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reconect yes or no
Don't know where to start but here goes 4 years ago my family disowend me because I maid certin choices I would say wrong choices but a choice that was best for me and my life .I'm 39 years old and my family always tried to control my life wouldn't let me live mine .I met this woman who I fell in love with and we decided to live together and we have been together for 6 years going strong but of course mt father doesn't aprove of her he cals it shacking up .I have 3 older sisters that do the same thing [shacking up] but my father hasnd disowend them but now my oldest sister has been looking for me and don't know what I should do. I know I don't want the drama because I. Know if I do call she would go straight to my father and then they will be all up in my business again . Should I call or not that is the question
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Let her contact you. If you feel like meeting with her, do so in a public and neutral place, like a coffee shop in a busy location. See how things are, revealing as little about yourself as possible until, or when, you feel comfortable. If there's any drama, get up and walk away.
If they are still trying to control life, I'm hard pressed to see an up side to gettting back together.
When in doubt, dont. Family seem to have a special ability to hurt us even when we are grown up.
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If your older sister is looking for you because she wants contact with you, wait until she contacts you. That shows that she is sincerely interested in maintaining a relationship with her. Also explain to her that you want a relationship with her but you don't want the drama and the rest of your family nosing in your business. Let her know that if she intentionally brings that upon you (by going to your father) that you're done. You could call, but make sure she knows how you feel and understands the terms of your renewed relationship.
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