15/ Female
My crush Kyle S (14-15) & I are friends of 2 years, he made it very clear to me last December that he didn't want me his exsact words were: "I don't like you that way, I'm sorry. I'm not ready for a girlfriend, I only wanna be friends." It was pretty hard on me, but kinda of exspected I'm not skinny at all- so I felt it was gonna be like that. Around Febuary though he just became so... Polite! A true gentleman. Everyone says we'd make a cute couple. Just last month he told me "I like a LOT of girls here." we were at are usally spot the bowling alley when he said that he also told me he 'liked' my semi-close friend Lidia (13). I've been told he's a player... I think he went a little over board (at prom) a few days ago. I asked him if we could go as friends he said yes- then asked Lidia the day after I asked him! Of course, her not knowing I asked said yes. The danced togther almost every slow dance- my friend Sara (12-13) even sabatoshed me! She told Lidia I would kill her for saying yes- which is SO untrue, I hate violence! Sara always implies I need to shut the hell up when he's brought up "You can't controll who people like, or if people like them back." Lidia hates the thought of even hugging him! I don't know what to do- a bonus my close friend Seth (17-18) I think might just 'like' me... Intristing thing is the same day I asked Kyle S to prom- I was going to hang with Seth while on the way there I ran into his oldest of his younger siblings Kyle H (13) and his buddy said as I was walking by "Kyle 'likes' you." I decide since I was tried & fustrated anyway to hit on the head with my so called 'two-ton brick'- Seth said he was just joking around. But I don't know, Kyle H won't say anything when people call him gay (which 99% of those people is me [Seth has 4 brothers, 3 sisters]). I think I might be over Kyle S but I can't stop thinking about him- Seth will oddly enough listen to me... What should I do about all of this mess? -Kaori
Kyle S sounds like a total jerk. Similarly, Sara sounds like no friend at all. A good friend wouldn't try to start problems or expect you not to talk about boy troubles. I would drop these two people out of my life in a heartbeat, if I were you. They don't sound like good friends at all.
Unfortunately, Kyle S just doesn't like you like that. It's been made very clear. He's a total jerk for asking Lidia to prom after he already said yes to you. That's just one more reason for you to move on. You deserve and can find better.
I don't know if you're implying that you like Kyle H or what. You made a point to say that Kyle H's friend said that Kyle H liked you. That makes me think that you might like him too. I can't see any other reason that you would mention it. But you also say that Seth listens to you at the end.
My advice to you would be as follows: Get away from Kyle S and Sara. They're no good. Summer break is the perfect time to distance yourself from people without making it bluntly obvious. Just stop calling/texting/hanging out with them gradually. They'll get the point and by the time school starts again in the fall, they'll be far enough away to not bother you. By not calling/texting/seeing Kyle S, you'll make it a lot easier on yourself to get over him, too.
As far as Seth and his little brother go. It depends if you like Seth's little brother. They're both 2 years different in age from you. I think Seth is looking good right now. He's the one that listens to you. He sounds like he's fairly sweet and you mentioned that you think he may like you. If you like him too, I say go for it.
Darby(:
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15/ Female
I'm curious if I can well have sex... Or kids... I wanna try so bad... But I haven't even dated anyone yet... My only real goal is to have a family... Lately, it's been bugging me that I might not get the chance... I've had my period for 3 years- since Feb. I thats happened is spotting... I know it hasn't exsactly regulated, but does that mean something? It's been harder than normal to get have my own babies/kids outta my head. I've been getting strange dreams/nightmares involving such- I get pregnant lose the baby basiclly... Am I just getting worked up over nothing? I'm at a lost here, any suggestions? Help would be greatly appreeshated.
-Kaori
Don't think that just because you're fifteen and haven't been in a relationship yet, you won't get an opportunity to have kids. At the age of fifteen most people haven't been in serious relationships. You shouldn't get yourself worked up over not having the chance to have kids right now. Don't try to have sex or have kids just to prove to yourself that you can.
It's great that your goal is to have a family, but don't rush it. I'm guessing your ideal family includes a family, a decent house, and well-fed, healthy, happy children. At your age, you can't afford a baby. You can't move out on your own because there is no way for you to sign a lease on an apartment or house. Also, you don't have a boyfriend, let alone a serious, committed boyfriend. Give yourself some time. Things as important as family and kids can't be rushed.
Your period should be fairly regular by now. Just because you're spotting doesn't mean you're going to have a miscarriage when you do get pregnant though. It just means that you need to talk to your family doctor or a gynecologist to see what can be done to regulate it. I think you are getting yourself too worked up. You're going to have plenty of opportunities to get in serious relationships and have kids. Just do it when you're older, have a job, have money, and have a committed relationship.
Darby(:
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my friend thinks she is fat and guys always make comments about her being fat also. what do you think?
http://i159.photobucket.com/albums/t146/aliraelovesyou/1234456.jpg
I don't think she's fat. She looks about normal to me. She could tone up a little, but it's not a big deal. She's by no means overweight.
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Ok so like am a Bisexual and i have this friend is bi-ish but like i really like her and i don't know what to say like i think she might like me back just by the things she says damn you look hot in that pic or somone asks about me and she says am tappin that @$$ all night long or am taken and they ask by who and she says my name. But like when me and her talk about it shes like i just don't want to hurt me and hers friendship andcause we are really close and i want to say i like her A LOT but i don't want to hurt our friendsheip so should i tell her just to have it out in the open or just bottle it up?
i have had sex with girl but she hasn't but she has make out with girl cause she is like making out is making out
It sounds like she's interested. I think you should tell her how you feel, but not all the way. You shouldn't bottle up your emotions, but you shouldn't go all out and say, "Yo! I like you A LOT!" You know what I'm saying? You want to make it casual while still getting your point across.
Tell her that lately you've been crushing on her a little bit. Don't make it seem like you're totally obsessed or like she's all you've been thinking about. Even if it's so, you don't want to damage your friendship by going too far with it.
You two have talked about it before and she's said that she doesn't want to hurt the friendship. Maybe she doesn't know how you really feel about her and she doesn't want to hurt the friendship by fully opening up about how she's feeling.
At any rate, just try to bring it up casually when you're together in private having a deeper conversation. Don't just spring it on her out of nowhere. Make sure that she gets that you do like her, but that you also understand that neither of you want to mess up the friendship.
By being open and leaving it as a sort of open-ended statement, she should feel more comfortable to at least talk about pursuing something more. Let her know that you care about your friendship and that no matter what, you're not going to stop being her friend.
Good luck
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i'm 15..female..
this summer i'm doing some modeling..and i really want my makeup to look good..of course. (:
i have pitch black hair..and dark green eyes..kinda like the army color green.. here's a picture...
http://s635.photobucket.com/albums/uu73/shelbyshine/?action=view¤t=2809_1091898570867_1028580305_30342.jpg
what are some good makeup look's that i can use that would go good with my eye color, hair color, and skin color?? pictures, video's, or just idea's will be great! thank you!
You should try the 'smokey eye' look. It would really bring out your green eyes and look cute with your dark hair and lighter complexion. (:
Here are some pictures:
http://www.facemaker.ca/smokyeyemakeupimage.jpg
http://celebritycatch.tv/wp-content/uploads/pxHilaryDuffDignityPhotoshoot6.jpg
http://www.1000looks.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/smokeyeyes.jpg
http://www.kissandmakeup.tv/temptalia-thumb.jpg
http://makeupinspiration.files.wordpress.com/2008/11/lamb2.jpg
Here are some videos that show step-by-step how to do it:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=voCgQrAJfJo
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RD6dFEVjkS8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5OKvWCoZG8
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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im going to get braces but my couzin said that it will hurt alot when they are tightening it but my friends are saying it won't hurt at all and i don't know which one's true? i keep thinking that it will hurt alot! thanx for your answer
I had braces four or five years ago. They didn't hurt when they got put on at all. The next day, there will be a little soreness. It's the same way when you get them tightened each month. It just feels like pressure while they're tightening them. The next couple days, you'll have some aches. Just keep Aspirin or Ibuprofen on hand and you'll be fine.
Darby(:
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i keep hitting my boyfriend when he pisses me off i dont just slap him i smack him in the head and hit him in the balls
am i in the wrong
he treats me bad and he says he will kill himself if i leave him
what should i do
im 14 he is 17
It's wrong of you to hit him just because he makes you angry. People in life are going to make you angry, and hitting them is going to do nothing but cause more problems. You said that he treats you bad though, and there was no elaboration, so I don't know exactly what you're referring to. If you feel that he treats you bad, he's threatening suicide, and you're getting physical with each other; it's time to end this relationship. You're only fourteen and it's not healthy to get into a relationship that seems to be such a stresser. It's not your responsibility to keep him from killing himself. You're only one person and if he's got a deathwish, you're probably not going to be able to stop it. If you feel that he really will hurt himself, try talking to your parents, his parents, his friends, or a school counselor. Anyone that can talk to him and see what the problem is. If he is suicidal, he needs to go to a therapist to see what the root of the problem is.
Darby(:
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Iam Having During Intercouce Like When He Goes Inside Of Me I fell Like I have To Push and I fell a lot Of Pressure all over It this Natural?
It sounds like you're not relaxed or comfortable. Take a deep breath and try to let all of your muscles relax. From your statement, it sounds like you're flexing your muscles (the way you do when you're trying not to pee). If you do that, it will push him out instead of allowing him to slide all of the way in. Make sure you're not constricting your muscles the next time you try to have intercourse with him. If you do and feel that you are completely relaxed but still have problems, try talking to your gynecologist.
Darby(:
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How can I help my lover get a hard erection and keep it long enough to make love to me.
Unless he has erectile dysfunction, this shouldn't be too difficult. Try giving him a hand job/blow job at first until he's hard enough to have sex. If he's having trouble keeping an erection or getting one, he should see a doctor. I don't know how old he is, but erectile dysfunction doesn't just occur in middle-age or older men. The doctor will be able to scope out the problem and provide further advice or medication.
Darby(:
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Okay! Im 14 and my Question is Why are parents so over protecting Girls but not boys? I mean of course Im going to like boys. I can't help that.
Parents tend to be more overprotective of their daughters for many reasons.
First of all, teenage boys are very hormonal and they don't want your naivety and innocence to be taken advantage of. Your parents probably think that boys your age only have sexual things on their minds and they don't want you introduced to that at a young age.
Also, girls can get a baby inside of them and boys can't. Even though the boy is still a parent, he doesn't have the proof showing on his body. Plus, mothers are typically expected to take care of the baby if the relationship doesn't work out. Since you're only 14, any relationship you have has a small chance of staying strong for an extended period of time; especially if the stress of a child is added to the mix.
Bottomline: Your parents are just trying to protect you, even though it may be irritating to you right now. They just have your best interest at heart. Try to ease their nerves and allow yourself to hang out with boys by telling your parents that you will stay in the living room with them or keep your door open so that they can keep an eye on you. Tell them that you won't go over to his house unless his parents are there to keep an eye on you as well.
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okay see im 14 and i been hooking up wit this kid whos 18 and we always do things like he fingers me alot and he popped my cherry but i kno that we can neverr really be a couple because of our age difference but i dont really dont care i like doing things with him soo i jus continue to do itt .. is thatt badd???
Well, it's definitely not good. Not only is it illegal, but it's not good for your mental health or reputation. This guy should be graduating high school and you should just be getting in. If he's not trying to pursue a relationship with you, you can assume he's using you for sexual purposes.
If your parents or the cops get wind of this, you can guarantee he's going to get into trouble with the law. You may think you like doing that stuff now, but how are you going to feel when he gets a girlfriend his own age? Are you going to feel like you've been used or are you just going to move along?
Put simply, it's just a bad thing to get started. People at your school will find out, if they don't know already. All the girls will be angry with you (for whatever reason) and call you names. And the guys are going to think you're easy and not respect you.
If this is what you want to do, so be it. But to answer your question, it is bad and you'll see how bad it is when he gets in trouble with the law or your parents find out about it.
Darby
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hey i am a JV cheerleader who will have to make varsity next yeear, i am a flyer and i weigh 107 pounds and i am 5'4.. is that good for a flyer, or too heavy?
ive been working on stretching and stuff.
i dont want them to switch my position.
107 actually sounds like a pretty good weight for a flyer. It definitely shouldn't be too heavy.
Darby(:
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18/female and i'm a virgin. is this a turnoff for guys? it's not that i'm saving myself for marriage it's just that i haven't found that special someone yet.
This is in no way a turnoff to guys. They're going to respect that you had enough self-respect to wait for someone special. So many people lose their virginity at such a young age. It will be refreshing to whoever you do lose it to. He'll know that you were waiting for the right person, and that the right person is him.
All I have is guy friends and they all talk about what a disappointment it is when they're attracted to a girl, then they find out she's slept with a ton of guys. It's not that not being a virgin would be a turnoff in most cases. It's just that having sex with a lot of people is a turnoff because of STDs and whatnot.
Keep saving it for someone special, the guy and you will be really happy that you did.
Darby(:
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if ive been goin out with a girl for 2 months and we really like each other will she really care about the penis size if its like 5 and a halp inches
If she really cares about you, she won't care about it. It's only slightly below normal. It's not how big you are, it's how well you use it.
Darby
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20/f
I am currently dating two different guys (one is 20 the other is 19). They do not know of each other.
I don't have so much of a question as I would like peoples options on dating two people at once.
It will help me dicide on what to do with these two boys that I really like.
You want our opinions on dating two people at once? I think it's wrong, of course. How would you feel if the guys you're dating had girlfriends other than you? Would you be okay if the guys you're dating spoke to other girls the way they do you? Or if they felt for other girls the way they do you?
What you're doing isn't fair to either of these guys. You need to choose between them before they find out what you're doing. If they find out, it's almost guaranteed (if they have any sense) that you're going to end up with neither of them.
Darby
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I have heard all of the news about this Swine Flu going around and it really scares me. (I am, by the way, talking about the H1N1 flu, commonly referred to as Swine Influenza.) I heard something like Egypt had all of their pigs killed to prevent the Swine Flu from spreading so badly to their country. The Swine Flu sounds really scary, especially since it has spread to my city!
What is the Swine Flu exactly? Does anyone know yet or is it still being tested upon and sorted out? I have no idea how the Swine Flu has spread but I figure it was like any other flu virus, right?
So, how can I protect myself from getting the Swine Flu? I want to take all of the preventative measures if possible because I know the Swine Flu is deadly, right? (How many has the Swine Flu killed already anyway? Does anyone know?!)
Any information provided about the Swine Flu is greatly appreciated! THANK YOU!
The swine flu is a new virus. It's a mix between swine, human, and bird flu. In the United states there have been 5469 confirmed cases and only 6 deaths. If you have it, you get the flu-like symptoms, you go to the hospital, they give you a shot of Tamiflu and (as long as you're otherwise healthy) you go home.
In order to avoid it, wash your hands frequently. Don't touch your eyes, nose or mouth with your hands. Cover your mouth when you cough/sneeze.
Here is the official website, it can answer any questions you may have as well as give you some facts and guidance:
http://www.cdc.gov/h1n1flu/
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Hey there,
I am a 16f. I live in a small town, with a lot of older people, ugh sorta, if you know what I mean...
Anyhow, I really want to meet more guys. All the guys in my school are so immature, and im serious when I say 'they are SO immature. They have not grown up since I have known them (forever) and they dont plan to grow up anytime'. They like being lazy, jerks.
I feel as if I need some personal love in my life. I don't have any true friends/close friends, they are REALLY hard to come by in my community.. and all the friends I have had so far,have backstabbed me in one way or another.
I know it is hard to meet that 'special someone', but he must be SOMEWHERE. I feel as if any guys who will be interested,or single,are probably in another country. There have got to be decent guys out there! How do I find them? and what can I do to make myself more..approachable, I guess.
I have a nice figure,love who I am,dont put myself down,have an outgoing personality,am involved in several different activities (school and community),and I respect everyone. I think I just have bad luck when it comes to guys..?.
Being in this little town isnt really helping either.. It seems, almost hopeless. I know guys arent everything, but I AM sure it is something that would make my life seem more fullfilling and just make my heart smile, you know?
I need a hand to hold, a special someone to hold me, and a heart I can hold close to mine
Aw, your last couple sentences made me smile haha.
Okay, well, I've had the same problem as you in the past. I was born in a big city and lived there for years. Then, my parents decided to relocate to the middle of nowhere. I felt like everyone at my school acted 5 years younger than they were. I didn't fit in, even though I tried to keep an open mind. I had trouble finding girl friends, and as far as guys go, the pickings were slim (ha). I mean, I know exactly how you feel. It's like no matter how hard you try, no matter how many people from your school/community you know, none of them fit your personality at all. It does feel hopeless.
First thing you should keep in mind: People are not who they act like in school. The guys are always trying to one up each other and impress girls. Everything is a huge popularity contest. Who can be the most sarcastic to the sub? Who can get in the most trouble? Who can make everyone laugh the most during a boring lecture?
Outside of school, people can really surprise you. I went to a party one time when I was 15 or so and this kid that was an absolute jerk in school was there. My thoughts were, 'Oh Lord. Get this kid away from me.' Turns out, he was not nearly as immature as he was at school. He was actually fairly intelligent. I was totally taken off guard. Nothing ever happened with that because I didn't want to pursue anything at the time. But after that, I started opening my mind up to hanging out with people outside of school to see their true colors.
To make yourself more approachable, just be outgoing. You sound like you already might be, but keep your mind open. Be friendly and talk to people during school as much as you can. It makes the day go by faster and you'll get to know people better.
You're active in your community, so other there honestly is nothing else you can do. Just make sure you keep your mind open to people outside of school. People just aren't who they act like during school. If you haven't already, try to make acquaintances of the older boys in your school. Most of them are only two years older than you (if that) but usually the seniors are surprisingly more mature since they're getting ready to move on with their lives. In a couple years, you'll be going to college and you'll be meeting tons of new people all the time. It will be much better than high school.
Darby(:
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I’m still really young, but I want to have a baby! I’ve been sexually active for about a year and have had unprotected sex at least 3 times. Each time, I always think I’m pregnant, and get overly excited at the idea of being a mother and having a little baby girl or boy to take care of. My mom waited until she was 30 to start having kids, and honestly I think it’s stupid. My mom and I don’t get along at all and have absolutely no level of communication, and my theory is its because she’s so much older than me. I think that if we were a little closer in age, we might be close. But right now I can’t stand her.
I asked a question on here a few months ago about how I wanted to have a baby really badly, and someone told me I had a “baby bug”, which I know isn’t a real virus, but I know I have it again. I just found out yesterday I’m not pregnant and have been severely depressed since then. Every baby commercial I see makes me cry and just now, even watching Sailor Moon and Serena’s “daughter” Reeni upset me deeply and I had to turn it off. My ideal age to have a baby is 15, but I didn’t get pregnant around that time, and now I’m 16 and obviously still not pregnant. I’m getting really annoyed with myself. There are more important things to get upset over than whether or not I’m gonna have a baby at 16, but I’m so worried I’m not able to get pregnant! I just want to have a baby now and get it over with, rather than wait until I’m old and more likely to be not as close to my future daughter or son. I’ve tried talking to my boyfriend about this, but he doesn’t understand. And my two closest friends don’t understand because neither of them want children and think I’m being ridiculous! I don’t know what to do.
16/f
Just because you can't have a child at 16, doesn't mean when you do have one you will be old and not able to 'be as close' with the baby. Your child is your child, not your friend. You don't need to be only 16 years older than your child. That means when you're 30, the child would be 14 and already in high school. You should at least wait until your early 20's.
Even if you had the baby in six years when you're 22, the kid would be twenty when you were 42. You would barely be into your middle-age and the child would already be in college or have graduated college.
The only thing that is going to make you not close to your baby is if you have it now while you can't afford it. I'm assuming since you're 16 that you're still mostly dependent on your parents. Babies are unimaginably expensive and time-consuming. Your parents would end up raising in the kid financially until you're at least 20. Your parents would probably be closer to the baby than you would be because they are fully matured adults and you are not.
There's nothing wrong with waiting until you can afford to have a baby, are with a steady boyfriend that WANTS a baby, and have your own place. I'm sure you'll make a great mother since you want to be one so badly, but you need to wait until you're well-off enough to be able to take care of it.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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so, there is an ex boyfriend. He broke up with me because he was having family issues and he felt that I was putting a lot of weight on his shoulders. A month later I start to move on and I meet a new guy. He is very sweet and really close to what I'm looking for. But it would be long distance. The ex calls me and says he wants me back. He tells me he made a huge mistake and will wait forever to have a second chance. And me, still having these intense feeling for him, wants to try again. But I tell him I want to wait it out to build up everything again. And then there is the new guy, who really likes me and I really like him. Both guys are up to standard. If not higher. I do NOT know what to do. What guy should I start getting closer with?
It's all about pros and cons.
Ex boyfriend: Broke up with you when times got hard. But, be honest with yourself, were you putting a lot of pressure on him? Were your expectations to high for him when he was so stressed out? Did you expect him to act as though his family wasn't having problems? Did you listen to him properly and give him input? Were you there 100% as a shoulder to lean on? If you acted appropriately and he still broke up with you, that's a red flag. That shows that when things get stressful, he's going to cop out. You should be careful of that.
New guy: He's a new guy. Of course he looks great right now. He hasn't had an opportunity to leave you when times have gotten hard. New guys always look good compared to old ones because they've never had a chance to mess anything up. However, you say that he's sweet and close to what you're looking for. That's a good sign. But, it is a long distance relationship. Are you positive you're prepared to handle that?
Once you weigh these options, you need to do some comparing and contrasting. How are these guys alike and how are they different? How do their personalities differ. How does your chemistry with each guy differ? How does your personality blend with each guy?
In the end, only you can choose who to get closer to. Understand that no one is perfect. Both of these guys will make mistakes. The question is; are you willing to accept that your ex made a mistake and take him back? Or would you rather try your luck with a new guy and start fresh?
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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i have always dated males. i have always found males attracted. i started talking to my friend and she use to date males but then started dating females. so we were talking and she was saying something about an "exception." a girl can be totally straight but she will met a girl who is funny, smart, fun to be around and etc and may like her. is that possible? and i talk to this girl who is also my friend, everyday now throughout the day, she is funny, smart and all that stuff but i dont know if i could see myself being with her or her being my exception because i dont understand that. any advice would help.
I've never heard of 'exceptions' to being straight. If you are a girl and you like a girl enough to date and be sexual with her, that makes you bisexual. If a guy dated girls his whole life, then fell in love with another guy, people would say that he's bisexual, not that he met his 'exception.'
You also said that your friend used to date males, then she started dating femaleS. If it's multiple girls, that's more than one exception. As far as this girl who is your friend now, you need to ask yourself some questions. Can you see yourself kissing her/being sexually romantic with her? Talking to her all night on the phone and flirting with her? Can you see yourself holding her hand and just cuddling with her? Can you see yourself opening up to her and falling in love with her the way you could a man? If you answer yes to these things, I would say you're probably bisexual.
Darby(:
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