Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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what is revision? (link)
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Studying, it's synonymous with review.
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female btw :)
Right basically, I have a boyfriend who I'm in love with. Hes more experienced than me though and we have had sex, and I've been fingered.
The thing is, I really wanna return the favour (hand job) because he sometimes asks and I know sometimes I lead him on teasing him e.g getting him hard and then just leaving it. I'm just a bit nervous in case i do it wrong :'(
but hes a really nice guy seriously and he doesn't pressure me I would just love to treat him every now and then I just am not very practised and dont want to do it wrong :(
HELP! (link)
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http://sexuality.about.com/od/tipstechniques/ht/give_a_handjob.htm
http://www.ehow.com/how_2075056_give-hand-job-man.html
Do a little research, and then if you feel comfortable, try it on him. Guys aren't nearly as hard as girls are to please, so don't feel too pressured. Ask him how he likes it and ask what feels good. You'll be able to tell what he likes by his face or the sounds he makes. You really can't do it wrong, it's just about how he likes it (All guys are different.) He'll appreciate that you're trying.
Good luck,
-Abby
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How can I achieve Shailene Woodley's hair and makeup in her May 2010 Seventeen Spread?
What barrel curling iron would I need?
Is here eye makeup liner as well as mascara or just heavy mascara?
http://shailene-woodley.com/gallery/albums/userpics/10003/06.jpg
Thanks :) (link)
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I would use a medium size barrel and just try to do thick pieces of hair. You can wrap your hair around the barrel and leave the clamp closed, giving a looser look. Or you could curl it normally and shake it out and mess it up a bit, so it will loosen up. If you can get a curl enhancing spray or gel (you can get cheap ones at drug stores).
It looks like shes wearing both eye liner and mascara. She has a smudgy look all around and liner on both her water line and her lower lid. Layer mascara and use an eye lash curler. I would get two mascaras, like one for volume and one for length.
Her face is pretty natural, so try a pale blush and nude lips and there you go!
Good luck,
-Abby
Edit: I'm not sure about the actual numbers, just use your eyes to help you judge. With my hair, if I use a big barrel, the curls are too loose and fall out super easy. If your hair holds curl well, choose a really big sized barrel. If not, get a small to medium one (1.5 or up should do) and let the curls loosen up naturally.
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I finally told my pastor I've been attracted to him for quite sometime. I'm not sure if my email went threw because it said delivery notifiation failed but it 's in my sent mail 2 times so I'm assuming it went threw. But why is he ingoring me and not responding??? Is he still intrested in me. I know I saw signs plus how do I act towards him this Sunday help soo confused :( (link)
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When did you email him? Some people don't check their emails often or maybe it didn't go through. Or maybe he is ignoring it. This is something that should be talked about in person so both of you are sure of whats going on. On sunday act normally and see how he acts to you. Casually ask him if he got your email. You both need to confront the situation and get it out of the way, though it may be awkward. But it's only as awkward as you make it, so be friendly and understanding.
Good luck,
-Abby
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is there any way you can increase your metabolism? (link)
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Weight training and aerobic exercise increases your metabolism to burn fat, and there are a lot of diet pills/foods that claim to do so. It's hard to weed out what's true and what's not. I've heard a lot about acai berry and caffiene speeding up metabolism, so maybe you could give that a try.
Always eat breakfast, because at night your body burns calories at a slower rate because less energy is needed while you sleep. To get your metabolism ready for the day, eat a healthy breakfast.
Here are some foods that may increase your metabolism:
http://www.nutralegacy.com/blog/general-healthcare/top-10-delicious-foods-that-speed-up-metabolism/
Good luck,
-Abby
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this sounds vulgar, but is there anything i can do to make me taste good... down there? (link)
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I've read in cosmopolitan that foods that have strong odors/tastes can effect down there, like if you eat a really garlicy italian meal then you might smell like that. I read that pineapple can give you a sweet scent and maybe even a sweet taste, but don't expect too much. You could get chocolate body paint and use that down there, then you would deffinitely taste sweet.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I'm afraid of getting my period at school and I have decided to use tampons and I think I figured out how to use them/insert them but what it I get mine at school?I tryed wearing a pad of all sizes and they all feel like dipers but what if I can't get my tampon on right?ahhhhhhhh help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Have you had your period before, or are you just preparing for when it might happen?
Either way, it's best to be safe and keep a pad with you at all times. They may be uncomfortable but if you can't get a tampon in it may be your last resort. Keep an extra in your book bag at all times so you'll have it when you need it.
Putting in a tampon took me a long time and I didn't get it on my first try. Practice at home if you can.
Trying when you aren't on your period makes it harder since you aren't moist for it to slide in easily, so you could put petroleum jelly on the applicator if you want to try that. I first got it in by laying on my bed and spreading my legs wide open. It might hurt going in the first few times, but if its in place properly (all the way up your vagina) you won't even feel it. Now that I regularly use tampons it isn't an issue and I can get them in and out easily. It's all about practice and getting used to them.
Don't stress about it, it will happen one day if not today.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I am fifteen. Approximately 140 on the dot. I need good workout routines that work. I'd like to stay away from running because I don't have a good endurance for that kinda thing and crunches just don't work. I want to have a float stomach for the summer, I know this is kinda short notice to get actual good results but I need help. I feel like I'm over weight, I don't know if I actually am but I want to be proud of my body. So please, workout routines, moves and such, tell me how long it took for good results, how much weight you lost and all that good stuff. Thanks! (link)
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First off, use this to see if you actually need to lose weight:
http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
To lose weight you need cardio. So you don't neccesarily have to run but you need to get moving and get your heart rate up. Try dancing, pilates, yoga, walking, biking, etc. The more you move the better. Get a pedometer and make a goal for how many steps each day.
Strengthening your muscles helps you lose weight by increasing your metabolism and burning fat, so try to hit the gym if you can and use the machines. If you can't, get dumbells or even use milk jugs. You can also use resistance bands and do exercises like squats, lunges, push ups, planks, etc. Go on youtube and search workout videos, there are lots of free resources you can use.
Diet is also super important, so eat healthy. Try to cut things out of your diet that are unhealthy little by little and drink lots of water. You're 15 so losing weight shouldn't be that hard.
Don't focus so much on the number of your weight, but focus on how you feel. If exercising and eating right makes your body feel great then keep it up. Don't push yourself too hard. You're only 15, many times when girls go thru puberty they lose some of that baby weight.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I moved to a new state last summer and i havent made that many friends at my new school. There was this girl who was also new who didnt know anyone and she was really down to earth, so we became friends. Over the school year shes become very stuck up, materialistic, and rude to people who try to be nice and talk to her. So im her only friend, and for a while she was my only friend. Ive made some friends with some very nice guys which have invited us (me and my friend) to sit with them during lunch. She never wants to because she thinks shes too good for them. I really dont see anything wrong with them, they are just trying to be friends with her. So i told her to stop being mean and to come sit with them sometime. She always refuses, which means im stuck with her and i dont get to sit with them. Then they get upset (not mad at me) when we dont sit with them. Each day she becomes even more and more rude and i dont really want to be friends with her anymore. Sometimes i feel like she doesnt like sitting with me either. Today during lunch she was on her phone for 45 min out of 50 min. She just kept me sitting there, and when i said i wanted to go sit with the guys she said no. I got really mad and just got up and left to go sit with them because i didnt want to just sit there and listen to her conversation. It was rude for her to be on the phone the ENTIRE lunch period (which is the only time i see her). Anyways, do you think i had the right to do what i did? I know it wasnt very nice, but shes been so mean to people and i thought she deserved it. What would you do in my position? (link)
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It sounds like shes holding you back. I went to a new school in 9th grade and I made friends I only had for a while and realized they weren't going to be close friends. You have the right to sit wherever you want, so tell her you want to sit with the guys and she can come if she wants. If she's mad about it, tell her your sorry but you don't want to sit there and watch her talk on the phone and not talk to you. If she doesn't change her attitude then it's her loss.
Good luck,
-Abby
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If he made constant eye contact, leaning slightly towards me, plus complimenting me does it mean there instrested. I'm so nervous about it. I've avoided him for 2 weeks this Sunday I will see him, do I pursue it I want to but I have to be careful please advise me thanks (link)
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He could be interested...honestly it's hard to tell unless you ask him. Ask him if he would ever date a colleague or what his views are on love/relationships. I can't say for sure if he is or is not interested in you since I don't know the situation personally. Just be friendly, don't make it awkward, and if you like him be a little flirty (but don't throw yourself at him.)
Good luck,
-Abby
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Ok, so i recently had a HUGE fight with my best friend. (Sorry this might be long) Well she was at my house and she was on facebook and she made her status "F*****g around with molly (Molly made me put this as my status grandma)" i didn't realize she was making a joke so i asked her to change it. then she got mad and i got mad, and she has stopped being my friend, along with calling me nasty names, and saying that she has been wanting to say that for a long time, she seemed like a true friend before so i don't know whether i should believe her, she also said people were talking about me behind my back, but i don't know whether to believe her or not because she has lied before. i have tried to talk to her and apologized already but she won't take it. She lies and says that she tried to talk to me casually when that "talking" to me is really just telling me that no one likes me and that i am a horrible person. I really don't know how to deal with her, she is pulling others of my friends into the situation and lying to them to make them hate me. I try to ignore her, but she just tells her mom that i have been insulting or being mean to her so her mom confronts me about it, and i have been taught not to argue with adults so i just go along. I really don't know what i can do, i am losing my friends like polar bears are disappearing, and i don't know what to believe, i am sooooo confused. Is there any way i can get her back on my level, or get her to be my friend again, and has anything like this happened to you? And, why do you think she is exploding like this all of a sudden? Why do you think she made such a big deal out of her facebook status, when she almost never made a big deal out of anyhting before?
Thanks!!
Molly (link)
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Your best friend sounds immature and unable of being a good friend to you. I was in a similar situation where a girl would call me her bff but then when she was mad at me she would take every name out of the book and call me it and say rude things. I tried hard with the friendship but I realized the drama wasn't worth it and I'm better off without her.
Give the relationship a break. Stop talking to her and tell her you can't be friends with someone who causes this much drama and to talk to you when she can handle a healthy friendship. If she wants to make it work, she'll talk to you calmly when she's ready.
Fighting with her and getting on her level will just prolong the situation, and her mom getting involved is only unfair to you.
Do whats best for you, and good things will come from that.
Good luck,
-Abby
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okay so if you look at my questions before, i have asked alot abot my period. Im not sure if the symptoms i have are related to this or a cold. i have been getting
- a few head aches but there really short
-cramps
-i had some spotting
also i would like to know what is "bloting" people say its a symptoms but im not sure what it is! lol but pleaseee help with this ASAP!!!!! thanks! as many answers as possible are awesome!!!!!!
THANKSS!!!!!!! (link)
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It sounds like your period to me. Headaches can be PMS symptoms as well as cramps. Spotting is common when you are new to menstruating and some women never have a heavy flow to begin with. Bloting sounds like the same thing as spotting to me.
If you are really confused or feel something may be wrong, I suggest going to a doctor and asking these questions.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I hate the way my family treat me. They constantly rag on me for no reason. All i do is walk in the room and they will say something about me to hurt my feelings. For instance, my dad yelled at me for eating one time, telling me id get fat. (At the time i was 115 lbs.) I wouldnt even eat for days, and one meal..i would get yelled at. For a while, I used to starve myself because I was sick of getting yelled at and sneaking food at midnight. Now, i eat less and my dad will laugh and joke about how Im anorexic, which isnt true. My younger sister also calls me fat, when im only 125. (Im 16). She even calls me a dyke (not true) because ive never had a boyfriend. She, on the other hand, goes out and sleeps with every guy that says hello to her. My dad knows it, but he still laughs and calls me that too and tells me im never going to get a boyfriend. My dad thinks i should drop out of high school because my grades werent as good as last years. (Im still on honor roll.) I dont make straight A's like my sis, and Im not outgoing as my sis. And because of that, they call me a failure and doubt my intelligence. Im sick of them treating me like im nothing. They say they are "joking" but they know how much it hurts and continue to do it all the time. They enjoy seeing me down and thats why they keep bringing me down. I used to ask them to stop, but they dont listen. Now i just ignore them because i know words cannot kill me. But honestly, they are. I never thought words could be so powerful and have such an influence on me, but the consistancy of it has ruined my self esteem and has caused me to stop talking. Im starting to believe i am nothing, because thats how im always treated. Any advice? Dont tell me to talk to them or anyone. I have tried it so many times in the past, they ARENT going to listen. (link)
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It's horrible that they feel they can treat you like this. They may think that it's a joke but I don't think they see how painful it is for you. I would let little comments blow over since it was in a joking matter, but now my best friend makes rude comments all the time that really do hurt my feelings and she doesn't even realize. You have to establish with them that they CANNOT treat you this way and that it DOES hurt you. You need to some how acknowledge that. Next time they make a comment, having an outburt might benefit you. Don't start an argument, but let your true feelings show. If you want to yell or cry, go ahead. Show them exactly what it does to you.
If you want a more passive way, write them a letter that they can read at a private time.
If that doesn't work, go to your guidance conselor. They can arrange a meeting with you and your dad and sister and be a mediator. If your dad sees how serious you are to get this to stop and talks to another adult, he'll listen.
The only one who can control your self-esteem is you. You are good enough, smart enough, and beautiful enough. If your family preys on your insecurities, obviously they have some of their own they feel badly about. Don't hold it against them and try your best to work this out, because otherwise you will end up resenting them.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I'm 17, getting somewhat close to 18, and i know ill be sexually active by the end of this year. For those who are my age or close - do your parents expect you to not do anything? I know if you're like 15, and your parents find out you're sexually active..and they have the right to ground you or tell you not to see him, etc. Do you think once we turn 18, it's more of our decision/freedom that are parents just ACCEPT? Or are there parents out there who try to control that and dont approve their 18 year old doing that (even though they are considered an adult)? Any opinions on this topic would be appreciated. Im just getting an idea of how parents react to this once you turn 18. (link)
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I'm 17 and my mother told me she expected that around this age I would start having sex and that I need to be careful, etc. She wasn't angry about it, she was actually open and accepting, and she brought the topic up. However, many parents aren't as willing to let their kids decide when to have sex.
Do your parents talk to you openly about most subjects, even some that are controversial or uncomfortable? Have you had the sex talk with them before? If not, they may be more likely to be against you having pre-marital sex.
Are your parents religious, traditional, or conservative? That also makes them more likely to be against you having sex.
The only way to know is to ask. You could ask your mom how old she was when she lost her virginity and go from there.
Legally you are allowed to have sex at 18 and your parents can't do anything about it (they really can't do much about it at a younger age either) but if you live in their house they still might ground you or punish you if they find out. It depends on their parenting style, and though it doesn't seem fair since you would be legally an adult, you're living under their roof and they make the rules.
There shouldn't be too much of an issue unless you plan on being extremely open with your parents. They don't have to know you're having sex, as long as your responsible and private it's pretty easy to keep it to yourself. Just make sure you get all the information you need about protection and safe sex, and also choose your partner wisely. Too many girls regret their first time.
Good luck,
-Abby
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If your boobs dont get bigger but only a little bit, can you start you're period then after they grow? also, cld you still start with only a little pubic hair, even if you get it and arm pit hair and all do you have to have all these to start? ik that you have to hit puberty but what if you are like 13 or sum and you havent got it but you no you started puberty but...........ughhhhhh this is so confuzing!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELLP ASAP!!! please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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The size of your breasts or amount of arm pit hair/pubic hair doesn't determine when you get your period. Each girl is different and even though developed breasts or pubic hair can show that a girl is in puberty and may be close to getting her period, that isn't a deciding factor. Girls get their periods usually in the ages of 12-16, though it isn't rare to get it earlier or later. So relax, because stress can make your period irregular, and it will come when it's time.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Okay so i just got the droid eris and im totally confused, it dosent come with a manual because their trying to "go green" so i needed some help. Does anyone know how to delete a contact on your contact list and how to delete missed calls and text messages? oh and how too go from the 3g network to 1x and could possibly give me a very detailed way of how to do it? thank you soo much! :)
P.S and if you had any tips to save more of the battery life that would be a big help thank you soo much! (link)
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I have the droid eris but I'm afraid I can't help much with the technical side.
To delete a contact, I go to people and then press the contact you want to delete and then hit the menu button. Delete should be an option.
To delete all your missed calls (I don't think you can just delete one) go to phone, hit menu, and go to call history. Then press menu again and it will say delete all.
I tried to delete a whole text thread and it didn't work for me, but you could try. Go to the thread (the convo your having with the person) and hit menu. Delete will be an option and it will say delete all? and hit yes. To delete one message, just press and hold that one message and a drop down list will appear with that option.
No idea about the network thing, but to save battery download task killer from the app store (it's free). All your applications run in the background even if they seem closed and that takes up battery life.
Good luck!
-Abby
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this guy i have been dating wants me to come to a bbq with his family today. ill go but i just dont know about food, they hunt all their food and live in the country but im a vegetarian. last night i ate fish because his dad wouldnt leave me alone and i feel bad for denying their food, but i dont want to eat it. how can i nicely go about the eating part? its going to be mainly meat and if i dont eat it il have like nothing on my plate and be bugged about it all but if i eat it ill hate myself?? also were not boyfriend girlfriend so how do we act and introduce? (link)
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Maybe you can bring a vegeatarian dish as a thank you gift (my parents always try to bring something to parties) and eat mainly that. If his father bugs you, nicely say that you are a vegetarian. Why don't you ask the guy to tell his parents that you don't eat meat?
And introduce yourself as a friend for now, unless your guy says otherwise to his family.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Female/18. Sorry if this is long. So i transfered to a new school my junior yr and now its toward the end of my senior yr. Just yesterday one of my friends told me that this girl in our class said that i was obsessed with myself and always looking at myself! And that its annoying.And so i asked this girl that said it and she said that other ppl say it too! ): that made me kinda sad. i usually just go to the bathroom 2 times a day to check my makeup throughout school. 1st, I am a girl and care how i look. 2nd, i have bad self esteem and worry what what i look like so i just like checking that my hair isnt up in the hair or my makeup isnt smeared down my face, because thats happened before and no one has told me! so i worry about that as well! ugh..now im worried n dont wanna go back to school. first off ppl dont know me, so i wish they wouldnt talk like that. but what should i do? i was better off not knowing, but do you have any advice?? it would be really nice!
p.s. lets just say i only have till May and i am done with fricken high school drama!
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I really care about what people think too, and when I hear people talking about me I take it really personally. But you just have to consider how people talk and how easy it is for mean things to come out of their mouths, and how they never consider how it might hurt that person. They probably don't take the comment they said about you very seriously. And for what this girl said, saying that other people say it too may have been her trying to justify herself.
Most likely one or two people have said this, if at all. It's hard but you cant stop people from talking, so if you hear it you can confront that person and tell them if they have something to say say it to your face or just blow it off. Since you are so close to graduating, I would just let it go.
Its deffinitely hard, but try not to take what they say personally.
Good luck,
-Abby
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there’s this guy who i/‘i’ve like(d) for a really long time and he started talking to me one day and since then we’ve been talking everyday. and we’re like two grades apart so we don’t really talk in school much because we don’t have classes together.
so anyways... i’m pretty sure he likes me now but i’m starting to stop liking him. and it’s not about the chase anymore because for so long i’ve been trying to figure it out - at first, i’ll admit, it was about the chase, but now i’m trying to figure out what’s keeping me from liking him.
i think it’s mostly because i’m so scared of being let down, or maybe even i’m really embarassed (he’s not popular... and i know that shouldn’t matter... but it also gets in the way i don’t know why), he’s not all that good looking, he can get really sensitive sometimes, and i just don’t think it fits together.
he talks to me everyday on chat. and sometimes, i like him... like a lot. but then there are times when i read our conversation and i just really get disgusted for some weird reason. and i’m starting to have feelings for other people as well. i’m trying to talk to him less now... and i’m trying to make things really boring so that maybe he’ll stop liking me. but i’m also scared that if he stops - then i’ll start liking him again (so maybe its a tiny bit about the chase). i know that’s considered a heart breaker - but i should end what i started. i think i led him on in a unconscious way.
so here is what i need advice on:
1. should i go for him?
2. do you think i like him?
3. what’s your opinion on all this?
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This sounds kind of like what happens to me...
I like the idea of a guy, and the idea of having a boyfriend, but once I get to know him I see maybe we aren't meant to be and it gives me a bad feeling.
Or
I do like the guy, but for some reason I'm afraid to be in a relationship and I focus on his flaws, making me dislike him.
Does that sound familiar? If you don't like him it's okay to be friends but don't be excessively flirty or lead him on. You could try being in a relationship with him and break it off later if your not into it, if thats okay with you and him. Just do what you feel is best.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I am in desperate need of advice. I am a 17 year old girl and I'll be 18 in May. I really like this boy but he is 14 years old and will only be 15 in October. My mom just found out and she told me that it's up to me, but it'll be against the law when i turn 18, i could go to jail if something goes wrong and someone in his family wants to start trouble. Honestly, yes, the age gets to me sometimes, but he acts so much older even with his friends, but he is 14 and my brother is 12, it's weird when i think about it, but when im with him, its amazing, and he is so sweet to me and shares what he feels unlike other guys. I also wonder does he think im amazing, and sweet, and everything he says about me just because im older them him, is he infatuated by the age difference or does he really like me for me? I need to know what you think... is it worth it or should i go for this other guy who is older than me, but the thing is i can see the 14 year old a lot but i cant see the 20year much.HELP! (link)
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This is a taboo subject and it's hard to answer. When you are 18 it's going to be hard for some people to accept you dating a 14 year old. I've heard of stories where an 18 year old girl got charged with rape by having sex with her minor boyfriend even though it was consensual. She was at risk for jail time but was banned from seeing or talking to her boyfriend for a year. That risk is for the two of you to decide if it's worth it.
Were the other girls he dated older then him? If so, he might be attracted to older girls. But he could also genuinely like you, and the age difference seems huge now but my parents are seven years apart and it feels like nothing.
You could casually date him or not put a title on your relationship so people wouldn't talk. That will also give you time to see if he is really into you or just likes older girls. Take things slow and if this turns into a serious thing over time, he'll be older and things will be easier.
In this type of relationship, use your head over your heart.
Good luck,
-Abby
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