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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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hey my crush an i e-mail a lot, and he never sent me an email on my birthday yesterday..
so i dont wanna seem like a dominant chick, but i still wanna remind him that he forgot it!
so is there a kinda funny way to let him know..that will make it less like im yelling at him or what not.. like anyway of saying in a humorous way that "duude you forgot my birthday!!"

thank you for your replies.

Happy Belated :).
The easiest thing you can do is. Wow, it feels so great to be *age*. Then he'll be like, it was your birthday? And then you can take it from there. Hope I helped. Happy Summer ;)



-Brina

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hii. i was looking for some advice. i'm not sure if this is normal or not. but i've always disliked my body, i've always considered myself fat- even if everyone says i'm fine and its just muscle. but i constantly count all of the calories in my food. i'm extrememly self concious...and i wish i wasnt. once in awhile if i feel gross after i eat i'll purge it up. but it's not like i do it constantly. once in awhile i'll avoid eating but yet other days i'll eat regular. i don't weigh myself every single day.. but i'll stand infront of my mirror and point out my flaws and how gross i am. i think i'm the "fat" one in my group and i hate it because all of my friends are thin. do i have a problem or is this okay? help pleasse . thank you

Wow, horsegirls advice didnt help you one bit sweetie. Yes, this is a problem. You need to love your body. Hating it, doesnt make things better, exspecially taking care of it they way you are. You actually will become gross looking if you keep this up. Just because you purge a little bit, and only starve yourself some days, doesnt mean you dont have an eating disorder. Because this si the beginning of one. There are so many other ways to make you feel better about your body, your trying to take the easy way out. Its the easy way out, but not a good way. You need to take up jogging, eating healthy foods, looking things you can do online, going to a guidence counselor and sorting all of these things out. So what if your friends are skinnier then you, you shouldnt look at the people around you, worry about yourself. Deffinitly talk to someone about this. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, or a guidence counselor, feel free to IM me at MusicChick42891.

Hope I helped.
Happy SUmmer :)


-Brina

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Hi every1

i got my ears pierced in march this year (ear lobes)! I waited the 6weeks and then took them out! I also used the antiseptic spray morning and night for the 6weeks as recomended!
Now however if i leave earings out for longer than about 1/2 hour the back starts to close up!!! This has caused real problems with PE lessons at skl as i still have to put tape over them after all this time!! I look really pathetic and stupid!!!
What can i do to stop them closing up????? Please help me! I have to sleep, shower and even swim with them in because they close so quickly!!
It's a NIGHTMARE!!!
Please help me!!!!
Thanks a lot guys, really appriciate any advice on what i should do!!

Please send replies to horsegirl1919@hotmail.com

Thanks

Yeah, they say you can take them out after six weeks, but not totally out. They mean to switch them with hoops or some other earring. The back doesnt close up, a crust just forms because there new holes. I know, gross, but thats what it is. I've had to tape my ears for sports, its not biggy, the result will be of your ears looking awesome later when there all healed. Why would you think you look pathetic? Your just trying to take care of your ears. Deffinitly keep on cleaning your ears. Keep teh earrings in as much as you can. If you can, try to get post earrings and wear those to bed.

Hope I helped.

Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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i have these two pimples on my chin that are still under the suface of my skin. they are just red bumps. i just know that they are going to come out just in time for school and picture day!! so what can i do to make them go away before they come out?

Hmm. You need to get a loofa sponge {not a shower one, a face one} and oatmeal soap. You can find these at walmart, only for a total of like 6 dollars. Scrub your face in the morning, very softly. Then, rinse it with warm water. And PAT it with a towel, dont rub. Then, at night do the same thing. The next day, rub your face a bit harder and do the same process, etc.

Hope I helped.

Happy SUmmer :)


-Brina

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15/m I'd like advice from someone who has a sixpack and who worked for one, not a skinnypack. Well I used to have a six pack from just doing situps, but then I stopped and now you could call it a "undefined six pack." What are some good work out's to get one. And I'd like more of an answer than just, "Do sit-ups." If you say that, then at least say how long and for how long. Or maybe say what you did to get a sixpack. K gracias...

Well, you could still do sit ups, but heres some other stuff. Do supermans. lay on your stomach and hold your arms out and your legs out, without putting them down. Another one, lay on your back, and bend your legs to your stomach then stretch it out, without putting it down. Hope I helped.

Happy Summer :)

-Brina

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ok im 15 years old and i am having signs of being pregnant and me and mi bf never use condoms i know that doesnt help well like i've been getting lightheaded alot, tired quickly, breasts are tender, ankels are swolen, stomach hurts if u push on it, hungry... and like mi bf always pulls out and everything and ic ant tell by mi periods because its hereditary for me because wen mi mom and g-ma was pregnant they still had there periods and i know its rare but its hereditary for me too so i cant tell by that please help me!

Hmm, sorry to brake it to you, but your probably pregnant. Not using a condom was not very smart, no offense. Deffinitly take a pregnancy test of go to a health clinic. Just because your boyfriend "pulls out" , you might not feel it, but he still could have ejaculated. Theres many roads you can take with being pregnant.

1) You can keep the baby, probably will be very tough, considering your 15, wont be able to expierience your teenage years a lot.
2) An abortion.
3) Adoption.

Thats pretty much it. Hope I helped, and good luck. If it turns out your not pregnant, you and your boyfriend might want to use a condom.

Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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I love to fight, I love the adreniline rush and the pain thrills me, so heres the deal, Onn my hockey team we do these things called cage boxing matches which is basicly just boxing. The thing is, everyone on my team is pretty much afraid to face me. I even agreed to one where the kid could use a knife but he wussed out. so any ideas on how i can convince people to face me?

Hmmm. You can't really convince anyone to do something they don't want to yadda yadda yadda. Hm, lol, i'd have to say just wait until someone wants to. And, when you say fighting, do you mean like...getting into fights with people, or just punching and stuff? Because, you might want to join a gym and do some kickboxing to let your adreniline out. Pain thrills you...oh...thats interesting. Have your coach face you, or, you could ease up a bit, start not acting so tough during the matches, then, start being FIERCE. haha.Hope I helped. Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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ok, so i was going out with this guy for about 3 months (over the summer). while i was, i met this other guy and we really hit it off. We both liked each other, but whenever i thought of my boyfriend, i realized i had stopped liking him. so a few weeks passed by and school started. and as soon as i saw him, i started liking him again. what do you call that...? love or infatuation or what?

hmm, i wouldn't say love. Your a teen i'm assuming, your interested in different guys. But, as you know, you can only be with one at a time, unless you want to be mean to boyfriends by cheating on them. Hey, if you want to go out with this other guy, then go for it, no need to stay with another guy. Yeah, it could be "infatuation" {good use of word by the way}. You can like more then one guy, but you cant take it to that level of...relationship wise....Hope I helped. Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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okay...first off i am 20 years old and I am a virgin and dont plan on EVER having sex until after marriage, so any relationship I have will always be innocent. so now my question...

There is this guy, who really loves me, and whenever I am with him I feel great. He is like the perfect guy that every girl dreams of meeting. and I love him very much. The thing is he is only 16 years old. :S so I feel like its very wrong for me to have any type of relationship with him, other than friends.

he keeps telling me it doesn't matter how old I am, and he doesn't care. but i feel like its really really wrong. and i told him that once he turns 18-19 to call me up. i could tell it really hurt him, and i cant stand the thought of not being with him. :( have i completely lost my mind? please give me your opinion and advice. negative or postive, as long as your being honest. and please no jokes.

Hmm. You have to do what you feel is best. In my opinion, it would be best to wait a couple of years, since is younger, still in highschool, etc. he needs to focus on highschool. If he loves you like he says he does, he will call you up in a few years. Do whats best for you, if you think you two should wait a couple years, then wait, if you dont want to, then you don't need to. People might say stuff, but, it doesnt matter, as long as you dont have sex.Hope I helped! Happy Summer :)

-Brina


P.S- My advice is always positive, and honest never negative :)

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Some background information.
I am 16, going to be a Junior in High School.
She is 17, maybe 18, and going to be a senior at another High School.

I asked her to a movie, she agreed to go. We went, grabbed some food after, and I dropped her off at home. Now, I saw her today and she just didn't really seem interested in being around me. This got me thinking about what she thought about me, which made me wonder if she thought we were just going as friends. I'm wondering if she thinks we are dating or not. If not, should I just ask her, or is there another way?

Thanks in advance.

Yeah, just ask her. Most likely she's probably thinking the same thing you are. Theres nothing else to do but go up to call her or meet her somewheres and just ask her straight up if it was a date you went on. If she says it wasn't, oh well for her, and if she does, then you two should go on another date...yeah. lol. Hope I helped. Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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Does anyone know how egg affects a car's paint job? My car was egged about a week ago and when it happened, I only noticed it on the right side so I cleaned it and everything. But today I noticed it was on the back of my car as well.


When I cleaned all the week old egg off (which took forever and a day), I noticed that the paint under the egg/shells was cracked and pealing. I was soooo pissed off. But, can egg really do that? I KNOWWW the paint wasn't like that before.


Sorry for any typos, I'm in a hurry.

Yeah, it actually can do that. It has something in it that does that, i'm not sure how, but my grandpa {he owns a car garadge} knows stuff about that, and told me one time that eggs can affect the paint job. I suggest, get a paint job on the spots, or find some type of cleaner for it.


Hope I helped. Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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I am a fourteen year old with a problem. A few months ago I decided not to play water polo at my high school I attend. The reason why is that the coaches were asking me to tell jokes at the conditioning practices before the season. If I did not tell a joke, the other kids at the practice had to swim more laps. I refused to tell the jokes, and the kids were kind of angry at me. I felt humiliated.

I played water polo for many years and then made the decision I did not want to play. Then the coaches called my parents and told them that they could not understand my decision.

My family is a big water polo family and I still feel that they are angry at me for not playing. I cannot take it any longer. Can anyone offer me any advice? Was I wrong for quitting?

No, you weren't wrong, but this could have went better, then you quitting something you like. You don't have to do anything that you don't want to, such as doing what the coach wanted you to do, considering its totally not even about the sport. Tell your parents that you felt pressured to do something you didnt want to. I would have sat the coaches down, and told them why i didnt want to do that. Hope I helped. Good Luck. Happy Summer :)


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alright well my boyfriend and i have been getting very serious about our relationship. and we havent FULLY had sex yet but i mean hes gotten to my downstairs with his without a condom. he knows how to control his cum so i trusted him. my cherry hasnt been popped yet either..so i guess im still pretty virgin...but what i was wondering was like do you think even though my cherry has not been popped (atleast i dont think so because i havent bled like everyone says you do) something could happen?

Yes something could happen. You two could get carried away, and even if he thinks he can control his ejaculations there could be a time, when he cant, which probably might happen. Always always always, practice safe sex. Evidently, theres no telling you now that you shouldnt because you could get pregnant and such. But, you can start right now, practicing safe sex by using a condom, birth control, etc. Your probably not a virgin. Your "cherry" doesnt need to pop to be unvirginized. If you had intercourse with him, then your not a virgin. Sometimes women don't bleed after having intercourse. I suggest, have your boyfriend start using a condom. Its not too late to practice abstinence. Hope I helped. Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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Ok heres the deal. I've gone to private school since 1st grade except for one time at the beginning of 6th and I switched back to private later that year. I left bc the work was too easy and I didn't fit in, I was really quiet. Now I'm not as shy. Now I HATE my private school it's 25 minutes away and they all have more money that me and I don't like most of the kids! Also, there's only 12 kids total in my grade! I'm going to a public highschool and private's a lot differnt. My mom talked to the public schools new principal and he said he'd put me in a more challenging class that fits me and they would give me more work if I needed it. The only thing is my mom's the secretary at my private school and I don't know if I should leave her cause I'd feel bad and she tells me don't worry it might work out better. The only reason I would stay at my private school is bc it's my 8th grade year and we get class trips that are fun. Yet, at my private school we only have a few teachers, we have 3 main teachers and thats it. I hate one of them too. I know a few people at my public school and they tell me I should go to their school. I'm still afraid I won't fit in at public though? What school would u choose. Thank u!!!

Definitly the public one, but thats only my opinion. Of course you don't want to hurt your moms feelings, but she'd probably want to see you challenged and not given easy things to do, because you can handle things better later in life. Yes, public school has its ups and downs, more people, more teachers, mean people, nice people, fun activities and clubs. But, you'll fit in, like you said, you have some friends there, which is an excellent way to start a school that you've never been to. That way, they can show you the ropes of it. Do what you think is best for your learning, and teenage life expierience. Hope I helped. Happy Summer :)



-Brina

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whats the QUICKEST way to loose weight beore augest 18!!? please help me i no i'm getting fat and idk what to do!! i'm thinking about aneroxicaa b/c it seems like the quickest way but idk you tell me

Anorexia, isn't the only quick way to loose weight. And, it is extremely unhealthy. You could die. Instead of looking to loose weight, look to be healthy. Once your healthy {Cholesterol, blood pressure, etc.} that should take about a week to take care of, by eating healthy, maybe cutting meals into smaller porportions, but still eating a healthy amount of food.Start jogging, and doing situps. Stay away from snack foods. Make sure you have lots of protein. If you have eggs {protein}, have 2 whites and 1 yolk. Fruits and veggies are very good for dieting. By sticking to a healthy diet, you should be able to loose 10 pounds by august 18. And, you'll be healthy. Anorexia and any other dangerous way to loose weight, you should stay away from, why? because they are DANGEROUS! Hope I helped.

Happy Summer :)


-Brina

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I'm a plus sized girl, and I'm fine with that but finding clothes is hard for me. I was wondering if anybody could tell me some cool sites or stores, besides Torrid or Lane Bryant, that sell plus sized clothes. I have no price preferance.

Hey, deffinitly Oldnavy. They have tons of stuff. If you don't have one near you, you could just go to the website.

www.oldnavy.com


Hope I helped. Happy Summer :)



-Brina

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14/female
okay me and my boyfriend have been ggoing out for a month and 7 days. we live right up the street from each other and we make out all the time and he has doe other stuff to me than kiss me( if u know what i mean) and we r still virgins though bt anyways he wants me do do more i think i might know what he wants me to do but im just to scared to make the move what do i do????

You shouldnt try to make any move. You are 14 years old! If you do decide to have SEX, you need to make sure you are ready in case you get pregnant. And, at the age of 14, I dont think you are. If your too scared to make a move, your deffinitly too scared to have sex. You've been together a month and 7 days, and your relationship is going really fast. My best friend and her boyfriend, who are 16 and 15, started MAKING OUT when they were 3 months together. So, maybe this guy is rushing things a bit. And, You probably didnt like my advice at all, and I'm sorry. I'm just trying to help you understand about the precautions and stuff. If you didnt like my advice, dont rate me. Happy Summer.


-Brina

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well i went out with this guy for like a year. and then he dumped me. i still dont know why. and i really loved him. i truely believed that we were gonna get married and have kids and that stuff. so anyway, i loved him so much and he dumped me. it has been 7 months and i have been asked out by countless guys from my school, and i rejected them all because i miss this guy so much. i just dont know what to do!!! im still not over him and its really hard to go out with someone without thinking he will break my heart too. someone help me!!!
~HexGirl~

This is normal. But, you can't let something like that stop you from meeting new guys, because if you do, you wont have a fullfilling relationship, and you probably wont be happy, because you'l always be thinking in the back of your head he's going to dump me. Yes,its horrible that a guy you loved broke up with you, but now, theres nothing you can do, but get out there and date new people. Your still in school, your ex might not have been looking to get married in the future. You have tons of time to find Mr.Right. Hope I helped. Happy Summer :)



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Back in September, I got my second peircings in my ear. I went the 6 weeks with the starter earrings in, but then I lost them. I bought a pair identicle to them, but now whenever I wear them my ears hurt so badly, and puss comes out when I squeeze them.

I clean them with special earring cleaner, and I clean out my hole everytime I wear them, and I`ve tried different types like, gold, and different karats. But no matter what I do, my ears can`t stand wearing anything in those second holes! What should I do?

Deffinitly continue to clean it. Try using rubbing alchol to clean it. Also, you might want to go to a jewler, and get their opinion on it, ask them what they suggest. Sometimes, pus normally comes out, because its healing, in a good way. But, if its excessivly coming out of your ear, deffinitly go to a doctor. Or, instead of doing what i said first, go straight to a doctor. lol. Hope I helped, happy summer :)



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Ok this might sound stupid but i wanna know if this is normal. sometimes if i hear a song that i really really love it makes me want to cry, i think just becuase its so beautiful and i feel so deep, its kind of disturbing. for me its enjoy the silence by depeche mode, and lacuna coil covered it, i like that one just as much.

So is this normal? It might be becuase music is such an important part in my life? Thanks.

Yeah, its totally normal. The same thing happens to me, except I don't cry...but I also dont listen to rock, i listen to movign music like jazz and big band. But, its deffinitly ok to get emotional when you hear a fantastic song. Hope I helped. Happy Summer. And if you want some good songs, just ask me :)


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