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going to hurt her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
okay well there is this guy i like and i dont know if he likes me and i am not supposed to like himm cause he is off limits cause my best friend likes him but you cant help who you like........ okay well right now i am near the guy and there is a girl there flirting her head off and i pretty much want to kick her ass. is there any way to stop myself? i know he is not mine and i am usuallly never jealous but this girl came at the wrong time. any ideas??? thanks!<3333
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tell your friend whats going on, tell her its not personal and then win him over and rub it in miss flirties face as you flounce off with your man, but dont treat him like a object to get at this other girl, and make sure its really worth it and that your friend wont hate you
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There are two steps to solve this matter:
(1) Go ahead and tell your best friend how you feel about him, if you haven't already. Make sure to stress that you aren't looking to upstage her or try to "steal" him away, but that you simply want to be honest with her about your feelings so there's no hidden resentment. Maybe she doesn't "like" him as much as you think she does, and it's possible she wouldn't mind stepping aside so YOU can make a move for him. It's good of you to be mindful of her feelings; give her the chance to do the same for you.
(2a) If you get "permission", then the thing to do is make your move before he goes for Little Miss Flirt. It's going to be difficult to repress your anger toward her, but remember that jealously is a very unattractive trait and it will not help him to see you in a better light. Keep it real - sincere, honest attention is a more potent attractor than playful flirting games. Speaking for the guys, it's my opinion that a direct approach can sometimes work wonders. Write your phone number on a note and slip it to him sometime.
(2b) If your friend is put out by your admission of feelings for him, then the most considerate thing for you to do is to back off. You're not under obligation to do so, but it is a good way to treat your friend. In that case, you simply need to get over him. There are plenty of fish in the sea - look for someone new. The best way to get over someone is through someone else. Besides, this way your friend will have to deal with Flirty Girl, and it serves her right for liking the same guy you do. ;)
One more thing, because I don't want to be misunderstood. It is polite and considerate to step aside for a friend when you both "like" someone, especially if she expressed her feelings first. However, the day may come when your feelings for someone wander into "love" territory, and that is not so easily ignored. If you ever find yourself actually in love with someone that a friend "likes", then you owe it to yourself, to her, and to him to acknowledge those feelings and be honest with everyone involved - including you. Since the situation you describe above feels more like a crush or a simple attraction than Love, I'm advising you to let your friend make the call; but if you were truly in love with the guy, it would be wrong to deny it.
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You're going to get jealous anyway no matter what since you like him. You shouldn't be jealous but are just for that fact. Honestly it's a phase. I've had a lot of those I like him and my friend likes him, and usually they all end up the same, you find someone else to have a crush on. Just think of it as a phase and nothing more. Especially if your friend also likes him. It's not worth getting in a fight with her over a guy. There are so many friendships ruined over that.
Let it go and realize that there are plenty more guys in this world, and that he's not the only one. You'll eventually move on and laugh about even liking him or getting jealous. Trust me.
Good luck and I hope this helps. :)
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