Am a bit of a wrinkly now (i was 24 on 4/9/05, but I had the best birthday I've ever had in my whole entire life!!!) but I know an awful of stuff about an awful lot of stuff!
I am COMPLETELY NON-JUDGEMENTAL and you can always inbox me with stuff you wouldn't ask anyone else @ MelanieHarvey81@Hotmail.Com
Mel xxx
"Dance like no one is watching and love like you've never been hurt"
E-mail: MelanieHarvey81@Hotmail.Com
Gender: Female
Location: Long story, born in Germany, Parents are Spanish but grew up in the UK!!!
Occupation: General Superstar and all around heroine!
Age: 24
Member Since: December 24, 2004
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i wanna get rid of myy pubic hair becuase its reallyyy wickid grosss. i dont wanna shave it i dont like razors and stufff sooo is there a way to get rid of it using nair an stuff? thxx
p.s. 14/f (link)
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The best way to do it is to wax it. Yeah ok it stings for a coupla seconds but after that there is no nasty stubbly re-growth!
You could use Nair although be very careful where you put it as it is full of strong chemicals!!
Do a spot test first to see whether your skin is strong enough to take it!
Take care
Mel
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Hello! I am a 24 year old male in seek of a female. I really need help with what to do and how to do it becasue everyone thinks that it is impossible for me to get one after several attempts of people trying to help me. I really want someone that I am compatable with and that will make me happy...ect. Does anyone have any ideas? Oh yea and does anyone know what to do with this situation... there are a lot of girls YOUNGER than me that have "crushes" on me and I dont know what to do and how to get them off of my back before I get in trouble for something that I didnt do! Please help
**Lovelost**
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Well I'm a 23 year old female and the best chance a guy has of getting my attention is by making me laugh!
Frmo what I know of me and my close female friends we like guys to have a sense of humour, be honest, act their age and just generally be cool.
as for the younger girls, if you ignore them they will soon get bored and find someone else to harass!
Believe me - I used to be one!!!!
If you want to chat more then you can get my e-Mail details from my column!
Mel
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How do you crack your back? Or neck? (link)
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Like brunette Sweetheart 2468 said
"Neck- Move your neck in a circular motion. Sort of roll your head in a circle.
Back- Sit down in a chair and grab a corner of the chair. pull on the corner turning the top half of your body."
Or if you have the money go and have a short session with a chiropractor!!
They make each one of your vertebrae crack from the base of your spine to the top of your neck!!
Sheer bliss!!!
Mel
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Hey my back really hurts, and i was wondering if anyone knew any good stretches for it? Please explain what you do too, and believe me i give all fives! Thanks (link)
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Those big exercize balls are really good for stretching out the muscles in your back.
They are pretty cheap and normally come with a book to show you how best to use it.
Hope this helped.
Mel
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okay, my mom has been going to NY with her boyfriend like every 2 weeks for a month and half..and other times before it. whenever this happens..she says i should watch my brother and sometimes she would sleepover in the city and then it is required that i stay home and watch him. Well, i am getting annoyed with this becuase i want to hang out with my friends..but i can't just tell her to stop gong out, she has a right to also, but i am 16 and i have the right to go out too..How do i talk to her about this and what do I say? PLus..whenver i do get to go out if she is in the city, my friends have to give me rides and they are getting annoyed. (link)
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Sit down with her and CALMLY (
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okay in school every one calls me a slut and im not one i never had sex,or gave anyone head!! what should i do when they call me it? please help!!
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It's really hard but just ignore them. It'll be them that look like the idiots when they are calling names and you are maturely minding your own business getting on with life.
You get people like this all through life - if you don't react they soon get bored and will find something else to occupy their tiny little minds!!
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I really want to change my religion, I am a Roman Catholic I just don't believe in their thoughs and such. I am not sure what I want to be. Does any oen have any past experience? Is it like a legal thing if you want to change religions; like you have to get papers? Any help or comments or info about other religions would be greatly appreiciated! (link)
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No you don't have to sign any papers oto change your religion.
There are no limits on the amount of times you can change your religion and you don't have to consult any legal bodies.
Good luck
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ok, like 2 years ago i sprained my ankle from cheerleading and ever since then it always pop when i walk up the stairs or get finished working out. is that normal? and my wrists pop everytime i bend it back and forth, but i think it's from tumbling, but is that normal too? i was just wondering cause some of my friends have the same problem. thanx! (link)
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It may be because you are superflexible but I would get your parents/guardians to take you to the doctors to get it checked out just in case.
Mel
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What exactly does Prozac do for you? (link)
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It is an anti-depressant.
It is a drug that simulates the happy hormones your brain produces to make you feel happier.
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Is there a medication that can be taken for worrying and feeling anxious? (link)
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There are lots of different types of medication that you can take although it may be healthier to seek the advice of an expert who will hopefully be able to the bottom of why you are anxious and worried all the time and solve the real problem instead of masking it with drugs.
I would advise you to see your doctor!
Mel
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13/m
hi,
i've taken the whole am-i-fat testing and stuff from different websites, and they all say the same thing, that i don't weight enough. i don't have an eating disorder or anything like that. my doctor i guess knows about this, but hasn't really told me to do anything. so... what can i do? i eat until i'm full, and thats it. please don't say "eat more!". i'll rate you if you give extremely good advice, give extremely funny advice, or give extremely bad advice.
yours,
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You are 13 years old.
In the next couple of years everything about you will get bigger. You will start having growth spurts and will put on more weight that way.
If your doctor isn't worrying about it then you shouldn't either.
Just follow a healthy diet and exercize to keep yourself healthy and you'll be fine - some people are just naturally thin!
Another thing you could try to beef yourself up a bit is weight training, if yuo decide to try this make sure you seek advice from an instructor!!
Take care
Mel
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Are you still a virgin if you kind of had sex? meaning... If you were making out and everything and the guy and u start to have sex and stuff and he's like half way in and then you guys stop... is that still considered being a virgin or not?
Thanks!
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It doesn't matter if he was 1 inch or all the way inside you. He was inside you which means you are no longer a virgin.
If you decide to try again then PLEASE, PLEASE use contraception!!!
Have fun but be careful!!!
Mel
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I need advice on how to make cleaning my room fun... it's so boring and i just hate doing it. My room is large, and there is stuff all over it. Any ideas to make cleaning it more fun? and maybe easier? Thanks very much! I'll rate good ideas! (link)
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How to make tidying your room fun in 5 easy steps
1: Put your favourite CD on and crank up the volume so loud that they can hear it halfway across town!
2: Draw your curtains!! So that when your are doing your best britney/marilyn manson/whoever impression that your ENTIRE neighbourhood odesn't gather round to watch!!!
3: Get 5 BIG black bin-liners and sort stuff as follows : * Dirty Clothes
* Clean clothes
* Rubbish/ Junk/anything with mould on!!
* Stuff to keep (C.Ds that have wound up on your floor, scoolwork you need to keep etc etc)
* Other! This is the bag where you put anything that doesn't fit into the above 4 categories!
4:Sort out each bag individually
5: Hoover whilst dancing like a maniac
Ta-da one tidy room!!
As I rule my bedroom is now immaculate, but when I was a teenager I didn't even know whether I had carpet let alone know what colour it was!! I was the messiest thing ever - thankfully as I've gotten older I've gotten better although I have 5 rules for keeping my room clutter free
1: If it's broken - Bin it!
2: If you haven't used it for over 3 months - Bin it!!
3: If you don't wear it/ like it / fit into it anymore - Bin it (or if it's decent enough take it to a charity shop
4: Do not take food into your room
5: Do a quick 5 minute swoop of the room every day. That way it doesn't end up a hideous mess that takes a week to tidy!!
Good luck with the tidying!!!
Mel
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i have a small problem. i like sex. i like it alot. i almost feel i need it like air. i know its kinda like a drug, it can be addictive, but i dont care. im a male slut, bigtime. is there a sexaholics annonmous? i mean, i know love making is best...you know, when your dating or in love with someone, but it's like i wanna screw everything in sight! help!! (link)
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If you were female then i would say that you sounded pretty much like a Nymphomaniac (
noun: a woman with abnormal sexual desires
adj: (used of women) affected with excessive sexual desire) Strangely there is no defined male equivalent of this word - if there were however it sounds like you would be it!!!
There is nothing wrong with having a masive sex drive at all, and apparently men think of sex at least once every 3 minutes, so you're not alone!!!
As long as you make sure you always take precautions and the other person is as up for it as you are.
Just make sure you don't emotionally hurt anyone and (i know I've said it already!!!) USE CONDOMS!
Otherwise you won't be able to have sex at all cos you'll get some nasty disease and your dick wil go crusty and fall off!!
Lol!! Only kidding!!
Have fun!!
Mel
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My mouths been so dry i dont know waht im going to do!!!!! its bothering me so much! i tried drinking lots of fluids and using this mouth wash for dry mouth and it doesnt seem to work! ive been sick lately and breathing through my mouth if that makes a difference..does anybody have any suggestions?? thank you! (link)
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There are lots of reasons that you could have a dry mouth - although in honesty it's probably because you are breathing through your mouth.
Make sure you drink plenty of fluids, try sucking a boiled sweet every now and then - that'll get the juices flowing.
If you are on medication it could also be due to that - some medicines can cause you to get a really dry mouth - if you are on any medication then read the patient information leaflet and see whether it coud be a side-effect. If so then talk to your pharmacist and they may be able to swap your medication (unless prescribed by a doctor)
Hope you get better soon!!!
Mel
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Are there any ways that your hymen (sp?) can be broken besides sex? Like using tampons, fingering, etc? And can a doctor tell if its broken or not just by looking@ u down there? (like check ups andstuff) (link)
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It is a really thin bit of skin inside most, but not all, womens vagina.
It is very fragile and most peoples break when they are young. You can break it by horse-riding, gymnasticas doing the splits etc etc.
If it wasn't already broken then if you used tampons of anything entered your vagina then it would break.
Occasionally you bleed a little when it breaks, although not everyone does (infact most of my friends and I didn't feel a thing)
A doctor would be able to tell if if were broken or not, but not just by looking, they would have to do an internal examination to check.
Hope this helped!
Mel
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My boyfriend & I have been trying to have a baby for the past 4 months, but I can not get pregnant! We already know his sperm is good because he has 2 kids from a previous relationship. Could having a disease cause someone not to get pregnant? What kind of disease? How do you know if you are in-fertile? Why would I be in-fertile? WHY CAN'T I GET PREGNANT!?!? :0( (link)
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There are hundreds of possible reasons that you aren't pregnant yet.
It can take the average, healthy couple up to a year to concieve - this is greatly increased if you smoke, drink a lot or are overweight.
There are a few sexually transmitted diseases that can cause infertility - the most commonplace one nowadays is Chlamydia. This disease has no symptoms - you don't even know you have it unless you get yourself checked out by a Doctor.
When trying to get pregnant I would recommend visiting a Doctor before you start trying to concieve. They will do a full overhaul of your body to check that you are healthy and will give you lots of advice on fertile periods and the like!
There's a great site called www.storknet.com. This has loads of great tools and tips on whats good, whats not, how to increase your chances of becoming pregnant and how to get the best ante-natal care you can.
Good luck!!
Mel
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I am a gay male in my 30’s, and have been in a loving, committed relationship with another male since I was 18 years old. I plan on being with this man for the rest of my life.
This year marks the 10th Anniversary of my "coming out" to my parents. Back then, my relationship with my boyfriend was already in its 5th or 6th year, and it saddened me that I could not share its joy with my mother and father for whom I loved dearly. My honesty had brought me close to them again, and their acceptance has been a true blessing. I am grateful, for I know many others whose stories are not so lucky.
But this is not why I write.
My question has to do with my father. He does not judge me for being gay. He is very proud of his tolerance, and we have had many open and frank conversations about homophobia and my experiences with homophobia.
My problem is although he is not critical or judgmental about my lifestyle, he is overly critical and judgmental about every other aspect of my life. My job, my car, my driving, my diet, my finances, my clothes, my speech, my hair, my skin, my schedule, my everything are open territory to his persistent nagging. A thirty minute phone call with him can set me into a depression for a week. It would be easier if he hated me for being gay.
I often ask him questions about life and the lessons he has learned, but he replies with mean, personal attacks on my character. I am a very successful man in my field, and I feel his concerns are unwarranted. I have frequently told him as such.
Today, I feel I am fed up with trying to make him happy. During the holidays, he made me miserable because I did not live up to his regimented expectations. When the slightest thing is not perfect in my life, I cannot be honest with him and dishonesty is what I ran from 10 years ago. I fear his lectures, and I am starting to lie to him again. I love him because he is my father, but I do not like him.
He is so proud that he is man enough not to judge his son for being gay. Believe me, I am thankful. But, how do I get him to not judge me for being HUMAN?
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I am really sorry to hear that you are getting such a hard time from your Dad.
My father is exactly the same!
Ever since I decide not to follow his "chosen for me" career path nothing I have ever done has been good enough.
Every achievement I make is brushed to one side and something negative will be highlighted.
It is really really hard to do but the only thing you can do is rise above it.
Sit down and talk to him. Try to get him to undserstand that these comments and constant unconstructive criticisms are making you feel terrible.
Every time he says something negative about you, inside your head think about something that you are proud of about yourself.
Have you spoken to your Mother about it? Perhaps it would be worth letting her know how your Father is making you feel, she may then be able to talk to him and get him to ease off a bit.
I know it's really hard, but you said yourself you have a good job, you are in what sounds like a great relationship. You have loads going for you!!
Keep your chin up and keep smiling and if you want to talk then you know where my inbox is.
Take care.
Melanie
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i have swimming every-other day first hour at my school. basically, we have to swim for 50 minutes, and then we get 10 minutes to shower - change- and get ready, and then itsoff to our next class. i`m very much a girly-girl, hardly ever seen without my makeup on and spend over an hour getting ready for things. I NEED HELP how am i suposed to get ready in 10 minutes?! and how can i do my hair really cute when it`s wet?? i don`t really care about not having time to put on my make up, because i don't really want to be known as the barbie. BUT i dont want to have gross nasty hair either! HELPPPP (link)
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You could temporarily put it in a ponytail or a bun with the help of some mousee until you get a break then you can spend more time on it!
Mel
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I was invited to a black tie event for the first time my escort is wearing black and white so what should i wear im 5'5 132 pounds should i go with a short dress or long one please help. (link)
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Short dresses look good but long dresses look much more elegant.
Make sure you match the dress to your skin tone and hair colour. If you are dark/olive/tanned skinned then go for a deep red or emerald green. These are the colours i wear and they really complement you.
If you have blonde hair I think that gold or chocolate satin look good!
Have fun whatever you wear!!
Mel
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