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Cheating??
The story goes like this: Friday, Feb 9th will be our seven month anniversary. He's got this crazy exgirlfriend who's claimed that he's trying to cheat on me and has been claiming this for the whole time. I don't really know her, but she's done this 3 or 4 times now. The first time was right before homecoming and right before our 2 month anniversary. it turned out she lied, or at least according to him because he called her and told her to stop saying this stuff. The second time was right before Christmas, just a days after she saw him and i eating at a resturant on a date. again she lied, again according to him because he called her and told her to stop saying this stuff. This time, a few days before our 7 month anniversary and valentines day she says that he called her Sunday night, drunk, 25 minutes after I got off the phone with him. He was perfectly sober when we got off the phone. Granted he did drink about a glass and a half of Vodca, and about half a glass of that was grape juice, once we got off the phone, and granted he watched Aquateen Hunger Force at 10:30 or 11 and fell asleep watching it, and granted *I* busted her for lying this time, I don't know what to do. She conveniently doesn't have caller ID to send me a picture of from when he supposedly called her Sunday night, and she sent me some IM conversations with completely unreal dates and times because he was at work and another of his friends testified to that before they even knew what was going on, not to mention there are no computers to get online with at McDonald's. I know in my heart he didn't do it, but she's done this so many times now that I can't help but have a little doubt. What should I do? oh yeah, i'm 15/F and he's 18/M
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Well there's where it all goes wrong. The second you begin to doubt it, that's when you are giving into her ploys. She obviously wants the two of you to break up, and she can do that by slowly breaking down your trust in him. And she already has. So you have to decide right now, whether this is something that will get to complicated (ie you'll get your heart broken, or have to ask him whether or not he is cheating on you) and get out, or if this is something that will potentially go away after a few weeks. You have to decide on that and then tell him. If you think that this is going to get too complicated, then you should tell him that it has nothing to do with what the girl is saying but with how you are feeling. And if it's the opposite, and you think taht you can get over it, then you must never ask him if he actually is cheating on you, if you suspect that he is, break up with him, but if you are just wondering, stop, because that will make things ten times more compliacted, and it will show him that her plans are getting to you. From there the relationship is over.
So you have to decide what you think you should do. We can't tell you whether or not to break up with him, but if you think that it would be better to give up and get out then it probably is. But if you think that your relationship can withstand this then it probably can.
Good luck, and I hope you can choose what ever path is best. Love ya,
Angie91
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this girl could be wanting to get back with your bf and doesn't like he's happy with another girl. for me, the DAY after i got asked out, my bf's ex gf imed me and told me he was only in the relationship for the benefits and that he's mean, mentally abusive, and a liar. so i followed my instincts and didn't believe her and about a month ago when i was telling this story to my bf *we've been together a while and none of what she said has happened* and found out as she was telling me that, she was messaging him and asking for him back and for another chance. annd some girl i didn't even know said he cheated on me with her at a party, but the party was at my friend's house and i had to leave, and i have everybody else from that party testifying that he didn't cheat on me and that she was with some other guy. so chances are, this girl just wants to get back with her ex. i would keep a guard up and kinda watch to see what happens, but don't get all suspicious and question the guy cuz he'll get mad
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