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new friends
I haven't had girls that are friends in a very long time. I have a few close guy friends now and most girls either don't like me or I can't stand them. I'm 19 and recently started to get to know a few girls from work. I feel a little left out since they have all been friends for awhile but they're very sweet and have been asking me to hang out lately. The thing is, I don't even know how to act around girl friends anymore! I'm scared of sharing secrets or telling them my feelings/opinions. What can I do to relax myself and to open myself up? I know they want me to be more outgoing with them.
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I know its hard to do, but look past the boobs and treat them just like your guys friends-- just don't say "dude" every 10 seconds, talk about cars, sports, or girls, or use that fake deep voice that the boys do. Otherwise, keep it normal.
Girls love when you tell them your feelings or share secrets, they think you're so adorable and possibly can put you into the potential boyfriend zone. Just don't hold back, especially if they're "very sweet" like you say your friends are.
When you're not around them, just try to remember to remind yourself that girls are just people, too, just like you, and that they won't judge you (especially if they're friends) and they're not better than you, so you shouldn't be nervous. (That's how I got myself to relax around guys, it really works.) You'll forget all this when you meet up with them, but if you say it enough when they're not around, you'll be programmed to just act chill around them.
Outgoingness (is that a word? hahh) will come with getting more comfortable with them. The more you guys hang out, the easier it will be. Trust me.
I can tell you're a really sweet guy and I'm sure you'll have no problem being yourself around girls in no time :) Good luck, hon <3
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