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hey i have a question 4 u! i'm 14 n i'm a freshman in hs, there is dis cute guy in ma class and i have a crush on him. I THINKK he likes me too but i'm not sure, do u kno any signs dat i should look out 4 if he likes me? and if he doesnt like wat could i do 2 make him like me?

~lost n confused!

Heres some signs:

- you catch him staring at you ( also whenever you go to move somewhere he watches you like the whole time )

- whenever you look over at him and catch him looking, he darts his head away

- he flirts with you whenever he talks to you

- he tries to show off infront of everyone whenever your standing right there

- he smiles at you alot

- he might compliment you on your outfit or hair or something

- whenevers he's talking to you he might touch your arm or touch you in some way ( the flirting thing again haha )

...just look out for some of those! Well, you really can't MAKE a person like you. You have to have him like you for who you are. I find that sad whenever girls completley change their whole personalities just for some guy that might not even like them. They could hate the stuff they hate, but if their crush loves it, they suddenly love it. Just be honest with him and be yourself and if he doesn't like you for who you are ; he doesn't deserve you. I hope I helped!


Love,
MELii

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Heyy. How are thinqzs ? ii noticed uu have really qood advice to qive people. Wellll, toniqht ii wazs at aa football qame wid my clique which izs aa bunch of boys who are just " friendzs " ii mean we flirt alotttt but chea` i`m 13 and aa female and there thizs niqqa datzs 15 and ii wazs with him all niqht. Huqqinqq, Kissinqq, Feelinqq on eachother and i`m qettinqq feelinqzs for him. ii deff. dont want to because hezs muh homeboi but ii mean him he just makezs me feel way different. ii mean not asz aa lonqq term relationship but like maybe aa fxck buddy or somethinqq l0L. i`m qettinqq deeper feelinqzs for him as the dayzs qo by and ii dont kno how to tell him. Everyone jokezs around askinqq if we like eachother and we both say " no " but i`m just playinqq ! ii really like him..no lie! ii just wanna know what to do? Do ii tell him or just keep the feelinqzs to myself? How do ii handle iht if he happenzs to say no? Pleazse help. Thanxx

Well first: aw thanks.. I try to give the best advice I can, and I hope I can do that with you lol

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First off i'm 14 f, and there is this guy in my IPC class(15m), and i think that i like him, and lately he has been talking to me and flirting with me ALOT. Like today for instance he was talking to his friends and i was talking to my friends, and he goes man i wish the beautiful little lady in the abercrombie shirt would turn around and join our conversation... and his friend snapped him with a rubberband and he was like owww... and looked at me and started talking to me about it like i was his best friend... He is really nice to me and stuff, and i want to know if theese are signs of him flirting with me or something?!?!
Please Help
xo

Yeah it sounds like he's flirting with you!! =D so just try to get to know him better, and see how you feel about him, and then maybe ask him to hang out sometime. Flirt with him a little -- see how he reacts. If he flirts back, then keep doing it. If he doesn't, well then you obviously know he doesn't feel that way for you ( but I'm pretty positive he does ) and just shrug it off and go back to normal. Who knows? You two might go out! I hope I helped & good luck!



Love,
MELii

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well my frend told me she smokes andim not sure if i should try caus she brings trhem to skool sometimes and i dont know if i should try !!!!!!!!

You shouldn't try. I mean your probably thinking," Oh just once." well just once could lead to hooked. And just think of what could happen. Future lung cancer, getting that hole thing in your throat, yellow teeth, you get weaker, so many more things. So I mean to try it or not is your decision, but I just want to warn you of the consequences of what could happen. So the main point, I don't think you should. I mean some of my friends have tried, and they said it was disgusting. So, it's basically your choice. I hope I helped!


Love,
MELii

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i suck at spanish. can you help me?????

kel

i'm sorry i can not help you, for i take German. Good luck

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yo dawg.. well i am friends with a lot of different people. and my two good friends seem like there pushing me away and all they wanna do is be with them! and not me and i just dont know what to do and she is myneighbor so i cant just stop talking to her. and my other good friend isnt talking to them any more.! and should i follow her lead and just stop. but i mean i like them but when they arent to gether!!! what should i do



BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

wait im confused by this question...who do your two good friends wanna be with? all the friends your talking about are confusing me, so would you please IM me at MELii x MARiiE and re-explain this to me? And it'd be easier just to talk to you there also. Thanks.



Love,
MELii

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Hey guys,
I didn't even put this in the right category, but oh well. I was wondering if any of you guys had a myspace, because my cousin just recently made me one and I have no clue on what to do with it. I know you get friends and leave comments and shit, but I was wondering how you add like a survey on it. Say for example the survey gives you questions like chocolate or vanilla, burger king or mcdonalds, coke or pepsi, etc. I really want to know how to be able to take a survey and put it on my myspace. If there's someone that really knows a lot about dealing with a myspace, then please let me know. I appreciate all the help I can get. I also don't have a whole lot of friends on it because I'm a big loser, so if anyone wants to be my friend I'll add them to my myspace.Thank you so much! :-)

Okay, well all you need to do is click on "TAKE THIS SURVEY" and you know, take it. And then at the bottom, there should be like a code to copy and paste into your myspace. So just copy the code and go to your myspace and paste it at the very top of your ABOUT ME section. To get a survey, use the one in my myspace =)

www.myspace.com/meliixmariie

& i would love to be your friend, so just send me a request!! =D I hope I helped!



Love,
MELii

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Alright so on friday this guy asked me out and i said yes..everyone said that he was self-centered and immature..i didnt believe them..but now i know why people don't like him. HE IS A FREAKING STALKER!!!! I have a stalker boyfriend. Every second he gets he spends it around me. He is always waiting for me before school starts..hes always at my locker..hes always looking for me in the halls and hes always trying to be by me. I need freaking space! So, now i wanna break up with him. But my friend (who went out with him last year/during summer) said that she broke up with him and she told him she wanted to break up because he was immature and she didnt like him anymore..and now whenever he see's her he says "slut slut slut" and I dont want him to do that to me but i definately want to break up with him. But how?! I need a good reason and I dont know what?! I think Im going to write him a note. Is that a good idea? What do i say in the note? When should i give it to him - before,during, or after school? I really really really appreciate your help you have no idea how much!!! PLEASE ANSWER ASAP!!!!!! THANKS!

Ok, first of all : Are you positive you want to break up with him? Think of it, becuase he doesn't sound really stalker-ish, like he does, but not a bad one. It just sounds like he wants sto be around you and cares about you. Before you break up with him, just try talking to him first. Explain to him that you need some space and some time to be by yourself and everything. That you love how he's always around you, it's just sometimes a persons gotta be alone, ya know? ( or something like that ) if he gets like REALLY upset about it or something, then maybe be like," Well then maybe we should break up. Even though I don't want to, I need my space.." ( or something like that ) and just explain how you want to be friends still and you don't want him calling you slut like he did with that other girl. But if you are positive you want to break up with him already, then yeah a note might be a good idea. Takes away the fear of doing it to his face. Maybe just let it say everything I said up above. And it'd probably be best to give him the note before school. So then he's not around you all day and making you feel guilty or anything. I hope I helped! If you wanna talk more, just IM me! MELii x MARiiE.



Love,
MELii

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hey its the same girl with the boyfriend question and i just wanted to say that you helped alot and ive decided to stay with him..but now i have another question whenever we talk like on the phone and stuff and in person he never says i love you or anything and im afraid to say it cause im not sure if he'll say it back..what does it mean that hes not saying it even though we're going out?

No problem, glad I could help. I really can't remmeber your problem that well ( because I get other similiar problems, so they're all a blur lol ) so if I say anything wrong or something, just don't mind it. =) I might suggest IMing me about this also. MELii x MARiiE. =) anyways :

Well has he told you he loves you before? Because if he's not anymore, then maybe he's having some doubts about the relationship. But if he's never said it yet, then he just might not be ready to say " I love you ". Saying those three words is somthing very important and should be said if you really mean it. He also just might be sccared just like you.. he might be scared you won't say it back. Just try doing something for him. Make him a dinner or something and as your talking just be like," Well the reason for this dinner is because I need to tell you something. I just wanted to let you know that I love you." ( or something like that ) Remember ; you can always IM me for some more help!! MELii x MARiiE ...
=D I hope I helped!




Love,
MELii

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Ok,well i am 12 years old. i have a "job" and i get 80$$ a month. i think that i deserve a cellphone but my mom is so unresonable!!! any help for me???







I would just explain to your mom about responsible you are. Tell her if you are 12 years old and can handle a job, you can handle a cell phone. Maybe even try and bargain. Tell her if you go over like the minute limit or something, she can take the phone away/ground you from it or something. Or maybe suggest if she buys the phone, you'll pay the bills or if she pays the bill, you'll buy the phone or something. Just try picking up some slack around the house and help your mom out to show that you are responsible enough to handle a cell phone. And BEG lol. ( took me a year to get one ) I hope I helped!




Love,
MELii

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so on friday this guy that i liked asked me out and i said yes. when people found out about it some people said i could do much better than him and that they dont like him because hes self-centered..he didnt come off that way to me..so i guess what im asking is should i stay with him?

well who cares what other people think? That's their opinion. What's your opinion of him? Do you like him? Do you want to date him? Then do it. You shouldn't let other people's opinions decide your life, you should. I mean, he could be the greatest boyfriend in teh world for all you know, and you wouldn't know because of some stupid stuff others said. So yes, you should defientley stay with him. Next time someone says that, just be like," Well he isn't like that with me, so just say whatever you want, it's not changing anything." ( or something like that ). I hoep I helped!



Love,
MELii

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ok so this guy that i really really like just broke up with his g/f of about all summer! =] so..i really like him but one problem..hes super popular and im not all that popular..but im pretty popular..i used to hang out with that group but we kinda drifted apart of the summer so im 3/4 popular out of (1/4=nerds 2/4=sluts 3/4 pretty, popular people and 4/4=GORGEOUS SUPER POPUPLAR PEOPLE!) so the guy i like is 4/4 and im 3/4..do we have a chance of going out? if so how....??? please help! thanks

Well I totally think you guys have a chance of going out! I don't think it should have anything to do with popular or not. If you like someone, who cares? I mean, if he's like that, then maybe you shouldn't date him. =/ but anyways, how? Well just:

-smile at him. Not like a big weird one, just a nice smile occasionally.

-flirt. See how he reacts. Flirts back ; possibly might like you or have some feelings of some sort. If he doesn't.. obviously, you know the answer, and I'd suggest to stop right there and just pretend you don't like him or something.

- maybe have your friends/his friends find out who he likes. =) or just ask him yourself. Just be like," Hey, who do you like? " *haha* chances are, he won't tell, so don't worry if he doesn't.. because if it is you, then he def. won't probably!!

-just be yourself. He should like you for the girl you are =)

.. i hope i helped!




Love,
MELii

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omg this is driving me nuts!! where can i find livejournal layouts besides createblog.com they suck! thanks i really appreciate it!

I'm sorry ; I've never done anything with livejournal before in my life.. so I have no idea. Sorry =(


Love,
MELii

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i was looking at your xanga and i love it! so i was wondering..where did you get your layout? please dont tell me createblog.com ive looked there and i dont really like any of the layouts =/ thanks in advance

Aww thanks so much! =D Well I can't remember the name exactly ( cause I've had that layout for awhile now ), but I think it's:

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=sunkissedlays

..if not that, just go to my site, scroll down to the box I think under my music playlist, and it should say something like," SITE MADE BY: SUNKISSEDLAYS" or something like that, so you can just click that. I hope I helped!



Love,
MELii

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ok so i was talking to my friend and i like his friend who is a grade above us..and he was saying how his friend that i like talked about me and thought i was obsessed with him! and im totally not - i dont even know his own birthday! can you say embarassing that he thought i was obsessed with him?! i can!! not to mention it left me totally heartbroken!! what do i do? or how can i move on and get over him?? your help is greatly apreaciated

Well you know how whenever you listen to a song and then it gets stuck in your head for like, EVER and that's all you can think about? Try that. Get him outta your mind by putting something else in there. Try doing a hobby you like and preoccupying yourself. Or maybe evne try looking for a NEW hobby. Or just busy yourself with friends and homework,etc. Or, just try going cold-turkey, and just not think of him ( but that might be kinda hard ) anyways, just blow it off and forget about it. Don't even talk about him. Then maybe'll he'll realize your over him and not think that your obsessed anymore! ( this is what exactly happened with my friend before.. except she was called a stalker ) I gotta go. IM me later at MELii x MARiiE.




Love,
MELii

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ok so this year im in 8th grade and a whole bunch of people just transferred to our school and my best friend *nikki transferred to my school and she can be really bitchy..well i used to popular ( i still have like 80% out of 100%) and she kind of ignores me when she around my still kinda popular friends..how do i get back in the crowd?!

signed
wishing to be popular again

( I didn't fully understand some of the stuff you said, but I'm gonna answer what I THINK your saying, so if it's not correct, please just IM me at MELii x MARiiE )

Well just start talking to everyone! Be a part of the crowd, they won't want you back in the crowd, if you don't act like you want to. What happened to the other 20%? Just lost touch with them? Try talking to them again and becoming their friends again and just be nice. After awhile, they might realize how mean this Nikki girl is being and kinda start not being her friend anymore. That's really not nice of her to just IGNORE you.. I mean, that's not a best friend. You should also talk to her about that and see whats up with that.. cause then maybe'll she'll be nice to you again and you'll get more in the crowd again. I hope I helped!




Love,
MELii



P.S. Remmeber.. just IM me at,
MELii x MARiiE =D

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hey i was wondering..do you have a myspace? if so whats the link for it? Also i have a myspace and i can never find any good layouts. where's a site where i can get good layouts?

yes ; im currently in the process of trying to make one myself ; so i still don't understand everything yet, so i might not be a HUGE help. But the site to go there is

http://www.myspace.com

and im not sure exactly where to find a good layout, I haven't seen any yet...please IM me, and whenever I find one, I'll let you know! =D



Love,
MELii

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i really like this guy. we r frendz and all but i wanna take it to the next level. How should i let him kno this w/o like reuining our frendship. i think he likes me but i cant be sure. he drinks after me all the time and he hugs me all the time too. on thurs. he asked me if i needed a kiss but i told him no bc we were in a huge group of ppl. plus... i was crying. so... how should i let him know that i like him w/o reuining our frendship?? im 14/f

It seems to me like he likes you, and I think you should go for it! I mean, even if you two ever did break up.. you guys could still be friends. It's totally possible. Me and my best guy friend went out and then we broke up, and now it's like it never happened and everything's just like it was before ( which I am so happy about ).. so just maybe sometime ask him," Hey, who do you like?" or maybe ask your friends/his friends. And maybe try hinting and be like,"I like someone, he's someone you know.." and then maybe try telling him then. If he says no, then just be like," oh.. well can we just stick to being friends?" I hope I helped!





Love,
MELii

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hi everybody, this is a long one but i really need your help. ok so theres this guy that i know and he is like 19 or 20ish and im 16. and ever since i first saw him i thought he was like super hot! and so one day a couple of my friends told him that i thought he was really hot. and then they asked if he thought that i was cute and he said " ya shes definatly hott" and i was right there so i heard him say it and everything. and ever since then he would like sort of half way flirt with me and say like your really cute and stuff. but he hasnt asked me out or asked for my number or anything. so i was thinking maybe hes just, you know playing with me. but then i was talking to some of his friends and they were telling me he was talking about me and i asked what he said but all his friends would tell me is it was nothing bad. and sometimes when im around him i would sneek looks at him but i would already see him looking at me first (does that make sense?) so i dont know what to do because i reallllly just cant stop thinking about him but its been like a month and nothing has happened. i dont really see him that much though, i use to see him like maybe 2 to 3 times a week during the summer since July-ish but now i mayyybe see him once a week. but no other guy i talk to compares to him. so does he like me or do yall think hes just playing me and what should i do about this? if you answer seriously i'll rate high!! thanks yall!

o ya and hes not like some stuck up college guy, hes kinda...geekish which isnt normal for me to like but people told me i was like the hottest and nicest girl to ever like him.

It does sound to me like he does like you.. he just might be catious because of the age difference. Because it's illegal to date a minor, and he might be afraid of getting in trouble or something..I know you probably don't want to, but if you want something to happen, you might have to make the first move here. Just go up to him and be like," Hey, your friends said you like me. I like you too. Wanna go out?" ( lol or something like that.. I've never asked anyone, so I don't know ) he could just be shy to. I hope I helped!




Love,
MELii

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Is there something you need to put on your hair before you straighten it or curl it?

you don't HAVE to, but sometimes before you straighten your hair, its good to put some gel in it so it lasts longer..but other than that ; no. And for curling, you def. need to spray hairspray on right after you curl it ( for me I need to put the hairspray on my hair right BEFORE I curl it, otherwise it comes out in like 2 seconds ) I hope I helped!




Love,
MELii

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