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Meeting Guys
Hey there,
I am a 16f. I live in a small town, with a lot of older people, ugh sorta, if you know what I mean...
Anyhow, I really want to meet more guys. All the guys in my school are so immature, and im serious when I say 'they are SO immature. They have not grown up since I have known them (forever) and they dont plan to grow up anytime'. They like being lazy, jerks.
I feel as if I need some personal love in my life. I don't have any true friends/close friends, they are REALLY hard to come by in my community.. and all the friends I have had so far,have backstabbed me in one way or another.
I know it is hard to meet that 'special someone', but he must be SOMEWHERE. I feel as if any guys who will be interested,or single,are probably in another country. There have got to be decent guys out there! How do I find them? and what can I do to make myself more..approachable, I guess.
I have a nice figure,love who I am,dont put myself down,have an outgoing personality,am involved in several different activities (school and community),and I respect everyone. I think I just have bad luck when it comes to guys..?.
Being in this little town isnt really helping either.. It seems, almost hopeless. I know guys arent everything, but I AM sure it is something that would make my life seem more fullfilling and just make my heart smile, you know?
I need a hand to hold, a special someone to hold me, and a heart I can hold close to mine <3
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You sound exactly like me. Haha I asked a question almost exactly like this a few weeks ago. Same age and everything. I don't think I live in quite as small a town as you (from how you speak of it), but I do live in rural suburbia. And I'm so tired of it. lol
This is my best advice.
- Join more clubs or groups where you meet guys from other areas/schools. Although trust me, I know first hand that options are limited when you live in a town where nothing's going on.
- Get a job in a place where hot guys work or go often. Hey, sometimes fate just happens, but sometimes, you gotta make it work for you ;)
- Go on a vacation/road trip with your friends this summer and go boyfriend hunting. (Don't go too far away, though, because there's more of a chance of a veryy long-distance relationship.)
- Go to an event in the city with friends, like a concert or something. There will be so many people, many of which you will probably never see again in your life, so feel free to flirt as much as you want. Be bold and just slip a guy your number as you pass by- worst case scenario, he doesn't call!
Hope I helped hon, and trust me, I feel your pain. But a year or two from now we'll be in college, where there will be options everywhere :)
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Aw, your last couple sentences made me smile haha.
Okay, well, I've had the same problem as you in the past. I was born in a big city and lived there for years. Then, my parents decided to relocate to the middle of nowhere. I felt like everyone at my school acted 5 years younger than they were. I didn't fit in, even though I tried to keep an open mind. I had trouble finding girl friends, and as far as guys go, the pickings were slim (ha). I mean, I know exactly how you feel. It's like no matter how hard you try, no matter how many people from your school/community you know, none of them fit your personality at all. It does feel hopeless.
First thing you should keep in mind: People are not who they act like in school. The guys are always trying to one up each other and impress girls. Everything is a huge popularity contest. Who can be the most sarcastic to the sub? Who can get in the most trouble? Who can make everyone laugh the most during a boring lecture?
Outside of school, people can really surprise you. I went to a party one time when I was 15 or so and this kid that was an absolute jerk in school was there. My thoughts were, 'Oh Lord. Get this kid away from me.' Turns out, he was not nearly as immature as he was at school. He was actually fairly intelligent. I was totally taken off guard. Nothing ever happened with that because I didn't want to pursue anything at the time. But after that, I started opening my mind up to hanging out with people outside of school to see their true colors.
To make yourself more approachable, just be outgoing. You sound like you already might be, but keep your mind open. Be friendly and talk to people during school as much as you can. It makes the day go by faster and you'll get to know people better.
You're active in your community, so other there honestly is nothing else you can do. Just make sure you keep your mind open to people outside of school. People just aren't who they act like during school. If you haven't already, try to make acquaintances of the older boys in your school. Most of them are only two years older than you (if that) but usually the seniors are surprisingly more mature since they're getting ready to move on with their lives. In a couple years, you'll be going to college and you'll be meeting tons of new people all the time. It will be much better than high school.
Darby(:
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