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Where would you choose to live: Mom or Dad?
ok at school i stole an ipod and sold it to a mate then the original owner of the ipod found and and got the school inovled. now every one hates me.
so stuff got really hard
i ran away and am now living at my mums
i have been moving between homes (mum and dads) a couple of times, changing schools and so on.
mum isnt a mother shes never home. but shell keep me on path and we get on.
dads is a family home although he can be vilent and controlling.
what should i do?
how do i deal with this mess?
if u were me were would u pick to live im so confussed and just need advice
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first, i would try to make peace with your old school. troubles always follow. appologize and regret thats all you can do. but dont spend to much time in the pass cause unfourtunetly you cant erase what you did so theres not much of a point being miserable about it. i would stay at your moms, just cause you said your dad can be violent and controlling and thats way worse then shes not home much. lonliness is better then being hurt. once your 18 you can go away forever and find somone that will take the lonley away from you, physcial scars wont go away. you cant take those back. good comes out of every bad situation youll get through this. just try to make the best personal and safe descion for you so you dont get hurt. it will be okay
xoxo
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I'd say, go for Mom. You do not need to be worried about volence and a controlling personality and to live in that enviroment.
At the same time, sit down and ask your Mom if she can be present more and make a little more effort to hold you accountable for the next few years. Even if she doesn't think she can, I think you'd still be better off with her.
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your dad sound the most stable enviroment although if he is violent you either should : call chilp protection services. or just live with your mum
you need to ask yourself what would you rather have, a mum who isnt at home much, who wont be able to supprt you much
or a dad that can supprt you.
iff you decide to live with you dad i strongly recoommendyou talk to him about the violence its not right. you can work through it together if ned be.
on the controlling issue it what dads do. you seem young so youmight not understand. when your older you will.
and on a last note please dont steal again its wrong and illegal. and the whole thing about people hatng you.. work through it. keep your headdown and concentrate on school work. things will get better and people will get over it.
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I would live with you Mom becasue if your Dad is violent and controlling it might not be safe for you even if his home is more family orientated.
Just stay strong and if you need to talk then maybe talk to a good friend that you can talk to or maybe talk to your Mom when she IS home. But it is fully your choice if you want more family time then learn to deal with your Dad and maybe if you can talk to him about it but if you dont mind living with your Mom then go ahead. But maybe you can live with your Mom for school year and just visit your Dad on weekends and maybe even live with him for summers? Hope I helped and good luck sweetie :)
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