I'm a fourteen year old girl looking to help you people out. Leave me questions and i can try my best to answer them.
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Ok, i'm not into that whole bf/gf thing, so unless you really like me or something weird like that, don't ask me those stupid does he like me questions. i can almost garentee you're not going to like your answer.
i'm a little crazy, but for the most part, i'm not going to screw with you guys like with jokes when it comes to advice.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out 4 about 10 months. Just a lil while ago he told me how the first few months of our relationship he was in2 porn, but then (him being his sweet self) said that the reason why he stopped was me bcuz he didn't wanna hurt me. Of course I 4gave him and everything, and I no I should b happy that he stopped cuzza me, but I still feel kinda hurt. I also feel... I don't really know... but I have a very small chest and just about no butt, and I feel kinda like he would want more than just me. He always says he loves me and I'm so beautiful and everything tho, so I'm happy about that. I think I'm just bn paranoid or w/e about this... but should I still feel a lil hurt that he was in2 porn instead of me? Also, should I worry about how he thinks of my (pretty flat) body? (link)
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you can't help how you feel, so feeling hurt isn't in your control. i think in this situation, you really don't need to feel hurt, but if you do, eh, just try and ignor it. no, i don't think you need to worry about what he thinks about your image, because he's really sweet sounding and it sounds like he really loves you. if he told you about the porn, then this obviously was bothering him that you didn't know about it. he doesn't care about how you look by what you've said. he's really into you.
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My boyfriend has been private schooled all of his life but now this year 4 HS his parents have decided 2 let him go 2 a public school. I am in a public school and I know the temptations that public school has. Well, my boyfriend's going 2 a different HS than me and I'm just worried about him. He's going 2 a school known 4 gangs and stuff, and first off, I don't want him getting involved in anything stupid... and then I'm also concerned about him meeting other girls and then losing interest in me. Wut can I say 2 him, or wut can I do so I stop worrying about all of this? (link)
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give the boy a break. if its ment to be, he wouldn't be looking at other girls. trust him before you make all sorts or assumtions.
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OK here it goes!...Me n my boyfriend have just started havin sex...n well once he has had it once he has to have it all the time...well sometime i really dont want to...but he will force me into it or beg me to have it until i give in...n i love my boyfriend so much we have been dating now for 4 months...i keep saying no over and over but he keep it going when i finally give in he says baby im sorry for doin that to you...but he still does it anyways he promised me that would be the last time but that wasnt the first time he did it either! What should i do and say to him w/ having to break up with him? Please help me! (link)
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look, he's abusing you. you really ought to leave that relationship. i know you love him, but love isn't suppose to hurt. if you don't want to have sex with him, tell him clearly that you won't have sex.
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hello. i'm going into 7th grade and i weigh 153. i'm 5'3". i want to run cross country, but i don't want to get a physical cause you get weighed. for one reason, my mom is skinny and is always preaching to loose weight and i did, 5lbs. reason two, i don't want the coachs, and definatley other runners to see it. what should i do? I only have till next thursday. please help. i rate HIGH!
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ok i have a real ass of a situation like that. my parents are both real skinny and i'm about the same weight you are. do a little cross country by yourself and see if you like it. your coaches can't release your weight. if they do, sue for ever dime they have. i don't think your coaches even get to know about that. all that really happens is your doctor gives you your physical and signs a paper saying you had one. i don't think your mom can even get into your records, but i could be wrong.
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i am currently addicted to crack, marijuana, coke, and X. I have been caught only once, and for marijuana. however im getting very worried about some things goin on with some dealers, i need to get out of it all. any one know how? who should i talk to about it? (link)
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you should absolutely tell someone about it. what your doing is dangerous and you need to tell an adult so they can get you help.
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ok my best friends boyfriend was supposed to call her today and they were supposed to hang out nd' he hasnt even call yet nd' shes like all crushed n crying n everything...i cant stand seeing her like this...what can i say to her to help her feel better(theyve been together over a year)help me quik!! plz if ne1 can
ill even rate you 5'z
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tell her that he probably got tied up or something like that. maybe his phone line died and his rents won't let him use their cellphones.
if she doesn't buy that, tell her that boys are asses and its not her fault he forgot. boys are stupid.
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What are some good snacks? I'm trying to stay away from packaged snacks or sugary snacks. (link)
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fruit!
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ok well these girls i dont no keep instant messangeing me sayin that im fat and ugly because they saw a picture of me on my profile and they say all these mean things to me and im not the kind of girl who can take stuff like that and everyone tells me oh dont worry about them ur pretty and all that but i cant just ignore them they go to my school now too
someone please help me figure out something to do (link)
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tell these girls that your too good for their crap and you don't care (even if you do) and if that doesn't work, find something about them to piss them off. worse comes to worse, yo mama jokes are always good.
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Im a 16 year old girl and ive been dating this girl for 3 months I want to make a move but dont know how, what do I do? (link)
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ok so i take it you are gay? good for you.
alright, it really depeneds on what she's like. i mean, flirt and be nice and all. just act natural and it will come.
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um i have a question . . . I like this guy but hes kinda of what you would call a "nerd" and if i ever went out with him people would laugh at me.Should i go out with him or find someone else? (link)
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why would you care what people think if you really like him? Go out with him of course! its a stupid idea not to go out with someone because of social status because in the scheme of things, what does that really matter? When your an adult there are no nerds and popular people. It shouldn't matter if you really like him.
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i started my period a few months ago...and my mom gave me pads....i want tampons soo i can go swimming etc....soo i decided to ask her...i cant get the guts up to ask her...how should i ask her? (link)
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ok i was just like you. i was nervous to ask my mom about tampons, but seriously, she was really cool about it. the thing about tampons is that they're hard to use if you're a virgin. it might not work out so well for you and that might be why she didn't offer it to you.
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ok, i dont know exactly how to get a reputaion of sum kind in 6th grade. I have a popular friend that i dont usualy hang out with. should i start hanging out with her in order to get kool. or not? (link)
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ok, i'm going into highschool, so i've been in sixth grade. being popular is like the most stupid thing in sixth grade, because like 10% of people like you and the rest think you're either a hooker or just an ass. and by seventh grade, no one cares anymore. Dating in sixth grade is really stupid too, like its "i have a boyfriend!" "What's his name?" "Oh I don't know, but I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!"
so basically, being popular is stupid. hang with the friends you like, and not some kinda close friend just because she's popular.
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Im attracted to mr. clean i always have been. and im only 13 idk, theres somthing about a nice, bald shinny head that turns me on. what should i do? (link)
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buy as many mr. clean products as you can and display them across your room. be around bald people as much as you can. lol you're great!
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Ihave areally hard time falling asleep at night night. Iget all nervous about murderer's breaking in, and it really scares me! I know thiz soundz childish, but does anyone have any advice on how to fall asleep quicker and it would help if you had advice on how to be calmer and not think every little noise in the night is someone breaking in. (link)
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ok that stuff happens to me all the time, like last night . . .
listen to your favorite (quiet) cd or song even over and over and over again until you fall asleep. ok headbanger music will not work, and neither will anything with a lively beat. read for a while too, or watch tv when you get scared.
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does anyone know of a way to get an anti-depressent(i.e. Zoloft©) without going to see a doctor??? I need something along those lines but i can't tell my parents that i need an anti-depressent for certain reasons. My depression used to be just the common teenage cliche of {boredom + no life + no friends + girl troubles = depression}. Earlier this week i realized it was a much more serious problem when i was alone(drunk + depressed) and for some reason got to thinking that i dont want to live anymore.......So i went downstairs, got a knife from the kitchen, went back up to my room and proceeded to stab myself in the wrist numerous times. It bled all over the place for a while and then i turned really pale felt really cold and also a bit numb....then i just kinda zonked out. The next morning i woke up in a puddle of my own blood, and thats when i realized that i cant do this anymore. So yea my question remains is there any way to get an anti-depressent along the lines of zoloft or ya know something like it without seeing a doctor???
(p.s.) - anyone who says "you should tell your parents" gets a rating of a 1 and i automatically dont like you.... (link)
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ok, unless there are some over the counter anti depressents that i don't know about, no, you have to see your doctor so he/she can right you up a prescription. Now, your doctor isn't allowed to tell your parents, because of patient confidentiality, and if you do chose to go see your doctor, which i highly recommend, just remind him/her about that confidentiality stuff.
its good that your looking to help yourself, but keep in mind that you might just not be able to do it alone. asking for help is not a bad thing. i'm not saying go to your parents, because thats obviously not going to work, but maybe your friends, or a trusted adult.
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Hey there everyone! I'm a 16 yr old female and I am a virgin. I am in no way thinking of having sex or asking if i'm too young to or anything, this has to deal more with the future. I am going to wait to have sex until I find a special person, it doesn't really matter if I am married or not. But, I'm afraid that the longer I hold out, it's going to be harder and harder to find a guy that's a virgin also, because it seems like there are none left. So I was wondering if it's silly of me to think that there is a guy out there that is a virgin that I will find somewhere down the road as I get older. Or stop being silly about it and not care? (link)
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ok, wait because that's important. thats very important.
if you find that special guy, why only care if he's a virgin or not? if he's that special, and he's experienced, so what? does it really matter?
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I like this guy, I don't know him that well but he is really cute and is in my honors class so he is smart too. From what i hear, some other girls like him too. We haven't really had a conversation since i've only been in school now for 1 week. I don't know if i should tell him that i think he is hott like some of the other girls, or just look for a guy that isn't in everyones mind.
If i do tell him, how should i say it or bring it up in a conversation. (link)
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eh, tell him you think he's a cutie, because well, its cute! that'll either make things very awkward or he'll open up. or you can pretend you aren't very good in his best honors class and ask to be tuttored. its only been the first week, so i think you could pull it off.
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I want to start wearing eye-liner and I don't know exactly where on my eye I put it - and what are the good brands. Pencil/Liquid? I'll rate you! (link)
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i find liquid to be difficult to apply. sorry, i don't really know any brands. Do you have contacts? because if you do, hold your eyelid the same way you would to put in your contacts and do it right on the edge.
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WHATS A GOOD AT HOME PRODUCT YOU CAN USE TO GET RID OF PIMPLES/BLACKHEADS QUICKLY? (link)
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oxy pads and clearsil the liquid clear gel thing. it takes like 2 dayz for the stuff to work. i love it, i'd marry it if it were a guy.
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Ok i need help. theres this guy i like named zack. Ive known him for about 3 years and we've both liked eachother in the past and everything. hes 16 and im 14(female). Well this time we both have been hanging out, talking more and im really liking him. But for some reason i have this weird feeling that its just a summer type thing, because all year we barely talk(even tho we go to the same school i barely see him) then it seems like everytime summers commin up hes all talkin to me liking me and stuff.. I wanna ask him myself (my best friend offered to but i want to do it myself) i just need help on what i should say and if i should! please help.. (link)
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"man what your deal . . ."
no i'm just kidding, but ask him like why you don't see him in school much. maybe he's feeling the same way as you do. like it might just be wicked conicidentle and stuff, and maybe he wants to see you just as bad.
so be like, "hmm, why don't we ever hang out after school zack? That would be cool!"
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