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boyfriend has brain damage
almost 2 weeks ago my boyfriend was doing a motorcross race and he fell of the bike 75 feet off the ground and broke his rib and lost all of his memory. we had been going out for 20 months before this happened. so now i'm dealing with his new personality and he doesn't like me or love me as a girlfriend and he's fallen for someone else the girl that helps him try to remeber his life. and she has a girlfriend. i didn't think he wants to be with me so i told him he could date her and he was soo happy and im soo upset because i really love him and i feel like he never gave me a chance to see how i can be and its like he doesnt care that i love him so much and i know that i shouldnt have letl him go but i wanted him to be happy and the only way he'll be happy is if he has her. so what do i do. should i fight for him or should i not get in the way of his happiness (his doctor said he could have his memory gone for weeks months or years)
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Let him go his own way. He is not the person you knew, and even if his memory comes back this will be a severely life altering event. If he remember, and comes back, the balls in your court. For right now, move on with the rest of your life. If you want to wait, wait. But don't grow old waiting for his memory to come back.
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Oh, wow, that's horrible. I'm really sorry to hear that.
I think you should try to fight for him for a while. It's going to be very hard, but seeing you and talking to you might help bring back his memory. The doctor says his memory could be gone for weeks only? Remember everything about your relationship with him. Talk to him and explain to him who you are and what you meant to each other. If you have any remnants of your relationship (pictures of you two together, notes, any souvenirs) show them to him.
Give him some time because you really love him. If he doesn't come around after a month or so, you're going to have to let go, sadly enough. You'll have to let him do whatever it is that he wants to do and try your best to pick up the pieces and move on.
Darby
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