Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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theres this guy and i have a class with him...he's really cool and stuff..i like him alot...he talks to me sometimes but most of the time it's about english hmrk...i flirt with him sometimes...but i don't think he knows..he's really quiet..
theres this girl named H and this is his childhood friend...there always talking..i know they don't like each other but i don't know wat to do...sometimes i wish she would just get out of that class...but she's really nice and has a bf...
i try to have this guy talk to me more but i don't know wat to do??...i flirt with him but i don't think that's enough...i want him to find out hiself that i like him...
i also think he's the independent kind of guy the one that does'nt have a gf....i don't know wat to do
plese help
14/f
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Hey!
To be honest, I think youre giving guys way too much credit. Sorry to any guy who read that and got offended, but hehe it's true, and you'll forget about it in a few minutes anyway. :P See girls are always thinking that guys should just assume we like them, I know because I do it sooo much. I'm like oh well he knows I like him, therefore if he likes me he'll step up and ask me out, but not only are most guys not psychic, but even if they were, they probably wouldn't just randomly ask out a girl if they think theres any chance that they could get turned down. So whats the answer to getting them to realize that we like them? Well the obvious one is flirting, which you've been doing, but theres two different things that could be going on here. A) He doesn't notice (which is actually more likely than you would think, I've met guys who were like hmm, that girls pretty nice to me, and I'll be like..she's flirting with you, and he'll be like oh... that makes sense, I thought she just thought flipping her hair was fun. Lmao) or B) he notices but doesnt know what it means. (thats also more likely than you would think). Guys can be super smart, and got at shcool type stuff, but have no idea what a girl means by flirting, and the reason is, girls will do it even when they don't like a guy (I'm sure you know what I'm talking about) so guys often become immune to it, especially if his friend, is more friendly than most, which you sorta seemed to imply. Like if she's sorta flirting with out knowing it and its actually pretty obvious to everyone else then, he may just think that when you're flirting you're just a cute girl who wants to be his friend. Also, btw, totaly don't worry about feeling jealous, we are all like that sometimes, especially when it comes to our crushes friends, so it's okay to hate her. Theres this girl who is like my bff now, but when I was in the eighth grade I totally hate her because she was going out with my crush. They broke up after only a coupel of months, but I still didnt really like her, until a few months later when we did a project together, and she had no idea I hated her, but liek I said, I was an idiot and let my jealousy get in the way of having a great friend, but you seem to know that just because she's friends with your crush, she's not an evil person, so props.
Kay, so what do we do? Well you want him to ask you out, well as I mentioned before, guys don't usually know you want them to ask them out, and if they do, then theyre really great guys that we all dream out. So I think that you should try and talk to him more, try and bring up things that don't have to do with english(?) or what ever class it is. Try and bring up stuff he likes, and stuff you liek to counter act that. Bring up movies you want to see, or inexpensive things you want to do that he could ask you out on a date to. Talk about how excited you are for the dance, and you wish you had a date type thing. Keep flirting, it's our best tool. And try to say something that will make him laugh. Because thats what a lot of guys look for in a girl, as much as we want a guy to be funny, they want a girl to be funny too. If all of that doesnt work, and I'm not saying do it all tomorrow and wait for him to ask you out, if after a couple of weeks or months, he still doesnt see that into you, try asking him out, make it simple, such as a movie with some friends, or to come over and watch a hockey game or whatever, try and find something that doesnt really seem like a date, and then show him that you can be friends first, but try not to scare him off. Make sure it's not something where he would feel pressure to have to ask you out again afterward. Remember it's okay to ask a guy out, we don't live in the 1600's. It's just hard, and everyone hates doing it. If he says he doesnt feel like it, or puts off his answer for a long time, ask him out again a few days later, and if he says no again, then chances are he just doesnt want to go out right now, maybe another time. Then wait a few weeks and try again. If he still says no, then mayeb you should move on, because maybe you're right and he is the independant type who just wants to be alone. There are millions of guys out there, and you're only 14, lots of guy chasing years. hehe. Hope this works out, tho and let me know if you want anything clarified, or anymore help. Thanks for asking me, and don't ever hesitate to ask!! Love ya lots,
Angie91
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i have a bf that im a sure im going to marry some day because we have talked about it and our families would love us to get married.he is soo cute but the thing is i dont want to have sex with him intul i get married . it just seems like the right thing. the problem is he doesnt want to wait becuase like i said we know we r going to get married to each other. we do make out some times and its great but some times he wants to go further like trying to unbotton my shirt or un botton his pants. so how do i say no? (link)
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You shouldnt go any further than you feel is right. So I think you need to sit down and tell him that you dont want to go all the way until you are married, and just tell him how far you think is too far. Because sometimes making out does lead to going all the way, but if you dont want that to happen then he needs to know how you feel.
If he thinks that you need to have sex to have a relationship, then maybe you two arent quite ment to be, and maybe after a little while apart he'll realize your right. So if you feel pressured to do things you dont feel are right, make sure you stand up and say so. He's lucky to have you, and you should make sure you always do what you feel is right. Stand up for what you believe in, and don't give in to what he says if it's just that he doesnt want to keep dating someone who wont sleep with him. It's your choice. Good luck, and I hope I helped, if you need some more help let me know!
Angie91
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People layout...
Tristan=Me
Jacob=X BF
Julie=Jacob used to like us at the same time, good friend of mine & Kayla
Kayla=Best friend of mine, Cousin of Jacob, (how we met), and also friends with Julie
My ex, Jacob, isnt the stalker its some other guy and Jacob is just warding him off. How come tis not haelthy to have him protecting me? Well anyways I got kicked outta my house & Jacob heard it from god knows where & called me 3 times, called 5 of my friends trying to find me, and he was getting so worried & scarred that he couldnt get ahold of me he ended up chucking his cell phone at the wall & it broke in half to 3 pieces. Anyways we talked, and he just said he was worried and he cared. That went fine. He always says goodnight & sweet draems to me cuz we've always said that we just leave out the i love you part. He just said goodnight & i asked "no sweet dreams huh?" and he said sweet draems sorry but i didnt say it back i just siad "yup yupp bbye" anyways i came to school toady & found out from my friend Julie that she was one of the people he called (he used to like me & her at the same time before we started dating, throughout our relationship whenever me julie and jacob hung out i said i felt akward cuz i knew he used to like her & he'd say i dont like her i LOVE you) but he used to like her and i found out that he asked her to go out to eat with him & his cousin this weekend. When they got off the phone he said goodnight love you. ... What the helll :(
**also if you noticed the lil ring of people up there.. we all connect somehow. (link)
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Well the reason it's not healthy to have a stalker, or to have your ex boyfriend defending you, is that you are depending on him.
And it's okay to be his friend, but if he has to protect you, then he feels that you still belong to him. But you don't he's just a friend. Even less right now, and until you get over him, you should portray an array of self defense. If it gets really bad, and you're afraid of the stalker, then you should do something, but if it's just a guy who stares at you, or sends you random emails, then just polietly tell him you arent into him. And I think that if jacob tries to defend you, you sould tell him that you know how to defend yourself, and that it was nice of him to help before, but you need to learn to take care of yourself incase something ever happens where you dont have him around to protect you. It's not a good idea to depend on other people to fight your battles for you. Like sometimes its so hard because you just want to ask your friends for help, but as you get older, you begin to realize that sometimes, only you can solve a problem, and that makes you more and more independant.
Okay, well now on to the ex boyfriend phone slamming incident. Well obviously he really cares about you, but I think that you guys need to talk about this situation a bit, maybe not this week or next week even, but I think that you should start thinking about it a bit, because you need to tell him how you feel. Whether that is that you still like him, or not. You need to tell him that you are upset with him, and that you want to get over him because of the thing she did to hurt you. And at this point it gives him freedom to finally tell you that he likes you or whatever he wants to say. But don't go back to him. No matter how many times he apologizes for what he did and stuff, you need to be without him now, and its time to recover and show him that you are still great friends but nothing more.
It's good that you still say things to him at night, thats really cute, and it still shows that you have that connection.And I understand that you feel upset that he says I love you to julie, but thats okay, because its probably just a "like" love and and he's just being nice, and he doesnt want to say it to you because that would be awkward, and you shouldnt want him to say I love you to you, because you are trying to get over him, remember that's your goal.
You know it's all really complicated, and if you need any more clarification, and stuff don't hesitate to ask. Also, I don't mind long questions, so if you want to like tell me the whole story at the top part, and then kinda bring out your questions at the bottem, to make sure that I know what you're asking, that would be great, that way I can definatly get the answers you need for you. Hopefully anyway.
I hope this advice helped alittle, and I hope things will definatly work out for you. Good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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Hey it's me again.. the muzzy girl..haha okay well I'm asking you for more advice because I want this part like CRAZY. out of the callback list, I think I'm the only one that can hit muzzys notes and have her verbrado while holding that end note for Only In New York (Not to be full of myself or anything) but I seriously don't know how to act like her. What did you do when you were that character? What things did you change and stuff? I am only a freshman and TMM is our cappies show, so I know the teacher is only gonna pick the best of the best, but I really want this part! please help!! thanks so much!!
ps does muzzy tap? (link)
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Hey,
I actually didnt play Muzzy, but I knew the girl who played her, really well. I'm a freshman too, and we have a lot of seniors in our school, so it's really uncommon for us to get speak roles, but I got to be Mathilde, so that was pretty awesome. But anyways, our muzzy was pretty awesome, except when she was singing. She didn't hit the notes, and when she wasn't on the microphone it was fine, but like when we were actually preforming it was sorta bad.
But it was her first year with a part so, I guess next year she'll have a larger one, and maybe be able to hit the notes, anyways, it's hard to explain what her voice sounded like, but she had a nice low voice with an almost crispness to it.
Other than that I can't really describe it, but I think that unless you have a high voice, you should change it that much, because theres a chance that you could screw it up more, than if you just tried out with your regular voice, but I'm not sure. In our play Muzzy didn't tap, because she didn't know how, but I couldn't imagine her tapping anyway, unless she does randomly in the song with muzzy's boys, but if you can tap let the audtioners know.
Muzzy's character is someone who is getting older and wiser, but can still carry off being a young girl, and a friend of milly's. She has wisdom beyond her years, and she is really good at revealing the truth to Milly near the end, so if you try to act older than fourteen or whatever, then they might catch on, I'm sure that they will like that you have researched the part, and I really hope that you get the part, if theres anything I can help you with just let me know. Let me know what part you do get if you get a chance too! Wish I could come see it! Love ya,
Angie91
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Hey its Tristan
So my X called me on tues sounding really bummed and I could just kind of tell from the tone in his voice that something was wrong & i asked what was wrong repeatadly and he finaly said "I just miss you a bit... okae alotta bit" i was like whoa.. totally caught off guard & i said nothing about it i just changed the subject. I miss him so much & in a way im glad i didn't tell him that i missed him yet im sad because he doesnt know what he misses.. misses him in return. I just don't want him to think by him telling me he misses me "alotta bit" is going to get me back. His roommate told me theres been 2 nights where he is almost about to cry himself to sleep. && now at night he's moping around. I dont know what to do.. I feel bad because I love him but he hurt me && now he's finally getting a taste of what lifes like without tristan... He also asked me wht i was doing on v-day on wed. && he told me he almost had to work && that he would have been mad if he did then asked me again what i was doing && he said oh im doing nothing to. i have the day off. i dont know if he was hinting something at me or not. Anyways he called me 3 times the next day to keep me updated on this guy he's practically stalking me (my x told this guy to leave me alone) but i dont know i really just dont want to get hurt again... at least not again from him. (link)
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I totally understand. And I think you just answered your own question. When you talk to hi, you think: "Oh I wish I could go back to him" because that's what feels normal to you. You were with him for 21 months right? Thats a long time. A lot of times where you hugged and felt safe, but then he hurt you. Therefore he isnt as safe anymore. But sometimes you think, "hey, just because it's not safe anymore, doesnt mean I can't still be with him." But you're already correcting yourself, because you figured it out, you know that he is capable of hurting you again, so even though you know he wants you back and thats the easy way out, he could do it again three months from now.
I know you feel sorry for him, and your first reaction is to stop hurting him, but you can't do that, because that gives him the right to hurt you again. And you don't want that.
Think of it this way, there are millions of great guys out there for you. Sure he was a great guy, but he had his turn. He took a nice long ride on the tristan train (lol) and now its time for him to get off, and it's time for you to get off the train too. Sure it was a nice warm train with some really great times, but now it's time to get off and have some really great times off the train. Of all the guys you can date before you get old and married, he's only one. And yeah, theres always the possibility that he's "the one" but sometimes theres more that just one. Like I like chocolate ice cream, but after awhile, sometimes I want some vanilla, so it's my second favourite flavour, and sometimes I order vanilla, because it's time for change. And change can be good. The only thing that keeps us from change is the fear of getting off the train. And tristan, it's time to get off the train.
It really sucks, but you know it's time, you feel it inside, you wouldnt be questioning it if you didn't.
So last time we talked, I recommended that you don't date anyone for a while, because you felt so bad when you heard he was moving on, well I still think that it's best for you not to date, but I also think that its important for you to either A) get out and do something on V-day. Whether its going to the mall with friends or seeing a funny movie, or B) rent a great movie and take a bubble bath and light some candles. You know relax and do soemthing that makes you happy, and if he asked what you're doing, then say oh, I'm just hanging out, watching some movies or hanging with friends. And then you don't have to make him feel bad because you're moving on, because you're actually not, you're still the same old girl but you're making time for other things in your life than just hanging out with him.
Also everytime you ask me a question I try to come up with a new way for you to get over him, because as we know already, it's not going to be something where you go to bed tonight and the next morning you're ready to move on and date some new guys, so heres another one I thought of:
Well I was reading this book once, where this girl had a rock garden, and she had like 20 rocks, and she would take one out each day that something good happened to her, and so I was thinking, you should go to the dollarstore and buy like a huge bag of pretty marbles, and then everyday that something good happens put a marble in a jar, and everytime he calls and you want to get back together with him, then take the marble out. Yeah sometimes you wont have any marbles, and thats when life is rough right? Well thats okay, because we have those days, but if you keep a check on it, and think of the good things that happen in your life, not jsut the bad ones, it helps you to appreciate life. And you start to think about the bad things too right? And that way you can start to realize that even though he isnt dating you anymore, he still has control over you. And over your emotions right? And you need to find a way to take back control. You know it's time to get off the train, but he wont let you. And you need to find a different way off. But thats up to you to figure out. If you need some help, I'll think about it a bit more and see if I can find a way for you to get the message across to him.
AS far as the stalker part, I was a little confused, so if you ask me another question can you explain that a bit more, I couldnt tell if you were annoyed with your ex for being a stalker, or if theres an actually person stalking you, and that your ex is like warding him off. Well either way, I think that you need to get control over that situation, whether it's because the stalker is being warded off by your ex, or because your ex is the stalker, it's not healthy to have your ex protecting you. Or stalking you. But if you want to talk about that more, we can.
As far as what to say when you talk to him next time, theres no one answer to that question, but try to change the subject and make it sound liek you're there to talk and be his friend, but nothing more.
I think I answered your question, but you know where to find me if you need more help! Love ya,
Angie91
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If someone wanted to try out for Muzzy in thoroughly modern millie, what would be some good characteristics to have, singing and acting and dancing wise?
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Well I was in the play a couple of months ago, and think you would want to have a nice strong singing voice. She has a couple of solo's, where she has to act young, but be older. I'd have to guess she's in her thirties, maybe older, but she still maintains that look where she is young and talented, and everyone wants to know who she is.
When we did the play, our Muzzy was really god, but she had trouble on the song that brings in the party scene. SO I would try and practice that one. I think it was called only in New york, but if thats not what its called that phrase is in the song alot.
As far as acting, well she has to show that she is living the life that everyone wants, but she isn't really and truely happy. She doesn't have the husband she was going to marry for money, because he died, but as she married him, she realized that it's all about love. She's a friend of millies and a confident, but she also is a teacher.
And for dancing, every time this musical is produced, there are going to be different dance moves used, and for Muzzy, she has a few solos, so there's a good chance that there will be alot of dancing for you, if you get the part, but again, it all depends on who the director is.
I think that should cover your question, if you need more help, let me know.
Good luck, hope you get the part.
Angie91
Um yeah, the girl that played her in our play was very good. She had a very deep voice, but it was pretty, like I don't really know how to describe it, but if you have a very high voice, when you audition try lowering it a bit, it shouldnt be too big of a deal, if you've watched the movie, or been to the play before then you should be okay, if you can't find the movie, that kinda sucks, but it shouldnt be too big of a deal. You deleted this question, so I don't know if you'll get this, but hopefully you do, and hope you get the part!!
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Its me again with the prob. with the bf & the dance
lets just call me Tristan
Me and my bf broke up of 21 months a month ago. Its clear we are both moving on but 3 days ago i read something that he wrote and it said "I am looking for a woman" Then yesterday he wrote "I am still looking for a woman" it just made me burst into tears on the spot. Is it totally natural that Im torn up about it? I know im moving on, going on diff. dates with diff. guys, and all that other sort of stuff... But it just struck me so hard to just know he was officially moving on. I just feel selfish && stupid.
P.S-I'd like to get back together but i dont see that happening if that helps any.
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Hey Tristan!
I probably would have burst out into tears too if I were you! But I cry a lot lol, so if that isn't very natural for you, then all it means is that you are moving on a little slower than you would like. But that's okay. You spent almost two years of your life with this guy, and it's perfectly natural to feel this way.
I know you're trying really had to move on, but I think that dating might not be the best way. I think that for right now you should stay single, but have some really great friends around all of the time, you've got a huge thing for this guy and it may take weeks or months to get over it. Just because he is ready to move on it doesnt mean you have to. So I think it's probably best for you to just be single. You're a really strong girl and you can handle being single. You can support yourself for a while. You can do so many things for yourself.
I think that I gave you some tips on moving on already, but I have a special one for you today. I think that you should try something crazy. I can't remember how old you are, but your age might limit your list, but I think that you need to do something life changing. It will be a significant source for that feeling that shos you that you are stong and amazing. I mean there are a million things you can try. Sure they may be expensive and your parents might not go for them, but I think you need to try something new. And durastically new. Like riding in a hot air balloon, or climb one of those big rockclimbing walls. Or try something thats not insanely high up, like horse back riding or swimming with dolphins. A lot of these things are things that people want to try but they just never do them. They think oh maybe next year or maybe when I get older, but the key is to do things when you are young and can actually do them. So I think that you should try and do something exciting that you've never done before. Something that you don't think you can do. It will prove that you don't need a man to be there for you 100% of the time.
I totally understand your feeling of selfishness, but its not stupid. You arent stupid. You are an amazing and talented person who has feelings and emotions, and it's okay for you to feel the way you do. But if you keep your mind off of it then you wont have to worry about thinking about these things that make you feel stupid.
I've been asked before "how do I know when I've moved on?" Well its that moment when you see the man you love(d) with another woman and you can smile and say that youre happy for him and not feel that pain afterward.
You arent going to move on tomorrow. You aren't going to move on tuesday. Or even three weeks from then. Sometimes it takes a long time. The only way to move on and be happy is to get to a balanced place in your life. And right now you arent there yet. And for some people moving on is simple, and they can join a club and meet a hot guy and go out with him and everything in life will start over. But you dated this guy for 21 months. You're in love with him, and you can't get over him tonight. But if you use this time to grow and change and make a difference in your life, then you can look back on it and think of it as a positive experience.
You're still young so don't worry about not getting a boyfriend tomorrow. You'll be fine.
And I know you want to get back together with him, but you can't. You just have to realize that that chapter of your life has ended. (I'm so sorry) and its time to find something to fill that gap.
This is going to be a tought few weeks and months. And there are a lot of things that are going to make you want to cry and sometimes even rip your heart out. But thats okay. And you know that id you ever need anything I'm here, whether its a question, or you just need someone to listen, feel free to email me, or ask another question.
I hope that you feel better, and start to move on, but remember it's okay to feel how you feel and to let your emotions show. And remember soon you'll be able to look back on this and think of it as a good thing, right now, deffinatly not, but in a few months or years probably. Good luck, and I hope you feel better, really, I do.
Love,
Angie91
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OMG, i keep on going on msn n i dont know what to do. I'm like addicted and i really need some advice on how to stay off of it or any other things i could do. Please help give me ideas or something else i can do.
thxx :)
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Hey,
Well I think that it is easier to quit doing things gradually. So what you need to do, is take away two hours from the usual amount you spend on msn. Grdually decrease this number each week until you are down to less than an hour on msn a night.
When you go on the computer don't turn on msn. If you have to talk to someone phone them, text them, or send them an email.
You shoudl try and find other things that occupy your time. Like a good book, or a club, or a job, or volunteering, or if the problem is you are spending too much time on the computer and not enough on your math homework try spending more time on that.
Make a list of all of the things you need to do today before you can go on msn. And if you don't complete them then you can't go on.
reward yourself for everyday you don't go on msn, by putting a quarter in a jar, and after afew weeks you can go buy yourself something you like.
Those tips should help, but if you need more or anything else, let me know! Good luck,
Angie91
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The story goes like this: Friday, Feb 9th will be our seven month anniversary. He's got this crazy exgirlfriend who's claimed that he's trying to cheat on me and has been claiming this for the whole time. I don't really know her, but she's done this 3 or 4 times now. The first time was right before homecoming and right before our 2 month anniversary. it turned out she lied, or at least according to him because he called her and told her to stop saying this stuff. The second time was right before Christmas, just a days after she saw him and i eating at a resturant on a date. again she lied, again according to him because he called her and told her to stop saying this stuff. This time, a few days before our 7 month anniversary and valentines day she says that he called her Sunday night, drunk, 25 minutes after I got off the phone with him. He was perfectly sober when we got off the phone. Granted he did drink about a glass and a half of Vodca, and about half a glass of that was grape juice, once we got off the phone, and granted he watched Aquateen Hunger Force at 10:30 or 11 and fell asleep watching it, and granted *I* busted her for lying this time, I don't know what to do. She conveniently doesn't have caller ID to send me a picture of from when he supposedly called her Sunday night, and she sent me some IM conversations with completely unreal dates and times because he was at work and another of his friends testified to that before they even knew what was going on, not to mention there are no computers to get online with at McDonald's. I know in my heart he didn't do it, but she's done this so many times now that I can't help but have a little doubt. What should I do? oh yeah, i'm 15/F and he's 18/M (link)
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Well there's where it all goes wrong. The second you begin to doubt it, that's when you are giving into her ploys. She obviously wants the two of you to break up, and she can do that by slowly breaking down your trust in him. And she already has. So you have to decide right now, whether this is something that will get to complicated (ie you'll get your heart broken, or have to ask him whether or not he is cheating on you) and get out, or if this is something that will potentially go away after a few weeks. You have to decide on that and then tell him. If you think that this is going to get too complicated, then you should tell him that it has nothing to do with what the girl is saying but with how you are feeling. And if it's the opposite, and you think taht you can get over it, then you must never ask him if he actually is cheating on you, if you suspect that he is, break up with him, but if you are just wondering, stop, because that will make things ten times more compliacted, and it will show him that her plans are getting to you. From there the relationship is over.
So you have to decide what you think you should do. We can't tell you whether or not to break up with him, but if you think that it would be better to give up and get out then it probably is. But if you think that your relationship can withstand this then it probably can.
Good luck, and I hope you can choose what ever path is best. Love ya,
Angie91
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so im a pretty big guy, 16 and a junior. I know a very intelligent freshmen and would consider asking her out on a date or somthing. only thing is she is a little small and she is a freshman. the freshman part wouldnt be so bad if she wasnt as underdeveloped. it would feel awkward to do anything intimate with her since i would feel she is a bit small. well, it's up to you guys. do i ask her out and just wait for the day when she gets a little more physically mature to have an intimate moment, or do I hold off on asking her out untill next year when it will be a bit less unusual, Senior Sophmore. but if i do that i run the risk of losing her intrest or my own intrest in her. any advice is appreciated :) (link)
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LMFAO. I'm sorry, but I couldn't help but laugh.
Um first of all, how is it up to us? It's your life. We just give you advice. And I will try to give you some okay?
First of all, she's small? Like... lmao. It's hilarious, because you're a guy, and all you can think about is what she looks like, but doesnt it matter what shes actually like? Obviously there has to be some attraction, but you have a reason for likeing her, so why don't you want to go out with her? Because she's small...
Are you sure you would feel awkward because she's under developed and not because she's two years younger than you?
How do you know she'll have an intimate moment with you? And if you go out with her and you think it will be awkward, then... don't have one... Wait if you want, but some girls just don't really develop. I mean some do, but I think that if you like the girl, then you should go out with her, if you don't like her, then don't. If you think that she's not mature enough with you, then think that, but still go out with her. Then find out if she is too immature for you, and dump her (at worst you're just dumping a girl because her breasts are too small)
But heres the thing, like I said it's up to you, not us, so you have to think about what the worst thing could be if you go out with her. If it's like leathal, then don't go out with her. If it's like you'll have a boreing date because you don't "have an intimate moment" then see what happens.
I'm sorry for laughing at you, but I find it hilarious, that you are dissing a perfectly great girl because she isn't physically mature, yet you aren't mature enough to go out with someone you like because you might not get as far on the dates as you might like...
Good luck, I hope you make up your mind. Love ya,
Angie91
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Hi my names kc and my parents gotta divorce about 7 years ago. However, my brother now hates my dad, he never wants to go with him, and he sticks up the middle finger at him which is wrong cos hes only 12. My mom doesnt do anything about it she can careless? Im the only one who goes with my dad on the weekend but i have a better time with him because my mom always argues and is so negative (link)
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Okay, well I'm not 100% sure what the question is, but I'm going to try and answer it anyway, because my parents divorced about seven years ago as well. I don't have any siblings, but I always hate it when my mom talks about my dad badly. She did it so often that I began talking badly about my dad as well. But then I realized that he's part of my family, and though he and my mom aren't really together anymore, I have to make my own effort to be with him and have a relationship with him, and make my life more than just a guy I have to see once a week. I love my dad a lot, and I'm sure you do too.
Okay, well as far as your brother, there is almost nothing you can do, you can tell him how you feel and think of it this way, say some guy at school stuck up the middle finger to your best friend, you would stand up for her, so next time your brother talks disrespectful of your father tell him that it is extremely rude of him to do that, and that until he appologizes you will not speak to him, because he is being disrespectful, and he doesnt deserve to have a relationship with you if he can't have a relationship with his father. He'll probably be like most little brothers and try and force you to talk to him, but speak to him the way you would someone at school you don't really like. Just some guy who you don't really care about.
Once he realizes that he has to be respectful around you, or he wont have a relationship with his sister, then he'll try and speak polietly. I mean you can't change how your brother acts, but you can tell him when he goes to far, and just try and show him how he needs to act in order to have your respect.
As far as going to your dads every weekend alone, it kinda sucks, but think of it this way, at your mom's yor brother has a lot of the attention, but if you are at your dad's alone then you will have all of his attention pointed at you.
I'm not sure if I answered your question, but if you want some more help, just let me know! Love ya,
Angie91
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I am really bored.People tell me to get a life.How do I do that.Please tell me how I should get a life,get rid of my boredom,meet new people and make new friends. Any answers are appreciated
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well, usually when people tell you to get a life, they are kinda mean, and don't really have lifes themselves, but it's good that they inspired you to try and do new things, so I guess theres an upside to the insult.
Well I think the first thing to do, is figure out what you were doing when people told you to get a life, were you talking about starwars! Or doing extra math homework? Or something that "popular" people would consider weird?
Now I'm not telling you to quit doing the things you love because they are "weird" because thats not being true to yourself, but I think taht you can incorperate the things you love with the things that other people love too.
So what can you do to cure boredom? Well turn off the computer (you're probably like darn, now how am I going to occupy my time) and make a list of twenty times in your life when you were difinetly not bored. Maybe it was when you went skating with your best friend. Well go down tot the rink (assuming you don't live in california lmao) and join a skating class. You will meet some new people and have something to do each week. Do that a few times (if its in your price range) and try and figure out what kinds of clubs you can join around school or whatever.
Now assuming you are old enough, get a job. But don't just go to mcdonalds or the chicken place down the street. Find something that you would actually enjoy doing! And try to apply there, you will meet new people and make money. Plus you might be having some fun!
Then go down to your local animal shelter, or home for mentally and physically challenged people (etc) and start volunteering. This is a great way to get social interactions, and help in your community. You will be able to meet some other volunteer workers too.
Then start reading the newspaper, and watching the news on tv. This will get you informed on things going on in the world. I know that this really doesnt have anything to do with getting a life. But it's good to get one thing everyday that is educational, and you'll find that you can bring things that you read/ see up with people rather than saying that you have no life, they can actually listen to you and figure out how to do things that you already know how to.
Then set regular goals. A goal can be anything from getting your room clean by wednesday to writing a book. And with each big goal comes little goals, like writing a chapter or a page or something like that. Soset goals for yourself everyday (or follow through with the goal you already set the day before if it isnt done yet) and everytime you achieve a goal take a quarter and put it in a jar beside the book you write your goals in (oh did I not mention that before, write down your goals!! That way you can look back and look at everything you accomplished, well almost everything).
Make "to do" lists and check off the things you do. And if anyone ever tells you to get a life, stop hanging out with them, why should they care what you do in your spare time? It's your life right? So you can do what you want with it. And your oppinion of fun, is deffinetly different than lucy or joe or franks (lmfao) right? So they can't judge your life. And if they do then screw them. You don't need people who make fun of you!! you'll be making friends at skating and work and volunteering. (lmao remember those are just examples if you HATE skating dont force yourself to do it lmao)
I hope I answered your question, thanks for picking me to answer it, and I hope you find somethings to occupy your time and have lots of fun doing it. If you ever need any ideas or have more questions, you can always ask me. Sprry for taking so long to answer. Good luck!
Love ya,
Angie91
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This is the person who was needing advice earlier who went to the dance with her x.. and it was a little bit akward
well we havent talked sense friday (so a week and a day today)
But as you know we dated for 21 months we were very close but we broke up over a month ago because he says we need space. Now we arent going to date again (he said maybe next year.. but im not waiting that long) Yes i do love him, i love him alot. But its hard to love someone when they dont love you back and want to string you along til next year. Although me and his roommate have gotten pretty close (we were friends like 3 monts before the breakup) and we just seeing eachother in "that way" i guess you could say, and now we sort of have a thing for eachother. His roommate doesnt know i have a thing for him i just told him we'd talk later this weekend when he told me that he really liked me. What should i do? this happans to be my x bf of almost 2 years roommate.. (they arent the best of friends either..)&& what do i say when me and his roommate talk about our liking towards eachother?
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I hope I didn't answer this too late :(. Well first thing is first, I remember answering that question, well it seems like you took my advice and tried to move on, and thats good. I definitly do not think that it would be a good idea for you to wait the year for your ex, or even go out with him in a year when he "doesn't need space anymore".
I don't think that it would be a big deal for you to go out with the roommate, lets call him joe. Joe is a totally different person than your ex, and just because they live in the same room doesnt mean that you can't go out with him if you want. But you have to figure out if you actually want to go out with him or not. If you do, then tell him that, he obviously likes you, so theres nothing to be afraid of, in letting everything out, but if you don't like him, tell him that you are still trying to get over your ex and you need a bit of time.
I think that by "I have a thing for him" you mean that you like him, lol, so you can forget the second part, but remember, if all you want with joe is a fling or a rebound, DON'T because you'll hurt the both of you, and make sure he knows its not a fling because then it gives him the right to dump you in three weeks and move on, which may be fine, but I can tell by your last relationship, that three weeks isnt a usual relationship for you.
So what do you say? Well, you should be really honest. Try and tell him how you feel and talk to him in a way that shows that you want to go out with him, but don't be too clingy. It's complicated, but if you try to act like you like him, but you also don't care if he doesnt want to ask you out, then it will probably be okay. Remember that he already put himself out there and told you he liked you (or whatever he said) and now it's your turn, so show him you like him, and be truthful.
In any relatioship, starting off with the truth is best, and as long as you show him you like him and don't hide anything from him, life should go smoothly.
Good luck with your new relationship (hopefully) and have a great time. Thanks for asking me, and telling me I'm the best (what can you say to that :D). If theres anything else let me know! Hopefully I cant get back to you faster next time! Love ya,
Angie91
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hey =]]
i asked you a question a little while ago ::
[[kay, well to make a sorta long story super short, there's a guy i like and he used to be in one of my classes, but we rarely ever talked, even then. i liked him then but couldn't get up the courage to talk to him, and he doesn't know that i like him. now he's not in any of the same classes as me, but some of my friends are in classes with him. i don't talk to him outside of school, like, ever. he's never on aim and he doesn't update his myspace. how should i talk to him to get to know him? should i get his number? wouldn't it be super awkward to just go up to him one day and ask for his number? and also, wouldn't it be a little weird to find out his number otherwise and just call him up randomly one day? what should i do to, i dono, break the ice with him?
i guess i'm trying to ask, how should i go about trying to get to know this guy better? what i know about him i like a lot already, and i just want to get closer to him and for him to get to know me too. we say hi to each other in the halls every day, and one time he stopped in the middle of a crowded hall just to turn around to say hi to me. i don't know if he was just being nice or what. anyway, sorry for this being semi-long. thanks in advanceee]]
okay, well thank you firstly for your advice, it was super great and really specific ;; i loved it.
but now, to update you and ask some more questions about this scenario ...
this guy, as it turns out, is in two of my classes now. let's name him kyle. so, kyle is in my computer arts class and also in my gym class. in gym we're doing this ballroom dancing thing, and today we got partners. the guys got to pick the girls, and kyle picked me !! i don't know how this happened, but it was super amazingly great. i was so excited, but tried to act nonchalant about it, you know? so we danced and stuff and it overall went well, but there are some awkward moments when i don't know if i should be looking at him or at my feet. most of the time i was staring at our feet because i didn't wanna freak him out by like, staring at him. where would you look so it doesn't seem freaky, but to let him know that i'm paying attention to him // happy to be dancing with him?
also, any tips on overall flirting with him?
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Hey! yeah, I definitely remember answering that question for you. Wow that’s pretty crazy that he just randomly got into your classes eh? But that’s awesome. :O He picked you to be his partner!! Oh man that’s awesome! K almost the exact same thing happened to me with this guy in my musical theatre class at school. We didn't pick our partners, but he got assigned to me, and I kinda liked him at first, and then I found out I as going to be his dance partner and I freaked out. Of course I had exactly the same problem. I didn't want to be weird and keep staring at his face, so I kept looking at our feet.
Well then the couple next to us started doing the same thing, and the teacher walked up to them and said: "I bet you two billion dollars that your feet will not leave your body at anytime during this dance, do you can move your eyes onto your partner." Well then I was like k, I can't look at my feet anymore, because if she said the same thing to us, it would be totally embarrassing, and the teacher didn't really like me very much because I wasn't very good at picking up dance moves quickly. Well anyway class ended and I went home and I thought about it. I decided that I would casually look up, and if he was looking at me I would look back, but if not then I would look over his shoulder at the couple next to us.
Well I went to class the next day, and we started dancing. And I decided that I had to look up at him, and when I did he was looking back at me, so from then on, I stopped looking at my feet and started looking him in the eyes. It was great because I was doing what I was told, and apparently we looked awesome from the audience.
So heres what I would suggest, I think that you should try just glancing up at him for a second and see if he's looking back. If he is, then look at him for a second and pretend there is something so interesting over his shoulder (if he's short enough) and then look at "that" for a second. Then switch to the other side, then look at him again, you know, switch it up. I think that this might work for you, but you should only do it for the first day or two, pretend that you are sortof nervous (that might not be a long stretch) and then try and get the nerve to look at him for a minute the next time. Give a short thin smile, and try and toss your hair back a bit. That will definitely catch and draw in his attention. Make sure that the expression on your face gives off the look that you like dancing with him, but it's not the most exciting thing in the world.
Obviously he thinks you're pretty awesome, otherwise he wouldn't have picked you, so don't worry about flirting an insane amount, like I said flip your hair smile at him. Look really innocent and cock your head to the side. That's super cute.
Once you've danced together a few times, if he looks too serious, make a funny face or stick out your tongue at him, I know you're thinking that this is going to make him think you just want to be his friend, but unless you jus want to ask him out (which it didnt really seem like you did in the first question) then you have to get to know him really well. So if he sees you as someone whose cute and funny, and relaxed, then he might like to get to know you better. But you definitly have to show him you like him. I just realized that. He asked you to be his partner, you have to definitly show some interest. So you can do that, by looking at him a lot, like still do the over the shoulder and stuff, but try and make it about a ratio of maybe 30seconds:1 minute (thats just an example) make a significant about of time looking at his hair, his shirt his eyes his make him think you don't want to take your eyes off of him, but do it, because otherwise it would look kinda weird lmao.
I think that that should hopefully answer your question. Good luck with kyle, and don't worry about long questions I don't mind taking the time to read them, sorry I took so long to answer, I went away for the weekend. (:P) Let me know if there is anything else that comes up, and have fun dancing, if you don't flirt perfectly, he still picked you, so that has to mean something right? Have fun! Thanks for getting back to me, and choosing me to answer your question!
Love ya,
Angie91
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Okay so I'm a freshman in college. Thursdays and Fridays are the longest days for me because I have a 3 1/2 hour and then a 1 1/2 our class on Thursdays and a 6 hour class on Fridays. I never eat breakfast because I'm never hungry when I wake up and I can't stand eating when I'm not hungry. When I get to school I usually buy like a 16 ounce coffee with a little bit of cream and sugar and maybe have a cigarette or two as the day progresses, but I don't eat until I get home. I think it may be because of all the caffeine and lack of physical movement, but whenever I'm in class on these days I'm extremely shaky and jumpy and twitchy and dizzy and restless and stammery...it's so weird and I hate it! What could be causing this? How can I avoid feeling like this during long classes like this?
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Hey,
well the first thing I'm going to tell you is the last part, you are awake at night because of the coffee. I know it sucks but take the coffee out of your diet, it might lower your energy levels at night.
Kay, now I know you're expecting this, but you have to eat breakfast. I hate eating in the mornings for the first two or three days, then it's okay, you just have to get into the habit of eating. If you don't then you wont be able to concentrate, and it will effect your sleep. You can eat things other than eggs and bacon, if that makes you be able to eat it. Try a grilled cheese sandwich, or a yogurt or even a warm bowl of soup.
If you ABSOLUTLY cannot get in the habit of eating breakfast (after two or three weeks you still feel sick trying to eat it) then pack a large lunch and eat it at different times during the day (snacking) packa granola bar or a banana or a baggy of carrots. It takes more time, but it will help you in the lang run. It's all a cycle, and if you eat right, and excersize, then you can get your sleep problems to an easier to handle level. Good luck, and I hope that even though it probably isnt what you wanted to hear, it may help you. Love ya,
angie91
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I have 2 best friends. One of them has been getting on my last nerve constantly lately. She always thinks she is right, and she is kinda over weight a lot, and she wears tight jeans and low cut shirts, and she's like.. "my boobs are so big, those guys keep looking at them" no they arent that big, its that she's kinda a lot fat. I dont mean to be mean, but she's fat, and very much overweight, and my other friend and I are just sick of her bragging all the time that she thinks guys are checking her out, when really the way she is dressing is drawing attention to her fat... and thats all.
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The same sort of thing happened to me a couple years ago. This girl who used to be my best friend used to brag about all these guys who were like in "love" with her (aka they didnt actually exist...), anyways, she used to flaunt things that were inapropriate, and I never had the heart to tell her, but she started to be really mean to me and my new best friend, and left our group of friends to be "popular" but everyone just felt sorry for her. Lookingback on it now, I totally hate how everyone treated her, but she moved about a year ago, and I haven't heard from her since.
But the chances of that happeneing to you are really slim, so you probably should choose one of these two paths. Theres the one where you are a good friend and are really honest, though she could hate you and never speak to you, or you can choose the one where you just let her live her life, and when she gets older, she'll realize that her life when she was older was really sad, and that if she could go back and change it she would regret it. But theres nothing you can do unless you talk to her. So you have to decide whether its worth the worry and conflict, or if you just want her to go on with her life (or this phase of her life) looking really unappropriate.
AS far as the bragging, you know why they are looking at her, theres no point in tell hershes wrong, because that will just lower her self esteem, and as long as you know the truth whats the harm of keeping it to yourself?
I know the solutions arent great, but if you need any further help, I've been through this stuff before, and I think I can help if you fill me in abit more. Good luck, lotsa love,
Angie91
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hey everyone.
my best friends boyfriend is into some bad stuff. [i hear this from alot of people not just one source and the people telling me dont even know eachother] my best friend and him are happy together. he makes her really happy and she loves him alot. i dont want to see her get introuble because of this because she doesnt do any of it. idk if i should tell her or not im kinda stressed about what to do.
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I know what you're talking about. Recently I've had a few difficulties with one of my best friends. She has a boyfriend whose really into drugs, and I have a lot of worries that either she will get mixed into the wrong crowd, or that she might start doing drugs too.
They also seem really happy together, and she says they are in love. I asked her if the drugs bother her, and she says that right now, no, but she worries that if they get older and continue dating, it might become a bigger issue.
I always worry that her mom will find out that her bf does drugs and forbid her from seeing him, or worse think that she was the one doing them.
So I talk to her a lot and make sure she seems like shes making responsible choices, and tell her that she can always come to me if she needs help, but I don't know what else we can do.
I think you should tell her you're worried about her, and you care about her so much, that you just want to make sure shes doing okay.
In the end it's her decision what she is going to do, but as long as she knows that actions have consequences(Drugs=HIV, damage to brain cells, whatever) and that you are always there to talk everything should be fine.
Keep your mind open, and if anything ever happens, that she gets too out of hand, then contact a social worker, or talk to your parents. But be careful you don't want to step in, if you don't need to because then she wont trust you.
I hope that everything is okay with your friend, and remember trust is the most important part of any friendship.Love,
Angie91
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when i want to talk to the guy i like, i always have to write it on Word first. i get so nervous that he'll laugh at why i say and then i don't know what else to say. then when i talk to him he barely talks or answers but thats besides the point. i feel like if i say too much of something he'll get annoyed and block me. why am i like this and how can i stop? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with what you do. Word rocks. It's got grammer functions and dictionaries (thats my fave part, I cannot spell what so ever).
It's okay to be nervous, because he's a guy you like! Of course you don't want him to laugh at you or think you're stupid, so it's natural to worry and obsess over it.
If he doesnt respond, it doesnt really matter, you're still talking to him, and he still reads it, so it's not like he isn't listening to what you're saying. He's probably just busy and guys dont really hold up great conversations very often.
I'm sure he wont get annoyed and block you. If you talk about relevant stuff and if his like (are you using like msn?) status or whatever is set to away or something then don't bother him, but don't feel afriad to talk to him, even if you are the only one holding up the conversation. Whats the worst he can do? Block you? Well thats not very likely and even if he does who cares he's a jerk who doesnt want to talk to awesome you!
So why are you like that? It's not that big of a deal, you're just nervous which as I said is perfectly natural, and you just want to seem perfect to your guy, but if you start dating him or whatever, then you'll be able to show your true feelings, but sometime si even get that way with people I know well, so don't worry it's fine, and as you get to know him it will be easier.
Other than that, it's probably not something that you can really fix, but if you really want to get over it, just try talking to him more and more about things that are more complicated and he has to answer you. Then he will have to answer you with more than a yes or no.
Good luck, and I hope I helped you to figure out why you're like that. Lots of love,
Angie91
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ok so to start off i like 3 guys alot, 2 are my best friends and the other one is the most popular guy in school. i dont know who i should go after and what to do.
guy A)my best friend for a long time, i've liked him forever but never told him i liked him and he's now going out with one of my best friends. he's the type of person that will always be there and just sit and listen and say some sort of quirky comment to cheer you up. me and him have a very complicated relationship. he's very flirty with me when his girlfriend isnt around and has smacked my ass a couple of times. and at parties he'll sit on me and be all flirty with me but he's always just joking around. his girlfriend knows he flirts with me sometimes but she knows its just a joke so shes ok with it. we tell each other "i love you" but just as friends. recently i told the guy that i liked him for a long time but i told him i stopped liking him when he started going out with his girlfriend, but that was a lie. i dont know if i should tell him i like him. if i do im affraid things wont be the same between us.
guy B) another one of my best friends. he's kind of a man whore that has never got any real action but he's currently looking for a friend with benefits. i dont want to be his friend with benefits although i have thought about it. he asks me what i think of girls that he has started talking to and took me on the ski lift for the first time so i wouldnt get scared (im scared of heights) and he stayed on the bunny hill with me the whole day even though he is a really good skiier. he's a really good person inside but he has girl problems. i told him i liked him about 3 months ago but i think he forgot. at parties he'll pay full attention to me and will flirt with me the whole time but in school we're just back to friends. i dont know how i should get him to realize that i still like him becasue flirting isnt working.
guy C) the guy would be my dream boyfriend. he has the perfect looks, funny personality, and same intrests as me. but he only talks to me for about 5 minutes a day. he has "his girls" they're not friends with benefits but he pays a ton of attention to them. i want to make myself stand out because i would really love to go out with him. but he's also a grade above me (but we have alot of classes together) and i dont know if he has an age issue. but how do i keep a conversation going with this guy and stand out from his girls (link)
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Wow you have some guy problems now don't you? It seems like you're picking guys who are going to be hard to get.
I'd probably stay away from guy a, because he has a girlfriend. Wait things out though, and see what happens. Guys tend to flirt with girls to make themselves look cool, so don't take his flirting the wrong way. He might just be trying to make himslef look better than he really is.
Then theres guy b, he only wants friends with benifits right? well I think you know as well as I do that friends with benifits is a bad idea. It's the perfect way for guys to get what they want out of a girl without having to make a commitment. You don't want that right? You want a boyfriend so unless he's willing to commit, don't go after him,
Lastly guy c, well he soudns like a player, and I don't know if you want that either.
You seem to be finding guys for some of the right reasons (like the first two guys personalities) but it also seems like you are letting their looks get in the way of how their personalities work with yours. I think you should try and wait until something changes, and I don't think you should date guy C because he seems to only liek girls who are really pretty, and you should date someone who likes you for who you are, not just how you look.
I'm sure you have an awesome personality and it isnt right to let yourself fall to a standard where all you want is a relationship with someone who wants someone hot to take advantage of.
I think you should take a few weeks where you just look at every guy in a different way. Take the guy who sits next to you in math class, why would you want to go out with him? Why wouldn't you? Then think about those reasons and figure out whether you are superficial and just want a boyfriend for all of the wrong reasons. But if you realize that it wouldnt be the end of the world if that nice guy next to you, who has a great sense of humor and a great smile but isn't the most popular guy at school, asked you out.
I think that you should keep a close check on whats going on in your head. You don't want your looks (or your guys looks to go to your head) and you want to date guys who will treat you right and think only of how awesome you are.
but I cant decide who you date, so you need to keep in mind what you look for in a guy and figure out what is important to you. Good luck, hope you find the guy of your dreams!
Love,'
Angie91
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ok this is REALLY getting on my nerves now...ever since yesterday the right button on my mouse isnt working but i can't think of anything i done to it and its really annoying me now!!!
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Your mouse could just be getting old. I had one that I ended up just throwing out because it was driving me nuts. Like have you ever tried to use the remote control and one of the buttons just wont press down? Maybe I'm the only one, lol, but it seems to happen to me alot, especailly if it's an old remote, I think the same thing might be might be happening to your mouse.
You can try to fix it though, what you have to do, is flip the mouse over, and there should be a tiny little screw there, take that out and lift off the top part of the mouse, and there are a bunch of little peices, see if anything looks broken, and also, see if there is a line of dust around any of the little circles, because that can also effect the speed of your mouse reaction time to what your command is.
Hope that helps solve your question.
Also a mouse can be really cheep, so I'm sure you'll be able to find a good one that will replace this one if you can't fix it. Love ya!
Angie91
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