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What is going on with her?
Ok, so i recently had a HUGE fight with my best friend. (Sorry this might be long) Well she was at my house and she was on facebook and she made her status "F*****g around with molly (Molly made me put this as my status grandma)" i didn't realize she was making a joke so i asked her to change it. then she got mad and i got mad, and she has stopped being my friend, along with calling me nasty names, and saying that she has been wanting to say that for a long time, she seemed like a true friend before so i don't know whether i should believe her, she also said people were talking about me behind my back, but i don't know whether to believe her or not because she has lied before. i have tried to talk to her and apologized already but she won't take it. She lies and says that she tried to talk to me casually when that "talking" to me is really just telling me that no one likes me and that i am a horrible person. I really don't know how to deal with her, she is pulling others of my friends into the situation and lying to them to make them hate me. I try to ignore her, but she just tells her mom that i have been insulting or being mean to her so her mom confronts me about it, and i have been taught not to argue with adults so i just go along. I really don't know what i can do, i am losing my friends like polar bears are disappearing, and i don't know what to believe, i am sooooo confused. Is there any way i can get her back on my level, or get her to be my friend again, and has anything like this happened to you? And, why do you think she is exploding like this all of a sudden? Why do you think she made such a big deal out of her facebook status, when she almost never made a big deal out of anyhting before?
Thanks!!
Molly
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Your best friend sounds immature and unable of being a good friend to you. I was in a similar situation where a girl would call me her bff but then when she was mad at me she would take every name out of the book and call me it and say rude things. I tried hard with the friendship but I realized the drama wasn't worth it and I'm better off without her.
Give the relationship a break. Stop talking to her and tell her you can't be friends with someone who causes this much drama and to talk to you when she can handle a healthy friendship. If she wants to make it work, she'll talk to you calmly when she's ready.
Fighting with her and getting on her level will just prolong the situation, and her mom getting involved is only unfair to you.
Do whats best for you, and good things will come from that.
Good luck,
-Abby
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i have been in this situation many times befor.
If your friend is being nasty and unforgiving, let her be; if you comment back or let it get to your head it will make matters worse; but saying this dont let her push you around and make you uncomfortable. It may be a good idea to mingle with someone else for a while that makes you laugh and be happy. Casually it will stop; until then if she continues to bag you out and lie say "and! what are you trying to prove." then simply walk way, be the bigger person; and dont get caught up in drama.
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