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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


ps
(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



advice

i have a friend who is really pretty and really popular...she could practically get any guy she wants. Whenever i have a guy who in interested in me she goes and flirts with him and he ends up dumping me and going for her. What should i do to let my friend know that this hurts me badly?

first off, it's not fair to you to have her keep taking your guys, second something might be wrong with her maybe she's jelous of the guys that you get. talk to her and lay down the law tell her that she needs to back off of your guys if your friendship means anything to her and if she doesn't i hate to say it but you might have to just leave her in the past and move on with your life. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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how do u give a guy a bj, like what is the correct way to put in in ya mouth nd move it?

just put your mouth on and move your head up and down and suck, that's the best advice i can give good luck
*~*shan*~*

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Help some one i really fancie my paper boy and hes sooo cute but the problem is im really shy and dont want to talk to him,Can anyone thing of another way to let him no i fancey him?
thank you roxie
ps ill rate you if you help
pps PLEASE HELP

try something like when your parents pay him everyweek slip a little note in with the money that tells him that you like him. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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my hubby's bday is on friday.. (he's my bf of 2 years but i call him my hubby n he calls me his wifey) n e ways.. he noes ma family is having sum problems now.. but i still need to get him a present.. i need sum ideas on wat to get him.. but i wanna get him sumthin cute but not expensive.. i dont noe wat to get! i already got him a card and i rote him a letter on how great he makes me feel and how happy i am im with him.. plez help!
angita

just make him a nice little candle-lit dinner and watch his favorite movie. while you are watching the movie cuddle with him and tell him how much he means to you and how you need him in your life. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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I'm afraid to kiss my boyfriend..everytime he wants to i back away. I knows it getting on his nerves..HELP

this can be answered in two ways all depending on the situation. if this is a first kiss situation, the first kiss is like any first that you might have with a man, it can be scary something that might be good would be to face your fears head on and kiss him. if this i just you are scared of kissing him it might be a good idea to talk to him. i'm sure that it wouldn't get on his nerves as much if you let him know what is going on with you. good luck and i hope everything works out
*~*shan*~*

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Well Friday is my boyfriends birthday. We have the house to ourselves for the day...any suggestions on anything romantic we could do ?

this is what i did for my ex, i made him a nice dinner, and we turned off all the lights put our song on and ate by candle light. then after we picked out our favorite movie and spent the whole movie cuddling, he said it was his best birthday gift ever. give it a try
*~*shan*~*

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ever since summer started its been problem after problem. i guess its keeping me busy n itz better happening now the during school. but i dk. i break down at night n crym y self 2 sleep its getting bad but im the kinda person that can deal with alot happening but i dont like it. i dont know i think im really confused about wut to do n i need help.

hey i've been there before, it was becaused i was very depressed. you may be good at dealing with things but sometimes you don't really need a reason to be depressed. sometimes a person can just feel down and not really know why. hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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I know it was wrong but i had sex wit my bf...the problem is i did it wit out a condom...he did not cum inside me but im really scared that im preg...its only been like 2-3 weeks since i did that..im so scared and idk what to do..i cant tell ne one well i can just not my family..im waiting for my period to start..it will start the end of this month..someone please help or tell me about preg like the signs and symtoms i really need help on it cuz its scaring me..

first of all, there's nothing wrong with having sex with your boyfriend, it's perfectly normal to have sex. second if you are scared that you might be pregnant find an adult that you trust (it doesn't need to be your mother but it's a good idea) and ask them to go out and get you a test. or go to your nearest planned parenthood and get tested. but the most important thing for you to do is relax, take a deep breath and just think clearly. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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I'm 11 and I'm a girl (lol)My friend Madison is going out with this guy and I like him (a lot) but I can't flirt or anything cause I feel bad. And I don't want Madison to know that I like him because she won't be exactly happy.I really like him and I don't know what to do. Plz help.....:(

it's a good idea for you to talk to your friend before you do anything else, she has a right to know how you feel about hey boyfriend. don't flirt or anything. just talk to your friend. and i'm sure that everything will be ok. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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i like this guy so much ever since october 30th 2002 and like its been abt 2 years now .. and i dont know wut to do . i went out wif him 6times before .. buh hes wif one of my friends now . buh like were more like enemy's now . i mean im her friend and i want her to be happy buh i dont think she wants that for me cuz i cut myself and like she does too . but at least she's happy i mean i told * dan * how i feel and still . he still sayz i love paulina and shyt ! and i hate it i mean .. wow i kryed so much over him iono wut to do anymore !!


plzz help me !!


xOXo maYa xOXox

first of all, you don't need to cut, no man is worth you hurting yourself. second if your friend doesn't care if you are happy she doesn't sound like much of a friend and third forget the guy. you can and will find someone better.
*~*shan*~*

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Just recently I went on vacay to see my moms friend that she had made recently on a college course. So we went down to see her friend and her family b/c my mom wanted to introduce me. So of course she has a son a year older than me and I'm head over heels, you dig? So anyway we had an awsome time almost everything in the world tells me he liked me back, so I gave him my home # and my sn. We live miles and miles apart and i just left a couple weeks ago. He hasnt called or been online and I've been missing him so much. I'm starting to wonder if this is a sign if he doesn't like me at all... or i d k. But I can't go ahead and call him b/c I dont want to look desperate if he wanted to talk he would have called or went online. But hes a great guy I'd never give up liking him so... at this point idk what to do b/c i d k if i will even get to see him ne time soon... and I just cant take it ne more... its more than i can handle.

i think that you should talk to your mom first, i know that it doesn't sound like good advice but i've talked to my mom about everything and trust me moms are the best source for things like this. talk to your mom not only will she be good to talk to but i'm sure that she will love being involved in your life. after this point i think you should just relax and go on doing things that you did before you went to visit them, if it's meant to be you'll know. good luck and i hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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i love my friends and bein the person i am its the only thing i have, i dont have much family and what i do have.. well thats a whole different thing.. i feel like im never good enough. i feel like im bein push away fromt hose i use to b close to but the ones i am still close to says its just me.. i dont know why im always like this, im think im about to turn physco ova here. i know its not rly a question but.. yeah.sorrie.

just talk to your friends, i'm sure they will let you know that it's all in your head and they will tell you that they are always there for you and are there to talk to you if you need it. if not hey i'm here for you to talk to
*~*shan*~*

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ok well i really really and i mean really like this boy.. we have like a connection and crap but he loves this other chick and it really hurts and i mean him and i flirt all the time and crap and i think i am starting to love him but i don't want to ruin anything with him and that girl cause they have a history but i really don't know what to do cause i am soo confused and like yeah idk!! and i just am soo confused and i ahh am going insane! But i def think he is better off with me cause that girl won't treat him right at all!!

sighned... HELP ME I DONT' HAVE MUCH TIME! :0

well let me tell you men aren't very smart (no offence guys) they aren't very good at taking hints, just sit down with him and talk to him. tell him how you feel about him and about how you feel about him and this other girl. trust me letting your feelings out is a good thing
*~*shan*~*

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HeY ! well im 14 and i weigh 86pOunDz or sumfin liek that .. buh i know its around 80 is that good enuff? im scared that if its not .. then something mite happen . buh u know i eat ALOT !! i just dont gain weight .. and im reeely skinny ;) hehe .. soo yehhh heLp?

xOxox maya xOXx

if you are worried about your weight try talking to your mother or a doctor and see what they think don't try to do anything else until then
*~*shan*~*

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well i have this boyfriend who claims hes working all the time and then i get theses calls from his exgurlfriends tellin my hes being untrue..he tells me this isnt true they just want him back and they are trying to get me to dump him. should i listen to them or to my boyfriend? im not sure wut to do any more i really like him but his ex's are mostly my enemys i really dislike them.. plz help me...


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it's time for a serious talk with you and your boyfriend. you need to sit him down and lay down the law. let him know that if he is cheating on you, you will find out and he had better tell you the truth. if you still think he's being untrue talk to his friends or even go visit him at work and see if he's really there. make something up like you wanted to see him and give him a hug or invite him to do something. don't listen to his ex's because there is a good chance that they are lying just because they do want him back. and just to let you know A LOT of girls are going through this thing and hey if it comes down to it you can do so much better than a man you can't trust, good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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okay in lyk 5th grade i wuz @ school n muh boyfriendz best friendz lyk stefano wantz to make out with u, u wunna make out with him n i wuz lyk okay fyne cool... my first kiss... i wuz so nervous but it happend n it wuz cool well i dk that wuz like 3 months b4 school emded n he calld me like mayb a week b4 5th grade ended n hez like itz ova bitc!! n hung ^. does that mean hez jus tryin 2 b a gy n b cool instead of being lyk o im gunna miss u n this whole long thing then break up? or do u think hiz best friend told him 2? his best friend wuz my first boyfriend.

your first boyfriend doesn't matter, this guy just sounds like an immature bastard and you don't need him. you'll find a guy who will make all of your other ex's look like little boys, trust me i know first hand
*~*shan*~*

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On the last day of school, these mean popular girls came up to me and started to pick a fight just for the fun of it. I got a little emotionable. Now next year I dont want that to happen again. What should i do to avoid that?

~*AhHhHhH*~

ok here's what i think, they're insecure, there must be something about you that scares them like a guy they want is interested in you. just hold your head and and don't let what they say get you down. they can only hurt you if you let them. you are bigger than them
*~*shan*~*

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k soo ..i kissed my best friend and i want to do it again but he gut a girll who is older than him ..but i dont like her that much..but still..its funn..and i think i like him..do i keep doing it?

i think that you should talk to your friend and tell him how you feel about him and kissing, hey maybe he likes you too
*~*shan*~*

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okay me n my boyfriend have been together since .. november 13 andhe went to this party tonight and the last party he went to he let a girl flash him and stuff so should i be worried if he sed he was sorry ??

i hate to say this but there's a chance that he only saiy that he was sorry so that you wouldn't be mad at him. if not then my bad but i would just keep an eye on him during the next party
*~*shan*~*

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my 2 friends like this guy that i just started to like. should i tell them that i like him too?

you should totally tell them, it wouldn't be good for your friendship if you all started to fight over a guy because you kept it to yourself. and hey if you and your friends like him, he must be a hottie ;-)
*~*shan*~*

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