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Boyfriend just dumped for no reason
Well how to make a long story short? OK first.. Yesterday was my boyfriend’s birthday, all his friends including me and my best friend went out for drinks to celebrate with him. When my best friend (it’s a girl) left for a different club, I went after her, because she was a bit tipsy and I didn’t want her to be on her own.
Then when my boyfriend arrived, he came up to me and just told me that I picked my friend over him and that it is over (he stated it MUCH worse). Yeah I know it was his Birthday, but he was busy with his friends. Should I just let it go? I mean how insecure can someone be if they are jealous of you friend???
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I don't think he dumped you just because of that. Maybe he has been building up anger towards you and that was just a time when he could vent it out. Was he even sober when he said those things to you? He could've been talking out of his ass if he was drunk and might not have meant it. If you want to still be with him just try to apologize and tell him that you just wanted to make sure your friend was safe. It was his birthday, but leaving your friend drunk by herself could have been very bad. You could mention how he was with his friends the whole time and wasn't even paying attention to you. If he doesn't understand, in my opinion, he isn't worth it. That's definitely not something you should get dumped over.
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omg i am soo sorry. you might not want to take my advice because i'm 14 but... i've been through a lot. I am a foster kid because of what has happened to me in my past and what my moms boyfriends have done to me and her. Yeah it was ur boyfriends birthday and all but he should have let you explain why you left and that you still care or that you did care about him. He is probably jealous of your friend because he is insecure but no one should be punished for him. Maybe ask him to give you ine more chance and it might help you both. If it doesn't work out who cares. I don't know you but u seem like a great friend and a good girlfriend. I don't want to hurt anybody or anything. So you know if he wants to be like that let him he is the one that is missing out on a great friend and girlfriend. Hope this helps.
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i say that you should tell him why you went after your friend.
and then apologize and make it up to him in a special way. he should like that.
hope i helped!
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did you ever think that he did it out of drunken ness>
thats what it seems like to me, because it seems liek he did it for no reason. he was probably smashed.
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It was his birthday, & I can see why he would be upset. Guys tend to take this type of thing personal. A lot of guys tend to be jealous of their girlfriend's bestfriends. So it was probably hard for him when you just left him. He overreacted & I think you should talk to him. Explain to him that you were worried about your friend, & she needed you. Tell him you would have told him to come along, except he was with his friends having a good time, & you didn't want to ruin his birthday because your bestfriend ran off to another club. He should understand if you explain it thoroughly. Just give him time to cool off.
About your boyfriend's birthday. Something similar happened to me. My boyfriend did something he really shouldn't have done. (We won't go into details) & it really upsetted me. So I didn't through him the birthday party I promised he would get. He was really upset, but he knew there was a good reason as to why I didn't give him the party. He was very upset, but he understood. He still to this day won't let me forget it, but all I do is explain what it is he done. I don't know if you see the similarities in these problems, but I hope you do. Just talk to him. Give him time though, he's a guy..
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Your friend needed you, if he couldn't deal with that then you are right, he is insecure and hardly worth your time. Maybe you didn't deal with it the best way possible, telling and explaining it before hand to him, trying to send someone else with your friend, or trying to stall your friend till everyone could go, but in the end the worst you might have done is made a mistake.
Maybe when he cools down he will see how badly he behaved and how much he over-reacted. If not, maybe he'll go find a girl who cares about nothing in the world but him and never ever makes any tough decisions without asking her boyfriend for permission. Wish him good luck and don't shed too many tears.
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It was his birthday? And you left him to go to a different club? And you are his actual girlfriend? Do you seriously not see the problem here?
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