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Q: Iam 16 years old and I only wear a 36 A bra and my mom wears a triple D bra arn't I suppose to be bigger to?
you aren't neccesarily going to be as big as your mom. howveer you can find out by answering this question: are you built like your mom in others? ie; looks-wise and body type. if you are, then chances are you are just a late bloomer and will develop later and may be bigger.


Q: Anyone know a good way to stop a habbit of biting my nails? I keep biting them w/out realizing it for a few minutes. My family keeps getting mad at for it. It's driving me crazy! Plese help. I'll rate high for god advice. Thanks!
ok dont worry - i know many people that bite there nails and i used to be one of those people! i tried everything. you have to set your mindto it; give yourself a goal. if i dont bite my nails, then they'll be long enough for me to go and get them professionaly done with my friends. you can also put stuff on them thatmakes it taste bad so you wont bite them. or paint them with nail polish ...


Q: i don't even know what i'm asking really, but i'm really upset.

today my friends had a party to watch a movie and they said they called me, but there was nothing on my caller id, no messages, and my cell phone was on and with me and never rang. i really feel forgotten by my friends and really hurt. how can i keep myself from being forgotten again?
first of all, this was very rude of them. you need to talk to them about it even if its hard it may fix things ... i fyou dont want to talk to all ofthem pick one of them; one you feel the closest to or you feel you can talk to the most/is the nicest and talk to that person about it.

if it continues to happen, then you should try and hang out with other people even though it may be hard. its mean for them to do this to you and if it continues they are not good friends.

Q: my bff has been my bff for as long as i can remember. but since we've been in high school she has really gotten inot the party scene and sexual thing. i do the party thing. so idc. but what has been bothering me is she doesnt care who she hurts, if she wants it she'll do it. my other bff, she is into two guys. both of which are bad guys that arent loyal no matter what. well my 1st bff was at my party last night and she had sex with my 2nd bff's man. one of them. and she told me to not say anything. but i hate this. it happens between the two of htem all the time. what can i do.
tell both of your best friends that you don't want to be involved or get in the middle of their fights because it puts you in an awkward position .. this way you will prevent hurting both of your best friends & youll stay as loyal as possible to both of them.

as for your 1st best friend, you may want to distance yourself from her a little if shes doing these kind of things and backstabbing your other best friend. because chances are if shes backstabbing her - she may be backstabbing you, too.


Q: Every time I get my boyfriend to have a boner he covers it up, what does that mean? It doesn't bother me that he has one but what is he trying to like hide?
this is 100% normal - guys are always embarassed when they get boners its just a natural thing.

Q: I am almost 15 years old.My boyfriend is 16 turning 17.I dont get along with either of my parents. Is it normal to want to have a child at this age? I talked to my boyfriend about it he doesnt help to much. He has told me he would do anything i want because he loves me so much. I told him i think i would want to wait till i am 16 at least. At the moment i dont no i feel like i want to take hold of the responsibilty now.Ill Rate High. Please help me extra ideas etc would be help full thank you.
you really need to think about this & all the consequences. personally i think that 15 is young. as much as you may love kids and want a child, it will limit you from doing other "normal" things that teenagers do. finishing high school will be tough, and going to college will be extremely tough. instead of going out and partying with your friends, you'll have to be at home taking care of your child. it will restrict you even if you love your child, and money will be an issue. you may want to wait.

even though you and your boyfriend are in love, is he really (or either of you) mature enough to have a child? are you ready for that responsibility? are you ready to give up all those other things that you'll never get to expierence that teenagers do?

that's what you need to think about- dont think you are being selfish. having a child will change your whole life.

i know people who have had a child at this age and it is very tough even though they love their children.

Q: female 16

Im barely a size B and am not very happy with that.

How do I know if my boobs have stopped growing and will stay this size forever?
How do I know if they are still growing?
Any way to get implants at this age?
Any way to make them appear bigger (No stuffing please :)
Please and Thank You.
okay, being a B is not bad .. that is a noraml size! by 16, your boobs are almost done devloping, sorry :( unless you are a late bloomer you still may grow a little more ...

other than that your boob size will change with the gain and loss of weight and when you get pregnant. you cannot get implants under 18 unless you have parent consent. so if your parents dont want you to hold out for 2 years and make sure its really what you want to do!

push up bras with padding can make them appear much bigger - im not sure if you consider this stuffing but thats what i know a lot of girls do. victoria's secret has good bras!

hope i helped

Q: I've just started to make love with my boyfriend, and I have a vague recollection from my sex education classes at school that when you become sexually active you should have a check-up, examination etc. Is this the case? Thanks!
when you become sexually active, you should see a gynacologist. this may be embarassing if you dont want your parents to know but it is a neccesity to prevent stds, infenctinos and such!


Q: okay, well my friend got fingered for the first time the other day and now she's been worrying about it. she think's that she is pregnant but i'm telling her that she can't be because it's totally impossible because she didn't have sex or anything. and she hasn't gotten her period and she's 2weeks late. i told her that i think it's because she doesn't have a regular period, because she hasn't had it for over 2years and normally that's when it starts getting regular. her boyfriend only fingered her, she didn't do anything to him so i'm really not sure what to tell her except that she isn't pregnant. what do you guys think?

PS. when she got fingered after she bled alittle, and i told her that maybe he scratched her or something because you never know.
ok its true that you cant get pregnant from being fingred .. however, if there was sperm on her boyfriend's hands this may cause a problem and there may be a SLIGHT chance she is pregnant.

take her to planned parenthood to get a test if she doesnt want her parents to know .

another possible reason is she could have an std this is very possbile so she may want to check with a doctor

Q:
Hello
I am a 15 year old. I'll be 16 soon.
I have been having my period since Nov. 2004.
I've had it every month from the 19th to the 29th
This month i didn't get it.
It's never been this late.
I got all the cramps, and the upset stomachs before it.
It just never happend.
My mom didn't get hers either this month.
This is the 1st time it's happend.


I WILL rate high.
THanks

ok well first of all, how long ago did you get your period? if you havent had it for that long it could still be irregular .. however i know that sometimes my period was irregular even after i had had it for a couple years. i asked the doctor about this and she said it was normal. dont worry - it may just be irregular.

also, women in the same household tend to get it around the same time... so maybe you and your mom are expierencing the same thing!

if your too worried, you may want to ask a doctor. but i dont think its that much to be worried about so its ok! :)

hope i helped

Q: I have a really great boyfriend and we've been going out for almost 4 months. I'm really jealous of any girl talking to him or him looking at another girl. what am i suppose to do i know i shouldn't be like this it's not fair to him. I have other guy friends and hes fine with it so why can't i be ok with him having other friends that are girls. what should i do???

ok dont worry - you are just feeling a little protective of your boyfriend! just tell yourself or even talk to your boyfriend if it makes you feel better - hes YOURS. girls can talk to him, but he wouldn't be with you if he didnt love you!


Q: Well my best friend and I went on a week long vacation together and I think were really annoyed with each other. I found out everything HAS to be her way; nothing can ever be her fault; and she thinks everyones in love with her.

Now I can't stand talking to her cause I realize all these little things about her that drive me insane. However, I feel so empty with out her! What do I do?
sometimes after being together for so long you can get sick of eachother. this is normal so dont worry.

you might need to take a little break from her. once you start missing her even more those little things might not bug you as much. you need to compromise with each other.

xoox

Q: what do you do when your in a bad mood?
i have so much homework to do and its stressing me out and i just dont wanna do it anymore
ok, since you are stressed take 10 deep breaths, inhale for 5 exhale for 5. this may sound cheesy i didnt believe it either until i tried it and it really calmed me down!

then give yourself at least an hour to do what you want to do. take a soothing bath, watch tv, listen to music, or talk to your friends!

balance out everything you have to do so it doesnt build up on you.


Q: My mom is making me get braces soon and i think i have a choice of colors. What color would you pick and why?

Thanks
well don't pick anything too bright or it will stand out. i would pick pink, blue, green or purple.

Q: you have been a really great boyfriend and a relle sweet guy. im relle thankful ur part of my life. but as for our relationship, i need to be completely honest with you. i dont think its going to work out between us and i dont really see our relationship going anywhere. im really sorry, i just feel like we've reached a plateau and this is it. but we've been good friends much longer than we've been boyfriend and girlfriend and i would really like us to still be friends and i know it will be akward at first but i value our friendship and i really dont want us to stop talking and i hope we can stillbe good friends like before we were going out even though thats hard but i care about you a lot and i cant imagine not having you as a friend
yes, that sounds like a good breakup. its very nice and sweet and it shouldn't hurt his feelings more than you ahve to.

however, if you are thinking of doing this over the internet its not always smart because its impersonal so call him or talk to him!


Q: Hey all. I was wondering if you guys thought I made a smart choice. Here it is: for freshman year, I am not continuing Spanish and going to Spanish 2 Honors, but instead I'm taking Italian 1 because I think it's different and a beutiful language. Please tell me if you think I made a smart choice. Thanks!
yes, if you aren't happy in spanish than going with italian is smart. the only thing is now you should stick with italian for all of highschool because colleges like to see at least 3 steady, consistent years of a language!


Q: i dont know why but all the sudden im VERY queit,not outgoing,not noticed,i just hate it!! im not lucky and i say EVERYTHING at the wrong moment.how can i become more outgoing? i need to find my true self! i need to become more outgoing and fun befor i seep into the walls! if this help... 13/f/aries.
ok, i am pretty sure i know how you are feeling. it is probably because you are a teenager.. your changing alot & going through a lot. if it helps you could read the book "HOW TO WIN FRIENDS & INFLUENCE PEOPLE FOR TEEN GIRLS" - it will teach you how to become more outgoing and make friends.

if you want to be more outgoing, smile and say hi to people and use their names (it makes them feel closer to you.). start talking to people and ask questions about them. if you have simliair interests, talk about that.

try to let go a little bit & not care what everyone thinks of you .. this can make you more shy and self-conscious. dont care so mcuh about what others think.

hope i helped!

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