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so after a 10month relationship saterday night i got dumped. its hard to say it was expected but i dont really know. my mother found out we were having sex or thought we were and decited that i was going to stay inside till i turned 21 im 17 about to be 18. im not going to say i lost her trust because i dont think i ever had it. if i ever asked her if i could go out and lets say it was 8pm she would say its too late. i would always have to leav around 7 or 6. and than i would have to come home at 11pm than she would be mad because most of the time we never went to parties or clubs... im like because i have to leave when its getting good...so whats the point of paying to go if im leave befor the show starts. so yeah i was stuck at home for a little more than a month. when i asked her if i could go out friday she said not till i was 21 and than i was really mad and we got into an argument.. than she said she wanted to talk to him. i said fine ill tell him to come over. than she changed her mind and said no because my dad was home and she didnt want him to find out. so i was like than what do yu want.. after a wile she came and said we were going to his house. i said no because my mom takes things way out of line and she wouldnt be able to control herself and would have made a really big deal. saterday when we called me he said i would be better if we brake up because there were too many problems. with my mom and work. that he was comeing out of work late like at 8 and my mom always bitched about that. and even if we did talk to her she might not give in for that. during the hole brake up explaination he cept telling me he loved me... and taht we should just wait.. till things got better. he wanted to know what i thought but i couldnt think strate. i was crying so hard.. that he told me to call him back when i calmed down. when i did i told him i didnt want to beg him but i didnt want to not be with him. but that i wanted him to talk to her that if it didnt help anything that ok we would just leave it at that. he said fine and taht he was going to call me tomorrow (sunday) he said he loved me i said i love you too than kiss me throgh the phone 3x sunday i wasnt home. (phone taken away other story)and since we all have our cells we just have a line nothing else i *69 to see who was the last person to call he said he would call around 8... but the last call was around 6 and it wasnt his number... i *67 his but it was turnd off like not even the voice mail came on... i dont know what to do...
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It seems to me like you are a responsible young adult and not a young girl who wants to be out there sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry. I do understand why your mom does some of the things she does, but I do however feel like she is being a bit too unreasonable. When I was your age my mother never allowed me to go out much either, whenever I went out I would always have to go with my brothers and sisters and she would always pick us up at 11:00. I was never allowed to go to slumber parties etc, because she feared that boys would be there. All the other girls in my class would come to school and talk about how they went to the club or what parties they went to, while I could say nothing cause I had to stay at home. I wouldn't say that I hated my mother, but I was very upset that she would not give me the freedom that I wanted. It wasn't until I graduated from school and really saw what the real world was like for myself that I understood why mother acted the way she did, and I actually thanked her for her actions. Most of those girls in my class either ended up getting pregnant before they graduated or as adults they are still not settled, they party from day to day, with no sense of direction or purpose in their life. My mother helped me to be more of a responsible person. So I think this is what your mother wants for you, but I think she is a little bit over-protective. I think you need to have a one on one with your mother, let her know how you feel, if you feel like your mother will start an argument rather than listen to what you have to say, write her a letter and leave it on her bed or somewhere where she can find it. Then you both can talk about your feelings. You didn't mention how old this guy was, I hope he is not much older than you are or this can be a reason why your mother doesn't want you to see him. I remember one time I got so tired of hearing my mother tell me no I couldn't go out that I rebelled and left anyway. I told her that I was going to a sleep over and she told me that I was not going, I went, had fun, and to my surprise when I got home the nest day she was not as mad as I thought she would be, but I did call her and let her know where I was and checked in several times. I recall another time, I was about 17, my mother allowed me to g out, but I was suppose to be home by 11:00 my friends and I went in the club, I didn't get home until around 3am, I tried to sneak into the house through the back door and my mother was there waiting for me with the belt. I got a beaten of my life, but I didn't care on bit cause I had the best time of my life. That was the first time I had ever been in a club. This guy you are dating seems to have love for you, if he is a decent guy then you should sit down with both your parents and your guy and allow everyone to let all their feeling out. This should be the perfect time for your guy to explain to your parents know what his intentions are for you. If your mother refuses to give in at least somewhat, then just hold on a little while longer, you will soon be 18 and on your own. And it won't hurt to rebel every now and again, but don't push it. Yes she will get mad if you leave the house when she tells you not, but trust me when I tell you, she will get over it! My advice to you is to be as responsible as you can, show your mother that you are a lady and not a tramp and that all you want is a chance to prove to her that you are and can be responsible, if she would only give you a chance. Best of luck! Don't forget to rate my advice.
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when you turn 18 your at the legal age to leave mocw out and date people if she dosnt let you be a women how will you learn to date men or try to at least have a life hello she might be being a control freak but your not 16 you might live with her but you can come and gos as you please if she called the coped and you wernt home thier nothing she can do.I know she your mother but thier a time in a girls life were girl turn to women they find a man date him get to no him mabee even get married it sayes in the bible when a man a a women reaches a time in thier life they leave thier family to find some one to be come one I no some people dont understand life I mean didnt your mom date men she did she had you she might have a problem with o is my daughter going to get pregnet show that you are a grown up get on birthcontol so if you are sexual nothing wil lhappen so you wont get pregant moms can be so crazy about some tihings tell her i have a life to i have pms i grew boobs I turned in to a women you can trap me for ever mom dont you see I no you care but I dont want to get pregant i want to be safe all I want to do is date guys and do it a safe way im not ready to just seetle down im still learning life but if i dont date how will i ever learn to get out thier tell her I will always love you and i will tell you were i go as i live in your house but when i turn 18 you can be so harsh on me I feel like a dog in a cage I no girl have got pregant made mastakes and did drugs and drink i choice not to be like that i want to get a career mabee go to college but i still have the right to date this my body you dont own me any more and some day i might move out and have my life bt right now i need freedom to im not tired to your waste if i dont learn ill be living her till im 40 so i need to learn in a good way thing look around im not a baby any more i grow up hope this help ok bye now
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