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Q: Okay I aready wrote this question, but im giving more infomation, and needing more advice and sorry its so long. So im a freshman in high school, and over the summer i met a Junior that goes to my school. We had a thing over the summer (2007), and well into the school year. We would hang out and hook up and everything seemed great. Before him i was in very serious relationship for about a year 1/2. When i met this other guy he was about the only one who i let myself open up to. Well at homecoming everything changed and he told me he didn't want to fool around anymore and that since we wern't even dating it wasn't like we were breaking up. I got really hurt and cryed all night. After that night me and him never talked, and eventually never talked... ever and would occasionally would see each other in the hallways. Well its been that way for about 3 or 4 months. I eventually became really good friends with his best friend, and he likes me and i kinda like him, but i dont have all the feelings im looking for. He asked me to prom, and we went 2 days ago. Well my "he" was there, and we all danced and everything, i had a lot of fun and we talked a WHOLE lot. We have been texting a lot and he told me that my hair looked good, and we should go shopping, and today a bunch of our friends went to lunch including me and him, and he said that being in the car with me and everyone and how nice it was today that it reminded him of summer and how we all hung out. Last saturday me and a bunch of mine and his friends went and played this game late at night where you have a few people hide, and some drive and the people who are driving look and if you are seen by the people driving you have to get in and help them by looking for the people who are still hiding, well anyways we had like a group of people hiding and all of them got caught except me and him, so we start out hiding and its just me and him, and we are just talking more and more and actually looking at each other, and than he becomes really thoughtful, like when we have to run and hop fenses he askes me if im okay, and he i need help, and he grabs my hands to help me a lot. Well we finally get back to where were all suposta meet, and he follows me around, and when were in the car we take a big corner and he grabed my hand, but i pulled away too fast to see if it was ment like that. Now we text all the time, talk at lunch and are going to play the game this coming saturday.... I dont know really what to say, but i mean it kinda seems like he likes me again, but im not sure. i feel blindsided cause i like him so much that i might not be seeing the signs of how much he does or does not like me. Its complicated. and i REALLY REALLY REALLY need advice. i need someone to tell me the truth cause im nervous and dont want false hope. so if anyone can help me understand this, please help me cause your my last hope.
Thanks :]

Well if you really like the guy and think that you would want to try and have a relationship then I say give it a try. Just be considerate about the guy who also likes you, try not to hurt his feelings or anything. Well it seems like he does like me, but I really don't know how he feels or what is going through his head. You should probably talk to him and let him know that you are interested and see where he stands on the whole matter. Boys can be really really confusing and it is sometimes really hard to judge them especially when you don't know them personally. I think you should just go with your gut on it and decide where you want to go with it.

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Q: i think a guy might like me, but everyone says show him your interested.
how can i do this that even someone really stupid and oblivious would get the hint but subtly, not being like hey i like you.
thanks

Well go out of your way to talk to him and talk to him about things he is interested him and little things like, lean in and tell him things or any small physical contact thing. Even ask him to go see a movie with you and some friends, that way it is a group outing, which isn't too obvious, but he still knows you are interested in him..

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Q: Ohkayy.This boy ive been dating for 3 months has been lying 2 me a lot here lately but Im totaly in love with me.He tried 2 cheat on me a couple of timess.Well this boy I dated fer over a year cheated on me with sumbody and then just broke up with me.wel I never got over him I still love this boy more than ever.and he just called me last nightt.and told me he really liked me and wants 2 get back 2 gether.!Well i have no clue what 2 do I love them both very much.Do I stay with who Im with or this other boyy.?Im so confusedd......

If either of them is going to cheat on you then you probably shouldn't be going out with either of them. Though I know it is very difficult to get over people that you care about and love. If you want to get back together with your ex then maybe you should do that, but I advice staying away from guys that cheat and lie they are usually alot of trouble in the end.

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Q: by the time he even touched the outer sides of the vagina, his hands were all dry.... and the hymen still remains....its not broken yet.....v never had sex at all.....

Those little sperms have one job and that is to make it to the egg and sometimes even if they didn't enter you it can get inside there. It is a very small chance, but still a chance. I wouldn't be too worried just yet.

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Q: i'm not looking for songs about love...just sex..they can be about sex or just have a good beat i don't really care but i don't like r&b very much...rock and alternative rock and punk and stuff are good...i like things with a fast pace and dirty lyrics

k thanks

Lollipop by [I think] Lil' Wayne.
Make Love In This Clud by Usher.
Love Like Honey by Pretty Ricky.
In The Hotline also by Pretty Ricky.
Touch My Body by [I think] Rihanna.
Closer by Neyo.

There are a few good ones && they have some dirty lyrics haha.

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Q: do u know any lyrics or poems that explain this
"we argued like we were together
we changed for one another.
we were honest and we lied.
we were open to each other.
we had a guiding hand.
we never failed to be there.
we laughed and we cried.
we loved and we hated.
we put each other first when we say we didn't.
we climbed to the top.
we tried way too hard.
we did all we could."

i know thats a poem in itself.
but im trying not to make it obvious :-X
or can you reword it for me?
im unsure. heh thanks!

My tears run down like razorblades
And no, I'm not the one to blame
It's you ' or is it me?
And all the words we never say
Come out and now we're all ashamed
And there's no sense in playing games
When you've done all you can do

But now it's over, it's over, why is it over?
We had the chance to make it
Now it's over, it's over, it can't be over
I wish that I could take it back
But it's over

I lose myself in all these fights
I lose my sense of wrong and right
I cry, I cry
It's shaking from the pain that's in my head
I just wanna crawl into my bed
And throw away the life I led
But I won't let it die, but I won't let it die

But now it's over, it's over, why is it over?
We had the chance to make it
Now it's over, it's over, it can't be over
I wish that I could take it back

I'm falling apart, I'm falling apart
Don't say this won't last forever
You're breaking my heart, you're breaking my heart
Don't tell me that we will never be together
We could be, over and over
We could be, forever

I'm falling apart, I'm falling apart
Don't say this won't last forever
You're breaking my heart, you're breaking my heart
Don't tell me that we will never be together
We could be, over and over
We could be, forever

It's not over, it's not over, it's never over
Unless you let it take you
It's not over, it's not over, it's not over
Unless you let it break you
It's not over

It's Not Over by Secondhand Serenade

I don't know if this is what you looking for, but it kind of reminded me of that poem.
If you want some different kind of things just send me another question.

Q: Can you get pregnant while having sex during your period? I didnt have sex during mine, but im on yaz and im supposed to be getting my period today, but it hasnt come yet? But that has nothing to do with it.

Yes, it is possible to get pregnant on your period. The thought that you can't is a common misconception. It is a very small possibility, but a possibilty still yet.

http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/pregnantduringperiod.html

here is a link.

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Q: So I had a boyfriend, that i was extremely good friends wtih when i met him last august, well we talked alot and i always went to bed with a smile on my face after our conversations. He asked me out in the beggining of november and i couldnt have been more happier. he dumped me mid may because hes moving soon and didnt know if he wanted a girlfriend still. so he was known as the goofy player type. and i thought i had changed him from that, but the day after he broke up with me, he went back to his playerish self and was all over girls. now when he broke up wtih me over the phone, he told me he still wanted to be friends. now i see him at dances and gatherings like that, and its so awkward because he is all over everyone, and it hurts. the day after he broke up with me when i saw him, it was an awkward hi and hug, and my friends werent being that nice to him so i felt really bad. but i talked to him at it and he even got a bit teary eyed, but i didnt know if he actually cared or not. parts of me think he did and parts of me think he just wanted to make me feel better. well the day after that, i called him to make sure he was okay and he said yeah and that the question was if i was okay, and i said im alright, and im like i guess, i just felt really bad about how people were acting. well now its a month later, we had a dance, he was with this one girl and his one guy friend knew how i was feeling and told him later that night, so then my ex apologized and said he heard i had looked dissappointed and said he shouldn't have done that and asked if i was okay, and i told him he can do what he wants because i have no control over that, and i just dont move on as fast as others, especially because this is my first relationship. i saw him saturday, we hugged and said hi then when we were leaving he said bye and lifted me up, but i dont know. he was even trying to flirt, dance, and kiss my friends? im like oh thanks. i miss the friendship we had, and i feel like whenever we talk its awkward, or i have NO CLUE what to say. and i just want the friendship to be how it used to be. I feel like i have no time because hes moving in a month and a half. i feel like the more i cared the more i made it worse and the more pain i caused myeslf. people tell me i deserve better, but they don't know what i saw in him when i went out with him, it was when i was the happiest, if anyone could tell me what i should do, or how i should feel, it'd be really apreciated, i apologize for the length of this! lol

Well what other people think really has nothing to do and if you saw something and you cared about him then thats perfectly okay. As for getting your friendship back to the way it used to be I don't know if there is really a way for that to happen. After you date someone everything changes and things will never be the same. They could be good again but never the same. That could be a good thing.

I think the best thing for you to do is just move on, maybe even stay away from him because it is very painful to be around someone that you cared about and lost under measures out of your control. I'm not saying avoid him, just don't attempt to hang out with him and when you do see him just greet him as normal and go on about your business. It is going to be hard to get over him considering you said he was your first relationship and everything, but it will come and things will get better with time.

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Q: i have alot of stuff going on in life lately and i think that if i keep this going, imma hurt him more. and i ignored him for a while and i want to apologize, what do i do?
i know ignoring him is the wrong choice but i was so scared and confused...

I think the best thing to do is to explain to him that a lot of stuff was going on and that you were confused. Apologize for ignoring him and let him know that you really didn't want to hurt him. Communication is the best thing in everything.

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Q: heyy.
ok. here it goes.
theres this guy at work..angus..who i like and he apparently likes me. well he liked this girl at work Jose for ages and she had a boyfriend of 11 months. then he met me and he started liking me and jose dumped her boyfriend to go out with angus but angus was like 'I waited too long for you its too late i like ana now.'
and basically he just left her for me
and he did that to another girl before jose.
and now he likes me and hes full like Ana i love you blah blah and he hardly even talks to me.
and he wants to ask me out but all the girls at work are like Dont go out with him he is gonna screw you over and do what he did to jose he will just go off with another girl when he meets one and that he is a player etc etc and i told him about it and hes like Dont listen to them why would i do that to you etc etc
and the day before yesterday i went to visit him at work and he finished at 9 and so i went and came back at like 8:50 and then i asked the people where he was and the manager was like He left like half an hour ago and so i texted him and im like Yeah thanks .. full ditched mee. and so i told him to come yesterday at 3 before i start work and he was like okay and that morning i asked him if hes coming and he didnt reply so i just went at 3:40ish (i started at 4) and he was there with his mates. so i just went right past him.
then when i came out he was like Hey ana! and im like Hi thanks for telling me you were gonna come and hes like Im sorry ana please ana whats wrong .. ana i care about you. why are you angry at me..then hes like i promise i will come at 8 when you finish i promise blah blah. then he went away and then after i finished work i was waiting for my mum and he runs to me and goes to me ana im sorry for always dogging you ana please im sorry i really like you..you can think i dont like you but i really do. i love you ana i love you!
and then hes like i have to go somewhere with my mates
so basically i just saw him for like 2 seconds
how does he expect me to have a relationship with him when he NEVER has time for me? i basically only see him like 1 hour a week..
so i dont know what to do :(
xx

Well usually if a guy does something like that once and then ditches you a few times he isn't worth the time of day. I think your best bet would be to just get away from him. It doesn't sound like he appreciates you or deserves you for that matter. He sounds like the typical player and they usually don't change. Be smart and remember, play the game but don't get played by the player haha. [yes cheezy I know.]

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Q: Hi there.

Prom is on Saturday and I'm going in a limo with about 5 other couples and my single friend is coming with us too. She doesn't know anyone in the limo and neither do I, so I feel comfortable her coming. She's not like a really good friend of mine, I've only known her a few weeks.

Anyways, my boyfriend and her have been texting about prom just talking about what we're going to be doing and stuff. When I was looking on his phone I saw that he texted her saying, "What kind of dress are you going to get, I bet you're going to look real pretty!" and "I wouldn't mine escorting two FINE ass ladies to prom." He's MY boyfriend. Is that okay that he's talking to her like that? Because in my eyes it's not when I don't really know her that well.

Thanks.

If it makes you uncomfortable and you don't like the way he is talking to a girl, then no it is not okay for him to be acting that way. It really all depends on you and how you feel about his actions. If you don't like them then you should probably let him know that you don't appreciate him talking and flirting with other girls like that. I totally agree with you though and I wouldn't like my boyfriend talking to a girl like that.

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Q: I dont know how to break up with this guy! My friend dared me to date him, but it got out of hand... and i dont know what to do!
Should i tell him it was just a dare?
HELP!!!!!!
HELP!!!!!! he is driving me nuts and i dont know what to do about it
I dont want to hurt him
but i dont really like him...at all.in fact i hate him! i dont no how to break up!
i am leaving on may 20 so should i just stick it out until i leave?
once agian, HELP!!!!

Well you should try to be nice about it, but you still need to be to the point so he doesn't get any wrong ideas. Don't tell him it was a dare because that would probably really hurt his feelings, just let him know that you don't really have those types of feelings for him and you would much rather just be friends. Let him down easy, but let yourself go. I don't think you should wait until the 20th thats just longer that you would sorta be 'leading him on,' persay.

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Q: 16/f
alright so, ive been dating this guy for 2 1/2 months, and i dont love him is that normal? like.. if i dont love him by now should i brake up with him.. what would other people do? everyone around me is saying to brake up with him.. i do like him a lot i just dont love him..

thanks.

Well if you could love him or do you would probably know by now, but if you even think that you really like him and might love him then you should stay with him. But just because you don't like love him right away doesn't neccessarily mean you don't care about him and might love him, figure out how you feel then go from there and if you feel like you really have no feelings for him in that manner and you don't want to be with him then I say cut him loose.

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Q: is it possible to love someone who doesn't love them self? i have anorexia nervosa and though my boyfriend has told me he loves me almost every day for a year, i am not so sure that he can if i have such a hard time tolerating myself. i am afraid that he does not love me any longer.

You know what, yes I think so, but it is probably one of the hardest ways to love someone. If you don't love yourself then it is really hard for you to accept the fact that someone else could possibly care about you, when you see no reason for such a fuss. This makes it 10 times harder for them to love you because it is really really frustrating, but if he really loves you as much as it seems like he does and he wants to stay with you then it will work. But first you really really need to go talk to someone and learn how to love yourself, because if you never learn how to love yourself then you will never really know how to love another individual. Do it for yourself and your boyfriend, because you all could make it. I hope everything works out.

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Q: Do most guys really like having anal sex with their girlfriends? It just seems like my boyfriend wants that way more than "regular" sex. does that mean you are like loose or something? and what is the attraction? i think its pretty gross but let him sometimes just because he likes it.

No not neccessarily, some guys just like anal sex better than vaginal sex. It really just depends on the guy you are with, just like some girls like anal better. Be sure to let him know that you like vaginal sex and that he has to fulfill your needs also.

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Q: INLOVE?????
There's a difference between lust,like,love,and inlove.
Well I have 2 questions.
Is it possible to TRULY be in love at 14/15?
And 2......
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE IN LOVE???????

If you are in love then you will know. It is just an unexplainable feeling that you just know what it means. Some say it isn't possible but I think it really just depends on the person and their maturity level at that age. I think it is possible, but doesn't maybe happen often.

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Q: its almost 5 months for me and my bf-were both 15. and i think i love him and i want to tell him.but we both take saying "i love you seriously" so we havent said it yet. i really want to but some things he does are keeping me. like it seems like he likes music more then me sometimes-which he says isnt true (because hes a big musican).and we only get to see each other 1 a week becuase he lives 30 mins away. and i feel if were on the phone he'll sing and i feel like hes not listening-i'll even go "right?" and he'll go "right!" and i didnt even ask him anything...but when im with him i want nothing but to be with him, at school i cant stop thinking of him and i just wanna be in his arms..its just on the phone when were not together things are -off.but when im with him.i get that feeling like i wanna tell him i love him really bad.but i dont wanna tell him i love him and him not feel the same way-because i dont kno if he feels the same way-.idk what to do..what do you think i should do?

If you feel like you really love him and you want to tell him then by george let him know. I know how you feel about him caring about music more though, my boyfriend is a muscian and a machanic[sp] and he often is engulfed in them, but it's not that he cares about them more it's just that they are something he really really enjoys doing. I, as his girlfriend, have to kind of let him have that time and try to be interested and let him talk about them and do his thing with them. Yes, it's super hard sometimes and it drives you crazy but when you love someone you will do anything to make them happy, even if it means listening to hours of stuff you don't understand haha.

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Q: My best friend is a guy. He is amazing. I'm confused though because he wants to go to the next step in our "relationship". Sex. I think I want to, but I'm not sure. i've never done that before. What shouldI do. I'm scared. But I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to.

If you don't think you are ready and you have doubts then you probably shouldn't. You should never sleep with someone, especially if you a virgin, if you aren't completely positive you want to give that precious gift and trust to them. Do what your heart and gut tells you to, we can't tell you what to do only you know what you are ready for and what you want to do.

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Q: i like 3 guys and with all of them, somethings stoping us. one of us its age, one has a girlfriend and the other says he doesnt like me. (but theres reason to belivie that he does.) well im really sick of being single and i want to be with someone. and theres always some1 i can be with but thats just the point. i want to be with someone who also wants to be with me. and i want to be with them. not because of how i look but i am in the inside. and i think that that at least 2 of theses guys do. (btw if it helps, we are all friends but like none of them know eachother.

Thats good that you want to be with them because of the inside and not the outside, but if the guys tells you he doesn't like you then he probably doesn't want a relationship with you right now, not to be blunt. The other age can be a big issue at your age, but if you like someone you really can't help that. Just make sure that he respects the boundaries that you set and doesn't push you into anything you are unsure of. I would stay away from the one with the girlfriend because that will only cause drama, and you really don't want more of that if you can avoid it. In the end go with your gut and who you like most.

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Q: This is a bit long, but you have to understand the entire deal...

I was with living with this guy for 4 years. From the very beginning, we had problems getting along. I was in love with him at first, but over time, frustration built up, and my feelings began to die, and I finally built up the courage to tell him how I really felt (after months of what I thought were obvious hints.)

I finally kicked him out of my house a couple months ago, and at first, I said I wish we could be friends again. But, the moment I was nice to him, he assumed we're getting back together. So I started ignoring him. Then the text messages started. So I told him one day, that I wanted him to leave me alone, I had no interest in getting back together with him, and that it was time for him to move on. I just didn't feel the same for him anymore.

But the texts continued, and then the desperate, sad voicemails, then the emails all saying the same thing (I've changed! Give me another chance! I need you! I love you! What did I do wrong?). He's even gotten his sister and her boyfriend to bug me about it! And over the past month or two, he's just dropped by unannounced 4 times, one time coming in the back door when I didn't answer the front door. I thought if I just ignored him he'd go away, but things are just getting worse.

Aside from him calling me 5 times a day, his sister left me a text saying I had to talk to him because she was worried he was going to kill himself. And now, I think he started reading my email! (I've already changed my password) I never told him the name of a guy I was chatting with online, and I never called him a stalker to his face, but he's brought up both of those things in voicemails. Then, today, I got a notification that I requested my password on paypal, when I never did. That may not have been him, but it wouldn't surprise me if it were.

I'm starting to get really irritated, and a little concerned. I don't want to get a restraining order, because I don't think I'm in physical harm, but it's getting bad and I don't know how to deal with this anymore. Please help!

I totally understand what you are going through, my ex boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up because of the same reason and he searched the entire town for me and threatened to beat my friends up and then came to my house unannounced and wouldn't leave. He really wouldn't take the hint and it finally came down to me telling him that he was psycho, then he threantened to kill himself, so I called his parents and family and told them about it. He finally started to back off and get back on track, now we are able to be friends without any problems. Yes, he still sometimes brings up the past and tells me he misses me, but he cares about me enough to know when enough is enough.

Now I don't know how your ex is and how he will react, but he most likely isn't going to kill himseld, if he was he would be doing it not talking about it. You are really probably going to have to tell him to his face to back off, that he isn't in your life anymore and that if he keeps it up you will call the police, because this could escalate and cause you some major problems later in life. If he doesn't back off after that I suggest changing the locks on your house, your number, your email everything and the I would consider going to the police about it.

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