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Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months now and its been great.But it seems lately thing have been different like friends of his say that he has been cheating on me and than i ask him and he swears he has not i have even asked him when i see him but when i am a around him it seems like he is keeping something from me and i do not know if he is cheating on me or not i just want to know how i can find out the truth so i will not get hurt because i have been hurt before.Please help me soon!~Kristen~

Well maybe kristen you could take a break on it and see what happans there and the truth may reveal from there-trix

Q: I'm a 24 year old woman and I don't live with my parents anymore, but recently I stayed with them for a couple of months and I accidentally found out that my father's been looking at pornography on the internet. To say it was a shock is such an understatement. I'm still shaken up and upset after 6 months. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years and I've never ever thought my father would be the type to look at porn. Ever since I found out, I kept a close eye on my father and I started to notice that he does look at young women in mini skirts etc. when we go out. It's raised a lot of questions like, have I been a fool to think my parents are happily married, are they hiding something from me or is he having an affair and on and on. I can't see or think of my father in the same way I used to anymore. It just feels like I've been traumatised. Please help me. How can I get over this?

Well guys will be guys of course there going to look and some guys just hide it better then others-trix

Q: All my life ive never been the new kid ,I just got out of 8th grade (frum a private skool)and all my frends come frum diff towns so the highskools we are going to are gunna be differant anyways i dont know anyone in my new skool ill be going to in September so i was jus wondering if you think ill meet new ppl and make sum frends just like whats it like???? cuz im mad freaked out

Yeah if you are outgoing and have alot of friends now i think you'll do just fine-trix

Q: You think you got it all but you know you never really do I thought I had it all and than I found out or it just seems that I don't. I have many reason why I just don't act like I do or say this is how I feel how my life is going right now.Maybe u can help me out~Kristen~

Yeah maybe i could help you out but i have no idea what your trying to say... please be more clear kristen-trix

Q: I'm sorry if this is long, but please will someone answer this. all right, normally i'm really cool about boys and stuff. i don't let them walk all over me, and i don't get all -head-in-the-clouds-ish. but theres this guy named Tyler that i have heard off from my friends. they say he's cute and super sweet, but i've never talked to him, and never seen him. well i got a new dentist and its his dad. and you know, me and his dad were talking about him, and stuff, and i left, but when i got home i felt so weird. i mean...i feel as if i like Tyler. but thats not possible is it? cuz i've never even met him! but i feel anxious and excited and nervous, and i just want to get to know him so much! but i don't just want to instant message him, 'hey, your dads my dentist, and i feel like i like you!'

its so weird, and i just don't know what to do! and he's online right now, and i'm just stressed is all. thankz to anyone that helps.

First off its good you dont let guys walk all over you thats real important. But maybe you should actually meet the kid before you make any real judgement on weather you like the kid or not because he probably just knows a lil bit about you.. you dont have to neccesarily have to IM him like that just be like hey whats up this is so and so and im friends with so and so and go from there-trix

Q: ok idk how to say this. i read my sisters away message the other day and it sed "my life is so perfect. so dont try to ruin it" and i feel like my life is crap cuz of everything that is going on. how it her life so perfect and mine so horrible? wut am i missing?

Talk to her about it and see whats going on and maybe she will help you through your problems unless you post them here and i could try to help you-trix

Q: Hi school is just getting ready to start and i've been homeschooled for the last year,or so . How can I get my mom to put me back in school???
signed
help needed

Tell her that you want to and how much it means to you and you would like to graduate with friends (even if its awhile away) and you'd like to learn with other kids and it would be more interesting rather then just being taught at home-trix

Q: I really like this guy, lets say his name is anthony. Well me and anthony hang out alot. And we flirt a lot too. But he dont like me he likes my friend and my friend dont like him. And it hurts so much cuz i kno he likes her. And hes told me he thinks im hot and that i have a great body and that im koo to hang out with stuff like that. But he just tells my frieend that he likes her and that it. Idk wut it means or what todo. So basicly wut i wanna kno is how to get him to like me, and anyother things you guyz might think help?????

Well thats a tuffy you cant make anybody somebody like you unless you become the person they want you to become but you shouldnt change for anybody-trix

Q: Me and a girl started talkin about a month ago.....but she has a boyfriend...........and i am friends with her boyfriend and me and her talked about kissing cause i really lik eher and she says she likes me but i dont want her boyfriend to find out!.........should i kiss her? or not? P.S. i really like her alot!!!!!

HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Uhh... so your guys are gay? Umm i think she should call it quits with her bf and get that out of the way then you dont have to worry about the guy-trix

Q: Hey, guys! I'm supposed to call this guy I like back in ten minutes. We're not dating, but we can both tell it will happen soon. He asked to see me again, and we couldn't come up with things to do. He said we could go swimming, but I'm not the most confident person, and I wouldn't feel comfortable swimming infront of him. I don't want to tell him this, because it's highly embarrassing and something I just wish to keep to myself. I know you could tell me that if I can't tell him something like this a relationship wouldn't be good, I just don't feel like it's his business. Can someone please tell me what to say to him, or suggest another outing? Please help me!!

Go to the mall or a movie or my fave... go-karting :)-trix

Q: Anyone have any tips for making your own Tarot card deck? I want to, but I'm not sure totally. how. (I have all 78 card names)

Askjeeves-trix

Q: ok i put up questions about how a guy asked me out a while ago and i sed no but no regret it. and everyone sed go for it.but now the only question is when? its summer i dont see him that much. should i say to him over im or and away message cuz he has an away message up like 24/7. wut should i do? how should i ask him?

I would tell him before asking him anything and then i'd wait for a reply from him i'd do it to a away message and wait for a reply unless you want it right away then do it when he is there-trix

Q: Is being sheltered a bad thing? And is it a turn off?? Is it bad and considered "shelted" if I've never vacuumed, and I don't know what a garbage disposal, mop, and wrench are??? And what does this make me?? Stupid?? Cute?? Funny?? I'm always the one giving the advice.. this is different.. anyways, PLEASE COMMENT!!!

a mop is a household item made of absorbent material attached to a typically long handle is used to clean the floor and a wrench is a tool it twists nuts, bolts or pipes. and a garbage disposal is Food wastes as for a kitchen its like a trashcan i guess you could its stupidity but your not stupid just not intelligent but just try to become less sheltered-trix

Q: Female almost 15...kay me n my bff r like....sisters we do everything together!!i tell her EVERYTHING..n we have been through sum reallly tough times but we got through em n she has ALWAYS been there for me..we go on vacas together n our familys r like each others seconds familys....well..okay b4 she had me she was really good friends with this one girl Alexa..and i have met alexa once..but alexa doesnt like me..she says she doesnt like me n i8m a bitch bc her current b/f was my b/f over 3 YEASR AGO!!! which i think is kinda dumb but i think its really bc i took Stephanie my bbf away from her a year ago...well 2 months or so ago stephanie alexa n alexas b/f n his good friend Kenny all hung out fer a weekand..well stephanie REALLLLY like Kenny...so she ditched me fer all them..n it got me really mad but i didnt mind bc i mostly had plans on tha couple weekands they all hung out..well then Kenny got a g/f n steph found out n she got REALLLY mad n she dropped kenny n started to ignore alexa again..well now kenny apologized to her n hes single now so alllll last weekand alexa steph kenny n all them hung out..n then yesterday i aked her if she had wanted to come ova n go siwmming in my pool bc she had owed me sum money fer a play ticket n i need tha money n she said "oh i cant bc me n my mom r going to tha cell phone place when she gets home from work" which i noe is a lie n she was guna go hang out with alexa bc i called her @ 1 in tha afternoon n her mom doesnt get home from work till 6 plus she NEVER asks her mom to do nething she just goes n does it...n then today i called her n i told her i needed tha money that she owed me by tha end of today n she said oh well i would come n kik it wid u n give u tha money but i cant bc i have plans with "other ppl" fer tha mall..n i noe fer a fact its alexa n all them...i dont need to be her doormat..i have other friends but its just we had/have a REALLY great friendship...i snapped on her today n i havent talked to her since...im soooo irratated n mad i dont noe what to do..i wanna talk to her but i dont really think she'll listen..n if she doesnt i think she might just lie n make up excuses..what SHOULD i do?? PlEaSe help thanx!!! x0o0x

I would just settle down for a bit and wait it out and then after a few days i would give her a call and talk to her about it. You dont want to take out your anger on her at all but maybe when you do call if her mom answers or whatever you could ask her hows she's doing and mention to her that steph owes you some moeny-trix

Q: My and my friends are setting eachother on a blind date but do u know where the best places to go would be.......?Remember were only 13 LOL

You could go to a amusement park or to a movie or go-karting-trix

Q: Hi!!!!! my boy friend logan seems like he's using me how can i tell if he is? thanx so much
~is he using me~

Well he may just want action... thats one way or if he doesnt bother to call and if you call him and he says can i call you back? and doesn't those are few signs that he maybe using you. if you ever tell him how much he means to you and he cuts that convo short thats another way (sorry if he's using you)-trix

Q: Hey i stay at my friends house for like 3 weeks in a row and we dont get sick of each other and evertime im over there some one always calls and she talks to them for liek for an hour and it bugs me and i dont know what to do and then i have a cell phone and she always takes it aways from me to either call some one or if some one calls she anwsers it like its hers idk what to do!
~phone hogger~

Well maybe one time when she comes over why dont you go onto the phone and if she mentions something about it tell her its what she does and answer her phone from time to time or you could just bring it up to her and tell her you dont just like to sit there and not be on the phone maybe if she has another phone in the house you could be in on the phoen conversation also-trix

Q: Hey confused again!!! so i should talk to him about it and if he doesnt take it seriouly then what do i do i mean he's from a different school and there may b prettier girls there but y does he have to keep asking me out and then dumping me i dont get it!!!! thanx so much for evrything!!
~confused~

Ask him that exact same question "why do you keep asking me out and dumping me again? I dont want to be used as a play toy because i am nobodys play toy" you have to stick up for yourself and relize that he may be just using you (sorry) and if he truely does like you like it sort of seems then the other girls shouldnt matter i mean there is always going to be pretty girls all around but thats just life-trix

Q: i feel like when im playing sports i have certain expectations to look up to cuz my sisters are all awesome at soccer and basketball and then there me and i think im not that good. but all my friends disagree. idk...wut do i do?

Practice w/your sisters and get some pointers and they can help you with it and hopefully you'll get better and be just as good as they are but soccer and b-ball may not be your sport it might be a sport you like but it might not be your strong sport-trix

Q: ok i think im fat but my friends think that im like really skinny. and so does my friends mom. she always says "god look how skinny she is" and i cnat stand it. its not like i wanna be fat but i dont like to be considered like a tooth pick whne i think im fat. wut do i do?

Speak up-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"