever find yourself actually in love with someone that a friend "likes", then you owe it to yourself, to her, and to him to acknowledge those feelings and be honest with everyone involved - including you. Since the situation you describe above feels more like a crush or a simple attraction than Love, I'm advising you to let your friend make the call; but if you were truly in love with the guy, it would be wrong to deny it.
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when i am giving my bf a bj do i move the skin up and down or just like slide my lips up and down without moving the skin? (link)
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Simple answer: try both and see what he likes. People have different preferences. Encourage him to tell you or show you when you're doing it right, and do the same for him when he's doing something for you. Over time, you'll become very well-attuned to each other, and the experience will be that much better.
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My sister Melissa [19] found a kitten in a box at a lake near by my house, she went around the neighborhood and asked if it was anyones kitten, all answered no.
My sister and I [14.5] decided to keep it, we took it to the vet and they said its VERY healthy and its a perfect kitten.
We told my mom she said no, but we already spent 500 bucks on the shots and everything! We love this cat and my sister and I cried for hours last night, not able to sleep. My mother said she will give my sister 500 bucks to pay back, but she wants the cat out!
We begged my mom to show her that we are mature enough to take care of the kitten, she kept saying no.
She said the kitten will ruin her furniture. We already have an older cat, she hates her but she will have to deal. And Olive is declawed, already knows how to use a litter box, and is very nice.
What can we say to her to allow us to keep it?
And adding more info.. when my sister and i were very little, were 5 years of age apart. and she still tells us to do this. if we want it "GO FOR IT" but she wants us to go for something better.
HELP! we really want this kitten!
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In the end, it's her house and her rules. That doesn't mean that you can't try to find a compromise or work things out in some way, but it does mean that you might eventually find that you can't win, no matter what you do or say.
It's my opinion that your mother is being unreasonable. If she or someone else in the house had a cat allergy, that would be a good reason not to have a kitten, but you have a cat already and so that can't be it. You have indeed shown responsibility in MOST ways. I say "most" because you really should have checked with your mother BEFORE essentially deciding that you were going to keep this kitten - she may be upset that you didn't consult her from moment one. However, you were motivated by compassion and kindness, so I think that minor breach of family etiquette can be forgiven.
There are some things to deal with. One is that if your existing cat hates the new kitten, there will be problems. She may attack the kitten or "protest" its presence by marking her territory or displaying other antisocial behaviors. There are ways to encourage an existing cat to accept a new kitten, and if you are able to keep it in the end, you'll want to look into that. You'll definitely want to double things up like litterboxes, food bowls, scratching posts, and bedding - don't give them reasons to fight!
But back to your mom, and persuading her. Here are some things that come to mind:
(1) Your older sister is 19 years old. It would seem to me that she'll probably be living on her own soon, in a few years anyway. At that time, she could take the "kitten" (who won't be a kitten anymore) with her.
(2) It is entirely possible that if you are compelled to send the kitten to a shelter, it will not be adopted, and it will be euthanized. Mention this to your mom (but try not to cry about it when you do - you don't want to look like you're going for drama).
(3) Ask your mom if you can keep it long enough to find it a good home, as opposed to sending it to the shelter. With any luck, she'll change her mind after a while.
(4) See if you actually can find a friend who is willing to take the kitten. It won't be a nice as having it yourself, but at least it won't be gone forever.
(5) If all else fails, appeal to her maternal instinct. Tell her that you've been brought up to feel that compassion and tenderness are good qualities, and that to toss this kitten back out the door is simply against your nature. This is a last resort, as it may backfire on you - your mother may take it as an implication that she is coldhearted and thoughtless.
As I say, you may have to come to terms with the fact that there is nothing you can do or say that will allow you to keep this kitten. If that is the case, try to take the bad news as gracefully as you can. It will serve you well in the future if and when you have other discussions about your level of maturity and discipline.
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im hanging out with my boyfriend tomorow
i just got glasses (i normally wear contacts)
ive never worn them around him, and so we'll prob make out
so during it am i supposed to wear them or not (link)
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Go ahead and wear the glasses if you want to, and take them off before making out. Make sure to put them down somewhere that they won't get smashed.
It's worth mentioning that glasses can sometimes (often) be an attractive accessory. The purpose of removing them is not to improve your appearance, but to protect from damage a $100-plus investment.
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ok so thanks, lets say a girl wanted to get you back. what would she have to say to make you feel bad for treating her so badly, and breaking up with her? like what would you wnat her to say? what words would you want her to say so that you will be able to forgive her. ok thnaks! (link)
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Two things spring to mind as I read your question:
One - the fact of the matter is that what you can say to get a guy back depends ENTIRELY upon the circumstances of your breakup. There is a world of difference between a couple that breaks up because they're bored with each other and a couple that breaks up because someone is cheating. There is no way to give you generalized advice that will work under your particular circumstance.
Two - even if there were magic words you could say, do you really want a guy to take you back out of pity or self-loathing? That's a relationship doomed to a second, even more painful failure.
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heyy my friend has a problem
She is 15 & is crazy about her brothers best friend who is 16/17.
They have kissed at partys and her brother doesn't know about it but her brother knows that she likes him and has said that hes not letting them go out.
Her brothers best friend has said that he would go out with her if it wasnt for her brother but that her brothers friendship comes before any girl, so as long as her brother disapproves he will not go out with her, even though he has already kissed her behind his back.
She doesnt understand like where she stands and she cant get over him because she knows he feels something for her..
And her brother has sed that if they did go out he would hurt his friend.. i wont go into it but she would feel awful for ruining their friendship and getting him hurt..
She is getting really worked up about it and i dont know what to suggest.. any ideas??
thankyoo much appreciated.. x (link)
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This is a case where the three people involved really need to sit down put everything on the table, and figure it out. Otherwise, there will be resentment, anger, and hard feelings all around.
The way I see it, the one who has the most questions to answer is the brother. Why is he so against the idea of his friend dating his sister? Is there something wrong with his friend such that he wouldn't want this - and if so, why is he a desirable friend? Is he afraid that it will change the dynamic of his friendship and/or family life? Does he dislike the idea of "sharing" his friend? I can see where he's coming from to a certain extent; a guy likes to keep his friends and his family separate. In addition, there would be a lot of angst if his friend and his sister dated and then had a nasty breakup.
One thing should be made clear: He has NO business threatening anyone with physical harm over this. If his friend and his sister want to date, he can terminate the friendship and be angry about it all he wants, but he has no right to threaten anyone. Who his sister chooses to date is not his business - UNLESS he has cause to think that she would be at risk, in which case he has a lot of explaining to do about why he would consider this person to be his best friend. Bottom line is that for him to be angry about it to the point of threatening violence is hypocritical and way out of line.
The best friend has some explaining to do as well. He's being very wishy-washy about this, kissing her "behind her brother's back" and then saying that he can't go out with her. He needs to decide who is more important to him, and then stick with that decision. He needs to show a little backbone.
Finally, there's the sister. The main thing she needs to do is consider whether her feelings for this guy are strong enough to warrant all the potential fallout should things not work out. It is entirely possible that her relationship with this guy could ruin the friendship between him and her brother (and based on the general lack of maturity I'm seeing displayed, I'd say there's a damn good chance of that happening). Basically, she needs to make up her mind whether she wants to pursue this right now. If she decides she wants to, then it's time for the aforementioned all-the-cards-on-the-table discussion; if not, then that means no more secret kisses or other little games of that nature.
Since she's the one who is your friend, I'd advise you to tell her that she needs to make her decision and then either get over him or get some things figured out among the three of them. It's up to her to make this relationship happen, or make it not happen.
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I have a boyfriend that's 18 who turns 19 in August.And I'm 16 and I turn 17 in October.Would it work out if I was going in Highschool and he went to college in the area.Or do you think he would get tired of me and get someone better who's in college or whatever.Or even I would find someone in highschool.I just want some opinions if you don't mind. (link)
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Sometimes it works. More often, it doesn't.
You'll be in different places. He'll be meeting new people and learning new things, finding new freedom, and making the final transition into adulthood. It's not a matter of his getting "tired" of you, just a matter of change in his life that can lead to further change in the way he feels about your relationship.
I suggest that the two of you make it clear to each other that you will deal with the matter honestly and that if he feels the relationship with you is holding him back in some way, he needs to tell you BEFORE it reaches the point where he acts upon that. Likewise, if you feel that he's growing distant, tell him before you start growing bitter and resentful. And if either of you finds someone else, try to understand that sometimes that happens and that neither of you wants to be someone that the other feels "stuck with".
Communication is key in any relationship, and particularly in yours, considering how it's going to change in the coming year. If you "talked for months" before making it official, you probably already understand that, and that will be a point in your favor.
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Do i have high blood pressure?
i get angry really easily
both my parents have high blood pressure
if i do have high blood pressure
is there anyway i can stop this without medication, treatment, injections etc.???
if it helps im 13/m
thanks heaps!!! (link)
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There are no visible symptoms to chronic high blood pressure (hypertension); the only way to tell if you have it is to regularly slip on a cuff and measure it. Since both your parents have it, it's a good bet you will too. At the age of 13, it's not likely that it's a problem yet, but it's worth checking anyway.
Regular aerobic exercise will help, but it may not be enough. The best thing you can do is keep checking regularly, and if it stays persistently high, follow your doctor's recommendation.
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i think my girlfriends dad sexually abuses her. her parents are divorced and she has five older brothers but they all live on their own since there alot older than she is. i went over there for dinner one time because she said she was scared but she wouldnt tell me why and the whole meal her dad kept making perverted comments about her chest size. shes like a 36d which is nice. her dad was like wow molly your tits look huge i just wanna grab them. and she kept telling him to stop and saying not now dad please. and he kept asking me when i was gonna fuck her next. and he thinks she would be good in bed. she kept getting really embrassed. then all of a sudden he did grabb her and then she started crying and her dad told me to leave but she looked so scared i couldnt leave her. i took her to my house. and i kept asking her did he always do this to you and she wouldnt answer me. i dont know what to do. do you think he rapes her and sexually abuse her. thank you in advance. (link)
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There is definitely something going on here. I think, unfortunately, that you've got it exactly right. Your girlfriend is in desperate need of your help. You did the right thing (and a courageous thing) by removing her from that situation. Now, things will get harder before they get easier, but her life is at stake and you MUST carry this through to the end. You're involved now, and it will be a major ordeal, but you cannot give up. If you do, she could die.
You don't mention how old you are, but if you're under eighteen, the first thing to do is to get an adult involved who you trust (preferably a woman, since she's been abused by an older man and will probably have a hard time confiding in one). Your girlfriend is obviously traumatized (for good reason!) but you won't be able to save her unless she can acknowledge what's going on.
DON'T let her go back home to her father. If she already has, take your first chance to go back over there and get her out. Her life could be in jeopardy if he thinks you know what's going on.
The most important thing you can do is listen to her, BELIEVE her and stand by her. Assure her that you will listen and support her, and then follow through on that. When she is ready to open up to you, listen to every word without judgment. Try not to become angry or disgusted; she may feel that those reactions are aimed at her, not at her abuser. You will go through feelings of outrage, helplessness, pity, and so on. Don't burden her with your feelings; just let her tell you about hers. The last thing she needs is to feel guilty about involving you.
Don't press for details; let her tell you what she can in her own time. Don't insist that she report it to the police or to anyone else. The one thing you should try to insist on is that she not go back. If she insists upon it, then you may need to involve the authorities just to save her life, but that could end up backfiring badly - her father may be able to convince the police that there is nothing going on, and then punish her for it after they leave.
Help her in practical ways. Get her medical attention if she needs it, and professional counseling if possible. You are in over your head on this one - any of us would be! Helping her to find other people who can help will be one of the best things you can do. Recognize your own limitations; you cannot be her sole support, and both of you need to understand that.
Make sure you do not assign blame to her in any way. It sounds obvious, but even something like "Why don't you leave?" is placing blame on her. It is not her fault in any way.
She's going to be emotionally distraught for some time. She may become angry with you. She may try to harm herself. She may insist upon going back to her father, just to "prove" that nothing is wrong. You will need to be strong and trustworthy throughout all of this. It will probably be the most difficult test of your character you will ever face.
My best wishes go out to you, and to her. I hope you can save her.
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ok this is going to be long. well, my mother was on drugs for a while and she has me and my baby brither and my kid sister. Well she left us one day in a beat up apartment. So i have kind of been a parent to them (im 18 and a half btw) Me boyfriend and i both have jobs and we finished high school and everything. He and I bought a small apartment and we take care of the kids together. I schedule doctor appointments, dentist appts, bring my sister to school, etc. And i mean my boyfriend is like a father to them and i love him so much and he pitches in, helps out our financial situtation, and just helps with the kids. Me and my siblings have been from foster home to foster home and we kept getting split up and now i feel like we finally have a real life. Can i adopt my siblings and sort of be like a mother to them? How would i do this? and is there any assistance for like paying the bills from the government?
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I found a good website that may have useful information for you: http://relative.adoption.com/. The good news is that it looks like it's actually a good deal easier to adopt someone who is already related to you. Also, you would seem to have some points in your favor, in that you have proven yourself able to handle the responsibility. Graduating from high school in the midst of all that was going on in your life is an achievement to take considerable pride in.
Check out the section on "affording adoption" to see about what kinds of subsidies or benefits may be available to you.
The website seems to be mostly generalized information, but it's a place to start. At some point, you're going to need to consult a registered adoption attorney, and there may be costs involved - though I'm sure that in a case like this, there will also be funds available to you from somewhere to help out.
Good luck to you and your family!
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I am a 24 year old student finishing my masters. I have been dating this guy for a year now, who is almost the perfect guy except he doesn't pay for anything, I mean nothing. I pay for $700.00 rent, power, cable, lots of dinners. Furthermore, he is an engineer and making o.k money; I feel that he is the perfect guy I just want to know why he wont help out. I dont want to lose him though. How can I make him see, that he is using me? (link)
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You don't need to make him see it. He's probably well aware of it, and is very much enjoying the free ride. As long as you don't complain, why should he change anything? He's on easy street. Maybe he's even convinced himself that you LIKE taking care of him, and if you've never said a word to indicate otherwise, why wouldn't he think that?
What you need to do is sit down with him and tell him that the current situation isn't working out, and it needs to change. If he wants to live in your apartment, he needs to share the expenses. The necessities such as rent, power, and water should be split right down the middle; that's a given. Optional items like cable probably should be as well, though if he actually never watches TV he would have a case for not contributing to that. Food should also be a shared expense and should come out of a pool of money to which you both contribute equally. If he won't agree to those terms, then tell him to find a new place to live. It's that simple.
He walks all over you because you are willingly lying down under his feet. And if the expectation that he pull his own weight is too much for him, then you NEED to lose him. A child needs to be taken care of; a MAN takes care of himself. Would you rather date a man or a child?
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I really like this guy in my class. We’ve had awesome convos on AIM, but barely anything more. Yesterday,at recess, I was sitting with my bff and his ex-gf who is my frend. then him and his frend came over and were talking. We played a little truth or dare, but didnt really do anything. Then we all had to say who we would go out with in the class. Only my bff answered. THen, later, he past me a note saying “u never answered the question at recess” i looked at him and sed “so? i dont hav 2 tell u” and shoved the note back at him. i hate how i handle situations like that. anyway, my bff sed “maybe he likes u” which i doubted because im not skinny or pretty or anything to talk about… so then i was like “neither did u” and he shrugd and sed “i was about to”
today, he totally ignored me.
i feel really bad about being so cold. I never let anyone in because a few ppl asked me out then sed “jk”… this guy is really, well, wanted. hes had so many gfs. iv never had a bf. sm1 else sed he liked me last yr but i thought he was kidding, so i was really mean until a month later wen he was with sm1 else, my bff told me that he had told her he really liked me. GEEEZ
i think i ruined it with this guy. what can i do to show him i care about him>? (link)
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One thing you can do would be to answer the question, and tell him that he's the answer. Then, tell him you were sorry about the way you handled the note, and that it was because he makes you nervous.
Yes, this strategy opens you up for rejection. Love is about taking risks! Sure, your feelings for him are probably not as strong as "love", but the rules still apply.
Don't set yourself up for more regrets. Take a chance! It may pay off, and even if it doesn't, what have you really lost?
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i put a question on here earlier, but i still don't know what to do. i got this dress the other day at the mall for my cousins wedding:
[Edit: Link removed to keep from stretching everyone's column. Question has been adequately answered.]
but is it ok to wear to a wedding??? cause someone said that black wasn't good to wear at weddings. i'm wearing a black headband, and black heels w/ it. is it ok?????? thanks. (link)
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Traditionally, one does not wear black at a wedding. Weddings are celebratory occasions; black is a somber color, and in most western cultures it is the color of mourning.
However, it's not a hard-and-fast rule. The REAL faux pas would be to wear white - it is viewed as an attempt to upstage the bride. Wear a black dress if you like, and just keep your attitude bubbly.
By the way, posting long links like that really messes up the formatting on the webpage, making it so one must scroll to the right to read anything. Please try not to do that.
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So I asked a question just a little bit ago and I worded It wrong.
If I used a toothbrush or sharpie to masterbate could it break my hymen?
I know it can break doing every day sports. But
how can I tell? (link)
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It's certainly possible. Anything you stick up there could do that.
However, you have a potentially bigger problem. Sharpie markers are NOT your tool of choice here. You want something that you can thoroughly clean, and a sharpie doesn't fit that description. Also, I'd hate to think you you trying to explain to the emergency room docs that you lost the cap up there somewhere!
The toothbrush is probably safe enough, but once again make sure you clean it very well each time BEFORE you use it. Anything that sits out on a bathroom counter is going to grow bacteria and germs. Hot water and antibacterial soap is a wise move.
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one of my students just found out that the guy that she likes is not interested on her,,,she is sad and disspointed. I have told her that she is pretty and she will find someone that will love her.
What can I do to make her feel special?
Also I am afraid that she ends up with a jerk...
you know nice girls most of the times end up with jerks.... (link)
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For the short term, there's not a lot you'll be able to do. Kids need validation from their peers as well as the adults in their lives to feel "special". Certainly, you are helping over the long term by being supportive and kind to her (and that's more important than a quick fix anyway) but for right now, there's not much you can practically do. It's not like you'll be able to set her up on a date, or something; that's a little outside a teacher's job description.
You've given reassurance and a listening ear; that may be the limit of what you can do. And, it may be enough.
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Summer is comming soon & I'm trying to get a job. There is a Target store opening soon that is 5 minutes away from my house. There was an email & a phone number on the store's door (I missed interview days) & so I'm emailing the contact person. Can anyone help me with what I should say in the email? I'm a 16 year old girl & this is my 1st job (besides reffing, babysitting, etc) & I really have no idea where to start besides
"Dear --, I'm-- and I am interested in a position at the -- Target store." if you need more info just tell me. thanks! (link)
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Just briefly express your interest in a job and request an application. A company the size of Target does everything on application forms; any extra information in your E-mail will probably be ignored, since they just don't have time to read it.
Actually, you might as well just go in and get an application, since that's probably what they'll tell you to do anyway.
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ok. i am convinced that there was a mistake in my final and this is why: I did my final in a mechanical pencil, and i wasn't even sure if it was a #2 pencil and the test was a scantron, which only takes #2 pencils. but, after i finished the test, this girl behind me let me borrow her pencil and then i re-did a few of them in mechanical pencil, but i couldn't finish bubbling them all in the pencil. the rest of them were bubbled with the mechanical pencil. the teacher put progress reports in our mailboxes and the test really effected my grade. that's why i really, really need to make sure that i review the test with the teacher. but, when i went up to her to ask her if i could review the test with her, she said no and that she was sorry. i know that there is something fishy about it because i've had a few problems with some teachers because of different reasons. i'm not a bad person, I'm like the best person at school, behavior wise. I never get into any trouble or anything, but in my school, its money situations. so, i don't think that this is fair. I have to review that test with her and the more that she refuses to review the test with me, the more suspicious i am..... can anyone give me some advice?please and thank you (link)
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I used to run the scantron machine in college, so I think I can help you out here.
First of all, the #2 pencil requirement is all about how dark the mark is. The circle must be sufficiently black for the machine to "see" it and grade it. Other pencils can mark just as black as a #2 or very close to it, but the preference is for the softer pencil because there is a greater margin for error, like if you didn't happen to press very hard.
When your test hits the machine, it will sense how many of the questions are actually filled in. If a sufficient number of them are not filled in, it will reject the sheet (our machine was geared to do so if less than 60% of the marks were readable). It will also reject the sheet if any of the identifying information is missing, like your last name or student number or what have you.
When the sheet is rejected, a human being (like me) picks it up and has a look at it. That human being will be able to tell what's wrong, and use a sharpie marker to go over your responses so the test will scan properly. I've had to do this for tests that were filled out in blue ink before, let alone a pencil that wasn't quite dark enough. Most scantron machines are now "smart" enough that they can detect ambiguous marks and reject sheets based on that uncertainty.
You always have the right to request that a person look over your test sheet and confirm the computer's results - there may be a small fee for this, however, and it won't necessarily happen right away. Your teacher probably does not have the power to change the results, so it would be pointless to review the test with her (in fact, she probably doesn't even have access to the tests anymore - they are usually stored under lock and key after they are scanned). If you want to contest your grade, you'll need to go over her head. Go to the department head or the school administration.
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I'm 16. I gave head to a 20 year old marine who will be going to Iraq in about 8 days.
We didn't have sex.
I just have him head twice.
My mom sadly has, both his cell and house number. And now his house address (thanks to my sister probably.)
I think she wants to file chargers....
What do I do?
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In a legal sense, circumstances will dictate what happens. Depending on where you live, filing charges may not be an option; in some places, 16 is the legal age of sexual consent. This website will tell you what the laws are in your state (and in other countries):
http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm
If no laws were broken, then there may be no legal case. I say "may be" because I have no idea whether he would get into trouble if she went to his commanding officer about it. The marines might have different rules regarding sexual contact with minors - and you are a minor, even if you are past the age of consent.
Don't count on sitting down and having a reasonable discussion about this with your mother. She's clearly upset and won't be able to deal with this rationally and calmly. The best you can hope for is that she won't be able to press charges, and that eventually this will all blow over. Unfortunately, your relationship with the guy is pretty much shot; you won't be able to keep contact with him without causing a major rift between you and your mother, and she is unlikely to ever accept him as your boyfriend. To her, he will always be the man who took advantage of her little girl.
If she does press charges and it goes to trial, you are honor-bound to tell the truth on the stand. If you did it of your own free will, say so. If you felt pressured in any way, say so. If he didn't know you were only 16, make sure to mention that too - but if he was fully aware of it, you'll need to answer that question truthfully. As a U.S. Marine, he should understand that it would be dishonorable for you to lie under oath, and he should accept that you will testify to the truth, even if it makes him look bad.
One way or another, there will be a lot of healing to do in your family. I imagine you're not too pleased with your sister right now for whatever her role in this was, your mother is probably fairly disgusted with you, and I can't help but think there will be some anger issues to sort out for a while to come.
Just a random thought... you might point out to your mother that if she presses charges, he probably won't be going to Iraq - and really, wouldn't that be doing him a favor in a way? If she wants to punish him for what he did, she could do a lot worse than watch him march off to a war zone where his life will be in constant danger for the next two years or so.
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hey, im 15/f and i found out today that a little girl i use to know, is going to have a baby, she's 12!!.. her boyfriend is like 16. anyways, she still smokes and drinks and such, see i use to know her and she wasnt into that stuff when i knew her, im not at all in the smoking drinking kinda thing. so what all can be wrong with her baby when she has it?.. she smokes/drinks and shes 12. what all can happen to the baby?. thanks (link)
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Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, low birth weight, heart problems, premature birth... the list is almost endless, but right up at the top I would place "irresponsible 12-year-old mother." THAT's going to be the biggest problem of all for this baby.
Furthermore, this girl needs to get to a doctor immediately. A 12-year-old's body is just not meant to take the stress of pregnancy. This could literally kill her, and the baby as well.
I certainly hope that there is psychological counseling in the very near future for this girl, her parents, and the guy who knocked her up. It would also be the best this baby could hope for to be put up for adoption and have a chance at a good life instead of one in this twisted and warped situation.
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