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i like someone and but its my friends cousin...
yeahh . And she wants me to make out with him to
get his ex mad and now she found out that i like him and now i just dont know what to do!

You should do what you want to do. You shouldnt makeout with him to get someone else jelous, its using people. My best friend likes my cousin too however, you can just suddenley makeout with someone. If you like him you like him, and if he likes you thats good too, get to know him more first before making out as for all you know, he could be using you to get to his ex and beleive me thats the most horrible feeling ever. You dont have to do what your friend says, infact you dont have to do what i say, just take it into account, and do what you want!

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its this slow rock song sung by a guy and it goes
"i will never let you fall ill stand up for u forever ill be there for u thru it all even if somethin somethin its ok its ok
seasons are changin and waves are crashin and somthin somethin "

plzzz tell me what its called

The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus - Your Guardian Angel

if you go to this page, it provides a video and lyrics
http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/t/the_red_jumpsuit_apparatus/your_guardian_angel.html

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What are some acoustic rock songs I can play on guitar?

Thanks

xx

I'm not sure if you live in the usa, but i live in the uk, and [ im not sure if they are over in america] but "hey there deliah" by the plain white t's is a VERY good song to play..it only has one guitar used in it!

i think this is the video
have a look on youtube!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_m-BjrxmgI&feature=related

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Im 15yrs old female.hes 16 yrs old.

i hav a best guy friend were really close and i wanted to know how can i tell if were just freinds or not.we flirt alot but he says he doesnt want to be in a relationship.he told me last week that he knows so muc about me that it seems like im his girl.but it was over a text so i didnt really know what his emotion was at the time.he asked me onto go to the movies yesterday but my mom said i couldnt go.he never mentioned the word date tho.but weve talked about if we were in a relationship before and he says it might b a good idea.we fight alot but makeup and laugh about it after.i really dont know how this is gonna end or whats gonna happen.

Your friend defiantly takes a little shine to you! He does like you, but like you, he is scared to ruin the friendship, feel rejection, and actually ask you out. He does want to give it a try but with boys they just never know how to put it into words .When he asks you out to the cinema or something ,go out and just see what happens. What ever happens happens. From what you said, it sounds as if you two get along well ! If you 2 went out, I'd take it slowly, and gradually because when things go too fast the friendship gets damaged. If he isnt going to ask you anywhere, you ask him and if he does ask you to the cinema - what is the harm in asking him if its a date? If he says no, it is obvious he is embarassed and bluffing. Go for it girl otherwise you will never no, you already know eachother so the friendship wont change and it wont be awkward ..give it a try!

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Everybody is always telling me how I'm gorgeous, and I'm just soo prety and one of the most beautiful girls they've ever seen. And guys tell me I'm hot. The thing is, I don't feel it. Like I know I am somewhat attractive, maybe just pretty, but there are always all these girls telling me that I'm so gorgeous and they wish they could look like me. I know that I am pretty, but I don't feel like I'm as pretty as other people say. How am I supposed to know if I'm pretty or not? Like besides what other people say becuase I just don't feel as attractive as what my friends all say to me. And this isn't a self esteem issue, at least I don't think it is...

it isnt a self esteem issue its just i think you've head continous flatery and compliments the novelty has worn off and its something that dosnt have a value. You should feel pretty, maybe devlop a style , or change your hair style for example that you think looks good on you and not keep making yourself a certain way to please others. You're not meant to feel a certain way when you are atrractive, your just meant to be happy with yourself, and if your not, get a trend or style and stick to it to make yourself more different and stand out

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all the guys in mygrade hate me. they think im a whore cause i dress slutty but i dont mean to. I have no idea what i am doing wrong! i am so sad. please just help all you can

what the hell do you mean "i dres slutty...i have no idea what i am doing wrong" well for gods sake girl if you know you're dressing slutty, stop wearing belts for skirts and wear longer clothes and less flesh. If that's the way you like to dress, couldn't you try to find your independence or personalirty some other way. Guys will call you names because of what you look like and i know it's not fair but everyone judges eachother on looks it only takes eight seconds to judge someone. I don't know how you dress or what you like and i know it is porbarbly getting you down, earn some respect buy dressing in lighter, gentle colours, in which shorts are longer and clothes aren't tighter and aren't showing a lot of flesh. And not heavy on makeup...maybe join a sport or something to gain respect.. I am not saying change youself i am just saying change the way other people see you or reflect yourself in another way, ie by the type of accesorries you wear...but what i will say is don't listen to them and keep your head high, as long as you respect yourself and know exactly who you are it shouldn't matter, if you ignore them , then they'll give up, people always say "that never works" bur beleive me on this account it will

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So my boyfriend was hitting my face with a shoe [sparring gear] He didn't realize it was hurting me. He didn't stop after I gave him a look to. So when he stopped a few seconds later, he did it again so out of nowhere, I slapped him. He got really upset and later said it was disrespectful. I don't know what to do! He didn't even think about what he was doing to me. I know what I did was wrong, i quickly realized that. I did something before thinking but it wasn't a hard slap. What am i supposed to say or do? he's completely pouring this out on me. i just want it to stop.

now if i was in a relationship I'd say that him doing that to you was wrong. A boy should NEVER EVER hit you.....never in a million years and he was wrong to do that you, especially when you made it clear that it hurt and you wanted it to stop. Even if you did something bad, it isnt his job to "tell you off" and he shouldnt even be touching you. If i was you, I wouldnt go out with him. He has hurt and abused you, and what about if he does it again, he'll think he will be allowed to do so if you take him back. He'll think it will be ok. You have seen the mean, bully and nasty side to him now as well and whats to say he wont do it again, especially when he is angry. You were right to slap him, it was the only way to make him relise what he had done, you may not of thought about what you were doing but he had plenty of time, especially after he stopped and then hit you again. If you like someone you dont hurt them and pick on them. I don't think he has real feelings for you because if he did he wouldn't do such a stupid thing even when you have him a look. I'd dump him and hell no is "talking" going to work....like he will listen to you if your being slapped on the face with a shoe. And no way should he dare say to you slapping his face was diresepctful when he was the
one hitting you with a shoe...maybe if it's a religion then yes but you have human rights. Stand up tall and straight with confidence and think about what he did to you and with that i would tell him you dont want to see him anymore. I mean yes you could give him another chance, but thats just wasting your time because he will think he has gotten away with it and that he can do it again. Get a friend to support you if you wish too, and see if they can boost the confidence. It rare for someone to change from evil to good. If you tell him its over he may grovel for you back DON'T give in, remind yourself of the cruelty you felt , but he may not care at all which shows that he dosn't care about you...even if he does grovel he shouldn't of hurt you in the first place. Remember you wear the pants in the relationship, not him....

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hey guysss...I have a poetry assignment due thursday. 10 poems. In one day..yeah, I know :p. I'm not asking for any help - don't worry lol.

Mostly for the poetry writers out here -
How do you get inspired to write poetry? Like...do you just look at random things? Or..?

Please...any advice? :) thank you very much

i usually get inspired by what happens to people around me, i've written about losses as i've lost people in my life, or about hurt as my friend had had boy troubles. Think of what has happened to you or friends or write some dilemmas down - like a story. You can look at images or pictures and describe what you feel. Another way to write a poem is to write the title which can give you thoughts straight away.I find listening to songs help me, just say i'm listneing to "umbrella" by rhinnah i'll think of what the song is about and then use it and use my own words and decriptions about it.

allpoetry.com is a great site- there's so many users on it who write poems so check out their poetry and see if you can come up with any ideas,
im
"galyksadie" on allpoetry.com

hope i helped
xx

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I had this boyfriend for 4 years and he dumped me tons of times, then decided we should be friends. After a while, he questioned about getting back together and I said I wanted to. Then bam, he hit me with the news of saying theres another girl and that he can't choose. I told him theres no choice because I'm gone. Did I do the right thing?

I think you TOTALLY did the right thing. He's had his chance too many times and he has been stringing you along . A relationship should be strong and he shouldnt be dumping you tonnes of times. It just shows he dosnt truly have passionate feeling towards you.You did the right thing and all you can do now is not GIVE IN and say yes to him.

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I want tio make a CD of love songs for my guy

we have been loving eachother for almost a year now.and our anniversary is coming up on OCT22 nd.:D

I've downloaded
Savage garden- I knew i loved you and truely madly deeply
etc]

and i love them!

can anyone give me the names of more songs I can use


I want songs with beautiful touching music


PLEASE HELP!!!!

Stick with you - pussy cat dolls
i will always love you - whitney huston
everytime we touch - cascada
joyride - mariah carey
thousand miles - vanessa carlton
endless love - luthor vandross and diana ross
i don't wanna miss a thing - areosmith
we belong together-mariah carey
everything i do i do it for you - brian adams
underneath the stars - mariah carey
with out you - phill collins
a moment like this - kelly clarkson/ leona lewis
always be my baby - mariah carey (SORRY but there are a lot of love songs by her)
ain't no other man - christian aguleria
stand by you - the pretenders/ girls aloud
dangerously in love - destineys child
hero - Enrique Iglesias
all my life - K-Ci & Jojo
let love lead the way - spice girls
i'll never stop loving you - britney spears

thats all i can think of for now!

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But I don't know how to carry the convo over just saying hi like what things to talk about

Be honest and be yourself, get to be real-close friends with her too - you'll know and understand her more

-ask her
-how she is
-what shes up to
-hows shes finding something ie school,maths etc
-bring a subject up like a film
- walk together during school , talk to her in the hall way
-just be sweet and kind

if you know your not very close she could say no so get to know her, become a friend, and if you want to tell her how you feel write her something sweet or buy her a braclet which might say something like "love me" and then write next to it will you? sweet things like that will make her think your geniuine because girls can never tell if your just doing it for a joke or not.
they dont like rejection and they're feelings played with, so get to know her a bit fist if your not very close

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What are some cute names that end in Y?
(girls and boys)

Thanks!

Harmony
Sky
Melody
Amy
Ashley
Keely
Daisy
Honey
Ray
Judy
Jonny
Danny
Maggy
Emily
Shelby
Brittney
Bethany
Hayley
Shelly
Finly
Ryley
Miley
Kyley
Jay
Stacy
Gracy
Jamey
Kenzey
Brandy
Laury
Kathy
Tracey
Patty
Sandy
Many
Lady
Jordy
Mary
Lory
Cory
Cody
Gabby
Malory
Trinity
Gabby
Cindy
Mindy
Katy
Jenny
Joley
Alexy
Chrissy
Billy
Bradley
Lilly
Charley
RuBY
rosmary
cherry
destiney
tammy
cassey
lacey
barry
kennedy
kenny
buddy
carly
Pretty
Rosany
Barny
Peggy
Woody
Bailey
avery
audery
sydney
Anthony
Ady
ainsley
athley
Betty
Henry
Patsy
Benny
Katy
Terri
Jerry
Harvey
Freddie
Percy
Tiffany
Stanley
Lindsay
Gwenny


Sorry If i repeated some!!
hope i helped

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hey. ok, so what are some songs about a boy that you like, but doesn't know you like them or dosn't really notice you a lot. for example Teardrops on my guitar by Taylor Swift. But they don't have to be country. they can be pop or somethin. idk, but also, i want somewhat recent songs. not like from 1990s or somthing. lol. anyways, thanks!!!

I wish you knew - by mariah carey
http://youtube.com/watch?v=mF79qtE8yMQ

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16/f. In one of my classes, I sit by a kid who has low self-esteem and possibly mental issues. Anyway, he started talking to me on the first day of class (we had not met before). Then he started telling me about how girls always reject him, and how he's "always wanted to ask me out." After he said that, I didn't say anything back- I just sat there and continued doing my work. Frankly, this kid gives me the creeps but I don't want to be rude at all to him. When the bell rang to leave class, he said, "So will you go out with me?" And I politely said no. I think it's really weird that he asked me out when we had just met, and when he doesn't know me AT ALL. So here's the question: Class is really awkward now. How do I handle this situation, and if he brings it up again, what do I say? I don't want a relationship right now (at least not with him), and I don't want to hurt his feelings because he has low self-esteem. Help? Thank you guys!

If he has a low self esteem..maybe switching seats isn’t the best idea.he needs confidence and you saying no and then moving seats will defiantly upset him.talk to him a bit become a “friend” how do you know anything unless you don’t try it’s a bit mean,I mean he may be less “creepier” than you think…just talk to him to give him some boost with people and class work…he may not know how to socialize, sometimes you have to think of others before yourself and do things you don’t

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My father was dying of cancer, i stayed by his bedside 2-3 nights a week coming home to say high and change clothes every day. my friend of 20 years was helping my husband of 10 years + 3 years of dating care for our 2 children. i found out they were locking my kids out of the house without water, food, bathroom, for their own private time in our bed, i found her ring in our bed, and oneday came in to find them in our bed after he said it stopped,he told me and the kids all he wanted was her so we left. ow a few years later he said i left its all my fault ecause he didt think i loved him enough to stay home, if i had to choose again i wouldnt change a thing, i just need to let it go, and dont quite know how, she wont let him talk to me or the kids and it really hurts{them more then me}i had noone to cry to, my family was going thru hell, and my best friend and husband was twisting the knife in my back pretty hard, any advice would be helpful.

this is really horrbile but i will tell you something you are one of the most kindest "stay strong" kind of person i've heard of.You stuck by your family and that is definatly something to be proud of.Your husband and friend should of been supportive and they werent , they hurt you.
It takes time to get over something like that, in factyou might not ever be ok with it.
He told you it was over, but it was't.
You were RIGHT to move away & your "ex" friend is WRONG for your husband not to see the kids.
If i was you i wouldn't keep in contact with people who cause you pain, i think the best thing to do it right a letter with your ture thoughts to him and tell him that if he wants to see the kids he should, (obviously not treating them like dirt) and even though they didnt support you through a bad time tell him for once in his life to pick his own flesh and blood children than a women who tells you what to do...write you thoughts down.. and after that you dont need to keep in contact with him (unless he wants to see the kids)
i cant tell you how to get over the hurt but the best thing todo is put all the pain behind by caring for your children, write your husband a letter...get a divcorce if its hurting you too much....and i think you need to visit your dads grave/place where his ashes were scattered because i think you havnt mourned over your father due to a selfish husband and cheating friend.
dont go back to him and dont let him into your life ..you have had enough pain and its time to stand your ground, be strong and to stop the pain
x

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okay, how do i start. Short and simple. Okay so one of my friends told me that my friend has this sickness or whatever like; the dr said that he probably will live until 31 or somewhere around it. were in middle school. menaing eigth grde. okay so what cant that be? like what sickness can do that? hes really skinny and short. idk if that states anything but. if you think you know can you tell me what the sickness is and what it does.


id appreciate it sooo much. thanks.

Yeah the person below is right,
it could be cystic fibrosis

Wow, I just found out about 1 month ago that my friend has it too, she's quite small too...

we're raising money for charity!
http://www.justgiving.com/roseward

here's info on it

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cystic_fibrosis

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help the homecoming theme is lual like somknid of hawiian thing but its a casual dance so you can wear whatever you want, so what should i wear?

wow thats sooooo cool!!


you could wear the grass skirts, the shell bra and the garlands but that is pretty hard to piece together, i wouldn't do it unless you find ot if a few people are doing it


How wearing 3-quater length jeans with a garland/floral/ colourful belt and bright vest stop with a flower garland,braclet and headbands - really cute accessories....i did this for my birthday so i have some cool ideas,
you could just you know beachy,summer stuff, shorts and skirts or add some leggings too
(flip flops or wedges would look brilliant)
but 3-quater lengths, bright vest top with some good accessories would be casual, yet making an effort..heres some pictutures and accesories to help you out a bit x

thw "hawaiiain" grass skirt outfit
http://www.ukpartyshop.co.uk/partypages/party-hawian_1.htm


acessories
http://www.sillyjokes.co.uk/dress-up/acc/hawaiian/dancer-set.html

http://www.hawaiianislandwear.com/page_accesy_slippers.htm

http://www.sillyjokes.co.uk/dress-up/acc/hawaiian/barette.html

http://www.extremepie.com/ExtremePieSite/product/2-ByBrand_Ladies_Roxy/ROOT43558.htm

http://www.angelsdesignerwear.com/upload/items/thumb/ELL20085270.JPG

http://www.espritshop.com/Shop/PicDestStyleOver_List_Cross/FS0001_557.jpg







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Am am 13 years old and going into eigth grade...all of my other freinds have their periods and i just want mine already..even though i heard how much it sucks....im pretty flat-chested(dont get me wrong i have SOMETHING just not enought to fill out more than an A cup~~ ive read some replys to the other questions and i do have discharge already...ive have it for like 9 months now... i just still dont want to be the size i am while im going into high school...could some one just tell me how long it took them to get their period after they showed some of the signs that meant you were going to get it soon?...

i know i sound pathectic but i REALLY could use some help

Well im fourteen and i just started a few months ago

in a way i knew that i'd happen..your discharge gets a LOT heavier before it happens and then suddenly it stopped for one day and then it came - you'll be able to tell...

all my friends started before me but i tell you it is a heck of a lot better when you dont have it
with all the pains and uncomfortablness


and im flat chested too but i don't care!
get a padded bra!

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What are good, funny Halloween costumes for best friends?

Jack&&Jill
orange&lemon (fruit costumes)
both of you clowns or fairies
man&wife - getting married!so one of you the bride and one of you the groom
angel and a devil
one a cat, one a mouse

random ideas
just think of cartoon charecters
like mickey and minnie mouse
or famous poems or stories
hope i helped
xx

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how do u start an essay about yourself

Well start with
your name, your idenity, your appearence, birth,
everything should link for example..
my name is sadie, this name orginates from america(now i link it with something that has something to do with what i just said)

but i actually live in the uk with my family, i have been living in the uk since i was born, 24/6/93 .

you can then describe your hometown, what there is to do, where you go to school, who are your friends, your grades, your ambitions etc etc etc

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