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how to say no
i have a bf that im a sure im going to marry some day because we have talked about it and our families would love us to get married.he is soo cute but the thing is i dont want to have sex with him intul i get married . it just seems like the right thing. the problem is he doesnt want to wait becuase like i said we know we r going to get married to each other. we do make out some times and its great but some times he wants to go further like trying to unbotton my shirt or un botton his pants. so how do i say no?
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just tell him you want to wait and if he loves you he will respect your decition.
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if you don't want to don't let him. don't let him push you it's your decision to do it or not. tell him you want to wait til your married and if he gets mad then drop him. because any guy who gets mad about that is a sore loser and just wants some. but it's okay if you do other stuff too; don't just make out either. because it can start to get old real fast. just have what i like to call "outer fun" tell him no sex. that you want it to be special for when you two get married =]
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If he continues to do this, you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk with him about it. Explain to him that you're not ready for this and that he's making you feel uncomfortable wheenver he's trying to initiate it. You love him and everything, and you're not saying you don't ever want to have sex with him, you just want to wait till you're married.
If he really respected you, he'd understand and respect your decision, and leave it at that. If he tries to use one of those "if you loved me, you would" excuses, just reply with "if you loved ME, you would just respect my choice."
If he still continuously does it over and over again and doesn't listen to you at all, I would re-think your relationship with him. Cause someone who loves you wouldn't try to get in your pants time after time.
I hope I helped.
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if you dont feel right going any further you need to tell him that. if he cant accept you decision then he is not the right guy for you. im sorry to be so blunt and truthful about this, but if i were to lie to you and say theres nothing you can do i wouldnt be of any help. hope this does help! and good luck!
-alyssa
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You shouldnt go any further than you feel is right. So I think you need to sit down and tell him that you dont want to go all the way until you are married, and just tell him how far you think is too far. Because sometimes making out does lead to going all the way, but if you dont want that to happen then he needs to know how you feel.
If he thinks that you need to have sex to have a relationship, then maybe you two arent quite ment to be, and maybe after a little while apart he'll realize your right. So if you feel pressured to do things you dont feel are right, make sure you stand up and say so. He's lucky to have you, and you should make sure you always do what you feel is right. Stand up for what you believe in, and don't give in to what he says if it's just that he doesnt want to keep dating someone who wont sleep with him. It's your choice. Good luck, and I hope I helped, if you need some more help let me know!
Angie91
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just tell him in a sturn serous voice that you not ready and you wont be until your married. and if he starts saying but baby i love you then say if you love me then you will respect my dissision and stuff like that. and if he says to you that your probably going to get married, then say good. we can wait untill then or something like that. you just have to be serous about it and you cant let him persued you into it. and if he still does and cant respect you decision then... you need to think about your relationship.
hope i helped
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how to say no? you say it. honestly hun, if he loves you, he'll wait for you. try to bring up 'sex' into a conversation and ask his thoughts on it. then say yours. simply tell him that you've always believed in saving yourself until after marraige and you think i'd be more special that way.
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