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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

advice

My freind and I just gat a new babysitting job for a five year old we're charging $4 an hour and both of us will get $120 a month so what should I save up for? I already have an ipod and a laptop.And im a girly girl!

PURSES. im girly girl, like really girly. and i love purses.
uhmm channel earrings? those are really poopular where i live?
new clothes. (:
jewerly. (:
new stuff for ur room. (:
cell phonee. (:
tvvv for ur room (:
digital cameraa. (:
uhm something for whatever hobbys you have.

or sometimes what i do, is ill just like take like 1000 dollars to the mall, and like whatever i want i just buy it. thats always fun? ha.

i hope i helped.

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0oo0ok well lately I been wondering if i'm bi because "sometimesz" i find girlsz hot and i notice i'm checkiing dem out but...den i talked 2 ma bestfri3nd and she asked me like s0o0o0o you like you like girls? but it sounded s0o0o weird and i alwaiisz liked guysz s00o I dont know...=/ and sometimesz itsz just inbaressing....idont know am i bi???

plsz help
i would really like 2 talk 2 somebodii if you can add mii on myspace www.myspace.com/ur_bossychick

if u dont have myspace atleast answer my question plsz !!!

You're not. I assume you must be quite young, if you are talking like you have never opened a english text book in your life. However, it is common for younger kids, to be curious about these things. I could have given you a much more detailed answer, if you would have said how old you are, and didn't talk like in such a.. illiterate manor?

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ok 15/f..if that helps. im not a slut ((for lack of a better word)) right now, but i kinda want to have a slut reputation. I know that sounds totally bad but I kind of do. I don't mind being called a slut or being known as one either, is that bad? or what?

I've never heard of any girl wanting to be called that. I know, how it feels to be the slut in school. You don't want it, love. I wasn't a slut. At all. Yeah sure, I had done things that most people have done before, inless they were prude. Anyways, I had this one really mean backstabbing friend. She made alll these lies about me. She made fake IM conversations. Posted it on EVERYONES locker.

So then, I lost alot of friends, because they didn't wanna hang out with someone, 'that couldn't get a guy, inless she slept with them' or something like that. I however, never did anything like that. Guys started not to like me, inless I did things to them. When I'd be in the halls, some girls would go, "Ew she stole my boyfriend, because she gave him a blow job, I guess I'm just not that low, to do something like that!!" People all believed I did all these horrible things too, because I had alot of boyfriends. It was only because I was considered pretty.


Do you still want to be called a slut? I mean, I've never really known anyone that had a brain, to be wanted to be called something so low. If you want to be made fun, and for no guys to actually like you for you, then sure go for it?


Have fun being the biggest loser slut in school, I guess??

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ok so heres the thing: my brother confessed a secret to me a while ago, he and my stepsister have a relationship and much more... so im like ok watever but like my dad and stepmom started suspectin about this but have not confirmed it yet. one day my dad asked me if i knew somethin about this, to help my bro i said i didnt but i felt hella bad b/c i lied to dad. im soo confused i cant tell my dad but i dont like lyin to him but if i tell him, i would betray my bro..omg wat should I do???

Stay out of it completely. If your brother talks to you about it, just say, I don't want to lie to dad when he asks me about you too, and I don't want this on my shoulders. So I'm just gonna ask like I never heard it. And then if you're dad brings it up, just be like i'm not sure. or something. I wouldn't tell on your brother to your dad, becausee thats a pretty big secret. If its brought up again, just kinda pretend like you didn't hear him or something.

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17/f
heres the thing. i do fine not pigging out or eating bad foods during the day, but as soon as night comes i'm bored and have nothing to do. so i just eat, like nothing has calories & im a bottom less pit. its horrible, i want to stop, but my body has gotten so used to pigging out late at night and even if im not hungry i still eat it because im bored.

My friend has this problem too.

Find ways to occupy yourself. Stay away from your kitchen. If you have a tv in your room, and a computer. Just stay in there intill you're ready to go to bed. Like, in my room, I have a tv, my computer, and then i have an ps3 too. So, i can stay pretty busy, and not worry about food. I'm not sure if you have all of that too. But like, maybe talk to someone on the phone, or on the computer, like stay in your office or wherever you keep ur computer.

just find ways to keep yourself busy. it will take awhile probably for you to get out of the habbit, but just tell yourself no, and it will eventualyl get really easy to stop.

and if that doesnt help you. because like. you dont have a tv in your room, and your family room is next to your kitchen or something, or your computer is in your kitchen or something? ahah then, find really really low caloria snacks. or fruit or something. or ice. i love sucking on ice. so maybe try that? and if you want some flavor too it, add a little lemon juice, and some no calorie sugar. (:

i hope that helped.

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i am getting my own room finally and i need help with decorating it. my room is orange with a pink cieling and door. all i have is my bed and the blanket. my room is i guess pretty big. i am 15 years old and i want my room to be a fun place to hang out with my friends but still be a cute room. i dont have alot of money AT ALL maybe 100 dollars or 200 at the most. i am in need of help. i can get more stuff for my room later like for christmas but i need a start. also if any of you know a site where people have pictures of rooms that are cute and unique so i have an idea let me know. or if you have one of your room please send a picture. please and thank you so much.

PB teen [pottery barn] the stuff in it is expensive, but it is THE BEST i mean, seriously. THE BEST magazine to get your ideas from. they have soooooooo much cute stuff. and its decorated sooooooooooooooooo cute. its really expensive stuff, so you probably wont beable to get stuff from it, since 200 dollars is ur limit. that won't cover much from there. but seriously, it has the cutest stuff for your room, and great stuff, for hanging out with your friends! [ like little couches and everything!!]

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okay to make a long story short me and my ex have been dating for 2 years and a month and we just recently broke up but when we were on and off we both were talking to other people i love my ex to death and i want to be with him but the thing is i like this other boy at the same time. and i know my ex talks to other girls today we talked about being truthfull to each other and letting each other know everything that went on. I kissed this other boy and lied to my ex and told him i didnt do anything because i know it would break his heart. I feel so guilty but i cant stand to tell him. What can i do to not feel guilty i feel so bad but then again we werent together but we are trying to staart over. What can i do?

First off, you are not inlove with your ex. You just like him alot. If you like someone else, even in the slightest bit, you are not inlove with someone. Just to clear that up.

How do you know it would break his heart? If hes talking to other girls, hes probably doing just fine. And he moved on, just like it seems you have too.

Don't start over. Just tell him you guys need some space, to figure out what you really want. Because it seems you too are both confused about your feelings for eachother, and others. Figure out your feelings, and when you figure out who you really like, and you find out its him, then tell him. But, intill them, take some time off from eachother.

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I am sixteen years old and I am competing in my first Miss Teen Delaware pageant. I believe I will do well because I'm very mature for my age, and I'm polite, sweet, outgoing, etc. However, I'm kind of nervous. If anyone has ANY advice for me, I would GREATLY appreciate it.
Or if you or someone you know is competing in the Miss Teen Delaware pageant, let me know =]


Thanks!

I haven't competed in pagents, for like a year now. but, i won a few pagents. the first one i did, i was really nervous. and i didnt win. you have have have to be confident. not stuck up. dont act better then anyone else. but have confidence in yourself. smile alot. really try hard. i actually had like a pagent coach. and she always told me to be confident, smile, and show you really want it. it will really make yourself look good. you should probably get a pageant coach. mine cost 100 dollars an hour. and she was with me usually for 2-3 hours. soo uhm yeah, i guess thats kinda expensive? but worth it, if you really wanna plan on winning..



i hope you read this agian. my brother has a private coach for baseball, and he had an add at the place. check your newspaper too.

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there are no signs that my dad is cheating on my mom i just have this wierd feeling.I mean he has been working alot lately till like 6:00 everynightt.and when he comes home he doesnt really care about us, he just wants to sleep.And he plays poker or tennis like 3 times a week.i have tried talking to mom but she doesnt want to hear it.and i cant like drive bc im only 13.hellp

Maybe your parents need the money. And yeah, of course hes tired. He had a long day of work. If I worked that long, I wouldn't wanna have anything to do with my family either. I just would want to rest. You should be happy your dad only works till 6. I have some friends, who there dads are only home on holidays. I have some friends whos parents dont get home intill 10:30 at night. 6:00 isnt all that late. You're over reaccting. theres nothing wrong.

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tuesday night while i was talking to my friend hannah i had a sudden thought about a boy i used to like ( lets call him flirterboy) i was sure flirterboy liked me. i noticed after i wouldnt tell him who i liked ( i was afriad to because i liked him and didnt want to tell him)he stopped talking to me and he told me he was thinking of asking this girl out and he wanted to know what i looked like again and i told him so tuesday my friend that goes to school with flirterboy told him i liked him and he told her he only liked me as a friend and stopped talking to me and when he did he acted rude
why does he barely talk to me and why does he talk to me in such a rude way? would it be because he liked me and didnt think i liked him back so he stopped talking to me because i hurt his feelings or what ( sorry that this is long)

Noo.. I don't think so.

I think that was his way, as he doesn't like you, and that he didn't have feelings like that for you. and when he stopped talking to you, he'd didnt want you to get the wrong idea anymore. and he was being rude, to push you away.

theres plenty of other boys in the world

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Hey, I have this friend who is anorexic, but she doesn't think so. even her doctor says it's unhealthy to be how small she is. She's 17, 5 inches and 5 feet, and she weighs 87 pounds. I'm really worried about her. I love her so much. She doesn't want to get help because she says she doesn't need it. she thinks she fine. She says she doesn't eat when she is stressed out and she's always stressed out. he ex boyfriend gives her a hard time, so life just sucks for her. She doesn't want to die or anything so she's not starving herself to death. i don't know why she is doing it? i just need to know what should i do about her problem

It may be because, she feels that thats the only thing she can control. is her weight. its like the only thing she has power over. I have this problem, but i'm not that skinny. I think you need to tell your friend, how much you're worried about her, like not over the phone, or online. in person. just tell her how its really hurting you, to see her doing this to herself. that sorta thing. i'm surpised her doctor doesn't stick a tube in her, for her to get food? i guess you have the choice. whats her parents say about this? just really be there for her. and just try to make her understand how you feel.

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I was wondering where you can get free cedar point tickets. (In Sandusky, OH.) My friend have been wanting to go for a while, but don't have enough money for the tickets. Sometimes I hear about people getting them for free through work, and other things. Where do people work where they give them free tickets? Does anyone know of any deals where you get free cedar point tickets? Thanks.

I remember this one time we went there for a little vacation, and I know my mom got money off, from like tops. or giant eagle. I'm not sure, what she did. If you want free tickets, you're most likely gonna have to have alot of benefits at work [like a college degree] my mom, where she works [shes a registered nurse] and she has like higher up there and such, so shes always getting free movie passes and stuff. i never really heard of anyone getting them all the way free, and if it is, its like one. but yeah.

cedar point is way fun though. (:

if you cant find a way to afford it, geagua lake is alot cheaper. there waterpark is extremllyyy nice there. they don't have as many big rollercoasters, but its still alot of fun.

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okay my friend used to be all goth but he changed into ghetto gangster kind of style and i asked my friend"werent you goth before?" and he said"yeah but boring now" and he also talk with a slang like bruh and all do you think hes a poser?

Nope.

Hes just trying to find himself. Don't label him like that, you're not letting him be who he wants to be, when you say that. Don't ever put someone in one catergory, thats not a good thing to do.

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f/14

hey
i was wondering
how come boys change when they are in a relationship ? i mean they become more perverted like all they want to do is make out and go further than that

any explainations would be helpful

thanks

Because they think once you're going out that you're suppose to do all that stuff, and they think its what they're suppose to do. and like, they just think since they have you, they can. type thing. you know what i mean? its what guys think that you should do.

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I've never really noticed this until last week, and now i can't seem to get it out of my mind. I'm 5'8" and overweight-- this may not have anything to do with it.

Anyways, I wear ALL my jeans wear my bellybutton is. It doesn't matter if they are tight, loose, low-rise, EXTRA low-rise, or the fit- they all sit there. I wouldn't think it's because of short legs because I know girls with extremely short legs who wear their jeans so low it can be below their crack.

Do I wear them high because thats where my waist is? If I slimmed down could they be worn lower? Does this mean I have short legs, or Does this mean I have long legs?

I wear my jeans, just a tad below my belly button. its kinda like what the girl below me said. you just do things the way you like it. i'm short. [5'1] and i'm not fat or anything, but if i'm not wearing them in the right place, i feel uncomfortable. and nervous. i don't know why i'm like that, its just my jeans need to be in the right place.

i'm pretty sure you have long legs, because you're 5'8. and thats pretty tall. atleast i think so. it doesn't really matter where you wear your jeans, whether or short tall skinny fat. your body is the same under any fat you have, or your body is the same, if your skinny. this is kinda hard to explain. but it makes sense in my mind, i hope you get what i mean.

just be comfortable in your jeans.

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This is very difficult for me, I've struggled with my feelings for nearly three years and it drives me to the point of insanity..(maybe thats a bit strong) I've been a tom boy all my life, never had any problems with that, its the way I am.
I was happily married for 22 years, then, he left me and moved back to his parents. The split was mutual and we are still close friends.
I struggled for some time with my self esteem, and getting into the single life was hard, although now, after three years I'm happier than ever.
4 years ago I met my bestest pal, she's been a true freind and soul mate ever since. We have both been through a relationship breakdown and supported each other through the hard times, hers is more recent and more messy.
I am a very open minded person, and believe in 'You can't help who your heart loves' phylosypy, (cant spell either :) )
about a month ago, my mate hooked me up with a freind of hers from her work. He's a really nice bloke and we got on staight away, but I see only see him as a mate too, sex is good, he's unselfish under the sheets and makes me feel wanted. We only see each other once every three weeks, because of work and his commitment to his daughter, of which i wouldnt have any other way.
At first we text, and chatted on phone, but not so much now.
Trouble is its not him I think of when I wake, or go to sleep, its not him i worry about, or really care for. Its not him I dream of....it my mate.
I so want to tell her how I really feel for her, but I would rather have a freindship for ever, than a lover for a short time.
It so tears me up though. We have girlie nights in, DVD booze, a meal, pictures etc...we sleep in the same bed...but I dont sleep, some nights I lay and just watch her breathing, I know every twitch and sound she makes. I feel safe and secure layed next to her, and so want to brush that bit of hair that tickles her nose when she sleeps.
Maybe I cant have advice on this, and is something I have to figure for myself. I just needed to tell someone, cause keeping it bottled is not good and is quite stressfull.
I'm in my mid forty's, have three grown up girls. and Yes, I do love her, and tell her all the time, but she dosent realise how srtong.

MY question! Do I tell her How I really feel?

You're deffinitly bi. sheesh. my moms 40, and she doesn't do weird stuff like that at all. if she ever wanted to go sleepover her friends house, and in the same bed, pshh i'd deffinitly think shes bi. i think you kinda need to grow up a tad too. i mean, my mom goes to the country club with her friends, and my dad goes like golfing with his friends. and they go out to eat and they go to baseball games and stuff. I mean, I don't know. I just think thats weird. That you do that stuff. All of it.. is actually pretty weird. I don't think you should tell her how you feel, it'll mess up the friendship, and she'll most likely think your weird. [espically if you tell her how you lay awake all night looking at her] that'll just freak her out.. and she'll never wanna talk to you again. I think, you should do more things with your girls, I mean do they have kids? You should like babysit them or something. Spend time with daughters, and maybe try to like get away from this lady. like, don't stop becoming friends with her.. just try to figure out why you feel that way about her..

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does tanning help prevent acne?

and also, why does it do that if it does?

well, i dont know it makes my skin nice and clear, but thats from the actual sun. but if you go to tanning beds alot, it will give you lots and lots of zits.

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yepp i know theres so many questions like these i'm sorry haha.

oohkay so ima going on vacation in 16 days [yeah i know, not that long to lose that much weight] but i was wanting to lose SOME so atleast i look a little better.

i was wondering if anyone knew exercises i could do like for how long.

i have a pool [about 60 feet around? im not 100% shure but its big enough to go around in]
i have a treadmill
i have workout videos

does anyone have a workout type of thing i could do each day so i could look better?

yeah i know im not going to go on one of those crash diets

thankss :]

How much do you want to weigh?

By accident... lol .. i lost 8 pounds in 4 days. I walked 7 miles [ i walked 4 miles with my friend the one day, because we were looking for hot guys around her neighborhood.] then 2 miles the next day, and half a mile the next day, and half a mile the next day. you don't have to do it like that though.. but yeahh.

cut out all junk food, and drink plenty of water.

i did it, so you probably can too.

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hmm hi.
i'm just wondering if it's possible to lose about 60 pounds in a month.
and if so how?
PLEASE help would be GREAT.
:D

60 pounds? Well, i lost 8 pounds, in the last 4 days? So, well. maybe. But, you'd have to like cut out alot of junk food, walk 4 miles, like every day, and drink alot of water. ha, i wasn't even trying to lose weight, but my friend lived in a development, where a ton of hot guys live, so we just walked all around, for like 6 hours straight.

Even though everyone says its impossible, its not. BUT. I don't think you should try to lost 60 pounds in one month. 1) that'd be torture for yourself. 2) you'll have to get surgery, because some of your skinn will just be hanging there. (:

My moms friend lost 100 pounds in like 4 months. and she had to get alot of surgery done, just to get rid of all the hanging skin. So, i don't really recomend you doing it. maybe just lose like 15 pounds a month? and just watch what you eat..

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okay so im a 16/f and for some reason my hands smell weird. i wash them i put hand sanitizer but they still smell weird. i started using pantene pro-v shampoo & conditioner and i think its that that makes my hand smell weird. and i started using the green dove soap so could that be the reason why they smell? and what should i do? help

thats weird.

maybe its because your using so many different types of soaps, its combining and making your hands smell weird? hmmmm. just get some lotion from like bath and body, or a really expensive kind, that comes with your perfume [juicy couture smells really goooddd. (: ] and it will probably take care of it.

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