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LOVE HIM BUT...
I have been with this guy for a few months and we've friends for a few years. Our relationship is different from most people our age,we don't play games and we both know that we'll always be together. I really love him but a lot of things have been happening lately that I'm worried about. Tell me what you think;
He gets mad really easily and says that he's not good enough for me and he's an idiot and all that.
When he gets upset he really hurts me, he'll just leave without saying goodbye and he won't come over.
He always thinks that I don't care about him as much as he cares about me and that he shows me how much he loves me but I act like I don't love him.
HELP! Has anyone ever been with a guy that does these things?
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Some guys will do this to get attention and for you to be like "Baby why would you say that i love you more than anything" or something like that. A lot of guys just need reassurance that you care. But some guys will say that just to make you feel bad and make you think that you have to make it up to them by doing "things" for them. Unfortunately a lot of girls have had this happen. Just talk to him and tell him how you really feel and see if that fixes things and also tell him that when you fight him not talking to you isnt going to fix anything and that it makes you sad. hopefully he will straighten up haha Hope i helped =]
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Yes, and I hate to tell you, but it's only gonna suck worse. He is depressed with a low self esteem. He will always think you are cheating on him, whether you are or not. He wont want to hang around your family because he will think they all don't like him. He will tell you he needs you to be happy, but it really sucks having to try to make the person your with happy all the time. If you are happy he will try to bring you down. He will get jealous if you are happy. It will all be about him. You will be walking around on eggshells. When it is good, there is nothing better, but it is hardly ever good. Listen to Cheryl Crow-If it Makes you Happy.
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Hey there,
Sounds like he is really thinking about the relationship. When he gets mad easily and says hes an idiot, he is probably thinking that you show how much you love him all the time and that he doesnt give you as much love as he thinks he should. It sounds as if He would like to be the leader and just have you trust and follow him, with you in his arms. When he leaves without saying goodbye, he just needs time to think 'what just happened' over by himself.
What i think you need to do, is find a way to SHOW him EVERYDAY that you love him no matter what. Its the little things that really count. Leave him a sticky note on the bathroom mirror saying "I love your ______" every morning; changing the words in the blank (and be SERIOUS about what you choose). Bake him some heart cookies, cuddle with him while watching his favorite movie, know what his favorites are, go to a spa or get a massage together, just rent a movie for the two of you, make him a meal, go for a walk in the park together, give him his space, invite some of his friends for a party, Always find time to spend with him! AND, look him in the eyes and tell him you love him no matter what everyday! Love is hard work, but with time... love comes easily.
Good Luck! <3
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He could be really self-conscious, or possibly be having doubts about the relationship. He could be telling you he's not good enough for you, so that maybe you'll start thinking that & break up with him. I could be wrong, though. The best thing you can do is talk to him. Explain to him that you really care about him, & you want to be with him, & that the way he's acting really hurts you.
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