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talk to him ?
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i asked you a question a little while ago ::
[[kay, well to make a sorta long story super short, there's a guy i like and he used to be in one of my classes, but we rarely ever talked, even then. i liked him then but couldn't get up the courage to talk to him, and he doesn't know that i like him. now he's not in any of the same classes as me, but some of my friends are in classes with him. i don't talk to him outside of school, like, ever. he's never on aim and he doesn't update his myspace. how should i talk to him to get to know him? should i get his number? wouldn't it be super awkward to just go up to him one day and ask for his number? and also, wouldn't it be a little weird to find out his number otherwise and just call him up randomly one day? what should i do to, i dono, break the ice with him?
i guess i'm trying to ask, how should i go about trying to get to know this guy better? what i know about him i like a lot already, and i just want to get closer to him and for him to get to know me too. we say hi to each other in the halls every day, and one time he stopped in the middle of a crowded hall just to turn around to say hi to me. i don't know if he was just being nice or what. anyway, sorry for this being semi-long. thanks in advanceee]]
okay, well thank you firstly for your advice, it was super great and really specific ;; i loved it.
but now, to update you and ask some more questions about this scenario ...
this guy, as it turns out, is in two of my classes now. let's name him kyle. so, kyle is in my computer arts class and also in my gym class. in gym we're doing this ballroom dancing thing, and today we got partners. the guys got to pick the girls, and kyle picked me !! i don't know how this happened, but it was super amazingly great. i was so excited, but tried to act nonchalant about it, you know? so we danced and stuff and it overall went well, but there are some awkward moments when i don't know if i should be looking at him or at my feet. most of the time i was staring at our feet because i didn't wanna freak him out by like, staring at him. where would you look so it doesn't seem freaky, but to let him know that i'm paying attention to him // happy to be dancing with him?
also, any tips on overall flirting with him?
thank you, and thanks for your amazing advice <3
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Hey! yeah, I definitely remember answering that question for you. Wow that’s pretty crazy that he just randomly got into your classes eh? But that’s awesome. :O He picked you to be his partner!! Oh man that’s awesome! K almost the exact same thing happened to me with this guy in my musical theatre class at school. We didn't pick our partners, but he got assigned to me, and I kinda liked him at first, and then I found out I as going to be his dance partner and I freaked out. Of course I had exactly the same problem. I didn't want to be weird and keep staring at his face, so I kept looking at our feet.
Well then the couple next to us started doing the same thing, and the teacher walked up to them and said: "I bet you two billion dollars that your feet will not leave your body at anytime during this dance, do you can move your eyes onto your partner." Well then I was like k, I can't look at my feet anymore, because if she said the same thing to us, it would be totally embarrassing, and the teacher didn't really like me very much because I wasn't very good at picking up dance moves quickly. Well anyway class ended and I went home and I thought about it. I decided that I would casually look up, and if he was looking at me I would look back, but if not then I would look over his shoulder at the couple next to us.
Well I went to class the next day, and we started dancing. And I decided that I had to look up at him, and when I did he was looking back at me, so from then on, I stopped looking at my feet and started looking him in the eyes. It was great because I was doing what I was told, and apparently we looked awesome from the audience.
So heres what I would suggest, I think that you should try just glancing up at him for a second and see if he's looking back. If he is, then look at him for a second and pretend there is something so interesting over his shoulder (if he's short enough) and then look at "that" for a second. Then switch to the other side, then look at him again, you know, switch it up. I think that this might work for you, but you should only do it for the first day or two, pretend that you are sortof nervous (that might not be a long stretch) and then try and get the nerve to look at him for a minute the next time. Give a short thin smile, and try and toss your hair back a bit. That will definitely catch and draw in his attention. Make sure that the expression on your face gives off the look that you like dancing with him, but it's not the most exciting thing in the world.
Obviously he thinks you're pretty awesome, otherwise he wouldn't have picked you, so don't worry about flirting an insane amount, like I said flip your hair smile at him. Look really innocent and cock your head to the side. That's super cute.
Once you've danced together a few times, if he looks too serious, make a funny face or stick out your tongue at him, I know you're thinking that this is going to make him think you just want to be his friend, but unless you jus want to ask him out (which it didnt really seem like you did in the first question) then you have to get to know him really well. So if he sees you as someone whose cute and funny, and relaxed, then he might like to get to know you better. But you definitly have to show him you like him. I just realized that. He asked you to be his partner, you have to definitly show some interest. So you can do that, by looking at him a lot, like still do the over the shoulder and stuff, but try and make it about a ratio of maybe 30seconds:1 minute (thats just an example) make a significant about of time looking at his hair, his shirt his eyes his make him think you don't want to take your eyes off of him, but do it, because otherwise it would look kinda weird lmao.
I think that that should hopefully answer your question. Good luck with kyle, and don't worry about long questions I don't mind taking the time to read them, sorry I took so long to answer, I went away for the weekend. (:P) Let me know if there is anything else that comes up, and have fun dancing, if you don't flirt perfectly, he still picked you, so that has to mean something right? Have fun! Thanks for getting back to me, and choosing me to answer your question!
Love ya,
Angie91
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