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Okay, so I'm pregnant. 2 months. And everyone knows, family wise. My boyfriends mom just decided that we are not allowed to hangout anymore and he can't hangout with friends anymore. She's being a total bitch! I need all the support I can get, she signed us up for therapy but I think it's sort of counteracting the whole thing if she wont even let us hangout anymore and she's signed us up for therapy to try and keep us together.
I am so pissed. I just want to slap her. And now my boyfriend wants to runaway, frankly, I want him to runaway from her too.
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Your boyfriend shouldn't run away. If he does that, his mother is going to be even more strict with him. I'm assuming he's a minor too. That means if he runs away and his mother calls the police, he will be placed on house arrest and will be confined to her home.
Everyone's emotions are running wild right now because this is a huge situation. No parent wants their son/daughter to have a child while they're still a child. You definitely don't need to call her up screaming at her or threatening to slap her even speaking to her with anger. She's probably going to be taking part in raising your kid and you should be thankful for that.
The fact that she has signed you guys up for therapy shows that she wants this to work out. What made her go from getting you guys therapy to not wanting you to hang out ever? You need to have your mother speak to his mother about this. Your both still kids and it wasn't a good idea for you two to get pregnant.
You, him, and both sets of parents need to come together, sit down, and have a serious talk. Explain to his mother that he is your baby's father and he is going to be involved in you and the baby's life. I'm sure she knows this. She sounds like she's just overreacting and being unreasonable right now. It's too late to stop you guys from hanging out. But give her the benefit of the doubt and understand why she is freaking out. And don't let your boyfriend run away.
Darby
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She's scarred shitless, and she deserves your sympathy.
Having a teenager who is about to have a child doesn't just change the teens lives, it changes hers, forever. It probably wasn't in her life plan to have a grandchild and two teenage parents to support.
Have a little bit of sympathy. The world doesn't revolve around you and you are not the only one whose feeling count. If you are allowed to make a mistake as huge as having a child as a minor, dependent teenager, then she is certainly allowed to make the mistake of cracking down on her teenage son.
And sure, she is making a mistake, but running away isn't going to change that. She needs all the support she can get right now too. Give her some of the support and respect that she needs and loop her into your therapy sessions with her son so she can be part of the solutions, instead of part of the problems. Reach out to her and try to apperciate her fear and disappointment, and respect her rules even if you openly disagree with them. If you expect ANY support at all from her, then she deserves that much respect from you both.
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