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whats a girl to do.
Hi, (18/f)
I like this guy (also 18) we've been talking everyday and hanging out one night a week and also on the weekends for the past 2.5 weeks. Whenever we hang out we do the whole "cuddling, kissing, hand holding" thing and it's just so perfect. We play with my dogs haha and he always says "wait until you meet mine" and whatnot. Also, this one time my sister asked him if he needed a drink while she was going downstairs and he said no thanks and then whispered to me "I have what I need right here."
We were talking for about 1 hour last night and everything was going great. He said he might be able to hang out tomorrow night after he got off work. (as in today) Anyways, we were talking today and he said that work is really crazed right now so he wouldn't be able to hang out tonight and maybe not this week anymore. So I asked if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said that he might be going to the beach but he wasn't sure yet and he said he'd let me know.
He's sweet. These people at my work are b*tches to me and I was telling him about them. He said to mess them up. (But just jokingly) And I said "haha, yeah I could I'm pretty strong) and he said "or you could get someone else very strong to help you.." and was hinting about himself. He's really nice and always calls me gorgeous, hun, etc. We talk on the phone and through AIM and as soon as he gets on AIM after school or after work or before school he'll i/m me right away and we'll talk & talk about whatever.
I went to high school with him, (he's a year younger then me) so I know who he is. For once a guy found me. I wasn't looking for anybody and then out of the blue he showed up and I just think/hope that this could turn into something more.
I guess what I'm asking is if this means he likes me? I don't really know. I'm confused. I like him but I don't know what he thinks.
I know I can just ask him what his feelings are, but I want to get to know him a little more and hang out with him a little more to see if something sparks. I'm just all around confused.
Part of me thinks he does like me but then you never know with guys. They are a very confusing gender. Haha.
I guess I'm also asking if there is any signs I can look out for or anything like that. Mostly I just need someone else's opinion. What they think this all means. I need a second imput.
Thank you & sorry it's so long.
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This guy definitely likes you. If he's willing to spend time hanging out on the weekends, instant messages you on AIM the second he gets on, and cuddle/kiss/hold hands-- it definitely seems that he likes you. If he was just in it for a sexual thing, he would be moving much faster, and he wouldn't do the just holding hands things. He also seems to be protective of you against the girls at your work.
I agree that you should give it just a little bit more time. Keep hanging out with him and get to know him better before you ask him how he feels. You can always hint around about it; but I don't think it's an appropriate time to just throw it all out there. It's definitely possible that he'll bring it up to you soon. Just give it a couple more weeks, then tell him how you're feeling if he hasn't already talked to you about it.
I think you may be feeling a little bit confused right now because he can't hang out the rest of this week and maybe not this weekend. That might be making you think, 'Oh, does he not want to hang out?' But I don't think that's the case at all. He probably really is just busy for the next few days. If he continues doing that though, it will be an indication that he's not looking to pursue a relationship. As for right now, I would just take it at face value and assume that he's just busy. He even told you he would let you know if he could hang out this weekend, most likely meaning that he wants to.
As far as signs go, he's already giving you tons! Like I said, he's holding your hand, kissing, cuddling, calling you hun/gorgeous, talking to you as soon as he can on AIM, spending time with you throughout the week and on weekends, and saying things like, "I have what I need right here." Those are all sure signs that he is very into you.
Other things to look for/ask yourself:
*-Does he call when he says he's going to?
*-Does he seem comfortable around you; smiling, laughing, making jokes, openly talking
*-Does he listen to what you have to say and give you input back? (It sounds like he does this, based on the girls and work and him getting protective)
*-Does he compliment? ('You're so pretty.' 'You're so funny.' 'You're so sweet.' 'You're so smart.')
Things to look for and run from if you notice:
*-He starts pressuring sexual things.
*-You notice him flirting with other girls. (Calling them hun/gorgeous the way he does you)
*-He is suddenly too busy to hang out. (Give him this week since it's just a few days and he might really be busy. But if he continues to do this next week and the week after, it's a red flag.)
*-He stops calling/IMing as much.
He sounds like a good guy to me. It sounds like you have chemistry and are happy to talk/see each other. Just keep going with it. Relationships are confusing; but once you know where you both stand, things will get easier.
Good luck!
Darby(:
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It all sounds very, very sweet. It made me smile just reading your story. Everything seems to be going well, so please don't jinx yourself and the relationship! I know girls tend to want to know "where is this going exactly?" and guys tend to go with the flow more often. He definitely seems to like you, so don't worry about that. He hangs out with you, calls you, IMs you, holds you, etc, etc.
It's good to hear you want to get to know him better and hang out more to see where things will go and how you really feel, because that's mature. Take things slow, there is no need to rush. If things are meant to be, they will happen. My advice and imput is basically to relax and take a deep breath. Appreciate what you guys have right at this moment. You are happy right? Then let things flow and don't rush the label thing (boyfriend/girlfriend). If things continue to go well and there's a definite spark, then you can discuss becoming a real couple. You guys seem very into eachother and I hope that it works out well. ENJOY THIS! (as long as you are happy and he seems happy)
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