almost 2 weeks ago my boyfriend was doing a motorcross race and he fell of the bike 75 feet off the ground and broke his rib and lost all of his memory. we had been going out for 20 months before this happened. so now i'm dealing with his new personality and he doesn't like me or love me as a girlfriend and he's fallen for someone else the girl that helps him try to remeber his life. and she has a girlfriend. i didn't think he wants to be with me so i told him he could date her and he was soo happy and im soo upset because i really love him and i feel like he never gave me a chance to see how i can be and its like he doesnt care that i love him so much and i know that i shouldnt have letl him go but i wanted him to be happy and the only way he'll be happy is if he has her. so what do i do. should i fight for him or should i not get in the way of his happiness (his doctor said he could have his memory gone for weeks months or years)
Oh, wow, that's horrible. I'm really sorry to hear that.
I think you should try to fight for him for a while. It's going to be very hard, but seeing you and talking to you might help bring back his memory. The doctor says his memory could be gone for weeks only? Remember everything about your relationship with him. Talk to him and explain to him who you are and what you meant to each other. If you have any remnants of your relationship (pictures of you two together, notes, any souvenirs) show them to him.
Give him some time because you really love him. If he doesn't come around after a month or so, you're going to have to let go, sadly enough. You'll have to let him do whatever it is that he wants to do and try your best to pick up the pieces and move on.
Darby
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19 female
so on saturday i'm going to hang out with this guy, joe. we're very complicated you could say. were just "friends" but we both know the chemistry's there but nothing ever happens. anyways i dont know what to do! i know we're going out to dinner but then i dont know what! i still live with my parents and there so annoying about boys so i would NOT want to go back to my house. i kind of want to go somewhere but i dont know where! we both dont really have money, he has like none (long story) but yeah so something without money!? i was thinking about going to a lake and like walking on the beach or whatever but i dont know if he would go for that and i wouldnt want to see like i was trying to be too "romantic" agh i just dont know! and going to his house isnt an option either. i'd rather stay out and do something! but then i'd also like to try and be really flirty and all.. any suggestions? thank you!
Going to a lake and hanging out is a good idea. Don't say, "Let's go to the lake and walk along the beach." That sounds like you're trying to be too romantic or something. Just make it as a casual suggestion, "Hey, we should go hang at the lake?"
Other options would be; going to a park (same kind of idea as the lake. It could get romantic), going bowling, skating, see a movie (costs $10 each at the most). You could also go for a walk. I don't know if you drive or if you live in a city or a small town or what. If you guys will be driving, you could park the vehicle somewhere and take a walk around town. That's one of my favorite things to do with a guy. Just hang out and walk all around the city or town that you're in. You never know what you'll see (haha). It also give you a chance to catch up and talk about things. You can hold hands while you do it. It's absolutely free. Four great reasons there(:
Have fun,
Darby(:
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Okay, so I'm pregnant. 2 months. And everyone knows, family wise. My boyfriends mom just decided that we are not allowed to hangout anymore and he can't hangout with friends anymore. She's being a total bitch! I need all the support I can get, she signed us up for therapy but I think it's sort of counteracting the whole thing if she wont even let us hangout anymore and she's signed us up for therapy to try and keep us together.
I am so pissed. I just want to slap her. And now my boyfriend wants to runaway, frankly, I want him to runaway from her too.
Your boyfriend shouldn't run away. If he does that, his mother is going to be even more strict with him. I'm assuming he's a minor too. That means if he runs away and his mother calls the police, he will be placed on house arrest and will be confined to her home.
Everyone's emotions are running wild right now because this is a huge situation. No parent wants their son/daughter to have a child while they're still a child. You definitely don't need to call her up screaming at her or threatening to slap her even speaking to her with anger. She's probably going to be taking part in raising your kid and you should be thankful for that.
The fact that she has signed you guys up for therapy shows that she wants this to work out. What made her go from getting you guys therapy to not wanting you to hang out ever? You need to have your mother speak to his mother about this. Your both still kids and it wasn't a good idea for you two to get pregnant.
You, him, and both sets of parents need to come together, sit down, and have a serious talk. Explain to his mother that he is your baby's father and he is going to be involved in you and the baby's life. I'm sure she knows this. She sounds like she's just overreacting and being unreasonable right now. It's too late to stop you guys from hanging out. But give her the benefit of the doubt and understand why she is freaking out. And don't let your boyfriend run away.
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I'm 15 and a female. well, there is this kid in 2 of my classes and ever since the beginning of school we've been really good friends. He always says like stupid or gross jokes and i kinda laugh at how like stupid it is and he just laughs at me in a nice way because he knows i think its funny/stupid. but like this whole year i just have been putting in my mind that hes a friend and nothing else. because my friend kara thinks hes a total weirdo but they are still kinda friends. which is confusing but, haha. I think we flirt but don't really realize it. like i sit next to him in biology and he always pokes me and stuff because he knows it bugs me. but in a good kind of way? my biology teacher always joked about how we should date, but i never thought anything of it because my mind would think its just "him". but now I can help but think, do I like like him? I'm not sure what I should think. He has a girlfriend too but I want to know what he thinks of me, but I don't want to ask him because that would totally ruin everything, atleast i think.. Help!
If he has a girlfriend, don't pursue anything. You shouldn't ask him if he likes you, that might just make your friendship awkward. First, make sure that you do like him. Ask yourself some questions:
*Can I see myself kissing him?
*Can I see us hanging out outside of school and sharing feelings?
*Do I think about him often when I'm not with him?
*Do I miss him when we're not together?
*Am I attracted to him?
*Can I imagine talking to him all night on the phone?
If you answer yes to these things, you probably like him. Unfortunately, he still does have a girlfriend. You don't want to start drama or make anyone uncomfortable. Try to keep in touch with him over summer break. See if he wants to hang out some and try to get to know him better. If him and his girl do break up, then you can ask him how he feels. Say something casual like, "We've gotten to know each other really well over the past year, have you ever thought of us as anything more than friends?"
That way you're leaving it open. It's just an open-ended question. It doesn't come out and say that you like him and it doesn't say that you don't. It just opens things up and leaves room for a new way to think about each other.
Darby(:
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If you delete a comment that you make on someone else's facebook, will they still see it when they get back on?
Thanks for the help
If you delete it before they're online to see it, it shouldn't be there when they do get on.
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This is long but every peice of info is necessary...PLZ READ and respond!!!!
I am F/20 my sister is 24 and she just moved out in feb. Its me and my mom home alone and my dad moved out Jan 08. We have a dog who is 11 and we have had him for 10 years. When my sister was maybe 17-18 she started paying for the dogs med bills. When I got a job I didnt help. I was not managing money very well as I paid my own phone bill and my transportation and my lunch. I was part time and didnt make much. So I dont think i was in the situation of giving half or w/e it was. My dog just got kinda sick he was in pain and so I decided to take him to the vet and pay the $700 Bill. My sis offered to help, which surprised me I said thnx we'll go halfz. after maybe 2 weeks he isnt feel too good still so my sis takes him to another vet in mississauga where she lives (I'm in T.O) She brings up the idea that if our dog were near her it would be easier to take him to the back to back appts he had for 3 weeks. I agreed and so he has been there for maybe 2 weeks. On sat I get home from work and my mom says.
MOM "I think your sister is taking is taking the dog"
ME "Y?"
MOM "becasue she is taking all of his food"
Me "Um i don't think so he is both of our dogs"
Mom (crying because she loves the dog and doesnt want to see him go)
Me to sis "Where you going with all that food."
No comment
Me "Why you need so much food"
Sis "because he is coming to my house"
ME "yeah but he is coming back in like 2 weeks thats way too much food for 2 weeks
sis "No he is staying at my house "
ME "What do you mean"
SIS "I Mean he is staying"
ME "No he isn't he is both of our dogs and he is a part of our family"
Then my sis and mom started saying that they were doing it for my GOOD cuz i am going to school and wont have money. My sister and mom were like dont worry your getting your $700 back. I told them the money didnt matter and the dog wasnt leaving. I got very angry and said that if she leaves with the dog after they didnt consult me with the HUGE family decision that was being made that she would be dead to me (I know harsh words I now regret) me her and mom are crying she says fine the dog will stay i say no forget it bla bla bla take him i dont wanna see you again.(the reason i told her to take the dog is becasue i know if something is to happen to the dog and i cant afford it they would rub this situation in my face and i cant deal with that, the said if they leave the dog im on my own with him and thats not what i want i want a family) She leaves, my mom is bawling i am pissed my mom is saying stupid things like plz dont hate her its my fault it was my choice we decided it last night last minute. I asked y they didnt talk to me first I was home after work and awake way beyond any of them there was no excuse. she said i did tell you i told you when you got home (LIES)she said "i hope i die while im here alone and your the first to see me wen you get home" ...HOW is that supposed to make me feel... point is i left to my bfs house on sat and havnt talked to any of them since. my mom thinks i am being "trained" by my bf parents...WHAT DOES THAT MEAN???? they are acting like i am a terrible person i may of said some mean things i regret but the act of making such a huge decision with out me...and trying to leave without telling me is just wrong. What would of happened after the weeks went by and the dog wasnt home yet...I would of noticed he was gone when were they planning on telling me....I want them to talk to me and apologize and tell me that they should of consulted me...I want to feel like part of this family but i dont know what to do..i know if i confront my mom she will either yell or cry or both...HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO COMMUNICATE! My sis isnt answering my texts and i cant call her or i might yell....what do I DO!!!...my cusin is sooo angry at them for what they did....but that doesnt help me..i need them to realise what they did was wrong and the thing is i dont think they see that it was wrong!!!
HELP
!!!!!
I understand that the dog has been in your family for ten years so he means a lot to all of you. But as a third party, I have to point out some things.
First of all, they did tell you as soon as you got home. Your mother said, "I think your sister is taking the dog." You asked your sister and she said, "He's staying with me." You asked what would have happened if the dog had been gone weeks and you didn't know what was going on. That wouldn't have happened because they did tell you exactly when they said they planned on telling you.
I think your family is just trying to look out for you and the dog. The dog is old. He is going to start getting sick more and more often. If you take him to the vet every time, it is going to get extremely expensive. You aren't going to be able to afford that. Then you're going to feel bad because you can't afford to pay the bills. Your sister is going to take the dog and pay all of the bills for it. Apparently she thinks she is financially better off, and she very well may be. I can guarantee you that your sister and mother are not doing this for no reason.
You all said some things that you shouldn't have said. Brutal honesty here: Telling your sister that she is dead to you if she takes your dog in order to take care of it and take the financial stress off of you? Completely unacceptable.
Your mother shouldn't have said that she wished she would die either. And yes, they should have talked to you beforehand.
That dog is going to die. Long before you, your mother, your father, and your sister will. When your mother or father is on her/his deathbed and you're in an ICU waiting room. Do you want to be sitting as far away from your sister as possible because you got into a fight over a dog when you were 20 and 24?
I work in the ICU waiting room at my local hospital. You would be surprised at the amount of sisters, brothers, daughters, sons, parents, etc.. that are not speaking as one of their close family members is dying because they got into a fight when they were younger and simply have not spoken since. It becomes about people not wanting to swallow their pride and apologize. It's not even about what they got into a fight over, it's the principle of the thing.
All of you need to apologize. Don't expect your mother and sister to come grovelling at your knees begging for forgiveness. You need to apologize for saying what you said to your sister. Your sister and mother need to apologize for not discussing this with you in advance. End of story.
Your sister and mother are just trying to get the dog to a place where it can be taken care of. You won't have to take care of it and pay its bills anymore. That will be on your sister. If you want to see the dog, see if he can spend the night at your house some once he starts feeling better. Other than that, don't make this a relationship-altering ordeal. It is a big deal, but once the dog has been dead for 10, 20, 30 years; you'll look at this a lot differently.
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Okay, well long story short- i really like this kid(shocker!). Every time i think about him i feel something like in my upper chest like tingles, it's really odd to me actually, haha. We both have the same sence of humour, both really loud with friends,just alike in many ways.I get vibes that he likes me sometimes,i get vibes hes thinking about me, just random things(i'm really good with that kind of stuff).He's a gentleman, not a player type(but has a lot of girls as friends). More of a weird, funny guy haah. Thing is , he found out i like him and he was totally into someone else.(caught me off gaurd-because he always used to stare at me at lunch?) So i moved on, and we became good friends a little while after that. I don't know who he really is, and i really want to get to know him more. I like him, but i don't know if he likes me as more than a friend- it would hurt to be rejected twice,naturally. I don't wanna be a burden or make him feel like he has to like me-seeing as he found out before in the worst way (a friend told him-with out asking mee ugh askdjfa). Anyways point blank: How can i figure out whats the real deal with this guy ? And, how can i get him to open up, how do i send signals that i like him by useing body language?
And lastly, speaking of body languagee, what are some things i can look for to see if he likes me from his body language? Any other advice? i really don't think i should give up on this one*Thank you so much!
He found out you liked him once and responded by saying that he was really into someone else. Did you find out who the other person was? If so, have they gotten into a relationship? Do they hang out or talk often? If so, don't try to pursue this. You're only going to get rejected twice for the exact same reason.
If he doesn't seem to be making moves on anyone else, just try to get to know him better. You say you're really good friends with him, so I'm assuming you have his phone number? If you don't, ask for it. If you do have it/once you have it, text him (if you don't already). You can learn a lot about people by texting them and playing a game like 20 questions.
Remember that if a guy wants to be with you, he will. You shouldn't have to do 100% of the work, and if you are, it's a red flag that he doesn't like you like that.
As far as body language goes, there are a lot of things to do that will set of flirty vibes. Laugh at his jokes, smile when you see him and talk to him, maintain good eye contact, and playfully touch his shoulder/arm/knee/hand.
The body language you want to look for in him is the exact same body language you want to convey. If he's smiling when he sees you, laughing at your jokes, maintaining eye contact or playfully touching you, he might be into you.
I wouldn't re-tell him how you feel quite yet. As you said, you don't want to get rejected twice, especially for the same thing. Just try to hang out with him and get to know him better by texting or talking. Once he knows you better, he'll feel comfortable with opening up to you more. If you don't notice any other girls around and you two get to know each other better, then you can tell him how you feel or ask him how he feels as far as a relationship goes.
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i have heard stories where people hand in blank applications to harvard or write absurd things and.. GET IN.
does anyone know any information about this?
ex: on question for the Harvard application was what was the craziest thing youve ever done? and the student replied "this" and wrote "this"on a post it and handed it in.
among those lines...
and what is your view on those types of things? to be spontanious on your application.
I love things like this. It's so cool that people can be THAT unique on a college application and still get accepted. It shows that you don't have to do the boring, typical thing in order to get a job or get a good education.
Here are some sites that have some crazy application stories:
http://www.richardpettinger.com/funny/funny_university_application
http://notjustadmissions.wordpress.com/2008/09/18/college-application-essays-can-funny-get-you-an-admission/
And these are just funny exam answers:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/5107/They-didnt-study
Darby(:
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Wat should i do because she is fingering herself now and she wants to know wat to do wat should she do
I don't believe I fully understand. She's asking you how she should finger herself? That's probably not for you to explain as she is only your friend. If she wants to know, she should ask her mother or research it online.
Darby
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2of my friends have fingered themselfs and they say they are virgens but i think thy arnt so r thy or not
Fingering yourself does not equal a loss of virginity. The only way to lose your virginity is to have a penis in your vagina. Your friends are still virgins until they have intercourse. Other people have other definitions. But the classic definition is as follows:
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/virgin
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i shave, of course.
And i shave EVERYTHING.
I don't have any problem with the speed of my hair growth anywhere but my legs.
Like, for example.
i can shave that morning, and it''ll be prickly by that afternoon.
i hate it!
Is theere any possibe way that i can make it grow slower or something !!
( oh, and no waxing please)
thanks
Nair or Veet usually keeps my legs from getting stubbly for about a week. Shaving only works for a day or so. If you do continue shaving, try putting lotion on your legs right after you shave. It doesn't work 100%, but it does seem to slow stubble a tad bit.
The only other options are laser hair removal (expensive) and waxing (you don't want to)
Darby(:
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Hello! ( This will be long.. sorry . I appreciate it if you help anyway.=)
13 1/2 female
There is this guy (Joey)at my school,he is very short and cute. He has this inessent little smile, but lately I think he isn't that inessent. I've been noticing lately that Joey has been starinf at me..I smile at him and he blushes and smiles back. I asked him on Myspace to be friends, he added me and we have been texting back in forth.Well, I'm in band and he's in honor band and were going to be in a memorial parade..so in the morning the highschool,concert band and honor band were combined and we practiced marching. Well, as I put my instrument together Joey walked in( He's in the honor band) he looked at me and flipped his hair...he was flirting! haha I smiled at him..well he's been staring, giggling , smiling , and flirting...so that made me think he likes me, well my friend called him and asked him out for me..( he didn't answere she asked his voicemail. ) Well...today we were walking in the hallway and my friend kept pinching my sides, it me squeal!! haha Well, Joey was ahead of us...he kept gigglin than he spinned around to look at us...and he looked at me and grinned! lol Well...after that... my friends ask him out again and he said no...than walked off. This happend before also. My friend asked him if he liked me..he said YES! Than ...at school word got around about it than he said no.So...even after the first time..and this time...he keeps looking. Please help me out?? Is he just a tease?? Well, his my space says he's in a realtionship.If he is, why is he checking me ot for?!!! So is that it?? Or is he just a tease??
Thanks for reading!!
I'll rate fair! =)
It sounds like he's just being a kid and messing around. If you want to know for sure, you're going to have to get him in private and just straight up ask him. Don't have your friends ask him any more. He's just playing games because that's what teenage boys do. Once he says he likes you, then he says no, then he says yes, then he says no. I don't know about you, but that would be irritating to me. The next time you're texting him, or you're alone with him, say, "I don't know if you like me or not. Sometimes you do and sometimes you don't. What's up with that?" Then you'll be direct enough to get his attention. Especially if it's in person. That's not a situation you can easily wriggle your way out of. Since he's said no and didn't even answer to the voicemail, I would say you need to move on. You don't want to get your feelings hurt by investing time and emotions into someone that is clearly not ready for a relationship.
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ok i havnt had sex in 1 yr and almost 4 months, so im outta practice anyways but still,
i was never very experianced in screwing a guy while on top....
this guy i like now hates being on top and me i dont care either way yet im not so sure wat to do....
mostly when id be on top id lean forward some to where we'd almost be parallel and move back and forth, and sometimes in circles at an angle; sometimes id put my back to the guy and do basically the same thing, cept my face'd be at his legs instead of his face......
any one have any pointers?
or any other girl in control positions for me????
Lean forward and have him help you with the flow of things by holding onto your hips and pulling/pushing you up and down until you get the rhythm of it. Practice makes perfect. Once you do it for a while, you'll get the hang of it. Start of slowly so you can get a comfortable rhythm, then speed things up as it naturally comes.
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oaky, So my teeth arent in the best shape. they are yellow. they are stained i brush my teeth all the time and nothing changes. But i want a prettier smile, and whiter teeth, but yet i have an overbite. i mean no dentist has ever noticed it, but i want braces.. How is a way i can get emm?
If you had a bad enough overbite to need braces, your past dentists would have noticed. If you really think that you have an overbite, talk to your local orthodontist about it.
Keep in mind that having braces isn't going to make your teeth look better as far as the staining goes. In fact, having braces makes it difficult to get to your teeth to brush them in some areas. Braces sometimes cause staining.
In order to get whiter teeth, you're going to have to get whitening strips or get them bleached by your dentist. Also, getting braces doesn't make your teeth prettier. If they're not straight, it will straighten them. But braces are used to align your jaw more so. If you have an overbite, it bring your jawline out more, etc..
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15/f
Well i dated this guy for 3 months and really really liked him. We were like two peas in a pod and everything. He was sweet, funny, caring and basically everything i wanted in a guy. There was a problem though. He wouldn't stop lying to me about things. He kept things from me and lied a lot. But he never was mean other than that. I finally broke up with him about a week and a half ago and we decided to just be friends. But all he is is drama and i cant get away from it. He started calling me names and saying he dosen't care about me because he was mad i wouldn't take him back. So then i stopped being his friend. But for some reason i still have a lot of feelings for him. I know that i shouldn't because he lied and everything but i do. I loved him. I know people are like "Your 15 and you dont know what love is." Well i have never had a broken heart until now and i was the one that broke up with him. He constantly makes me mad but at the same time i want to be his girlfriend and be with him again. The sad part is, i know i will never be with him again because he lied to much. I wanted to be friends with him so much but he screwd that up to. And after all this time i still like him. I don't know what to do. And i don't get it either. He said i was the first girl he loved and he acted that way to. He was so so sweet. But now, he is starting to move on and i know i need to be doing that to but it is killing me! He flirts with girls already and i can't even stop thinking about him. Please help someone and explain to me what to do! thanks!
You guys haven't even been broken up a week. It's okay to feel the way you do. You can't just snap your fingers and be over him. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to move on so quickly.
When you care about someone, it's hard to just forget about them. If if they are a jerk or they do lie. But the fact that he is already flirting with guys just goes to show you that he doesn't really care about you as much as he led on.
Give yourself a chance to get over him. You don't have to immediately throw yourself back out there. Take a couple weeks to just hang out with your friends. Luckily, you're coming to the end of the school year so you won't have to see him there Monday through Friday. Just have a couple sleepovers with your friends and try to stay clear of him. You've done everything you can do. You've been nice to him and tried to stay friends.
Once he's done being angry, he'll understand and try to be friends with you again. As for now, just hang with your girl friends and try not to call/text/call him.
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my 8th grade graduatin is coming up and i need to find a dress within 2 week at the most. im 5 feet 2 inches tall with long legs and brown hair that is long.can someone give me advice on what kind of dress i should be looking for?
-thanks
You don't want to overdo it. This is eighth grade graduation, not prom. You don't want to be overdressed, ya know? You should be looking for a casual, cute dress. You don't want it to be too short or too long.
Check out these dresses:
http://s7ondemand7.scene7.com/is/image/FossilPartners/WC4692134_main?$fossil_thumb$
http://site.flowergirlus.com/promdress_nx1058_l.jpg
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_cn2AgOeK6U8/R1Ajg2XWHBI/AAAAAAAAAp0/5v_9Syw3lcE/s1600-R/LFCDR206493_asos_luxe_covered_beaded_silk_dress_main_grey_xxl.jpg
http://www.basicallyblack.com/uploads/products/zoomed/Crochet_Dress_Sam.jpg
Something like this with the tights underneath would also be appropriate:
http://sc4.stylefeeder.com/thumb/ps/px/pspx7plc/pspx7plc-200.jpg
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I took a picture of my girlfriend in a bikini and she lookes so hot and i jacked off to the picture was this wrong
This isn't wrong. You're attracted to your girlfriend in a sexual way. Guys masturbate to pictures of semi-naked/naked girls and porn. It's completely normal. Your girlfriend would probably rather you do it to her picture than a picture of some other girl.
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Hi, (18/f)
I like this guy (also 18) we've been talking everyday and hanging out one night a week and also on the weekends for the past 2.5 weeks. Whenever we hang out we do the whole "cuddling, kissing, hand holding" thing and it's just so perfect. We play with my dogs haha and he always says "wait until you meet mine" and whatnot. Also, this one time my sister asked him if he needed a drink while she was going downstairs and he said no thanks and then whispered to me "I have what I need right here."
We were talking for about 1 hour last night and everything was going great. He said he might be able to hang out tomorrow night after he got off work. (as in today) Anyways, we were talking today and he said that work is really crazed right now so he wouldn't be able to hang out tonight and maybe not this week anymore. So I asked if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said that he might be going to the beach but he wasn't sure yet and he said he'd let me know.
He's sweet. These people at my work are b*tches to me and I was telling him about them. He said to mess them up. (But just jokingly) And I said "haha, yeah I could I'm pretty strong) and he said "or you could get someone else very strong to help you.." and was hinting about himself. He's really nice and always calls me gorgeous, hun, etc. We talk on the phone and through AIM and as soon as he gets on AIM after school or after work or before school he'll i/m me right away and we'll talk & talk about whatever.
I went to high school with him, (he's a year younger then me) so I know who he is. For once a guy found me. I wasn't looking for anybody and then out of the blue he showed up and I just think/hope that this could turn into something more.
I guess what I'm asking is if this means he likes me? I don't really know. I'm confused. I like him but I don't know what he thinks.
I know I can just ask him what his feelings are, but I want to get to know him a little more and hang out with him a little more to see if something sparks. I'm just all around confused.
Part of me thinks he does like me but then you never know with guys. They are a very confusing gender. Haha.
I guess I'm also asking if there is any signs I can look out for or anything like that. Mostly I just need someone else's opinion. What they think this all means. I need a second imput.
Thank you & sorry it's so long.
This guy definitely likes you. If he's willing to spend time hanging out on the weekends, instant messages you on AIM the second he gets on, and cuddle/kiss/hold hands-- it definitely seems that he likes you. If he was just in it for a sexual thing, he would be moving much faster, and he wouldn't do the just holding hands things. He also seems to be protective of you against the girls at your work.
I agree that you should give it just a little bit more time. Keep hanging out with him and get to know him better before you ask him how he feels. You can always hint around about it; but I don't think it's an appropriate time to just throw it all out there. It's definitely possible that he'll bring it up to you soon. Just give it a couple more weeks, then tell him how you're feeling if he hasn't already talked to you about it.
I think you may be feeling a little bit confused right now because he can't hang out the rest of this week and maybe not this weekend. That might be making you think, 'Oh, does he not want to hang out?' But I don't think that's the case at all. He probably really is just busy for the next few days. If he continues doing that though, it will be an indication that he's not looking to pursue a relationship. As for right now, I would just take it at face value and assume that he's just busy. He even told you he would let you know if he could hang out this weekend, most likely meaning that he wants to.
As far as signs go, he's already giving you tons! Like I said, he's holding your hand, kissing, cuddling, calling you hun/gorgeous, talking to you as soon as he can on AIM, spending time with you throughout the week and on weekends, and saying things like, "I have what I need right here." Those are all sure signs that he is very into you.
Other things to look for/ask yourself:
*-Does he call when he says he's going to?
*-Does he seem comfortable around you; smiling, laughing, making jokes, openly talking
*-Does he listen to what you have to say and give you input back? (It sounds like he does this, based on the girls and work and him getting protective)
*-Does he compliment? ('You're so pretty.' 'You're so funny.' 'You're so sweet.' 'You're so smart.')
Things to look for and run from if you notice:
*-He starts pressuring sexual things.
*-You notice him flirting with other girls. (Calling them hun/gorgeous the way he does you)
*-He is suddenly too busy to hang out. (Give him this week since it's just a few days and he might really be busy. But if he continues to do this next week and the week after, it's a red flag.)
*-He stops calling/IMing as much.
He sounds like a good guy to me. It sounds like you have chemistry and are happy to talk/see each other. Just keep going with it. Relationships are confusing; but once you know where you both stand, things will get easier.
Good luck!
Darby(:
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Okay so like this guy somtimes doesn't talk to me for like a week he does flirt with other girls and somtimes i find hickeys that I didn't put there. I can never look in his phone he is kinda disant with what he tells me and he always wants to know whats going on in my life and if he finds out your dating somone he trys to get in the middle of it. I want to tell him how it bugs me but i don't know how to open the topic of it He has had sex with my other friends and like we don't use a condom he don't use a condom with anyone. He always want to hang even tho sex somtimes isn't in it but then drops me off and then next day i find hickeys on him and like when me and him very first started happen he was liek no hickeys. So what they chances of getting a STD from a guy?
Alright, well, there's no accurate percentage I could give you as to the chance of getting an STD is. I would say it's fairly high though. If he's having unprotected sex with you, your friends, and God knows who else, he is likely to at some point get an STD and spread it to all of you. It might be something treatable; like gonorrhea or chlamydia. It might be something worse; like aids or herpes. Which does not go away. Ever. That's something you should definitely be thinking about.
And even though this wasn't part of your question, I'm obligated to say, what the hell are you doing with this guy? He's having unprotected sex with other girls, getting hickeys from other girls, even having sex with your friends. You could do so much better. Even if you were the worst person in the world; you could do better than this lowlife.
Don't risk yourself getting pregnant, getting STDs and getting your mental state trampled on. You can find someone that will be with you only and be true to you. Don't you think you deserve that? I know you don't seem to want to be only with him if you're dating other people and he's getting in the way, but you need to get out of this 'friendship' altogether.
But, since that's just a third party's opinion on things, we'll continue with your main question. How do you talk to him about how you feel? Get him secluded where there is no distracting environment. Just you two hanging out. Tell him that you don't see how it's fair that he can have sex with whoever he wants, but you can't date someone without him getting in the middle of things. You need to just tell him straight up, because dancing around the subject won't work when the subject is as important as this. Tell him that you feel (sad, angry, upset, hurt, etc..) when he's getting in the way of your relationships and getting to do whatever he wants. If he's really worthwhile (I can guarantee you he's not), he will understand, take this into consideration, and make actions toward treating you better in the future.
Good luck with this situation. Please try to protect yourself.
Darby
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So like when me and this one guy have sex i get like really nervose and i start thinking to much is it a good thing to think to much when your having sex? but like if am making out with a different guys nothings there. I think i may like this guy or is it that since his the first person i had sex with. but his a really big man whore and i don't really know what to do cause his such a sweet talker and idk if he likes me for me or just us having sex. Should i talk to him or just blow it off like its nothing
It's normal to be nervous when you're having sex. Making out isn't nearly the same thing as actually having sex. I'm sure you're thinking so much because this is the first person you've been with. Typically you wouldn't want to think a lot when you're having sex with someone because it kinda takes you out of the moment, ya know?
Just try to let yourself relax and get comfortable. If you keep having sex and find that you cannot relax yourself, it could mean that you're not really comfortable being that close to this boy. But nerves, they'll happen when you're just now starting to have sex for the first time. Just try to take a deep breath and let yourself loosen up.
Secondly, you definitely do not need to blow this off like it's nothing. It is something. If he's a manwhore, you're not dating, and you are having sex; it's important that you discuss this with him. Tell him that you are concerned with his reputation and that you don't want to be just another number or just another girl to him.
Make sure you look for the warning signs of someone that is using you only for sex. Some signs are; he ignores you at any time, flirts with a bunch of other girls, doesn't want to hang out unless sex is going to be involved, or he doesn't confide in you his feelings and won't let you do the same. If you're noticing these things and you really like this boy, get out now.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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