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I am a 19 year old student. I have experienced a decent amount in life from relationships to family. I am a very understanding and empathetic person. I am not a judgemental person so feel free to ask me any question and get an honest, helpful, and kind answer.
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Hey well at school im preety likable by everyone. im a girl in the 8th grade and many say im really funny. im pratically the class clown for many of my classes.Its just that when it comes to guys that i like well...they just end up being my best guy friend and i dont mind but it gets annoying that i cant really find a boyfriend because they dont take me seriously. im starting highschool in a few months and i wanted to change for the best. Maybe if im less like how i am now guys will take me seriously but i dont know if i should because being somebody who you arent ALWAYS ends up bad!but i mean i have had like 4 boyfriends but they arent excactly what im looking for because i always end up dumping them. then the ones that i really do like well they dont take me seriously! ahhhhhh! so should i change and be "normal" in highschool or what???
Don't change! You should always be yourself-if a guy doesn't like you for who you are then he doesn't really care about you. You shouldn't only change for yourself-not for someone else. Going to new social places allows you to meet new people and have a pool to select from. Dating does take a long time-enjoy it. You're only in high school and there's plenty of time to find a steady boyfriend. I'm 20 and still haven't found "the one" and I'm not in a hurry because I want to be able to have fun and enjoy my youth-there's plenty of time for men later on. It takes awhile to find someone who is good for you. Dating is trying out different relationships with different people trying to find one who suits you.
How can i tell when i am going to have my period?
That depends on your genetics and situation. If your mom had her period at 12, you will most likely have it around that age. Also, athletic girls often get their periods later than other girls (due to hormone issues). There is no absolute way to tell when otherwise.
im 18/f and he's 19/m
ok, so i have become really really close with the lead singer of a local band. so close that were even travelling to america together. However, when i first saw him a little over a year a go, he was taken. Knowing my boundaries i backed off and i began talking to his friend, and fellow bandmate. Soon i developed a 3 month long crush on his bandmate at the start of last year. Eventually i got over the crush on the guitarist, still having a little 'inkling' so to speak about the lead singer. He and his girlfriend conveniently broke up and we began to talk and open up to each other. It wasn't only till recently that i realised that perhaps he likes me just as much as i like him... We are so much alike its actually scaring both of us, and he's so different to what i'm used to, in a good way.
so anyway, I never told the lead singer, that i used to have a crush the start of last year for his guitarist. Then last night, we were having yet another deep conversation when he brought up that he knew i used to like his guitarist. I asked him how he possibly knew that considering i never told the guitarist i liked him. He didn't answer me and then he says to me. "You were in love with him!" and i was doing my best to convince him that i wasn't in love with his guitarist. He was looking at my youtube videos, and found and old one i put up quite a while ago, a comic i made, where the guy just happened to look EXACTLY like his guitarist. He told me not to lie, so i told him flat out "yes i used to have a thing for your guitarist for 3 months at the start of last year...its all in the past now etc etc" and that my comic pictures were old and not recent. He kept teasing me saying "you were obsessed with him! or your inlove with him!" and i would keep telling him, trying to convince him that i dont at all anymore...
then he wanted to know why i liked his guitarist, what attracted me to him, pretty much what happened in that period of three months that i liked him...i was confused as to why he wanted to know so much about it, but i answered him anyway. Then he says something that is absolutely doing my head in...he says to me "When i get my lisense, and come to pick you up and hang out with me and my friends, im just going to look at greg and go UGHHH." confused as to why he would go ughh i asked him and hes like "I'll tell you one day...." WHAT COULD HE POSSIBLY MEAN?! i dont understand that at all..
and he told me how he wish he never saw that picture i drew of me and his guitarist in my comic. and how he wont be able to think of me the same now...
what do i do? what did he mean? why does he care about it so much?
the last thing i want is for him to think im crazy and obsessive etc etc. :( help.
To me, it sounds like he is jealous of the feelings you once had for his friend. I don't think he things that you are obsessive or crazy or anything. He is just venting his jealousy by teasing you. As for not being able to think of you the same way, I also attribute this to jealously. He is fixating his jealously and anger at the attention you once gave his guitarist (and not himself) on you.
So I'm a fourteen year old female and, as you can tell, I want to stretch my ears. I am a good student getting mostly A's, I am responsible, and, for the most part, mature for my age. I brought up the subject with my parents and they screamed at me to the point where I just left and cried. I can't explain to them why I like them without them yelling at me. I understand that they are concerned that it would be hard to find a job. It is pretty clear that their opinion won't change and I was thinking maybe just doing it on my own. I've researched the topic a lot.
I got thinking why not do it now? I like them and I want them so what's stopping me? My parents.. but why should they stop me from what I want to do with my body? As a teenager I want to make my years rememberable and it just makes sense to me. I can buy tapers on my own and slowly stretch them. They won't notice up to a certain point anyways..
No hate, please. And just tell me what you think if you have them done.. Should I just go for it or wait until I'm 18. Thank you.
I was also thinking of writing a paper on it and giving it to my parents since they won't listen to me maybe they will understand better even though they will probably still say no.
I think I will try this before I stretch my ears myself.
I pierced my nose on my own when I was younger and my stepdad just made me take it out. Your parents will probably just make you take the tapers out, so I wouldn't try and do it yourself.
I am 16 and have been with the same guy for four years. We are each others first boyfriend and girlfriend and he has been incredibly sweet and patient so I want to do something special for him. Do you have to be 18 to buy an edible bra? I'm from the USA.
I may be wrong, but I don't believe there's a law requiring an age to buy an edible bra. However, places like Dr. Johns require you to be 18 to go into the building. Even Spencer's Gifts requires you to be 18 to look at their stuff, although you may be able to buy it. I think you'd have a hard time buying one if you aren't 18. Ask an older sister or someone to buy it for you (someone you are close to, trust, and is of age).
Otherwise, your best bet would be to order it online and have it shipped to you. Just go to yahoo, click on shopping on the search engine, and type in edible bras. You will probably need a debit or credit card though although some may accept money orders which you can get from the post office.
Ok. I had sex with this guy about a month ago. I didn't think anything of it. It was just a one night stand type of thing. Today, he actually calls me out of the blue. I am thinking this is weird. He tells me that there is something important he needs to confess or whatever. I'm like OK. He says he has herpes.
Last week I had a blister thing DOWN THERE but I didn't think too much of it because all the guys I slept with told me they were clean and had no STDs. I mean how am I suppose to know, right?!
Then I got to thinking. Last week would have been way too soon for like an STD to show up on me, right? I mean, they have to have some sort of incubation process or something. I am thinking maybe 6 months or something would be more right before I'd start showing the herpes.
I just don't know though. I admit I'm a bit frazzled here. Hmm. So, yeah, how long does it take to show symptoms of herpes?
The classic symptom of genital herpes is a cluster of small fluid-filled blisters that break, forming painful sores that crust and heal. This process can take several days.
But some people get only a rash or small bumps on the skin that appear to be pimples. Still others have different symptoms, such as painful urination, and some women have fluid discharge from the vagina.
Sores may appear four to seven days after a person is first infected. Flu-like symptoms, including fever and swollen lymph glands in the groin, may also follow the initial infection.
Symptoms come and go with no set pattern. One person may have an outbreak once a year, while another may have one every few weeks. Before a flare-up, a person may notice an itching, tingling, or burning sensation in the affected area, and there may be sharp pains in the pelvis or down the leg.
http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/guide/common-symptoms
I'm gonna give my bf a handjob through his pants but I know that he will just basically explode in his pants. What can I do to make it a lot less messy for him. Btw we won't be in a house or anything he can't just get cleaned up. What should I do?
Have him wear a condom when you do it. That way, there's a lot less mess so you don't have to clean it up. Otherwise, have him take his pants off and take a towel with you. It doesn't really explode, it's more like a fountain so you don't have to worry about too much mess. Lay the towel down so it will catch the cum (depending on how you are holding his penis). Hope that helps!
Well thanks for the adivce it really helped. Well about the whole positions thing, well i dont really know wat positions i could do. cause i normaly masterbate at night when my family is asleep and i do it in my bedroom. i lay down and pretty much just like lift my legs up so they are bent sitting on the bed while i lay down. wat are some other positions that would help me achieve better and more intense orgasms? And should i try going in my vagina and doing a g-spot orgasm? Now, idk if i get wet easily or wat, but i think it might just be vaginal discharge and its not much, does that show how wet i am? and should i try to make myself very wet or at least try to before i masterbate, would that make my orgasm "pulse" as you say? thank you so much, i really appreicate your time!
How wet you are doesn't really matter when it comes to orgasms. The wetness makes it so there is less friction. When you orgasm, there will be a lot more wetness. This mostly takes exploring. When masturbating, do the same positions as one does during sex (if you need ideas, try watching porn or looking up sexual positions on the net). Everyone is different, so only you will be able to find out which position works better for you. Same with finding your G-spot: it's something only you can do. Just try it and explore yourself and you'll soon discover what works best for you.
i got my belly button pierced, but then it got infected so i took it out. but i still have the whole above my belly button. its ugly and i want it to go away...i know its just like everything else that has to heal, but is there anyway to make it go away faster?
I had the same problem. The only thing you could really do is neosporin to make it heal faster and scar cream to keep it from scarring. Mine scarred and is also really hard where the piercing went through. Go to the Dr. and make sure there's not infection stuck in the piercing (or squeeze it every once in awhile to get infection out). That will help it heal faster. Don't use rubbing alcohol because that will keep it clean but it destroys skin cells and will slow healing.
Alright, I am having my Sweet Sixteen next month. I am not the kind of person that goes to parties a lot nor has them, haha, I'm in the marching band.. yea.. geek. So this is why I am stressing, I want my party to be spectacular. I am planning to put a chocolate fountain on the table with the food and the blender to make smoothies and virgin pina coladas. I also want to have a paint fight. I will tell everyone to bring something white, an old shirt or something and we're gonna fill up water balloons with paint and just go wild. If you ever had a paint fight before, PLEASE tell me how it went! I'm also gonna bring out my Ipod and speakers and blare my music. Also, at around 10ish pm we are going to play manhunt.
My question is, would you come to my party, if you know, you were invited? Does it seem fun to you? If it doesn't sound fun to you, what can I do to make it more fun and interesting? Thanks for your input!
Absolutely! The german spotlight game (or whatever it is-ive never played Manhunt) and the paint fight sound awesome.
Hi Im in between 10-14 (I dont wanna say my real age) and female. Im highly sure that I have a Generalized Anxiety Disorder but Im afraid to and dont know how to tell my Mom and I cant tell my Dad or Step-Mom cause they dont even believe that I have asthma (and I do) But everytime I say like I dont feel good or my asthma is getting a little worse (which it kinda is) then she just rolls her eyes like Im being a hypercondriac (same with my Dad) and Im not old enough to go to the doctors by myself and I dont even want to go to the Doctors cause Ive been there lots of times for other non mental issues. How do I handel this before school starts again?!
Facing your fears helps, but that is sometimes easier said then done. Try talking to other family members about it (preferably ones that are supportive). If you can find help within your family, try talking to the school nurse or maybe a close friend's parents. They may be able to help you!
Therapy and medication are the most common cures for anxiety. I also have anxiety disorders, but I never received help for it. Try mastering it with your mind. Ignore it, defeat it, fight it, and face it. Talk about it to loved ones.
Also, reason with yourself. When something makes you anxious, use logic and reason to see why that situation shouldn't make you nervous, apprehensive, afraid, etc. Often the fear and apprehension is irrational and if you rationalize through it and realize its not something to fear, it will help you.
Can you get in the ocean with you period?
Absolutely. But I would suggest wearing a tampon so you don't get blood stains on your swimsuit (which could be really embarrassing!)
I need a theme for my Sweet Sixteen! I am so excited. I know that I want my chocolate fountain out with dippers and such. I know that I also want the blender out to make smoothies and virgin pina coladas. What kinda theme incorporates these? and what can I do to further the theme you choose? Thanks a bunch!
This brings to mind a paradise theme complete with beaches, umbrellas in the drinks, etc. A pool party would be great with bathing suits, drinks around a pool bar, games like limbo, food like shrimp (seafood) and the drinks with umbrellas in them. A fake waterfall, palm trees and vegetation. There's endless things you could do with it!
There is this boy at my church that I like. I initiated everything, the phone calls, the notes, the eye contact. Which is why I never initiated an actual conversation, that was his job. He never did, though. He could not work up the nerve to talk to me. Ever! He writes me these cute notes, saying I'm his only one, that he gets a huge knot in his stomach when he tries to talk to me. He's on the church worship team and every time he would sing, he would look right at me, like he was singing to me. He had since gotten a girlfriend, talked to her and just asked her out, no problem. Why couldn't he talk to me and ask me out that easily?
Sometimes, when a guy really likes someone, they are really shy. Maybe he doesn't like this new girl as much as he did you which is what I personally think is true. He may think that you're not as into him as he is to you or that you are too good for him so he was too scared to ask you out for fear you'd say no or he just couldn't work up the nerve because he liked you too much.
Female. 15. 10th grade.
This is a story back from my years in the Jr. High (7th grade to 9th grade). People think my band director and I had a little bit of a strange relationship. I was close to him, everyone has their favorite teacher. He was mine. He was a sweetheart, he cared about his students but he was stern when he needed to be, he wasn't a pushover. I am now in the Sr. High band which is a lot more difficult due to competitions and all of the practices but one thing my Sr. High band director brings up a lot is how we weren't trained right in Jr. High, which makes me think of my Jr. High band director. I didn't really think much of the way we acted in Jr. High but looking back on it, our relationship was kinda strange. I guess I'll bullet some of the things that stood out to me.
-In seventh grade I didn't really care what I looked like, so I wore my hair up a lot. When I started wearing it down and making it look pretty like curling it, my teacher noticed and said I looked different, that it was nice.
-If I was late for a class, the teacher would tell me to hurry but they would always ask me to do things for them, I would wind up being late but they would never write me a pass because they warned me to hurry. So, I would walk to the band room and my band director would write them for me.
-If I wanted to skip a class like gym or something, he would excuse me from the class by telling the teacher I needed to practice my instrument, we had a concert coming up or something.
-One day at sectionals, it was me, my close friend and my band director. He sat next to me on the right and my friend sat next to me on the left, two seats over, so it was him-me-empty seat-her. I kept trying this part that I couldn't get down and once I finally got it, I was really excited so I was like "yea yea! woo!" and accidentally put my hand on his thigh, in excitement. I had no intention of making that like a sexual move, it just.. happened. He didn't look shocked nor move my hand, I moved it when I actually realized it was there.
-His office is right in the music suite hallway so he always keeps his door shut to keep the noise of the practicing instruments or chattering kids out. I would go into his office to talk with the door shut and the other kids would look in on us.
-He would know when something was wrong with me, because of the way I acted, I'm usually talkative and happy so he knows when something's up with me and he'd always ask.
-He always called me my full first and last name and I would always tell him he can just call me by my first name but he never did. So, one day I said that I am going to start calling him by his first name and I did sometimes and he didn't seem to mind, when we were with other kids, though, he would tell me that his name was Mr. ___
-Playing the instrument I do put me in the first row for concert band and I would talk A LOT because I sat next to one of my best friends and he would always scold us for talking but smile after. Then at the end of my last Jr. High year he said "sure is gonna be quiet without you.. I'll miss it."
-He had since had his first child when I left for the Sr. High and we had always joked that he was going to have a girl and name her after me and she's going to play the same instrument I do and he joked back he would put her up for adoption if she was ever as talkative as me and I said oh pfft, you love it & he would take a second and say "yea, I guess I do. Makes band more fun."
-He would be walking out of the band suite and I would be walking in, say hello to him and we'd stop in the hallway and talk for a few minutes.
-He let me sit in on his music classes (if you teach band or orchestra you also teach music class) and sit in on his study halls and play on his computer.
-My mom said a few times "if you had this relationship with any other teacher, I would be worried about this."
So? Be completely honest, just don't scold me or yell at me if you think we crossed the line. Do you think we passed the student teacher boundaries? Why do you think that we did or didn't? Maybe he just favored me.. do you think he kinda liked me? Thanks!
I don't think you crossed the line. It wasn't as if he was making sexual references toward you, etc. It seems that he just really liked you and that you two were friends. He may have liked you, but he didn't take it too far.
Don't know where to start but here goes 4 years ago my family disowend me because I maid certin choices I would say wrong choices but a choice that was best for me and my life .I'm 39 years old and my family always tried to control my life wouldn't let me live mine .I met this woman who I fell in love with and we decided to live together and we have been together for 6 years going strong but of course mt father doesn't aprove of her he cals it shacking up .I have 3 older sisters that do the same thing [shacking up] but my father hasnd disowend them but now my oldest sister has been looking for me and don't know what I should do. I know I don't want the drama because I. Know if I do call she would go straight to my father and then they will be all up in my business again . Should I call or not that is the question
If your older sister is looking for you because she wants contact with you, wait until she contacts you. That shows that she is sincerely interested in maintaining a relationship with her. Also explain to her that you want a relationship with her but you don't want the drama and the rest of your family nosing in your business. Let her know that if she intentionally brings that upon you (by going to your father) that you're done. You could call, but make sure she knows how you feel and understands the terms of your renewed relationship.
hey guys . . .so i have to take a urine drug test friday but i smoked a small roach of weed two weeks ago . i only took 3 - 4 puffs.. now i know weed stays in your system for 30 days but i dont have time to wait for a month i need the test done by friday...alot of people told me to drink alot of water till friday but im not too sure how well that will work...any feedback would help!
Buy Vale which is a dietary supplement and follow the directions on it. It will clean your system out in 2 days. I've used it and it worked great.
I'm a male and I have this problem its kinda weird. But when I go pee instead of one sream of urin its like two or three and it goes crocked so it like goes on the floor on the tolie seat and I have to clean it up everytime I use the restroom anyone know what the problem could be and my penis has a curveture also
Curvature is completely normal-many men have that. Penises vary in size, shape, and in every way. As for the urinary problem, I couldn't tell you, but if it is causing you that much trouble, you should see a doctor.
What should I bring to the DMV to get my learner's permit?
I'm bringing the certificate that says I completed the drug and alcohol test and the waiver number that I got for passing the online test. I know I have to take my social security card and ID, should I bring my birth certificate too?
I live in Florida, if that makes a difference.
Yes, bring a state birth certificate (it will have the state seal on it). They won't accept the one the hospital sent (at least not in IA). Also bring a proof of address.
This page should give you all the info you need (its published by the state of Florida and lists everything you'll need to take with you).
http://www.flhsmv.gov/ddl/CommunityUpdate.pdf
19/f - I just got done working at a boy scout camp for 7 weeks. I went up and left behind a boyfriend who disrespects me, pressured me into everything I've done with him, talks down to me, and tries to keep me "barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen" for a lack of better terms. He doesn't encourage me to follow my dreams, and he had cheated on me with my best friend, months ago. While I was at camp, I met this amazing guy, Dennis, he's 10 years older than me, but he was the first person I've ever met that gave me the sort of attention, care, and respect that I've always wanted, but never knew existed. My female room mate talked me into believing that I deserve more. I made sure my boyfriend knew that I'm serious, and was ready to break up with him. but he promised me change (again). I told him that I'd give him until December to change. However; in a moment of rage, distress and depression, I fell to Dennis as a shoulder to cry on. One thing came to another, and I think I'm in love with him. But we're so different, I'm very religious, don't drink, smoke, etc. he's the polar opposite, he's been to prision, does weed, etc. He has MS, and I had to help him through some horrible symptoms of it, and it scared me to death. On the way home from camp, I got in a terrible accident. Dennis showed up at the hospital for me, while my boyfriend didn't. I just don't know what to do, Dennis is everything I had ever hoped for, and he said he'd give up anything for me, but I want children, and he knows he won't live past 50 with MS, and he'll be in a wheel chair, etc. I don't want to bring children into the world that are going to have to go through the same thing. Long term, it seems like nothing will be worth it. but I feel so bad, because so many women have left him and treated him badly because of his condition. I don't know what to do, on paper we shouldn't be compatable, but he's just everything I've ever wanted, I'm afraid of the future.
Please please help, Sincerely, Long Term Challenged
You do deserve better than the bad boyfriend. No matter what, you deserve better and shouldn't have to put up with that. They won't change and nothing will change in that relationship.
If you love Dennis and he treats you so well, go for it! You can see how it goes and get as much happiness as you can. It will have it's own challenges, but no relationship is easy.