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Hi there, I had sex on March 17th and i got my period On March 24th. That was normal. Then i had sex on April 7th and got my period on April 20th. I havent had sex since then, but my period is now 4 days late. Could someone please give me some reasons as to why this is happening? Oh i also have Ovarian Cysts if that matters. Thank you.

Ovarian Cysts can cause irregular periods. I hope you're getting medical treatment for them, but they can definitely cause irregular periods. If it's not that, then it could be stress or a number of other things.

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i have bn dating my cousin for 1 year and a month and i luv him i guess i should have not asked for advise but we love each other we are already planing our feauture and im actually really excited

i am the happiest girl ever even though i am dating my own cousin

i know 4 a fact that 4 nothing in this world would he give me up or 4 any1 thats the main reason y I love him

neways we are happy and we are old enough too no what we r doing im 17 and he is 19

i no that ya have gone thew thinking about dating like me but you dont have the nerves to admit it but it ok

so if you want advise 4rm me do what you think is right even though pe0ple w0nt except you 4 who you are!

love ya
;!

It's wrong to generalize everyone together by saying that we've all thought about dating our cousins. Honest to God, I have never even considered dating my cousins. Not even for a second. But since you've got your heart set on it, I guess there's not much that anyone can say to change your mind. I hope you're not like first or second cousins or anything, though. Hopefully you're pretty distant cousins, otherwise, like the other advisors have said, your children will have a high risk of birth defects.

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i just wanted to know if there are anymore girl singers that sing songs like "forgiven" or "angels" by Within Temotation? if you could give me another girl singer that sings something similar to these songs that would be awesome! please answer and help me.

First of all, I love Within Temptation. So awesome to see another fan. There's a band I heard recently called Epica, & they remind me a lot of Within Temptation. Of course, it could just be me, but you might want to check them out.

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what if you hjave been with a guy like forever but you feel like maybee you miss me single but you still love him

If you're having doubts about the relationship, including wanting to be single, it's pretty obvious that you're not ready for such a serious commitment. It's not fair to him for you to stay with him when you're having thoughts. Try to stay friends with him at least, but take some time to be single.

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well, like this guy
hes soooooo hot and he might say yes if i ask him out, but the probllem is he just broke up with his girlfriend should i ask now or later
plz help me i like him alot
thanks
Love yuh

It depends on how serious the relationship was. No offense to you, but judging by the way you asked, you seem pretty young. Chances are the relationship wasn't serious, so I don't see much harm in asking.

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do you think it's wrong to break up with a guy using the message board on his online journal....which everyone can see and knows you broke up with him....before him does...?

Yes, it's wrong, & fairly immature. Not to mention probably pretty embarrassing for him. Have the common courtesy & break up with him in person.

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Im a female 15.
My ex is a male also 15.
We recently broke up for something really stupid. So stupid that I have no clue why we broke up. He pretty much said I was bringing his grades down, and that I wasnt the girl that he liked because ive changed a lot and then after blaming everything on me, he said, im sorry... its not you, its me.
We went out for 5 months and I like him a lot. And this time im not going out with a guy because of looks, but because he is who he is. And im a really pretty girl, once guys found out i was single again they went crazy. Not ugly ones, but cute guys, But the only guy I like is HIM. Does anyone know some advice so that I could get him back, or how to forget about him ?
Thanks in advance.

This guy doesn't sound like someone you should be with. To me, it seems like he can't take responsibility for things that go wrong in his life, so he wants to blame them on whoever's closest. If I were you, I wouldn't get back with him. I know you may think about him a lot, it's normal. But you're young. You may not want to believe this, but you will get over him eventually. I've gone through the same thing. I thought I'd never love again, but I did. It just takes time. As for the guy you're dating, if you're still having feelings for your ex, it's not really fair to him. It may be best for you to just take a break from relationships for a little while to give yourself time to have fun & get over your feelings for your ex.

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I have been with this guy for a few months and we've friends for a few years. Our relationship is different from most people our age,we don't play games and we both know that we'll always be together. I really love him but a lot of things have been happening lately that I'm worried about. Tell me what you think;
He gets mad really easily and says that he's not good enough for me and he's an idiot and all that.
When he gets upset he really hurts me, he'll just leave without saying goodbye and he won't come over.
He always thinks that I don't care about him as much as he cares about me and that he shows me how much he loves me but I act like I don't love him.
HELP! Has anyone ever been with a guy that does these things?

He could be really self-conscious, or possibly be having doubts about the relationship. He could be telling you he's not good enough for you, so that maybe you'll start thinking that & break up with him. I could be wrong, though. The best thing you can do is talk to him. Explain to him that you really care about him, & you want to be with him, & that the way he's acting really hurts you.

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what do you think about cousins dating?

Of course, the closer you are (such as first cousins, second cousins, etc...), the more wrong it is, but regardless, it's still a little wrong to me. You have to remember that a cousin is still considered family.

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My friend was talking to her boyfriend on MSN
and she was telling him she really liked him

and he wrote back
"I love you more than anything in the world and always will.we are both very lucky people. It hurst because I went up to 8mm in like a day lol"

WTF does thttt mean???
We didnt want to ask..we were so confused..
I dont even know if this is even in the right category

You should probably ask him, because I have no idea what that could even mean. Just ask him or you'll probably never know.

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I got a helix piercing in early February.
The piercing is still painful, and puss comes out of it, but the worst part is that if I take out the jewellery and put my thumb and index finger on the piercing (like pinching it from both sides)I can feel a huge, bump type of thing there, which is slightly painful.

What can I do? What could this be?

While it does sound like it might be infected, it might not be. I have an anti-eyebrow piercing, & it does weird things like that if I irritate it, like getting caught on the blanket or anything. If you irritate it at all, it can cause pain & puss. The bump does sound similar to a keloid scar, though, so you should probably go see your piercer for their opinion on the situation. Plus, if it needs to be removed, it's best to have your piercer do it.

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i'm not really asking too much for advice, but more of an opinion and what you think. so heres my story (17f&17m):

i dated this guy for 8 months and we broke up the last week of april...he said he doesn't have the same feelings for me. however, we went to prom together and i was laying on this guy cause i wasn't feeling good and he was off doing his own thing...and he got upset at me for that...we both decided that itd be best for us not to talk until summer starts (which is in like a month from now) then he wants to start hanging out again as friends and he said "if its meant to be, it'll be". we started going out during the summer of last year and i was thinking of doing something cute when we hang out to realize why he fell for me last summer. i really love this kid and he treats me right. so what do you think i should do with this whole situation..is there anything that can boost our chances of getting back together?

oh and should i text him first when school ends? and how long should i wait? or should i let him text me?

In my opinion, it sounds like this guy might just be playing games. It seems to me like he didn't want to be with you, but he didn't want you to be with anyone else. It might be best to just be friends with him. If something happens, & you think he'll be committed to you, then go for it.

If you want to talk to him, I'd just text him & ask him how he is. Just something casual, to see if he's ready to talk. That way you're not pushing it on him.

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I'm 19, Ok so this is really making me extremly mad like beyond belive... my moms and step dad decided to move to kentucky and now they are doing really bad... she works everyday and off and on weekends to support her him and there 2 yearold daughter... he's not making any effort on any part to get a job... I'm about to snap on him seriously she 43 years old she doesn't need to be the only one making money and with econmy sucking already him not making an effort to get a job isn't helping them at all... and on top of buying everything she need for the 2 year old she is paying all the bills and her car and he thinks he can tell everyone what to do and she buying him his beer and carton of cigs when he needs it I think this is absuluty rediculous I really need help... I kinda talked to my moms about it but she's not doing anything about it... he keeps using their 2 year old as his cruch saying "well I need to watch her and blah blah blah blah" its really getting out of hand and he said he knows where places are hiring for job he just doesn't wanna waste the gas in my moms car (like she ever gets to drive anyways) please some1 help before I do something really stupid!!!!!!

Try to calm down. Getting angry towards them is only going to cause more problems & make things uncomfortable between everyone. Have you thought about who would watch their child if they both worked? It doesn't always have to be the traditional mom stays at home while dad works thing, like the person below me said. However, if there is someone who can watch their daughter, it may be best for you to talk to your mother about your concerns, & if she agrees, let her talk to your step-dad.

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Where can i buy pon and zi prints and merchandise? i cant find prints of any of my favorites, just a few on devianart

You can find a few things here: http://sharkrobot.com/store/index.php?main_page=index&manufacturers_id=9

The official site for Pon & Zi merch is down at the moment, though.

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For my grandma's birthday i wanted to make her a cd of songs with her name in them. Her name is Margaret even Maggie would be fine. I already have rod stewart's maggie but i need more ideas.

thanks

These are some I found on google:

Rankin Family- "Eyes of Margaret".
Kinks- "Dear Margaret".
Seven Mary Three- "Margaret".
Colin Hay- "Maggie".
Redbone- "Maggie".
Foster and Allen- "Maggie".

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how can you tell when your having sex, if the guy is a virgin?
and how can you tell when your having sex if the girls a virgin? (without them telling you obv)

I can be tricky to tell for both guys & girls. For girls, most people think they can tell if they're virgins or not by the hymen, but plenty of girls break their hymens without having sex (bike, horseback riding, etc...). If the girl is still a virgin, she'll probably bleed a little, but some girls don't. Also, it is possible to sometimes bleed during sex even if you're not a virgin, so it's pretty tricky to tell.

For guys, I always thought you could tell by the guy acts, like if he knows what he's doing or not, but with so much sex on TV & the internet, it would be pretty easy for a guy to act like he knows what he's doing even if he's still a virgin.

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I recently started hanging out with this guy. We went to the movies and things went really, really well. As we were leaving he said to me "I will definitely call you tomorrow" and he did. He called me and we hung out the next day. He came over to my house and everything was perfect. We went on a walk and things were just perfect. We talked the next day and he said that he could probably hang out one night this week after he got off work if I wanted to and of course I said that I wanted to. I was talking to him today and we didn't talk as much as before. I feel like things are changing already and I don't really know what to do. I asked him if he wanted to hang out this weekend and he said that he was busy friend and hanging out with friends saturday so he'd 'let me know' but it was just different from before. I try not to get my hopes up but I do and it ends up not working out.

This might not make a lot of sense but I just don't really know whats going on. If he likes me or not.

The best thing you can do is just ask him how he feels. It may seem like a hard thing to do, but it's really the only way you're going to know. You don't necessarily have to come right out & tell him you like him, just say "So, how do you feel about me?", or something like that. Guys can be hard to understand sometimes, I know, trust me. In my experience, it's best to just come right out & be blunt. If he doesn't like you, yeah, it's probably going to suck, but you'll move on, & it's a lot better then sitting around wondering why he does the things he does. Good luck.

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I am a girl, and I can easily orgasm when i masturbate, however i normally like to watch some porn first.
some 1. is it weird for girls to watch porn?
and 2. how can i get in that same mood when im with my boyfriend so he can get me to orgasm? without the porn?

It's completely normal for a girl to watch porn. A lot of girls do, they just usually don't admit to it.

Try showing your boyfriend what spots feel good to you when you're masturbating, so he can stimulate those areas during foreplay or sex. You can also close your eyes & fantasize about what you like during sex, or even try roleplaying. Whatever works for you.

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Okay, im getting a tattoo this week
and I need to know where is the best place to get it hidden?

Depends on why you're hiding it. If you're hiding it from your parents, you probably shouldn't get one. You have to think, there aren't many places that they won't be able to see one. If you wear a bikini/shorts (depending on if you're male or female), chances are they'll see it in most places at some time or another.

If you're worried about hiding it because of a job or something, think about the clothing you wear to your job, & find an area where it will be covered. If you're a girl, & have fairly long hair, the back of your neck would be a good spot. You could hide it when your hair is down, or put your hair up when you want to show it. Again, if you're a girl, one on your hip would be easy to hide, just be careful if you wear a bikini or anything. A foot tattoo could go for a guy or girl, but be careful of what shoes you wear. Not to mention, if you do get it in a spot that's hidden, it's usually not a good idea to cover it up a lot while it's healing. It needs to get air, not to mention you'll have to put stuff on it, & if it's covered it might rub the stuff off, or even rub some of the ink out.

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Hello im 17 and my mom is 34. She recently brought up that she wants to get mther and daughter tattoos. I really like the idea. I just have no idea what to get! Is there any websites that have good ones on there. I just want something small and cute. Like a heart with something. I dont know but we want to get matching tattoos. Does anybody have any ideas or websites that would help? Thanks a bunch

Me & my twin sister recently got matching tattoos. We got emerald green bows on our wrists, because emerald is our birthstone. My mom is planning on getting one just like ours, too, so it'll be like a family tattoo. That's just one example, though. There are tons of things you can do.

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