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12 year old having a baby

Question Posted Thursday May 31 2007, 3:05 pm

hey, im 15/f and i found out today that a little girl i use to know, is going to have a baby, she's 12!!.. her boyfriend is like 16. anyways, she still smokes and drinks and such, see i use to know her and she wasnt into that stuff when i knew her, im not at all in the smoking drinking kinda thing. so what all can be wrong with her baby when she has it?.. she smokes/drinks and shes 12. what all can happen to the baby?. thanks

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charliii answered Monday June 25 2007, 6:34 pm:
When she has the baby if she does because of the alcahol and smoking the baby could be born with problems and can be born premature and not live or it can be a still birth [born dead]...

It is upsetting to hear that she is still smoking and drinking you should make her aware of what she is doing is putting her baby she has decided to keep at a lot of risk. She is really selfish if she has this baby and it turns out with disabilities because of her stupid mistakes.


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AKSherma answered Saturday June 2 2007, 11:06 am:
I have done several surgical rotations in the pediatric services- and the worse for me was having to operate on the newborns and all the defects that they have b/c of poor pre-natal care.

Regardless of age, there are several things that smoking and alcohol abuse can do during a pregnancy. The person previous mentioned Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, which is a very severe syndrome marked by mental retardation and other neurological defects.

Smoking and alcohol can lead to several birth defects from lungs (worse being lungs don't grow properly), fetal liver disease, heart defects, actually too many too list.

As for the mother- she is more likely to have gestational diabetes, and may get to the point where if she miscarries- may hemmorhage and may need emergency surgery- where we would have to remove her uterus- and therefore will never be able to give birth again (I've actually seen and done the operation several times). It is sad for a 12-13yo to know they can never have kids.

If you are able to get her to listen- she has to be seen by an OBGYN asap. if she doesn't have one and is scared about what to do- she can go to planned parenthood or call any pediatric/ children's hospital for referral.

best of luck,

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9dayz answered Thursday May 31 2007, 4:34 pm:
well, age of 12 with all of those 20s age stress (kids with adults problems) IS able to destroy herself and harm others if she doesn't get an attention, loving care from her surroundings.
zillions of married couple cannot have a baby of their own. unlike them. its better for the baby to be taking care of other adults (her family, relatives) in order to save the baby's status before the government (social affairs division)will taking the baby away from it's parents.
you doesn't have to give her advice but become a good listeners, show her your attention and persuade her to do something positive will help her away from the bad habits.

she is too fragile, so becarefull with your attitude on her.

if she cannot fix herself with the help of others, i'm sure that soon ger baby will grown without her
love and become the next 'bad guy'

please help her carefully.
God bless your kindness.

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DefyingOctober answered Thursday May 31 2007, 4:34 pm:
he baby can be pre mature and maybe can affect her health also also the drinking and smoking can kill the baby or "dement" the child

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Xenolan answered Thursday May 31 2007, 3:56 pm:
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, low birth weight, heart problems, premature birth... the list is almost endless, but right up at the top I would place "irresponsible 12-year-old mother." THAT's going to be the biggest problem of all for this baby.

Furthermore, this girl needs to get to a doctor immediately. A 12-year-old's body is just not meant to take the stress of pregnancy. This could literally kill her, and the baby as well.

I certainly hope that there is psychological counseling in the very near future for this girl, her parents, and the guy who knocked her up. It would also be the best this baby could hope for to be put up for adoption and have a chance at a good life instead of one in this twisted and warped situation.

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ammo answered Thursday May 31 2007, 3:39 pm:
Alcohol alone has some very serious side effects to an unborn baby once born and add to the the effects of smoking it can only be a very bad thing.

There's a lotof information I was able to find for you so I thought I would pop up some links for you as this would be easier.

Here's a couple of sites. One showing the dangers of alcohol on an unborn baby and the other for smoking.

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Hope this will all be useful.

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