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okay, my mom has been going to NY with her boyfriend like every 2 weeks for a month and half..and other times before it. whenever this happens..she says i should watch my brother and sometimes she would sleepover in the city and then it is required that i stay home and watch him. Well, i am getting annoyed with this becuase i want to hang out with my friends..but i can't just tell her to stop gong out, she has a right to also, but i am 16 and i have the right to go out too..How do i talk to her about this and what do I say? PLus..whenver i do get to go out if she is in the city, my friends have to give me rides and they are getting annoyed.
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Your not going to like me saying this, but I think your being a little spoiled.
sure, you can talk to your mom, tell her she's not allowed to go out every other week, and you can tell her that she has to be your personal chauffeur. But doesn't that sound a bit selfish?
If you want to go out with your friends, isn't it fitting that they would give you rides? Can't you take a bus, or a taxi, or better yet, get your license, since you are already 16?
The only advice I can give is to ask your mother to get a baby sitter. Don't tell her to stay home, I'm sure she needs to get out more than you do.
She has a right to go out, she is your mother. You don't have a right to go out, you have a privledge to go out. Don't take advantage of the privledges that you have.
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Sit down with her and CALMLY (<--v. important!)discuss it like the mature young adult you obviously are.
Explainto her that you don't mind her going out as long as you get to go out too.
You should sit down and work out some kind of rota. Like, one weekend she stays in and you can go out, the next weekend you will stay in and she can go out.
Hope it sorts it's self out.
Mel
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try to figure out a schedule. like, for every day you watch little billy, you get a friends-can-come-over-night or something. tell her what you say, you both deserve a right to do what you want. but you also should try to help her, its bad enough her boyfriend has to live in NY. Plus, for all the nights that you dont watch him, who does? give her a hand and maybe shel give you one back. or something like that. good luck!
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Try this, your too young to be left alone, threaten her with CPS
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Sounds like your the mom. talk to her calmly about it!!! dont like yell and shout your head off even though that may be tempting! :)
Kels
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When your mom has time... try and sit her down calmly.. and tell her straight up that u know that she is an adult and that you are a teenager and that she should deff. have the right to go out and everything... BUT you are a teenager and you need to be with your friends at this point in time. And also that through the experience so far you have learned so much on how to take care of kids better... but now after doing all of this you want to go out and you want her home at some points and also tell her that at some point it might be nice if she could come home and spend some sort of time with you.
I wish that i could help more but i dont exactly know the whole entire situation.. But i hope I helped! let me know what u think and what happens!
**Ashley
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When you get the chance to talk to her, tell her that you know she has a right to go out but she shouldn't be going out all the time. Tell her that you also have a right to go out too. Explain to her that you are need time to hang out with your friends and not stay home and watch your brother all the time. You have a life too and you need to live it and by watching your brother, that doesn't do anything. Also, explain to her that you can't always get rides from your friends and that they are getting annoyed by doing that. If you just tell this to your mother but differently, I'm sure she will understand and will let you go out. Why don't you ask her if she can invite her boyfriend down to your house so she doesn't always have to go to New York? Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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