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is it legal to put a paper advertisment for your business in someones mailbox? im starting a lawn care business and want to put flyers in some mail boxes..is that legal? i live in pennsylvania. (link)
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The inside of your mailbox is owned by the US Postal Service. (I know - you have to buy it, maintainit etc. how can they control the interior? Go figure, it's government!)
To be exact, they could make you pay postage for everything you put in mailboxes.
You may however, put things in the newspaper loops outside the box, hang things from the box or slip you notice and close it in place with a storm or sreen door, afix it on a door with a post-it.
My husband has been a letter carrier. In reality, different post offices handle such matters differently, but the PO isnot doing so well right now, so they may be on the lookout for such "abuses". I'd encourage you to stay out of the boxes.
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I'm 18 years old and my never listens to my opinions, thoughts, wants. I turned 18 recently and I said I absolutely did not did not did not want a birthday party. Since I hang out with a lot of different groups of people, my friends do not know eachother. There was a total of 5 people there. My friend only invited the people she knows I talk to. The one girl I barely even talk to anymore. It wasn't really even a party because only two people got me gifts. It was just lame. Also, I've been wanting a dog and my mom agreed to it. I really wanted a yorkie, but my mom insisted on a Maltese. My mom is annoying and whines and pouts till she gets her way. What do I do????! (link)
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Sorry you had a dissapointing birthday.
now, about the dog...
If you will soon be packing and leaving for college or a job, I think it's your Mom's choice because she will be the one raising and cariing for the dog.
If you're planning on being in town for the next, say,5 years, then I think you should decide. And you should also be the caretaker.
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ok at school i stole an ipod and sold it to a mate then the original owner of the ipod found and and got the school inovled. now every one hates me.
so stuff got really hard
i ran away and am now living at my mums
i have been moving between homes (mum and dads) a couple of times, changing schools and so on.
mum isnt a mother shes never home. but shell keep me on path and we get on.
dads is a family home although he can be vilent and controlling.
what should i do?
how do i deal with this mess?
if u were me were would u pick to live im so confussed and just need advice (link)
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I'd say, go for Mom. You do not need to be worried about volence and a controlling personality and to live in that enviroment.
At the same time, sit down and ask your Mom if she can be present more and make a little more effort to hold you accountable for the next few years. Even if she doesn't think she can, I think you'd still be better off with her.
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I keep reading about sperm dying when it hits air but it doesn't make any sense to me. Is it true about cum? If the sperm comes in contact with air then it dies instantly or within so many seconds? How can that be true? (link)
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No! It's not true.
Sperm is not dead once it hits the air. It can live for several hours at room temp, depending on moisture level and temp. Any sperm near the vagina can move into the vagina, or through some fabrics, during that time and it only takes one of the 750 million sperm to survive and do the job.
Inside a woman, sperm can live for 7 days.
While we're on the subject, there is sperm in the fluid released by the penis before ejaculation. The "pull out" method is not effective bbirth control because of this.
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17/f, boyfriend 18/m.
So me and this boy started dating in June. We had met in late may at a friends party. Thing is, he and I both knew he was moving at the end of August. Why did I even get myself into this? I have no clue :/. I lost my virginity to him because I was stupid and thought it didn't make a difference who I lost it too. The relationship now has grown a wee bit stale due to multiple factors like-
1)he can't get over his exes.
2)He's so distant from me always, we don't even hold hands in public.
3)He's leaving, obviously a big factor.
I just don't know what to do right now, I keep on asking myself WHY I'm with him? He's my first real relationship. My friend told me he doesn't believe in love at this age, which makes me feel like I'm being used (and yes, used in THAT way.)
I'm trying to think of things as "casual" - should I stop thinking that way?
He's leaving soon, and I really just don't know what to do with myself, I feel depressed and horrible about myself, like I'm worthless and only good for being used.
On the whole other side, we're really good friends in general.I've become friends with all of his friends, they're awesome people and I don't want to loose them! I'm actually interested in his brother, who knows more about relationships than he does. Would it be wrong to go for him after I've dated his brother? He is leaving, anyway..
I know this is confusing, I'm so upset that I don't know what to do anymore. Even other people see that he doesn't treat me right. Should I break up with him now, or just wait it out until he's officially leaving? ANY advice on ANY questions I've asked would help so much, thank you!
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Clearly, from what you have siad, you are not getting anything positive out of this relationship. It needs to e a two way street, and you should not feel like you are being used, and it sounds like you are.
You need to get to know guys much better before having sex with them. Look at your 3 things list... that also tells you things you want in a guy...
1. a guy who is over his exes
2. Someone who is emptionaly present
3. someone who is comfortable with hollding hands in public
4. a guy whose not about to leave town anytime soon
I'm sure you can add things to this list... And don't settle for a guy who is less than you want. You deserve to be treated better.
Leave the brother alone until you've sorted out what you want. Yeah, break up now. His leaving town soon is no reason for you to hang in there with an uncomfortable relationship.
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hey my name is evan and im almost 16 years old. i've asked some questions on here before about my cancer. i went to the doctor the other day after completing chemo to deal with my skin cancer. i thought i was getting better but my doctor told me that my cancer has advanced to stage 4 and gotten worst. then he went in the hall with my parents and left me alone. after about half an hour my mom came back in crying and hugged me and kissed my head. i asked what the doctor said and she said not to worry about it and then we went home. im really scared. i dont know whats going on from here. im really worried the doctor said im dying. even my brother was really nice to me the last few days and we basically hate eachother. what do i do? i dont want my parents to know i mite know whats going on cause they dont want me to know yet. what should i do? and do u think im right? (link)
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You have every right to know the prognosis of your disease. Your parents probably think they are protecting you, but they may have forgotten that you can imagine things far worse than the truth. I know, 15 is not 18, but you're clearly old enough to figure out that something's going on.
Talk to them. Tell them that given their reactions, you can only assume you will be dead by next week... if that's not the case you'd sure like to know. It may be easier for them to talk about things if you bring the subject up.
Remember that this is very hard for them as well. Cut them some slack.
P.S. Aked around about this. If push comes to shove, you should be able to ask you doctor directly and be told what's going on. But go through the 'rents first.
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20F. I'm warning you that this will be long, but I will definitely return the favor to anyone who can give advice!
So I recently met this guy whose 19, he's so adorable!! We both have mutual friends so he's not a complete stranger. Well a few nights ago me and my friend went to this little get together we were at, we were both drinking a little. He wanted to go in the hot tub and I said i'd go with him. So he had a swimsuit but I didn't know there was a hot tub so I just went in my bra and underwear, no big deal to me. So it was just me and him in there and we just started talking. I could tell he wanted me by how he was acting aha so I eventually sat in his lap in the hot tub and we started making out, then he started fingering me. Well then we got out and kept making out and he kept fingering me. Well then I was like I don't think I can do this, I can't trust you..you probably hook up with girls like this every night. He said to be honest ..I haven't hooked up with a girl in about 5 weeks. I said ..okay well just to let you know i'm still a virgin and then I asked him how many girls he's slept with and he said 3, two were his girlfriends of a long time and one was a drunken mistake he claimed. He said I'll even give you my moms number to prove to you that you can trust me and if i turn out to be an asshole you can call my mom and tell her. I could go on and on about the things he was doing to prove that I could trust him. Well then my friend and one of his friends come downstairs and he said grant will you tell her i'm a good guy and that she can trust me? and then my friend butts in and says..i heard you just hooked up with a girl last weekend!! well then he just got pissed at me for not being able to trust him. He calmed down after a bit and then we just cuddled. I just can't tell if he just wanted to get some from me or if he was being sincere??
What do you think?? (link)
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I think you should walk away from him as quickly as possible.
He just wants to hookup. You appear to want a much more serious relationship. He was proud of how loong it had been since a hookup, and he thinks 5 weeks means something? (And it was probably a lie.) Where do you think he sees you in 5 weeks? A tiny speck in his rearview mirror.
You can do better than a hit-and-run job in a hot tub with someone you hardly know. The fact that he got angry when your friend spoke up speaks volumns. Stay away.
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Don't know where to start but here goes 4 years ago my family disowend me because I maid certin choices I would say wrong choices but a choice that was best for me and my life .I'm 39 years old and my family always tried to control my life wouldn't let me live mine .I met this woman who I fell in love with and we decided to live together and we have been together for 6 years going strong but of course mt father doesn't aprove of her he cals it shacking up .I have 3 older sisters that do the same thing [shacking up] but my father hasnd disowend them but now my oldest sister has been looking for me and don't know what I should do. I know I don't want the drama because I. Know if I do call she would go straight to my father and then they will be all up in my business again . Should I call or not that is the question (link)
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Let her contact you. If you feel like meeting with her, do so in a public and neutral place, like a coffee shop in a busy location. See how things are, revealing as little about yourself as possible until, or when, you feel comfortable. If there's any drama, get up and walk away.
If they are still trying to control life, I'm hard pressed to see an up side to gettting back together.
When in doubt, dont. Family seem to have a special ability to hurt us even when we are grown up.
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18/f
I will be heading away to college for the first time next month and I am staying in a dorm that has community bath/shower rooms. It really wigs me out not to not have a private bathroom of my own...is there anything you can tell me that will help? (link)
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You are not alone. Many people get to qollege and have never had a community bathroom experience in your life. It takes a little getting used to, but it's nlot such a big deal. If you have signed up for a single sex dorm, you will only be sharing with other women. Sometimes people break these rules, but you have every right to insist that things be as expected in a contract situation llike this.
The advice you got previously on bath robe and shower bucket etc. was spot on. Especially the flip flops! You might want ti bring a really big towel from home even if they offer towel service.
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long story short: me & my bf have been dating for about 2 weeks now. i've caught him once talking about how he wants to get back together with his gf and today i caught him a 2nd time. i broke it off but half of me still has feelings for him while the other half despises him. should i stay or should i go? he kept apologizing and said he'd never do it again and i don't know if i can believe that. thanks so much guys (link)
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No matter what he promises, he is not able at this time to commit to just you. That is not an unreasonable expectation on your part.
Gently and kindly tell him that when he has eyes only for you, and if you are not involved with anyone else, you would be glad to talk to him, but for now, the timeing just isn't right.
( Between you and I, it sound like he doesn't knows what he wants, he just hates to loose an option. You, my dear, are much more than an option.)
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Hello.I have recently had to cut off a relationship with a woman I j=have known for 13 years.We were always friends,and there was always flirtation and warm feelings.Three years ago,she got married.She cheated on him epically,(but never with me).A year ago,she contacted me out of the blue,and resumed contact.It was friendly and exciting,as always,and she always promised the hope of a relationship.She always complained to me about her husband.Then,she said she wanted to have sex with me,which I have always wanted,and,as I was not in a relationship,was a sitting duck.Long story short,it turned out that she was only using me for control and attention,and still cheats on her husband.I have never committed adultery before,and this was the only time in my life that I came close.However,I did get emotionally involved,and now feel very lost and hurt over this.It is a cionch she is not thinking about me at all,and was a sick game.What do I do? I still want an explanation,or better,some clairity,or have something work.I feel very less than,and when I asked her what was going on,she told me not to be sensitive.I told her that unless she was clear with me I had to let her go.She came back with a fake e mail saying she would 'never break her vows'.I told her that I was not buying it,that I have known her for 13 years and know what she does,and that she should be honest with me.I have not heard from her since,but notice she has put me onl about 120 sex oriented spam sites.Please tell me what is going on? This woman has recently had a child,and is a teacher,and I am afriad for both her child and her students,but there is nothing I can do,and she will hold her child up as a shield rather than look at herself--Confused (link)
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Drop all contact. Block her phone calls, take her number out of your phone, never go where you would often see her. Ignore her e-mail.
She used you and you made a mistake. BUT, this does not have to define the rest of your life.
Skip the explaination. Pass up on a dramatic last conversation. You will not get any helpful information or a better feeling from such a meeting. This woman is either drasticly over-racting to becoming a mother, (Look out!) or she is simply an egocentric user. Either way, you can't have anything resembling a healthy friendship with her.
Walk away.
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My fiance mention, for like the third time, that he would like to try new things in the bedroom. His main interest seems to be on a threesome, which is something that he knows I have done in the past. The thing is, I don't want to share him (that's why I commited to him, because before him I only had friends with benefits) and I've told him how I feel. Knowing that he wants a threesome makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him, and like he doesn't really want ME. Am I overracting? I do understand that he has only been with me, maybe he wants to experience someone else... or experience the things that I did before meeting him. I really would like a possible explanation on why he would ask for something that he knows bothers me to even think about. (link)
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You are not overacting at all!
Just because you did something, anything, in the past is no reason why you have to do it again. You are permitted to change your mind.
You are engaged to him, not him and an associate. It sounds like you want to keep it that way. Personally, I'd be wondering how much he wanted to be with me, and how much I was Girl A, while he decides who Girl B will be.
There are men who would cherish, love and respect you. Why are you settling for one who doesn't seem to value you?
If he does not fully adore you and want to honor you now, before the wedding, how well do you think he's going to be at showing his love when you've been married 5-10 years?
I think you should rethink the whole relationship.
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I will do my best to keep this short! My family and I are going on vacation soon and my inlaws have decided to invit themselves to come up for a night. They asked us last year while we were on vaca if they could come up for the day and we were ok with that but, again they assumed they were going to spend the night. Wheny husband told them nou father-in-law got so mad that they just left in the middle of the day and did not talk to us for 2 weeks. well here we are again bit this year they did not ask and just told us they were cing because they have to see the girls on their birthdays. We work full time all year and never get time alone with the kids. We worked alot of overtime to afford this trip and only take 1 week a year off for this. My husbands parents live in the same town and our 6 year old is there atleast 2 days a week and my mother in law is here almost everyday of the week or we are doing things together on the weekeneds. See my point is that we see them constantly and on top of that she disrespects my wishes and buys the girls whatever they want. My 6 year old gets what ever she wants the most and acts like a baby around her. They are always telling us how to be parents oraking comments about my family toy face. On top of that she makes rude comments about my 18 ur old from another marriage to my face I do stick up but, at the same time nite my tongue and my husband will not say anything. My question is how do I tell them that we do not want them there without a problem like last year? Mind you my mother whom I see once every 2 weeks did not even think about asking!! (link)
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You say nothing.
Your husband tells his parents that they are not welcome. "Mom, Dad, this is our one week's vacation this year, and we are going to spend it with just the immediate family. We can celebrate 6 yr old's birthday when we get home."
When you return home, there is another conversation to be had. "Mom, Dad, some things need to change. My wife's decisions about what is best for the children must be honored. Buying Maggie everything she wants is turning her into a whiney baby, and it has to stop. Further, we will not put up with any more negetive comments about Fred. He is a much loved member of t he family and the next time you say anything negetive about him, you will be asked to leave our house for a week."
And then it must be enforced by both of you. Take unwanted gifts away. Kick them out if they say negetive thngs about son. They probably aren't going to think you mean businessss until this is done once or twice.
If you haven't already done so, lie to your in-laws about exaclty where you will be on vacation. Or tell them there has been a change. I'm sure you have a cell phone - they can reach you if there is an emergency.
You and hubby need to be united, and it sounds like you are, but because it's hhis parents, he needs to speak to them.
Hang tough! You've got the right goals.
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My favourite song Is Henry the 8th by Jedi Mind Tricks, It has like a medieval beat, like a british castle beat, I love it. anyone know any similar songs or artists. One part he says, "It's my house like RUN, controlling the 80's, Flow very crazy like I spit the blood of Rosemary's babies" It's like alternative, underground, weird hip hop. I LOVE THE BEAT. Any similars???????? You can look up the song to listen. (link)
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Haven't heard that version, but I remember singing that song in the 6os! The more things change, the mmore they stay the same.
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my brother just passed away about a week ago and I want to name my first born after him. his name is richie. so obviously if my first born is a boy that would be the name. but I need a girl version of the name richie. any ideas please? (link)
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Good preious advice - you could also use Richie as a middle name.
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I dont want to live.bcz of my personal problums.i want to know easy ways to die.plz tell me. (link)
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The easiest way to die is to simply live your life and before you know it, you'll drop dead - you don't need to do anything but wiat.
Seriously, I know that it can feel like this is the only way out of the pain but death, but it isn't. Giving up now is throwing away every chance of your life getting better. And there are so many ways things can improve as you have more choice and freedom in your life.
You might want to give us a chance at helping you with specific issues.
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So Lately I have been feeling so anti-social. Its Just come to a point were I really dont wanna be bothered at all!! I love my friends but i just wanna get out the "lets party scene. And i also sometimes feel as if my friends really dont care. Example: whenever i feel the need to talk to my friends whether its about personal issues or boys or life period their never around. But the minute i dont txt or call like I normally would, im told that I "act funny". Whats'up with that? I just dont know what to do. I really feel that I need to breakaway and do my own thing. Please help cause im so clueless=( (link)
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Sounds like you are due for a change of friends. You seem to have "outgrown" this group and are ready for more mature relationships and friends.
Think of some people who are not into the party scene who you think you would like to get to know. Strike up a conversatiion and take it from there.
Don't go out of your way to dump your old frineds, there may be some who have the same hunger you do - for more meaningful relationships who will be emboldened by your move.
Maybe go out for the school play or join clubs at school that are outside of your previous activities. (As a former director I can tell you, a good prop coordinator is always needed!) That can be a great way to get to know new people.
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Is it wrong for a 17 year old girl to have strong feelings for a 34 year old guy? I am 17 and have a friend who is 34. I love everything about him. He's polite, sweet, considerate, and has the most amazing personality I have ever seen.
Before anyone assumes that he is some weirdo, here are the facts. He has NO IDEA I love him. He never has hinted at anything more than being friends and has never pressured me into anything.
Whenever I'm around him I feel truly happy and beautiful. I have never felt this way for anyone in my entire life. (I know this sounds like a case of teenage crush, but it's beyond lust, I love him for more than physical reasons. Just talking to him mesmerizes me.)
My problem is, I feel guilty and ashamed for the way I feel. I wish I could pull a switch and make my heart not like him, but it's too hard. My question is, is it wrong for me to love him, or should I feel ashamed about it? (link)
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What you have is a crush. They call them that because they really can be be crushing, painfully so.
Make a list of all of these traits you find so attractive and begin to look for those same traits in guys closer to your age. As you get older, age will matter musch less, but a 17 year age gap is really big.
Please don't be ashamed - we have all had totally inapproite crushes. I find it best to tell no one and pray for it to go away quickly.
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so i'm thinking about getting a tattoo. either on my ankle or on my hip. i was wondering which one hurts more. my parents are completely against tattoos but i just turned 18 and i really want one. i know i can hide it easier on my hip. but i really really want a short quote on my ankle. what should i do? and which one hurts more? (link)
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If you are searching for a quote, you don't have one in mind, and certainly not one you want advertising you to the world for the rest of your life.
Wait till you have one you have really internalized. If you've got to have something, pick a very small flower or ladybug or something cute.
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18f.
Last night things got pretty crazy at this party and me and this guy started hooking up. it all started when we were making out in the hot tub, then we went inside and he started fingering me. i'm still a virgin -he knew that. nobody has ever fingered me ..they've been down there but haven't actually done it. well it hurt at first and i didn't know if it was suppose to because i was so tight down there, or if it was because he was being too rough? i don't even know how many fingers he used to be honest. well after a little bit ..i was like you have to be gentle with me okaay?? and he was then because it was still hurting after a while. is this normal for the first time being fingered? now today, i'm a little sore down there, i'm guessing this is normal? we didn't have sex, all he did was finger me but i'm just asking if all this is normal and maybe some helpful tips for next time??
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Any insertation into your vagina will hurt if you are not sufficently lubricated. That happens normally in the process of sexual arousal for women. Which means that you were not. Which makes me wonder why you were allowing "this guy" such intimate contact with you.
Trust me, he is not going to keep your encounter between the two of you. And, if he was also touching his penis and then fingering you, you are at risk for any STDs hemight have, or pregnancy. I encourage you to rethink your choices.
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