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Hi, i am 15 nearly 16 and my teenage years which i should be enjoying are being ruined. ever since i was young i have had an obsession with babies and at one point i almost slept with someone i had only just met, to get pregnant. luckily i couldn't go through with it and after a while and a great deal of thinking i managed to bottle these feelings up and get on with my life and hopefully get a degree to become a high school teacher. Since i have entered year 10 i have been taking child development which is 90% about babies, also a girl in the year below me is pregnant and is really excited and I'm just so jealous! everyone i have talked to said "it just my hormones" or "its just a faze" but its not, its more than that. it is making me depressed and my GCSE's are suffering because i cant tell the teachers why i am always so down and moody so they just assume i am being immature, then cocky when i say that I'm not being immature. I'm not a big clubbing fan so if i did get pregnant that wouldn't bother me and my best mate had a child at 16 (she is now 19) and she says its great and she hasn't missed out anything she wouldn't sacrifice anyway. please help me, i just don't no what to do! (link)
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You ARE being immature, everyone at 15 is. Your 19 year old friend "hasn't missed out on anything" because she is still to young to have the opportunity to experience anything not worth missing out on. Lot's of girls feel this way you do, to be honest. Babies are wonderful and the materal instinct is very strong. You are looking at your future through very rose-colored glasses and you aren't looking far enough in your future. I'm in my mid-20's, and lots of woman (and men) I meet are single parents. It isn't so romantic and wonderful after the novelty fades away, let me tell you. Most people try to avoid relationships with people with children, because of the inconvienence, yes, but also because of the responsibity factor of someone who would let a pregnancy occur at such an age. It would be obscenely irresposible of you to bring a child into this would perposely when you are in no condition to support or raise it. You aren't finished school. When you do, what kind of job do you think you can get to support a family, with a baby at home and nothing but a high school diploma? How can you afford college (to get that job) and who is going to take care of (ie...raise for you)your child while you work and 8 hour day and then take 4 hours of classes in the evenings? Where will you live, as a (lets say) 18 year old with a toddler? With mom and dad? OOOH, you can't do it all on your own? Then you shouldn't do it. If you really care about your future child, and really want the best for it, the answer would be obvious. Doesn't your baby deserve not to grow up like this, with no dad and mom always working/going to school and has no outlet or social life? I think all children deserve better then this.
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Well how to make a long story short? OK first.. Yesterday was my boyfriend’s birthday, all his friends including me and my best friend went out for drinks to celebrate with him. When my best friend (it’s a girl) left for a different club, I went after her, because she was a bit tipsy and I didn’t want her to be on her own.
Then when my boyfriend arrived, he came up to me and just told me that I picked my friend over him and that it is over (he stated it MUCH worse). Yeah I know it was his Birthday, but he was busy with his friends. Should I just let it go? I mean how insecure can someone be if they are jealous of you friend???
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It was his birthday? And you left him to go to a different club? And you are his actual girlfriend? Do you seriously not see the problem here?
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Yeah, my granmother just died, we're having a funeral for her on saturday, and I don't want to be there. My dad says "Its not your decision to make" does anyone have some persuasion techniques? Or have you ever heard of a way to convince someone to do something your way?
I don't want to go. What' sthe best way to say it so I get to stay?? (link)
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Why don't you want to go? Is there an actual reason, other then that you have something better to do? Is it that you are overcome with grief (doesn't sound like it)? This is your grandmother, not some distant family friend. It would be extremely disrespectful to not attend her furneral, it obvious why your father is making you. Noone WANTS to go to furnerals, but it's important for family. Unless she abused you into a coma in your childhood, I can't think of any acceptable reason to skip the furneral.
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I am a female who is 19 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We broke up once and i started going out with my personal trainer and we had sex once. My boyfriend found out and he was furious. I currently saw my personal trainer and we kissed. I feel really bad about it because i love my boyfriend but i have feelings for both of them but my feelings for my personal trainer is physical. I dont know what to do because i like both of them. I also had another question, after me and the personal trainer kissed the day after i had a sore throat. What could it be? (link)
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Well, the sore throat was most likly nothing but a little virus you picked up, maybe from him, maybe not. Nothing to worry about unless it gets bad and then just get and RX from your doctor.
If you have feeling for someone other then your boyfriend, then it really isn't fair to your boyfriend if you stay with him and he is thinking that he is the only one. If it truely is just a physical thing with the trainer, maybe you should make sure that you never see your trainer again and thus you won't be "tempted: to do anything cheat-ish. In situations like this, you just have to choose, which one do you want to be with? Make that decision and make the decision that whoever you pick is the only one you will consider messing with. Personally, it just sounds to me like you need a little single girl time, without anyone to answer to. That way you can really figure out what you want from a relationship (if you decide you want one at all).
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Ok, if you don't use any means of birth control, and the guy comes in you after intercourse, does the cum stay in you, or come out? (link)
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Some will come out either by gravity or cleaning. A large amount will stay inside of you and work for up to seven days to try to fertilize the eggs.
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omg i hate myself sooo much....i'm not supposed to miss my ex and stuff. i'm not supposed to cry over him when i'm going out with my bf joe. god i'm soooo stupid and i shouldn't cry over schuyler i'm like joe a lot i'm a bitch and a whore i don't know what i should do. (link)
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Wow honey, calm down a little and relax. You sound like you just need some time to yourself to sort out your feelings. Maybe take a break from your boyfriend and figure out if you are better off alone of him him (or with the ex). Don't beat yourself up over this. Feelings are feelings, you can't help them so don't stress about them.
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does anybody have any ideas of how i can loose like 25 pounds before June 19th!
15 on my legs and 10 on my stomach.
I have a pageant, and i really need help.
I have been going to the gym, but it isnt really working for as fast as i am wanting it to.
Please Help!
Hev
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Loosing 25lbs by June 19th is flat out impossible. In addition, it is not possible to control where the weight comes off specifically on your body.
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lately ive been getting these gross little teeny zits on my butt. what can i do about it, and how can i get them to go away? I RATE HIGH! (link)
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Use a medicated scrub. A facial scrub that contains acne medication is the obvious choice.
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tonights the formal at my school & since your not allowed to being anyone from outside the school my boyfriend can't come. I really didn't want to go since I wouldn't be able to dance with anyone (like grinding) But one of my guy friends says he does it with other girls during dances (and he has a girlfriend) and that the point is to have fun & he thinks it's not cheating. Is grinding with another guy, just as a fun thing not like like you have feelings for the person, considered cheating? thanks. (link)
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If my boyfriend did that, there would be bloodshed.
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i got my wisdom teeth pulled yesterday and i've swelled up like a pumpkin! its kinda funny, but i'm wondering how long it will take for the swelling to be completely gone and my face to be back to normal? (link)
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It'll last for a few days. You'll be totally 100% swell-free in a week, tops.
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How do swimsuit models get their stomachs so flat, like is that like having tight abs or is it just that they dont have any fat in that area. is it because they workout by running or crunches?
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They can afford personal trainers and personal chefs that force them to only eat certain foods and exercise constantly. Many of them are also heavy drug users.
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I went out with my boyfriend for 6 months during the school year and for lots of different mutual reasons we broke up for the summer. I didn't really get to see him too much over the summer party because I was busy with lots of things and we live a little ways apart, and second b/c I had been going out with somebody else and that relationship did not end well. But anyway...when we got back to school we had mentioned how we still loved each other and out feelings fr one another had never gone away. After a couple of months we started going out again. Throughout this second time that we were together we ended up talking more about our summer and such. He had mentioned that he was no longer a virgin. The first time I had gone out with him he was. That means that he had lost his virginity to some girl that he did not go out with over the summer. Now, I love this guy with all my heart, but I have to admit that it kinda of breaks my heart that he was actually intimate with some random girl when we weren't together. A lot of people will say that I had gone out with somebody else so it's all the same thing but, I NEVER would have had sex with the guy I had gone out with. My boyfriend and I have now been together for almost 8 more months and I still love him to death. He's the only guy I have ever done ANYTHING other than kiss but we have not have sex. He NEVER pressures me to have sex and I would really like too, but I do not believe in sex before marraige. Personally, I think that there are too many consequences to having sex at my age (16) and I am also a Christian. However, I know that he is a guy and that guys need certain things. I would never break my belief system or my morals for sex...but at the same time I know that there are other girls who like him and I get jelous because I know that they're willing to give him the thing that I can't. I hate that I'm jelous of that but I am. I'd hate to think that in some ways he's just as attracted to them as he is to me just because they'll have sex with him. I don't exactly know what I'm looking for here in terms of advice. Maybe reassurance or just any thoughts. So whatever you got let me know.
ps. I have talked to him about this before but he said it's stupid and not to worry because he loves me. I guess I'm just worried that I might lose him one day because I waited too long. (link)
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Honey, if you aren't ready (for whatever reason-Christianity or otherwise) then that is nothing to stess about. He obviously loves you and wants to be with you, and there is no reason to be jealous. It is certainly normal to feel this way, all guys and girls do. Noone likes to think about their partner being with someone else, but everyone has a past. The best thing for you to do is focus on building your relationship now, and letting go of your anxiety about something that happened in his life when his life wasn't about you. I'm glad that you talked to him and have a honest relationship where you aren't afraid to share your feelings about such things. You will be some much happier and relaxed when you let this go.
Another thing: "I know that he is a guy and guys need certain things". That is a wrong and outdated (and slightly sexest) attitude to have. Males are not inherantly driven more toward sexual gratification then females are- that is a society driven myth. You seem like you have been doing ok without sex, so there is no reason he can't either. Men and women BOTH have needs, none more so then the other. Don't let anyone sway your outlook on this or any situation based on that thinking.
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i already aproached one columnist to help me out with this one- but i need all the help i can get. to make a long story short, i need to know a place where i can get free prenatal care. my guardians have pretty mch given up on me and told me im on my own- so i need help guys- PLEASE! 5's for all answers- helpful or not. (link)
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Go to planned parenthood, they will have the information you need. Most likely you will need to get approved for low income state provided insurence for the term of your pregnancy but the rules are different state to state. They will tell you exactly what you need to do. Just show up, no need for an appointment.
Nope, no adults have to be there. I don't know about that place -we don't have them in my state. Why not call first and ask?
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i have one of those invisalign retainers that i have to wear while i sleep. after a couple days it starts to smell and get really gross. ive tried rinsing it with water, it didnt do anything. then i tried using toothpaste. (brushing it like i would brush my teeth) it only worked a little. so i was wondering if there was anything i could do to get them really clean? (link)
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Check out the products at the drugstore designed to clean and disinfect dentures. You really need to disinfect the retainer thoroughly after each wear.
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hey.....
2 days back i tried da home kit pregnancy test...and its come negative... wel da night before it i had alot of almond and dates(does dat have any affect over da result?) and i tried da test early in da morning at 5:50am.. early morning urine(is dat fine?)...and da very next day i got my chums...
well what i wanted to know is... should i take a test again.. and if yes..when should i take it(as in should i take it on da early morning urine itself) or anyother time of da day...plz do lemme know..
and plz do tell me if dates and almond had any affect on my result dat came negative.. i dont think so..but still wanted to clarify..
thanks for everything
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Food won't effect the result, neither will the time of day. If your period still hasn't come in another week, try another one. Or get a blood test from your doctor, that is the most sensitive.
You might benefit from some education in grammer by the way.
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i've always wondered this: can you lose weight (in a healthy way) by sweating? for example, being outside in 100 degree weather all day (and staying hydrated and all that good stuff). (link)
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That isn't going to do anything but dehydrate you.
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Me and this guy have been seriously talking latley. We hang out, go to the movies, and flirt a ton. The thing is i am 17 and he is 32, and people seem to have a problem with that. We havent done ANYTHING that can get any of us in trouble, so whats the big deal? Besides, i will be 18 in 2 months. (link)
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Check out the mayonaise girl down there! Now SHE is getting molested!
You are old enough to make your own decisions, you are nearly 18 anyhow and legally an adult. You can go out with whomever you choose. If it turns out not to be quite your tastes to date an older man then you can move on. Yeah people will talk, because it isn't exactly normal. But it's your life.
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Hello,
I was wondering of anyone knew how I can go about getting my GED online? Yes, I have Googled it, but, naturally their are a million things that come up & I want to make sure it is a reputable site and it would be all legitimate. So, I thought maybe if anyone has done this, they could point me in the right direction as to where to go online. Thanks. (link)
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Who the hell doesn't know what a GED is. I guess children don't.
Anyhow, the GED is a test, and it's pretty general (and easy). Anything you get online about "preparing" is overpriced and probably not needed. Your local library or community college (or high school) will give you testing dates and info (the test will cost something, but it isn't obscene). I would try to take the test first, and then if you don't pass you will know exactly which areas you need to study up on, and you can get books out of the library for free that will help you on those areas before you retest.
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I babysit an 11 year old boy and an 11 year old girl 3 days a week for 4 hours a day. The boy is very sweet, but the girl is a brat. She doesn't listen to me and always does mean stuff to me. She has poured water down my shirt and refused to help with stuff. She trys to make my job very difficult. I don't know why, since I'm very nice to her and I try to help her and do what she wants to do. My family is in a lot of debt so we need the money a lot. What should I do? (link)
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I can not fathom and child behaving that way toward her caregiver. Being nice to her isn't the answer. A) Tell her parents about her terrible behavior and B) punish her when she behaves like that. She treats you like this because you let her. You are in charge aren't you?
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How can I fall asleep?
Lately I'm having nightmares and I can't sleep if it's past 11.. because I just.. stay awake for some reason.
And when i try to sleep.. i have sleep paralysis...so sometimes i refuse to sleep because i hate going through that.
i dont know what to do.
i'm only getting 3-4 hours of sleep every night. (link)
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Sleep paralysis is a real illness that requires real medication. Talk to your doctor.
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