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Women, to pick the right guy.
so, there is an ex boyfriend. He broke up with me because he was having family issues and he felt that I was putting a lot of weight on his shoulders. A month later I start to move on and I meet a new guy. He is very sweet and really close to what I'm looking for. But it would be long distance. The ex calls me and says he wants me back. He tells me he made a huge mistake and will wait forever to have a second chance. And me, still having these intense feeling for him, wants to try again. But I tell him I want to wait it out to build up everything again. And then there is the new guy, who really likes me and I really like him. Both guys are up to standard. If not higher. I do NOT know what to do. What guy should I start getting closer with?
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It's all about pros and cons.
Ex boyfriend: Broke up with you when times got hard. But, be honest with yourself, were you putting a lot of pressure on him? Were your expectations to high for him when he was so stressed out? Did you expect him to act as though his family wasn't having problems? Did you listen to him properly and give him input? Were you there 100% as a shoulder to lean on? If you acted appropriately and he still broke up with you, that's a red flag. That shows that when things get stressful, he's going to cop out. You should be careful of that.
New guy: He's a new guy. Of course he looks great right now. He hasn't had an opportunity to leave you when times have gotten hard. New guys always look good compared to old ones because they've never had a chance to mess anything up. However, you say that he's sweet and close to what you're looking for. That's a good sign. But, it is a long distance relationship. Are you positive you're prepared to handle that?
Once you weigh these options, you need to do some comparing and contrasting. How are these guys alike and how are they different? How do their personalities differ. How does your chemistry with each guy differ? How does your personality blend with each guy?
In the end, only you can choose who to get closer to. Understand that no one is perfect. Both of these guys will make mistakes. The question is; are you willing to accept that your ex made a mistake and take him back? Or would you rather try your luck with a new guy and start fresh?
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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