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What do I do?
I have 2 best friends. One of them has been getting on my last nerve constantly lately. She always thinks she is right, and she is kinda over weight a lot, and she wears tight jeans and low cut shirts, and she's like.. "my boobs are so big, those guys keep looking at them" no they arent that big, its that she's kinda a lot fat. I dont mean to be mean, but she's fat, and very much overweight, and my other friend and I are just sick of her bragging all the time that she thinks guys are checking her out, when really the way she is dressing is drawing attention to her fat... and thats all.
what do i do?
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just tell her this in a nice way though.also, try taking her to a health clinic or something so that she relizes she is fat then start working out with her to make her feel better about being oblivious to the jelly rolls that she had for ,like, ever!
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well, maybe you should say i still want to be friends with her.
not shes fat blah blah blah.
talk to her about it, dont come on here telling other people your best friend is fat and you dont like it.
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Hey. I had a friend who sounds a lot like this girl. She probably is wearing the tight clothes because she is really insecure. It makes her feel better to think that she looks good in such a small size and she says that she has big boobs because this really makes her feel better about herself. She just doesn't want to admit this to herself so she covers things up by acting this way. As for the bragging this is just another way to cover up her insecurities but I'm sure everyone knows how she looks so I wouldn't say anything because she'll just feel silly in the long run. Or you can tell her how you feel but because she's so insecure she may get really upset and be mean to you which wouldn't be good either. Also, you and your other friend can slowly distance yourselves from her if she is really getting on your nerves to the point you really just don't like her anymore. But if this is just her main flaws, you may like her for other things and can keep her as a casual friend or however you feel about her she can be "that friend". I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle <3
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The same sort of thing happened to me a couple years ago. This girl who used to be my best friend used to brag about all these guys who were like in "love" with her (aka they didnt actually exist...), anyways, she used to flaunt things that were inapropriate, and I never had the heart to tell her, but she started to be really mean to me and my new best friend, and left our group of friends to be "popular" but everyone just felt sorry for her. Lookingback on it now, I totally hate how everyone treated her, but she moved about a year ago, and I haven't heard from her since.
But the chances of that happeneing to you are really slim, so you probably should choose one of these two paths. Theres the one where you are a good friend and are really honest, though she could hate you and never speak to you, or you can choose the one where you just let her live her life, and when she gets older, she'll realize that her life when she was older was really sad, and that if she could go back and change it she would regret it. But theres nothing you can do unless you talk to her. So you have to decide whether its worth the worry and conflict, or if you just want her to go on with her life (or this phase of her life) looking really unappropriate.
AS far as the bragging, you know why they are looking at her, theres no point in tell hershes wrong, because that will just lower her self esteem, and as long as you know the truth whats the harm of keeping it to yourself?
I know the solutions arent great, but if you need any further help, I've been through this stuff before, and I think I can help if you fill me in abit more. Good luck, lotsa love,
Angie91
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She's doing that because she's insecure. She can't pretend she's a girl anymore. She probably wears tight clothes because she can't accept the fact that the size she needs is a higher number. She may be in denial about how big she is. Many girls who do this think their boobs are all they have and they show off their 'curves' to get attention. I don't think I'd say anything to her about it. You can just not react when she says things like that and try to change the subject. Someone, some day, is going to tell her that she's really fat, not sexy. When that day comes around, are you going to be her friend? Is she a good friend in other ways? If so, just try to accept this flaw. If not, try to distance yourself from her, especially if she seems to be using her body to get attention (ie becoming a slut).
Sabine
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