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Its tristan
People layout...
Tristan=Me
Jacob=X BF
Julie=Jacob used to like us at the same time, good friend of mine & Kayla
Kayla=Best friend of mine, Cousin of Jacob, (how we met), and also friends with Julie
My ex, Jacob, isnt the stalker its some other guy and Jacob is just warding him off. How come tis not haelthy to have him protecting me? Well anyways I got kicked outta my house & Jacob heard it from god knows where & called me 3 times, called 5 of my friends trying to find me, and he was getting so worried & scarred that he couldnt get ahold of me he ended up chucking his cell phone at the wall & it broke in half to 3 pieces. Anyways we talked, and he just said he was worried and he cared. That went fine. He always says goodnight & sweet draems to me cuz we've always said that we just leave out the i love you part. He just said goodnight & i asked "no sweet dreams huh?" and he said sweet draems sorry but i didnt say it back i just siad "yup yupp bbye" anyways i came to school toady & found out from my friend Julie that she was one of the people he called (he used to like me & her at the same time before we started dating, throughout our relationship whenever me julie and jacob hung out i said i felt akward cuz i knew he used to like her & he'd say i dont like her i LOVE you) but he used to like her and i found out that he asked her to go out to eat with him & his cousin this weekend. When they got off the phone he said goodnight love you. ... What the helll :(
**also if you noticed the lil ring of people up there.. we all connect somehow.
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Well the reason it's not healthy to have a stalker, or to have your ex boyfriend defending you, is that you are depending on him.
And it's okay to be his friend, but if he has to protect you, then he feels that you still belong to him. But you don't he's just a friend. Even less right now, and until you get over him, you should portray an array of self defense. If it gets really bad, and you're afraid of the stalker, then you should do something, but if it's just a guy who stares at you, or sends you random emails, then just polietly tell him you arent into him. And I think that if jacob tries to defend you, you sould tell him that you know how to defend yourself, and that it was nice of him to help before, but you need to learn to take care of yourself incase something ever happens where you dont have him around to protect you. It's not a good idea to depend on other people to fight your battles for you. Like sometimes its so hard because you just want to ask your friends for help, but as you get older, you begin to realize that sometimes, only you can solve a problem, and that makes you more and more independant.
Okay, well now on to the ex boyfriend phone slamming incident. Well obviously he really cares about you, but I think that you guys need to talk about this situation a bit, maybe not this week or next week even, but I think that you should start thinking about it a bit, because you need to tell him how you feel. Whether that is that you still like him, or not. You need to tell him that you are upset with him, and that you want to get over him because of the thing she did to hurt you. And at this point it gives him freedom to finally tell you that he likes you or whatever he wants to say. But don't go back to him. No matter how many times he apologizes for what he did and stuff, you need to be without him now, and its time to recover and show him that you are still great friends but nothing more.
It's good that you still say things to him at night, thats really cute, and it still shows that you have that connection.And I understand that you feel upset that he says I love you to julie, but thats okay, because its probably just a "like" love and and he's just being nice, and he doesnt want to say it to you because that would be awkward, and you shouldnt want him to say I love you to you, because you are trying to get over him, remember that's your goal.
You know it's all really complicated, and if you need any more clarification, and stuff don't hesitate to ask. Also, I don't mind long questions, so if you want to like tell me the whole story at the top part, and then kinda bring out your questions at the bottem, to make sure that I know what you're asking, that would be great, that way I can definatly get the answers you need for you. Hopefully anyway.
I hope this advice helped alittle, and I hope things will definatly work out for you. Good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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